Every good person has a moment of silence
Chapter 2 I want to face the cruel world alone, even if I fall and have no one to help me
Chapter 2 I want to face the cruel world alone, even if I fall and have no one to help me
If life hurts you, don't be discouraged. The road that life must pass must be full of hardships, but we still have to experience, feel, and accept it in our own way, for the goodness it once gave us, and for the goodness it once gave us. Give tears and warmth.
- so far so close
No noise, own voice
By so far so close
The former self tried his best on the road and lived for the dream in his heart; the former self gritted his teeth to be brave and strong, and lived for the life he wanted.And I continue to travel today to live up to my former self, to be the same hard-working self as I used to be, and to be worthy of the forbearance and persistence of the past.
01
I spent my birthday this year at work. I worked overtime at the company in the morning and had a meeting to discuss the new advertising case. At noon, I went to the radio station to record the six programs of the week. In the evening, I returned to the company to revise the article and make the final plan.I didn't realize it was past midnight until I finished my work. When I turned on my phone, I saw many missed calls and messages, and many friends sent birthday wishes.Only then did I realize that this year's birthday passed in the same busyness as usual.
There is no one in the company, only the lights in my office are still on.Sitting in front of the computer for a long time, my shoulders are sore. When I stand up, my bones are creaking. I don’t feel hungry without dinner. I pour a glass of water and stand in front of the floor-to-ceiling windows on the 21st floor of the office and look down.At this time, my heart is not as peaceful as before.
The whole city fell asleep, and the neon lights in the distance outside the window had been extinguished, leaving only dots of street lamps to illuminate the road of returning home at night.The world is as quiet as a kindergarten without children, but there are still people hiding in the depths of silence, crying and laughing wantonly, and there are also people who, like me, calmly look at this seemingly innocent place in the foggy night. In a world that has nothing to do with me, there is an indelible affection in my heart.
Humans are very strange animals. Their moods will change with the surrounding environment or the weather. For example, they will feel happy when it is sunny, and easily sad when it is cloudy. Lonely and lonely.
I am like this, sometimes I wake up slowly on weekend mornings, if there is sunlight coming in through the heavy curtains, I will have hope in my heart, get up happily, clean the house, write and read.But if it's cloudy, you'll continue to pull the quilt over your head in frustration, and you may stay in bed all day.These things, which seem ordinary to us, seem to be little tricks of the heart, used to deceive ourselves, or to find a proper reason for some behavior.
Just like at this moment, the street lamp in the night pokes a hole in the darkness, illuminating a small area. Some people walk along the light, but they will fall back into the darkness soon.I looked at those repeated lights and shadows, and couldn't help laughing. This kind of hypocritical subtle perception is very similar to the ups and downs of our mood.The darkness, only when it meets the next street lamp, or occasionally a gust of wind blows, will it float and rise and fall.
In the wee hours of the morning when my birthday had passed, I felt a sudden enlightenment. Standing alone in the office overlooking the city in the dark was a completely different feeling from the daytime.During the day, you will feel that the city is under your feet, but at night, you will feel more that the city is in your heart. It pierces through obstacles like a ghost, lives with you, dies with you, arrives with you, and disappears with you.
I used to imagine myself standing here like I am now, but in this situation, I am not as proud as I imagined.Because I know that no matter in a dream or on the road, there will always be a moment to wake up, and there will always be a dawn waiting.
Whether it is a bright light on the way, or a desperate and silent darkness, people are always moving forward.You want to reach tomorrow, so don't stop now.
02
A few days ago, I was chatting with some friends in the group, and when it came to some inner topics, everyone joked: Far and near is like a psychiatrist, and the heart is so strong.I smiled at the computer.Where in this world are born strong people, everything is just the understanding after growing up.I told them jokingly, there is no way, this is all forced out by the society.
I used to do a lot of ridiculous things too.In order to let others remember, in order to be different from others, I wear strange clothes, dye hair of strange colors, and write special articles that I don’t want to say, but I have shaped myself time and time again.Now I understand that what really changes me, or the so-called difference from others, is not the deliberate affectation, but the difficulties the world gives me.
I was doing a social practice class in junior high school, and I was arranged to sell newspapers on the street.In the middle of winter, I ride a bicycle to the factory in the suburbs to carry it, and then sell it on the street. It costs one yuan, and if you buy three copies, you will get a pack of milk.I have forgotten how many somersaults I fell, and how hard it was at that time. I only remember the strange eyes of those passers-by, the cold that even a heavy coat can't resist, the red nose and the cracked back of the hand.When I went home at night, I was so cold that I couldn't speak, and I couldn't hold back my tears when I wrote the practice diary.
When I was a sophomore, I participated in various part-time jobs and did a lot of jobs. I am willing to try all kinds of strange jobs: selling refrigerators outside the electrical city, holding flags to display new mobile phones along the street, and stuffing advertising leaflets for pedestrians at various intersections .Many students are surprised why I have to do such a hard job, I can't earn much money, and I don't have any practical work experience. I just smiled and said, feel the difficulties of life in advance, so that I can know how to go in the future. easy.
I started working as a part-time planner in a well-known media company in my junior year. Now a very popular entertainment program on TV is the prototype of my plan. I stayed up late writing column plans, arranging announcements, doing various trivial matters, and running errands for regular employees to buy things. .The leader praised me for being serious and hardworking.I was smug at first, but gradually I smelled something bad in the air, and when I was finally pushed out of the company, I clearly heard the exaggerated laughter behind me, and also clearly heard myself gnashing my teeth.
I also once worked as a second assistant for a photographer, and accompanied him to a hotel reception in the middle of winter night. I was wearing the best clothes at the time, but he threw me at the hotel entrance and refused to let me in.I just waited for four hours in the most conspicuous place in the cold wind, without any money, dressed thinly, and shivering from the cold.Later, the first assistant in the same company saw me as pitiful, and bought me a beef brisket rice bowl for 13 yuan, and told me to eat it while it was hot.I squatted by the flower pond next to the hotel, and ate the cold dinner one bite at a time in the cold wind.
When I graduated, I had a very good job opportunity as a marketing executive in a magazine with a starting salary of 5000 yuan. When my classmates hadn’t found a job or their salary was only 2000 yuan, I had already left them behind.I regard it as a reward for the hard part-time job in the university in the past few years, and I have passed three tests all the way.The personnel department notified me to go to work on Monday, and I happily invited my classmates to dinner the day before. Just as everyone was drinking and drinking, I received a call telling me that I would not come, and someone had already replaced me.At that time, I clearly heard a "click" in my heart.
At that time, I was puzzled and hurried to the company, begging to see any person in charge, but the sister at the front desk coaxed me out without looking at me.The director of the marketing department couldn't bear to come out to meet me secretly, so he invited me to drink coffee downstairs in Jianwai SOHO, and told me many things, including my work.In the end, she said, you are still too young and ignorant of the world, and you will be replaced by the daughter of the company's largest investment boss, how can you handle her?When I heard such words, I hated my incompetence and the injustice of this world.
After working for a year, I was poached by a media company in Shanghai. The job went well and I had a good relationship with others. But then the editor-in-chief approached me and said that he would give me the opportunity to develop in a bigger place.I believed it was true at the time, but later I learned that the editor-in-chief had spoken ill of me before and after, saying that I lied to the company to accept private jobs, that I asked for a salary increase casually, and said so many things that I had never done.At that time, many mutual friends cut off contact with me, and some of them resolved their misunderstandings with me later, while some, with such deep misunderstandings, stayed away from my life ever since.
There are many more, there are unspeakable past events, those are the pasts that I hardly mention anymore, at such a midnight in early spring, at this moment, when the city is hidden in darkness, they seem to die The resurrection ignited the last bit of embarrassment in my heart.
I used to comfort myself constantly, the pain we experienced all came from our deep love.Some people are grateful for the suffering that goes with them, because it makes you grow and make you strong.However, the difficulties in the past made me see myself more clearly. When you encounter some things at the time, you may not understand the deep meaning of them, but after a long period of fermentation in your heart, you will show a different appearance and remind yourself again and again.
Our days are so contradictory and complicated.My father once told me that you can choose your life, but you cannot change your heart, and you must accept everything in the world.So I learned not to choose but to accept. When I was young, I called it the world or heaven and earth. After experiencing the transformation of the world, when those difficulties made me indestructible, I called it --world.
The so-called fireworks in the world is such a word that can be warm and indifferent at times, and the so-called world is such moments that are sometimes bright and sometimes dark.
Yes.They are attached to our body around, lingering.
03
A friend once asked me angrily: Why don't you explain why someone misunderstood you?What belongs to you is taken away by others, why don't you take it back?Are you a dummy?Some friends also asked me: Why do I work so hard, but no one knows?Why do I do so many things, but there are always people who are dissatisfied. Where on earth am I not doing well enough?
I used to be like this, I also envied others' possessions, I also felt that I was not understood, I also cared about other people's eyes, I also tried to retaliate and resent, I would tell myself what he was, and I would also Do my best to prove that I can too.
If someone slanders me, I will refute it fiercely, if someone misunderstands me, I will angrily explain it, if someone doesn't like me, I will ask why, and if someone insults me, I will respond with more vicious words.I have tried and given up.I also have a lot of dark psychology and emotions. I also hated someone in my heart, cursed this society viciously, and felt powerless under high pressure.I did do many things that now seem incomprehensible.
That's right, I once turned myself into the most hated person.
There is nothing I dare not admit. Only by admitting the imperfect self in the past can I move towards a better self.A senior told me later, don’t be so anxious, study psychology, read Buddhist scriptures, read ancient books, let yourself calm down, walk with a sharp edge, it will hurt others and yourself, only restrain yourself, you can glow.
After continuous learning, exploration and introspection, I finally understand that the world will not reward you for your efforts, nor will it require others to treat you equally just because of the way you treat them.The most difficult thing for people to live in this world is to maintain a sense of humility and peace, and this humility comes from the sincerity and down-to-earth efforts in the heart.
So, don’t try to explain any misunderstandings and distortions in this world. All that exists is truth. Anyone’s success is not a gimmick. , appearance, and even disgraceful things exist, and there is nothing to doubt.
Everyone is not what you see, they are pure and kind angels with wings on one side, and hideous demons holding a yaksha on the other.The fragility and timidity in their hearts, the vanity and cowardice they don't want to admit, are all hidden under those glamor.They have also been down and out, they have seen the sufferings of the world, they will hesitate before choosing, they have foolishly given up opportunities, and when they are cold-hearted to their subordinates, they suddenly remember that someone has treated them like this before Own.
After so many years, when I have lived the life I want, and I am proud of myself in the eyes of others, I have to admit my humbleness and shallowness, and I have to face up to my past self.Only when you see the darkness and work hard to break through it, will you enter the new heaven and new earth and discover a different self.
The world is already dirty, so there is nothing to be afraid of.Everyone has bitterness that can't be vented, and depression that can't be resolved, but who of us living here is not doing our best, or even living by unscrupulous means.
Over the years, I have gradually learned to accept, to accept accidents, to accept changes, to accept misunderstandings, to accept hard work but not being rewarded for the time being, to accept the cruelty of this world, and to accept those imperfections in us.We can't change this world, but I still choose not to compromise, I still let myself work hard to love, to be desperate for what I want in my heart.Because only in this way can I feel real and be happier.
If life takes away what belongs to me, it must think that I am not qualified enough to own it.If someone will misunderstand and slander themselves because of gossip, it is also a good thing for such people to stay away.What's mine is mine after all; what's not mine will be wiped out if you try to fight for it, why bother?Or silently be a bystander in the corner, let nature take its course, be at ease with the situation, and live your own life well.
If life hurts you, don't be discouraged. The road you must go through in life must be a lot of hardships.But we still have to experience, feel, and accept in our own way, for the goodness it once gave us, for the tears and warmth it once gave.
It is written in "The Beginning and the End": In real life, we often enter the field late when the general trend is fixed and cannot be changed, but leave early in the chaos of undecided victory or defeat.Yes, everything has not yet been settled and success or failure is unknown, so why are you willing to be the lost person who gave up.
Once I doubted, suffered, and hesitated.But now, I choose to forgive the past, forgive the past self, and I have learned to treat all of this as growth.
Those who understand will always understand, and those who don't understand will always misunderstand.This is the last thing I say to my friend.
04
When I look back after the years I used to forbear, I realized that the past that I used to find hard to tell is just a drop in the ocean. Life gives me not those difficulties, but growth. It is to learn how to lift heavy weights, but to never let go. The past, all put down.
You have to believe that everyone and everything you encounter in your life has its value and significance. Some people teach you to love, and some things teach you to grow. A rare treasure.At least at some point, you understood life, you understood yourself.
This world is so lively. Countless people on the Internet bombard me one after another. Some people like to post pictures, some people like jokes, some people like to complain, some people like to take selfies. They live a lively and glorious life, but there are also people who, like me, follow the posture of their own lives growing up silently.They may be out of tune with this world, they may no longer accept attention, but please remember that they have the same upward force as you.
At different stages of my growth, I have different answers to the peak of my efforts.Now I think that through our efforts, we can make people truly feel your sincerity, and give this sincerity a tacit approval.And more importantly, through hard work, don't let the world change your original intention.The older a person gets, the more precious his original intention becomes.At this moment, being a backlit person in this world is what I want to do.
Some people say to be a light, some people say to face the light, but I want to be a person behind the light.If you shine, you will illuminate others, but you will also accidentally lose yourself. If you walk in front of the light, you will be brilliant, but you will not be able to see the road ahead because of the glare.Only with your back to the light can you see the world clearly, see through success and failure, and understand what you really want.
I think of a very popular saying now: such hard work is because I don’t want to be like most people.Such positive energy highlights the existence and specialness of the individual.But I don't see it that way.I told my friend that the reason why I work hard today is to be the same as I used to be.
I used to do my best on the road and live for the dream in my heart. I used to grit my teeth and be brave and strong, and live for the life I wanted.And I continue to travel today to live up to my former self, to be the same hard-working self as I used to be, and to be worthy of the forbearance and persistence of the past.
In this world, anything can be arranged, only your heart.It doesn't matter if you lose anyone in this world, but you lose yourself.There is still a long, long way to go in the future, and I have to walk it alone, and I have to rely on myself and my own ability to complete it.This road, the story is the moment of yesterday, along the long road, suddenly like a dream, forever.
If you don't seriously consider how to go on at the beginning, then continue to follow the path in your heart, be the homeless person who is generous to yourself, and let everyone who wants to play themselves have fun.
The city has gradually awakened, and white light has occupied every corner of the city. No one would have thought that in the darkness of the past, someone wrote some words to bid farewell to the past, and there were also people full of gratitude in the darkness of no one. heart of.In this world, there are always people who live in ways you never imagined, and there are always people who walk behind the light for self-growth.
On a rare clear morning, I was driving home after working all night, and countless people were on their way to work.They are no different from me in the past, and they are the same as me now. Their way to work is so congested, but I run in the opposite direction, but it is rare and smooth.I squeezed through the crowd, I left a blank, and I filled in different colors for my future. On the second day of my birthday, in the new year, I silently told myself to be a person who still has responsibility.
This responsibility has turned into a blank letterhead today, what to write and what to leave, please feel free, please feel free, but don't forget.Don't think everything is special, don't think that all eyes are on you, don't use your ruler to measure the world, then you will feel that life is good.
I think of the copywriting in an advertisement I once made, and I will send it to you who saw this at the end. Never forget your determination when you set off, and don’t forget every one of you in this season. Do not forget your original heart Quiet yourself-in this era, everyone is talking loudly, and everyone is racing against time.We climbed to the height with the fastest speed, but lost our attitude in an instant. When the sound of the horn covered the sound of the engine, we had already forgotten that the way of humility is the way of a gentleman.You asked me what is needed in this era, be quiet when others are noisy, and speak up when everyone is quiet.
Don't make noise, have your own voice.
The world will not treat you all of a sudden just because of how miserable you are
By Ju Jingwei
The more you put this dream in your heart, the farther you are from reality.Don't wait for the pie to fall from the sky, and don't expect the heaven to sympathize with you.The only way to see a new sky is to work hard.We might as well think of it this way, fruitful efforts are exercise, and fruitless efforts are tempering. No matter what, every encounter is an indispensable element in your life.
During the summer vacation of 2013, my buddy and I lived in poverty in Beijing.Both of them were stubborn, and they didn't want to ask their family members for money, so they looked for jobs everywhere, read a lot of part-time job information on "58 Tongcheng" and "Orange Tribe", and also called a lot of contact information on the part-time job advertisements posted in the school window. Telephone.In the end, either others are not satisfied, or we are not satisfied.We had no choice but to linger in the dormitory with a high temperature of 38 degrees.At that time, the two of us had already lived a life in the planned economy, and we had Master Kong instant noodles every day, and half of a ham sausage was needed for each person.The school did not know when it had a whim, and began to install electric fans in the dormitory, probably fearing that some gaming nerds would die from the "battlefield".When we were desperate, the electric fan in the dormitory was not turned on. We were woken up by the sound of the electric drill every morning before 7 o'clock, and our dreams were scared away.The construction noise of the school's new dormitory building made us restless, almost relying on fantasy to forget worldly troubles.Fortunately, none of us were defeated by the reality, and we insisted on "respecting each other as guests", sharing weal and woe, and finally we did not have the tendency to make mistakes.
Later, I found a job with great difficulty, and the salary was very attractive, but the working environment was a sensual place with mixed fish and dragons.I am engaged in literary and artistic creation, and I think it is a life experience that cannot be missed, and there should be a plot of the novel that I have been thinking about; buddies are all about realism, just get over the difficulties as soon as possible, and don’t care too much, hurry up Let me go to the interview.The interviewer said that each person had to pay a deposit of 600 yuan for clothing fees, and said that it would be refunded after the work was over.
After thinking about it with my buddies, I also asked many people for their suggestions, and we all thought it would be better not to go, but in the end we still took out the money we got home and went to work the next day.
That really cut off the way forward, and he had to be ruthless to the end, or he could only "lose his wife and lose his army" and make others laugh.
I was a little hesitant at first, for fear that I was spending money to buy experience. The world is dangerous, and we are too young after all.The buddy said it's okay, the rainbow can only be seen after the storm.The night before I went to work, my buddies and I went out and bought a big watermelon, half of it for two people, a spoonful for each person, and a bite for each person. It was sweet, and it was the sweetest watermelon I have ever eaten.
Because we went to work the next day, we wandered on the road at the junction of Daxing District and Chaoyang District in the middle of the night that day. Only then did I understand the pain of those North Drifters.
The sensual place and the place of drinking and drinking are still not suitable for us.Although we can bear the burden of humiliation, when faced with the boss asking us to apply for an AC card (smart identification authentication), we still choose to shrink back. After all, we don't want to ruin our whole life for a life experience.Finally, when we rushed out after midnight, there was no one on the street, no bus, no subway, not even a taxi.At that time, the two of us only had more than 60 yuan in total, and even if a kind taxi appeared, it would cost at least 100 yuan to return to our residence in Wudaokou from there.We were ready to throw money and run away at any time, but fortunately, there was no taxi, and our lives were less stained.
I took the mobile phone that was still alive, opened Baidu Maps, and tried to find the bus stop that came in the morning. I planned to take the first bus in the morning to see how sleepy Haidian was.I walked a long way according to the voice reminder, and my buddy was beside me, but I found that the more I walked, the more scared I became, because the lights were gradually disappearing.
The fear, the cold nights, and the fact that we've all been defeated.At that time, I just wanted to find a 24-hour KFC or McDonald's to fill my stomach, and then take a nap, maybe I will see the morning sun when I wake up.
I guess I'm a natural road idiot, my buddy saw that I was already confused by Baidu map, so I stopped quickly.He looked at the location on the map, and then walked back. In short, after 2 o'clock in the morning, we finally sat in KFC and ate hamburgers, with only the early morning fare left in our pockets.
Like the sweetest watermelon, I will always remember the most delicious hamburger and chicken wing cola, and I will never forget it.Everything in the suffering is set off infinitely beautifully, and I will never forget it even if I want to.
Originally wanted to go back to school, An Sheng stayed in the dormitory for a few days, then let go of his pride, called his parents and cried, and then went home immediately after a text message came and the bank card money had arrived.
The buddy followed this procedure, but when he took the train back to Sichuan, he was stuck on the way for three days and three nights.I was supposed to get home after a night of sleep, but I barely walked to the door after five days, like a beggar.
My buddy posted a status on the way: I am on an embarrassing journey.We read the news, only to know that the railway line was hit by heavy rain, and the front had collapsed, so we were trapped for three days and three nights.The whole carriage smelled of sweat, instant noodles, and stinky feet. At that time, my buddy called and said that I would never do anything to death again, and that it would be nice to live a safe, happy and happy life.
I was still in school, and I was the only one left in the dormitory. I watched TV dramas every day, typed the novel I vowed to finish, ate sauce pancakes and instant noodles, and went to KFC in the middle of the night to eat golden crispy chicken endorsed by Ke Zhendong. .At that time, I had already asked a high school classmate for help, so I had some liquidity, and I spent money every day to see how I felt, so I just didn’t want to eat big meals.
My buddy returned home after an embarrassing journey. Every day, he was well-clothed and well-fed. While living a comfortable life, he still did not forget that I was a brother who was in trouble. He would call every day to stimulate me.At this time, I had already started preparing to be a tutor, teaching high school mathematics, and made a test paper when I went to the interview, the second-mode test paper in Xicheng District, Beijing.Anyway, I am also from Jiangsu, and besides, I am not bad at advanced mathematics. It took more than an hour to finish it.The person in charge checked the answers and scored them. In the end, because a big question was missing a situation, he scored 146 points and passed the interview smoothly.The next day I was full of joy and went to class with the prepared lesson plan. The person in charge told me that I had to speak until the beginning of September, and I said that I had to go home until the middle of August. Miss me.The person in charge asked me to discuss it with my parents, so I had to make up a lie that my girlfriend would miss me.At that time, I didn’t have a girlfriend, even my boyfriend took pleasure in my misfortune, and hurt me every day. Finally, for the sake of my parents, I had to give up the hard-won errand and advance the schedule of going home.
During that summer vacation, my novel was not finished, and I never continued to write it. I returned home and lived a comfortable life, so comfortable that I didn’t know what to do.
When I was doing nothing, I began to think about cherishing life, so I studied psychology by myself during the summer vacation, and every time I talked to someone I just met, it always involved psychology.If you don’t pay attention, you will find that you are analyzing the other party’s psychology. Sometimes you make the other party have nothing to say, and you are also very embarrassed, so every time you scratch the back of your head and apologize to others. Later, the other party will quietly tell me about my analysis. Very accurate, you can open an emotional counseling office, I smiled and said that I am too busy with so many side jobs.
I also received a call at home during the summer vacation. My buddy said that his Apple earphones were lost on the train, and then he bought one for more than 100. After unpacking, he found that it was fake.I also took pleasure in his misfortune, and it was evened out. In that summer vacation, my buddies and I could only spurn each other and keep each other warm. We are both poor people, so why kill each other.
In fact, this kind of disaster one after another is not uncommon. The story of me and my buddies is not a big disaster. It is just a lesson learned, and the process is also very happy.We also know that there are many more hopeless things in this world. Although we did not continue to be stubborn to the end, in the end we are thinking of our parents, and we don’t want to make any mistakes. If something happens, it will be difficult to recover.
But that experience also taught us a lot, and I began to walk cautiously on my fantasy road of literature and art.The novel that has been put on hold for a long time is also in my creative plan; my buddy learned a lesson from the last time, and began to selectively find part-time jobs, and gained a lot.He also became more "invulnerable to all poisons". He volunteered to be the person in charge of the school's national innovation project. He worked hard all the way, resisted external pressure, and finally completed the project perfectly and won the first prize.
It may be that we are not too miserable, but my buddies and I have encountered the greatest love in our lives so far, Waterloo. When we were short of money and money, we were like dogs, staring at our phones every day in the dormitory, dreaming We all dreamed that our ex came back to us, won the lottery and won the jackpot, and all the exams were excellent.
From our point of view, we can also be regarded as the nirvana of the phoenix, reborn from the ashes.But we know that when we are most desperate, we are like a withered grass in the desert. God did not give us timely rain, but gave us sunny days and scorching sun.The same is true for the world around us. The sudden twists and turns in the movies are difficult to appear in reality. In addition to lingering, in addition to gritting your teeth, of course you have to let nature take its course.
I read an article before. At the end of the article, it said that since there is no way to escape, let's fight to the end together.Indeed, the suffering and setbacks we have to face will not be reduced because we have suffered enough, God will not pity you because of your misery, it will only arrange one difficulty after another to temper your will.Just like Tang Monk studying the scriptures in the West, if you want to obtain the scriptures, you don’t have to think about going back. You have no other way out except to continue smashing to the end.When I decided to go forward bravely, the door of comfort was closed; you want to turn back, sorry, people will not give you a chance.
The world won't treat you all of a sudden just because of how miserable you are.What people look forward to most in adversity is an instant reversal, and they need "something from heaven" to solve their urgent needs. Even if some joy comes from heaven after a while, we will not be so grateful and grateful. We may have already forgotten the misery of the year.
Since there is no "all of a sudden" miracle, then break your own record, keep refreshing the number of times you have confronted suffering, and fight to the end as long as you have a breath.In fact, later you will find that just because of your little persistence, you have achieved yourself, and the situation will be different.
You might as well take a risk with your life, because you're going to lose it anyway.If there is a miracle in this world, it is just another name for hard work.No one can save yourself, only you can save you in the end.The joy of surviving a desperate situation and the joy of surviving a catastrophe are not the "conservation of character" you imagined.In front of this world, life is an extremely specific and cumbersome vine, and only when you experience the ups and downs from it can you know its last lingering fragrance.
The dream is something, the more you put it in your heart, the heavier it is, and the farther it is from reality.Don't wait for the pie to fall from the sky, and don't expect the heaven to sympathize with you.Only by working hard can we see a new sky.We might as well think of it this way, fruitful efforts are exercise, and fruitless efforts are tempering. No matter what, every encounter is an indispensable element in your life.
Suddenly, I remembered a sentence from a netizen, which couldn’t be better used here:
With the heart of a liberal arts student in mind, he got into Li Kezai's way by accident.The life of an engineering student, simply go all the way to the dark, if you don't regret it, what can you do?The days are rice that has been washed ten times, and a lot of nutrients have been lost, but if you don’t eat it, you will die; I chew it repeatedly, and taste the sweetness.
Life is heavy, why do we always want to take it lightly
By half cup warm
In the end, I came back because I still have nostalgia and dreams, and because life is similar everywhere, there are hardships here, and difficulties there.Therefore, life is heavy, why should we always want to take it lightly?
At noon, when I was discussing things in the leader's office, I heard the sound of quarreling outside. When I came out, I found out that a colleague had a conflict with her partner, and even fought violently.My colleague is an Aquarius woman, born in the 80s, single, straightforward, and speaks outspokenly, which often offends some people, including me when I first met her.But after getting along for a long time, you will find that her sincerity and enthusiasm are enough to offset her sharpness, and even like her outspokenness.
In today's society where everyone wears a mask, I like people who are more sincere.Even if she has many shortcomings, as long as she is sincere, I like it.Yes, I like to hit the nail on the head and be outspoken, but I don't like hypocrisy.So I always tend to those simple people and things, so that I, who is clumsy in interpersonal communication, will not appear so obtrusive.
I don't know what happened between them, what caused the conflict, or even who is right and who is wrong. I don't think I need to know these details. I only know that every time I see a girl who walks independently and pretends to be strong, her soft heart is always Couldn't help pulling them into a ball, strands of strands.
In the end, she was called out alone by that man. At that moment, I empathized. I remembered the scene when I faced the intermediary scoundrel alone last year. A stream of moisture gushed out of my eyes unexpectedly. That's how I'm being hypocritical.Yes, I am hypocritical enough.Always hypocritically like some people who are as easy to commit crimes as me and pretend to be brave.
They argued for a while outside the office, wondering if the man had done anything.I sat in front of the computer calmly, but I hated myself for not being a good man, for not being able to be chivalrous once.
She returned to her seat, and there was no sign of any quarrel on her calm appearance, but when she answered the phone, her voice trembled.Yes, she is stronger than me, my tears are always poured out, and her teeth are always knocked out and swallowed back into the stomach with blood.I know that she is fragile, and she doesn't want the world to see her fragility, so she is so brave that she hides all her grievances secretly and swallows her blood alone.
She said that she has been drifting in Beijing for ten years. She has been rich and prosperous, dilapidated, hurt others, and was hurt by others. Without it, it is just experience.When she said this, her expression was extremely indifferent.Yes, such a woman is cold, so cold that it makes people feel distressed.It seems that they always look invulnerable to all poisons, but in fact, thousands of arrows have pierced their hearts after the armor.
Compared with the vicissitudes they have experienced, my misfortune is nothing to worry about, so how can I always talk about it when I meet everyone.I know that there must be many people in Beijing who are desperately strong, blooming brightly, but weeping without anyone knowing.I once read an article saying that every night in Beijing there are people crying.Yes, there are you, me, and all kinds of him who come and go.
Before coming to Beijing, I couldn't understand the difference between life and survival, nor the meaning of firewood, rice, oil and salt to love, and the gap between dream and reality.So I came here just to go through some hardships and then go on piously.
Beijing?I often ask myself in the middle of the night, if I hadn’t come to Beijing for love, would I not have encountered these life and death or joys and sorrows.However, without these experiences, youth is a little thin and pale.I also used to desperately want to escape from this city, thinking that if I leave, the clouds will be calm and the wind will be calm, and the years will be quiet.But the reality didn't make me get what I wanted.During those gloomy days, I used to feel depressing even thinking about it, but now I can write about it calmly.It can be seen that life is familiar, and its speed is far faster than imagined.
In my memory, that day was gloomy and cold. Even though the spring was bright and the sun was scorching hot, I still felt cold. I often tossed and turned in the middle of the night, and was so afraid that my whole body was covered with fine cold sweat.The tremors that can only be seen on TV actually happened to me. I was so panicked that I often cried bitterly in the middle of the night.I feel like I'm going to break down, and if I'm brave enough, I'll kill myself.In short, I was extremely depressed, and desperately wanted to roar out the depression, but I had nowhere to go wild.Because I know that there is no one else outside, only myself.
So, I desperately resisted myself to the death until I sent myself to the operating table.Yes, my body is ailing from chronic fear and depression.On the day of the diagnosis, my tears fell endlessly.I feel extremely wronged, I am a good girl, why should I suffer such successive blows.I feel like I can't take it any longer.I sat at the door of the hospital and wailed uncontrollably. People passing by looked at me, thinking that I had a terminal illness.Actually not.But even if it wasn't, I was terrified, fearing it and rejecting it like a terminal illness.
After the operation, I went back to work in the company, but my emotions were still one after another, and I still couldn't feel at ease.I am tired of such wandering days.I suddenly longed for someone to love someone, someone to take care of me until someone saddles me.I want to go back to my hometown, treat only one person well, and only yearn for one kind of smile.I felt that I could no longer bear this upheaval.Lose or lose, I admit it.
Some people say that if you look up and see that this city has neither your relatives nor your lover, not even your girlfriends and friends, wouldn't it be too desolate.In fact, it is not bleak, but it is really not that warm.Yes, just not warm enough.So, I decided to go to a warmer city, meet a warm person, talk about a warm relationship, and live a warm life.When I left, I felt a lot of unwillingness. After all, what I paid was far from what I got.Although I don't want to be ordinary, forgive me for not having the courage to stay in an extraordinary place and compete with extraordinary people.
I'm just an ordinary person, please allow me to be vulgar for a while, even if I fail everyone's expectations, I will leave.What love dreams of a big house, I just want the person I love and the person I love to be healthy and happy, and let the rest go.Think so much about what to do in the future, there are so many unpredictable variables in the future.These variables may bring us unexpected surprises, but more often they will give you a shock.So we really don't need to worry about buying a big house, buying a luxurious car and living an extravagant life.No matter how big the house is, it doesn’t just need a bed that can fit you and me.No matter how luxurious the car is, it is just a means of transportation.No matter how extravagant life is, it is not just three meals a day. Whether it is a lifetime of simple tea and light food, or a lifetime of fine clothes and fine food, it will all be nothing but ashes in the end.
Of course, in the end, I came back, because I still have nostalgia and dreams, and because life is similar everywhere, there are hardships here, and difficulties there.Therefore, life is heavy, why should we always want to take it lightly?
It's just that you didn't work hard enough
By Ye Yexi
For maintaining an intimate relationship for a long time, a good temperament is more important than a good appearance, self-reflection is more important than insight into the other party, and moral cultivation is more important than mastering skills.In terms of gaining more life satisfaction, achieving a strong and independent self is more important than successfully maintaining a close relationship between the sexes.
A good friend broke up with her boyfriend the other day.
The reason is simple, this man is too selfish, childish, flamboyant and playful.
Although the two have only dated for 4 months, it can't be said that they are deeply in love, but after all, they are serious feelings, there are some internal frictions, and the various disappointments in the relationship between the two, it is impossible to say that they will not hurt people.
What happened next was that within a few days, she found the job that had been causing her anxiety before. It was a very good consulting company in the medical field. You must know how difficult it is for a person who is struggling in a foreign country.
You might say that this is the conservation of character, or why she is so lucky, or maybe secretly jealous.
But I know that she read a lot of industry materials in order to find a job. In order to prepare for interviews, she wrote letters to consult alumni of the same company in turn, communicated with internal people to better understand the company, and found the company's annual report and related news for the past ten years. Do research one by one.As a foreigner, HR was amazed by her understanding of the French medical industry, but she is not a student with a medical and biological background.
Let’s talk about her personally. She is a lady, dignified and beautiful. She has two British master’s degrees and one French master’s degree.
This kind of hard work, this kind of her, this is not luck, she deserves it.
Let's talk about another person, a friend of a friend.
Started to learn French at the age of 12, then came to France, graduated from engineering school, and then entered HEC (Paris Higher Business School), fell in love several times, each time getting higher ranks, and finally got married and worked at the age of 26, and married into Rothschild Gerd family.
It is inevitable to be tall, beautiful and have a good temperament. There is also a patient smile and gentle voice waiting for the younger generation in the heavy rain for more than half an hour; it has been a long time since the order was placed, and the waiter was not unhappy and comforted; he laughed at himself living in Paris French is still not good for many years, but I speak with an authentic accent; during the internship, I always send several versions of each document (WORD 2007, WORD 2003, TXT, PDF) for the other party to print and edit according to different formats.She said that she hasn't lost her temper since she was in high school, and she always calms down and doesn't complain about all the unsatisfactory and unexpected displeasure in her life. As always, she is like a huge positive energy luminous body.
She said that girls should have a good posture no matter what. If the posture is good, it will not be bad.
I have seen a popular saying before, most people's effort is so low that it is not enough to compete for talent.In fact, my opinion is that most people's effort level is low enough to complain about luck at all.
When others are reading newspapers to learn languages, you are watching dramas and playing games, and when others are looking for various ways to expand your network, you pretend to be shy and do not want to contact outside circles, then, inevitably, success will not decline. to you.
The relationship between hard work and rewards in career may be more objective, but it is the same in relationships.
True love has no reason, it is nonsense.
Family, growth environment, and educational background shape a person's personality and conversation, and also determine the social class. The basis of emotional resonance lies in the combination of temperament and three views, which is difficult for people who are not in the same social class.
Just like it is impossible for a person who has been working in agriculture since he was a child to be illiterate and a person who grew up in a city and went to university to study abroad to have a common language.
Similarly, everyone yearns for a better partner. Who doesn't love tall, rich, handsome, and white, rich and beautiful, but Hold can live tall, rich, and handsome, first of all, if he is white, rich, and beautiful.Otherwise, even if you are favored for a while, it will be difficult to be happy for a long time, such as Princess Diana.
Women, especially Asian women, always attach great importance to marriage and love, are ashamed of being single, and feel that a woman's career in life lies in marrying a good man.Many times, when a woman finds a reliable partner, she tends to neglect her struggle, weakens, and gradually focuses on the other party. At this time, it is often a harbinger of a red light in her relationship.
But in fact, the essence of love and marriage is that two people support each other, just like two big trees, each with roots, and then support each other, while not forgetting to continue to absorb the sun and rain to grow well, in order to better resist life.And any parasitic relationship with a sense of attachment is doomed to be difficult to last, which is more obvious in the relationship of Westerners.
Marriage and love can't save a woman, the sense of security and happiness, in the end, only by oneself can have a long history.
As someone said: To maintain a long-term intimate relationship, a good temperament is more important than a good appearance, self-reflection is more important than insight into the other party, and moral cultivation is more important than mastering skills.In terms of gaining more life satisfaction, achieving a strong and independent self is more important than successfully maintaining a close relationship between the sexes.
If you're not good enough, why attract better people?
If you want to meet better people, don't you also have to be on the way to become a better person?
So, stop complaining about luck, good and bad, in fact, all have cause and effect. Everything comes for a reason (everything happens for a reason).
Don't be jealous of other people's luck anymore, don't focus on others anymore, instead of comparing angrily, it's better to let yourself do your best first.
You know, it's not bad luck, it's just that you didn't work hard enough.
You gotta get over the shame of not getting anything done
By rice ball riding a broom
Surrounded by secular values, shame makes us bear shackles, and we are unwilling to become a roadblock in our hearts.How difficult it is to have the best of both worlds, it has almost become an endless cycle of propositions between ideals and life, and we humans have always been greedy.
"You have to get over the shame of not being able to do anything," says a friend.One word wakes up the dreamer, and the unwillingness and confusion accumulated for a long time find an outlet for catharsis in an instant.Why do you work hard without asking overtime?Why do you want to be the best at every job you do?Why feel guilty about not doing well enough?Why is it so painful to work hard but not get good works?Everything has a very good breakthrough - it is the shame in my heart that is constantly pushing and torturing me, making me stay here, unable to move a step.
In the early years, I used "no dream, why go far away" as a mantra, until one day my body warned me that I could not abuse this physical body like this, then I realized, what is the so-called unwillingness?Of course, people need careers and work to gain a sense of accomplishment on which to live, regardless of whether they are men or women.This is also the main reason why I worked so hard when I first entered the workplace, desperately trying to be the best, and wanting to go to the top company.However, the actual situation often backfires. Sometimes what you spend time, energy, or even sacrifice your health to do is not as worthwhile as you imagined.
What is life worth?
When they wanted to turn around and leave Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, there seemed to be three words written on everyone's back - "not reconciled".But how to be willing?What is the annual salary?Or is it possible to achieve the so-called "getting ahead"?There will be bottlenecks in our career, and there will be no end to work. Of course, hard work can make us achieve certain achievements.But do we lose our way when we leave work or something?What does it mean to be unreconciled?
Haruki Murakami stopped the store he had been running for nearly ten years and concentrated on being a writer. People around him opposed him. Not only did he do this, but he also saved himself from smoking addiction by trying a good life routine and habits. And eventually became a long-distance runner writer.Surrounded by secular values, shame makes us bear shackles, and we are unwilling to become a roadblock in our hearts.How difficult it is to have the best of both worlds, it has almost become an endless cycle of propositions between ideals and life, and we humans have always been greedy.
When I have nothing to do, I searched for the word "do nothing" on Baidu, and found that from "24 years old" to "30" in related searches, there are confusions of "doing nothing". The age of 30 makes people look back at life. A frustrating thing, but each of us, how ordinary, how ordinary?If it is destined not to be dazzling, it is better than dying in splendor.
Of course, everyone has their own pursuits. Some people insist on spending their youth in the hot spots of big cities, even if they become invisible.And no matter what kind of life you choose, the most important thing is your own health first, and the second is that people come and go. The only thing worth cherishing is those lives that are worth cherishing, including ourselves.
(End of this chapter)
If life hurts you, don't be discouraged. The road that life must pass must be full of hardships, but we still have to experience, feel, and accept it in our own way, for the goodness it once gave us, and for the goodness it once gave us. Give tears and warmth.
- so far so close
No noise, own voice
By so far so close
The former self tried his best on the road and lived for the dream in his heart; the former self gritted his teeth to be brave and strong, and lived for the life he wanted.And I continue to travel today to live up to my former self, to be the same hard-working self as I used to be, and to be worthy of the forbearance and persistence of the past.
01
I spent my birthday this year at work. I worked overtime at the company in the morning and had a meeting to discuss the new advertising case. At noon, I went to the radio station to record the six programs of the week. In the evening, I returned to the company to revise the article and make the final plan.I didn't realize it was past midnight until I finished my work. When I turned on my phone, I saw many missed calls and messages, and many friends sent birthday wishes.Only then did I realize that this year's birthday passed in the same busyness as usual.
There is no one in the company, only the lights in my office are still on.Sitting in front of the computer for a long time, my shoulders are sore. When I stand up, my bones are creaking. I don’t feel hungry without dinner. I pour a glass of water and stand in front of the floor-to-ceiling windows on the 21st floor of the office and look down.At this time, my heart is not as peaceful as before.
The whole city fell asleep, and the neon lights in the distance outside the window had been extinguished, leaving only dots of street lamps to illuminate the road of returning home at night.The world is as quiet as a kindergarten without children, but there are still people hiding in the depths of silence, crying and laughing wantonly, and there are also people who, like me, calmly look at this seemingly innocent place in the foggy night. In a world that has nothing to do with me, there is an indelible affection in my heart.
Humans are very strange animals. Their moods will change with the surrounding environment or the weather. For example, they will feel happy when it is sunny, and easily sad when it is cloudy. Lonely and lonely.
I am like this, sometimes I wake up slowly on weekend mornings, if there is sunlight coming in through the heavy curtains, I will have hope in my heart, get up happily, clean the house, write and read.But if it's cloudy, you'll continue to pull the quilt over your head in frustration, and you may stay in bed all day.These things, which seem ordinary to us, seem to be little tricks of the heart, used to deceive ourselves, or to find a proper reason for some behavior.
Just like at this moment, the street lamp in the night pokes a hole in the darkness, illuminating a small area. Some people walk along the light, but they will fall back into the darkness soon.I looked at those repeated lights and shadows, and couldn't help laughing. This kind of hypocritical subtle perception is very similar to the ups and downs of our mood.The darkness, only when it meets the next street lamp, or occasionally a gust of wind blows, will it float and rise and fall.
In the wee hours of the morning when my birthday had passed, I felt a sudden enlightenment. Standing alone in the office overlooking the city in the dark was a completely different feeling from the daytime.During the day, you will feel that the city is under your feet, but at night, you will feel more that the city is in your heart. It pierces through obstacles like a ghost, lives with you, dies with you, arrives with you, and disappears with you.
I used to imagine myself standing here like I am now, but in this situation, I am not as proud as I imagined.Because I know that no matter in a dream or on the road, there will always be a moment to wake up, and there will always be a dawn waiting.
Whether it is a bright light on the way, or a desperate and silent darkness, people are always moving forward.You want to reach tomorrow, so don't stop now.
02
A few days ago, I was chatting with some friends in the group, and when it came to some inner topics, everyone joked: Far and near is like a psychiatrist, and the heart is so strong.I smiled at the computer.Where in this world are born strong people, everything is just the understanding after growing up.I told them jokingly, there is no way, this is all forced out by the society.
I used to do a lot of ridiculous things too.In order to let others remember, in order to be different from others, I wear strange clothes, dye hair of strange colors, and write special articles that I don’t want to say, but I have shaped myself time and time again.Now I understand that what really changes me, or the so-called difference from others, is not the deliberate affectation, but the difficulties the world gives me.
I was doing a social practice class in junior high school, and I was arranged to sell newspapers on the street.In the middle of winter, I ride a bicycle to the factory in the suburbs to carry it, and then sell it on the street. It costs one yuan, and if you buy three copies, you will get a pack of milk.I have forgotten how many somersaults I fell, and how hard it was at that time. I only remember the strange eyes of those passers-by, the cold that even a heavy coat can't resist, the red nose and the cracked back of the hand.When I went home at night, I was so cold that I couldn't speak, and I couldn't hold back my tears when I wrote the practice diary.
When I was a sophomore, I participated in various part-time jobs and did a lot of jobs. I am willing to try all kinds of strange jobs: selling refrigerators outside the electrical city, holding flags to display new mobile phones along the street, and stuffing advertising leaflets for pedestrians at various intersections .Many students are surprised why I have to do such a hard job, I can't earn much money, and I don't have any practical work experience. I just smiled and said, feel the difficulties of life in advance, so that I can know how to go in the future. easy.
I started working as a part-time planner in a well-known media company in my junior year. Now a very popular entertainment program on TV is the prototype of my plan. I stayed up late writing column plans, arranging announcements, doing various trivial matters, and running errands for regular employees to buy things. .The leader praised me for being serious and hardworking.I was smug at first, but gradually I smelled something bad in the air, and when I was finally pushed out of the company, I clearly heard the exaggerated laughter behind me, and also clearly heard myself gnashing my teeth.
I also once worked as a second assistant for a photographer, and accompanied him to a hotel reception in the middle of winter night. I was wearing the best clothes at the time, but he threw me at the hotel entrance and refused to let me in.I just waited for four hours in the most conspicuous place in the cold wind, without any money, dressed thinly, and shivering from the cold.Later, the first assistant in the same company saw me as pitiful, and bought me a beef brisket rice bowl for 13 yuan, and told me to eat it while it was hot.I squatted by the flower pond next to the hotel, and ate the cold dinner one bite at a time in the cold wind.
When I graduated, I had a very good job opportunity as a marketing executive in a magazine with a starting salary of 5000 yuan. When my classmates hadn’t found a job or their salary was only 2000 yuan, I had already left them behind.I regard it as a reward for the hard part-time job in the university in the past few years, and I have passed three tests all the way.The personnel department notified me to go to work on Monday, and I happily invited my classmates to dinner the day before. Just as everyone was drinking and drinking, I received a call telling me that I would not come, and someone had already replaced me.At that time, I clearly heard a "click" in my heart.
At that time, I was puzzled and hurried to the company, begging to see any person in charge, but the sister at the front desk coaxed me out without looking at me.The director of the marketing department couldn't bear to come out to meet me secretly, so he invited me to drink coffee downstairs in Jianwai SOHO, and told me many things, including my work.In the end, she said, you are still too young and ignorant of the world, and you will be replaced by the daughter of the company's largest investment boss, how can you handle her?When I heard such words, I hated my incompetence and the injustice of this world.
After working for a year, I was poached by a media company in Shanghai. The job went well and I had a good relationship with others. But then the editor-in-chief approached me and said that he would give me the opportunity to develop in a bigger place.I believed it was true at the time, but later I learned that the editor-in-chief had spoken ill of me before and after, saying that I lied to the company to accept private jobs, that I asked for a salary increase casually, and said so many things that I had never done.At that time, many mutual friends cut off contact with me, and some of them resolved their misunderstandings with me later, while some, with such deep misunderstandings, stayed away from my life ever since.
There are many more, there are unspeakable past events, those are the pasts that I hardly mention anymore, at such a midnight in early spring, at this moment, when the city is hidden in darkness, they seem to die The resurrection ignited the last bit of embarrassment in my heart.
I used to comfort myself constantly, the pain we experienced all came from our deep love.Some people are grateful for the suffering that goes with them, because it makes you grow and make you strong.However, the difficulties in the past made me see myself more clearly. When you encounter some things at the time, you may not understand the deep meaning of them, but after a long period of fermentation in your heart, you will show a different appearance and remind yourself again and again.
Our days are so contradictory and complicated.My father once told me that you can choose your life, but you cannot change your heart, and you must accept everything in the world.So I learned not to choose but to accept. When I was young, I called it the world or heaven and earth. After experiencing the transformation of the world, when those difficulties made me indestructible, I called it --world.
The so-called fireworks in the world is such a word that can be warm and indifferent at times, and the so-called world is such moments that are sometimes bright and sometimes dark.
Yes.They are attached to our body around, lingering.
03
A friend once asked me angrily: Why don't you explain why someone misunderstood you?What belongs to you is taken away by others, why don't you take it back?Are you a dummy?Some friends also asked me: Why do I work so hard, but no one knows?Why do I do so many things, but there are always people who are dissatisfied. Where on earth am I not doing well enough?
I used to be like this, I also envied others' possessions, I also felt that I was not understood, I also cared about other people's eyes, I also tried to retaliate and resent, I would tell myself what he was, and I would also Do my best to prove that I can too.
If someone slanders me, I will refute it fiercely, if someone misunderstands me, I will angrily explain it, if someone doesn't like me, I will ask why, and if someone insults me, I will respond with more vicious words.I have tried and given up.I also have a lot of dark psychology and emotions. I also hated someone in my heart, cursed this society viciously, and felt powerless under high pressure.I did do many things that now seem incomprehensible.
That's right, I once turned myself into the most hated person.
There is nothing I dare not admit. Only by admitting the imperfect self in the past can I move towards a better self.A senior told me later, don’t be so anxious, study psychology, read Buddhist scriptures, read ancient books, let yourself calm down, walk with a sharp edge, it will hurt others and yourself, only restrain yourself, you can glow.
After continuous learning, exploration and introspection, I finally understand that the world will not reward you for your efforts, nor will it require others to treat you equally just because of the way you treat them.The most difficult thing for people to live in this world is to maintain a sense of humility and peace, and this humility comes from the sincerity and down-to-earth efforts in the heart.
So, don’t try to explain any misunderstandings and distortions in this world. All that exists is truth. Anyone’s success is not a gimmick. , appearance, and even disgraceful things exist, and there is nothing to doubt.
Everyone is not what you see, they are pure and kind angels with wings on one side, and hideous demons holding a yaksha on the other.The fragility and timidity in their hearts, the vanity and cowardice they don't want to admit, are all hidden under those glamor.They have also been down and out, they have seen the sufferings of the world, they will hesitate before choosing, they have foolishly given up opportunities, and when they are cold-hearted to their subordinates, they suddenly remember that someone has treated them like this before Own.
After so many years, when I have lived the life I want, and I am proud of myself in the eyes of others, I have to admit my humbleness and shallowness, and I have to face up to my past self.Only when you see the darkness and work hard to break through it, will you enter the new heaven and new earth and discover a different self.
The world is already dirty, so there is nothing to be afraid of.Everyone has bitterness that can't be vented, and depression that can't be resolved, but who of us living here is not doing our best, or even living by unscrupulous means.
Over the years, I have gradually learned to accept, to accept accidents, to accept changes, to accept misunderstandings, to accept hard work but not being rewarded for the time being, to accept the cruelty of this world, and to accept those imperfections in us.We can't change this world, but I still choose not to compromise, I still let myself work hard to love, to be desperate for what I want in my heart.Because only in this way can I feel real and be happier.
If life takes away what belongs to me, it must think that I am not qualified enough to own it.If someone will misunderstand and slander themselves because of gossip, it is also a good thing for such people to stay away.What's mine is mine after all; what's not mine will be wiped out if you try to fight for it, why bother?Or silently be a bystander in the corner, let nature take its course, be at ease with the situation, and live your own life well.
If life hurts you, don't be discouraged. The road you must go through in life must be a lot of hardships.But we still have to experience, feel, and accept in our own way, for the goodness it once gave us, for the tears and warmth it once gave.
It is written in "The Beginning and the End": In real life, we often enter the field late when the general trend is fixed and cannot be changed, but leave early in the chaos of undecided victory or defeat.Yes, everything has not yet been settled and success or failure is unknown, so why are you willing to be the lost person who gave up.
Once I doubted, suffered, and hesitated.But now, I choose to forgive the past, forgive the past self, and I have learned to treat all of this as growth.
Those who understand will always understand, and those who don't understand will always misunderstand.This is the last thing I say to my friend.
04
When I look back after the years I used to forbear, I realized that the past that I used to find hard to tell is just a drop in the ocean. Life gives me not those difficulties, but growth. It is to learn how to lift heavy weights, but to never let go. The past, all put down.
You have to believe that everyone and everything you encounter in your life has its value and significance. Some people teach you to love, and some things teach you to grow. A rare treasure.At least at some point, you understood life, you understood yourself.
This world is so lively. Countless people on the Internet bombard me one after another. Some people like to post pictures, some people like jokes, some people like to complain, some people like to take selfies. They live a lively and glorious life, but there are also people who, like me, follow the posture of their own lives growing up silently.They may be out of tune with this world, they may no longer accept attention, but please remember that they have the same upward force as you.
At different stages of my growth, I have different answers to the peak of my efforts.Now I think that through our efforts, we can make people truly feel your sincerity, and give this sincerity a tacit approval.And more importantly, through hard work, don't let the world change your original intention.The older a person gets, the more precious his original intention becomes.At this moment, being a backlit person in this world is what I want to do.
Some people say to be a light, some people say to face the light, but I want to be a person behind the light.If you shine, you will illuminate others, but you will also accidentally lose yourself. If you walk in front of the light, you will be brilliant, but you will not be able to see the road ahead because of the glare.Only with your back to the light can you see the world clearly, see through success and failure, and understand what you really want.
I think of a very popular saying now: such hard work is because I don’t want to be like most people.Such positive energy highlights the existence and specialness of the individual.But I don't see it that way.I told my friend that the reason why I work hard today is to be the same as I used to be.
I used to do my best on the road and live for the dream in my heart. I used to grit my teeth and be brave and strong, and live for the life I wanted.And I continue to travel today to live up to my former self, to be the same hard-working self as I used to be, and to be worthy of the forbearance and persistence of the past.
In this world, anything can be arranged, only your heart.It doesn't matter if you lose anyone in this world, but you lose yourself.There is still a long, long way to go in the future, and I have to walk it alone, and I have to rely on myself and my own ability to complete it.This road, the story is the moment of yesterday, along the long road, suddenly like a dream, forever.
If you don't seriously consider how to go on at the beginning, then continue to follow the path in your heart, be the homeless person who is generous to yourself, and let everyone who wants to play themselves have fun.
The city has gradually awakened, and white light has occupied every corner of the city. No one would have thought that in the darkness of the past, someone wrote some words to bid farewell to the past, and there were also people full of gratitude in the darkness of no one. heart of.In this world, there are always people who live in ways you never imagined, and there are always people who walk behind the light for self-growth.
On a rare clear morning, I was driving home after working all night, and countless people were on their way to work.They are no different from me in the past, and they are the same as me now. Their way to work is so congested, but I run in the opposite direction, but it is rare and smooth.I squeezed through the crowd, I left a blank, and I filled in different colors for my future. On the second day of my birthday, in the new year, I silently told myself to be a person who still has responsibility.
This responsibility has turned into a blank letterhead today, what to write and what to leave, please feel free, please feel free, but don't forget.Don't think everything is special, don't think that all eyes are on you, don't use your ruler to measure the world, then you will feel that life is good.
I think of the copywriting in an advertisement I once made, and I will send it to you who saw this at the end. Never forget your determination when you set off, and don’t forget every one of you in this season. Do not forget your original heart Quiet yourself-in this era, everyone is talking loudly, and everyone is racing against time.We climbed to the height with the fastest speed, but lost our attitude in an instant. When the sound of the horn covered the sound of the engine, we had already forgotten that the way of humility is the way of a gentleman.You asked me what is needed in this era, be quiet when others are noisy, and speak up when everyone is quiet.
Don't make noise, have your own voice.
The world will not treat you all of a sudden just because of how miserable you are
By Ju Jingwei
The more you put this dream in your heart, the farther you are from reality.Don't wait for the pie to fall from the sky, and don't expect the heaven to sympathize with you.The only way to see a new sky is to work hard.We might as well think of it this way, fruitful efforts are exercise, and fruitless efforts are tempering. No matter what, every encounter is an indispensable element in your life.
During the summer vacation of 2013, my buddy and I lived in poverty in Beijing.Both of them were stubborn, and they didn't want to ask their family members for money, so they looked for jobs everywhere, read a lot of part-time job information on "58 Tongcheng" and "Orange Tribe", and also called a lot of contact information on the part-time job advertisements posted in the school window. Telephone.In the end, either others are not satisfied, or we are not satisfied.We had no choice but to linger in the dormitory with a high temperature of 38 degrees.At that time, the two of us had already lived a life in the planned economy, and we had Master Kong instant noodles every day, and half of a ham sausage was needed for each person.The school did not know when it had a whim, and began to install electric fans in the dormitory, probably fearing that some gaming nerds would die from the "battlefield".When we were desperate, the electric fan in the dormitory was not turned on. We were woken up by the sound of the electric drill every morning before 7 o'clock, and our dreams were scared away.The construction noise of the school's new dormitory building made us restless, almost relying on fantasy to forget worldly troubles.Fortunately, none of us were defeated by the reality, and we insisted on "respecting each other as guests", sharing weal and woe, and finally we did not have the tendency to make mistakes.
Later, I found a job with great difficulty, and the salary was very attractive, but the working environment was a sensual place with mixed fish and dragons.I am engaged in literary and artistic creation, and I think it is a life experience that cannot be missed, and there should be a plot of the novel that I have been thinking about; buddies are all about realism, just get over the difficulties as soon as possible, and don’t care too much, hurry up Let me go to the interview.The interviewer said that each person had to pay a deposit of 600 yuan for clothing fees, and said that it would be refunded after the work was over.
After thinking about it with my buddies, I also asked many people for their suggestions, and we all thought it would be better not to go, but in the end we still took out the money we got home and went to work the next day.
That really cut off the way forward, and he had to be ruthless to the end, or he could only "lose his wife and lose his army" and make others laugh.
I was a little hesitant at first, for fear that I was spending money to buy experience. The world is dangerous, and we are too young after all.The buddy said it's okay, the rainbow can only be seen after the storm.The night before I went to work, my buddies and I went out and bought a big watermelon, half of it for two people, a spoonful for each person, and a bite for each person. It was sweet, and it was the sweetest watermelon I have ever eaten.
Because we went to work the next day, we wandered on the road at the junction of Daxing District and Chaoyang District in the middle of the night that day. Only then did I understand the pain of those North Drifters.
The sensual place and the place of drinking and drinking are still not suitable for us.Although we can bear the burden of humiliation, when faced with the boss asking us to apply for an AC card (smart identification authentication), we still choose to shrink back. After all, we don't want to ruin our whole life for a life experience.Finally, when we rushed out after midnight, there was no one on the street, no bus, no subway, not even a taxi.At that time, the two of us only had more than 60 yuan in total, and even if a kind taxi appeared, it would cost at least 100 yuan to return to our residence in Wudaokou from there.We were ready to throw money and run away at any time, but fortunately, there was no taxi, and our lives were less stained.
I took the mobile phone that was still alive, opened Baidu Maps, and tried to find the bus stop that came in the morning. I planned to take the first bus in the morning to see how sleepy Haidian was.I walked a long way according to the voice reminder, and my buddy was beside me, but I found that the more I walked, the more scared I became, because the lights were gradually disappearing.
The fear, the cold nights, and the fact that we've all been defeated.At that time, I just wanted to find a 24-hour KFC or McDonald's to fill my stomach, and then take a nap, maybe I will see the morning sun when I wake up.
I guess I'm a natural road idiot, my buddy saw that I was already confused by Baidu map, so I stopped quickly.He looked at the location on the map, and then walked back. In short, after 2 o'clock in the morning, we finally sat in KFC and ate hamburgers, with only the early morning fare left in our pockets.
Like the sweetest watermelon, I will always remember the most delicious hamburger and chicken wing cola, and I will never forget it.Everything in the suffering is set off infinitely beautifully, and I will never forget it even if I want to.
Originally wanted to go back to school, An Sheng stayed in the dormitory for a few days, then let go of his pride, called his parents and cried, and then went home immediately after a text message came and the bank card money had arrived.
The buddy followed this procedure, but when he took the train back to Sichuan, he was stuck on the way for three days and three nights.I was supposed to get home after a night of sleep, but I barely walked to the door after five days, like a beggar.
My buddy posted a status on the way: I am on an embarrassing journey.We read the news, only to know that the railway line was hit by heavy rain, and the front had collapsed, so we were trapped for three days and three nights.The whole carriage smelled of sweat, instant noodles, and stinky feet. At that time, my buddy called and said that I would never do anything to death again, and that it would be nice to live a safe, happy and happy life.
I was still in school, and I was the only one left in the dormitory. I watched TV dramas every day, typed the novel I vowed to finish, ate sauce pancakes and instant noodles, and went to KFC in the middle of the night to eat golden crispy chicken endorsed by Ke Zhendong. .At that time, I had already asked a high school classmate for help, so I had some liquidity, and I spent money every day to see how I felt, so I just didn’t want to eat big meals.
My buddy returned home after an embarrassing journey. Every day, he was well-clothed and well-fed. While living a comfortable life, he still did not forget that I was a brother who was in trouble. He would call every day to stimulate me.At this time, I had already started preparing to be a tutor, teaching high school mathematics, and made a test paper when I went to the interview, the second-mode test paper in Xicheng District, Beijing.Anyway, I am also from Jiangsu, and besides, I am not bad at advanced mathematics. It took more than an hour to finish it.The person in charge checked the answers and scored them. In the end, because a big question was missing a situation, he scored 146 points and passed the interview smoothly.The next day I was full of joy and went to class with the prepared lesson plan. The person in charge told me that I had to speak until the beginning of September, and I said that I had to go home until the middle of August. Miss me.The person in charge asked me to discuss it with my parents, so I had to make up a lie that my girlfriend would miss me.At that time, I didn’t have a girlfriend, even my boyfriend took pleasure in my misfortune, and hurt me every day. Finally, for the sake of my parents, I had to give up the hard-won errand and advance the schedule of going home.
During that summer vacation, my novel was not finished, and I never continued to write it. I returned home and lived a comfortable life, so comfortable that I didn’t know what to do.
When I was doing nothing, I began to think about cherishing life, so I studied psychology by myself during the summer vacation, and every time I talked to someone I just met, it always involved psychology.If you don’t pay attention, you will find that you are analyzing the other party’s psychology. Sometimes you make the other party have nothing to say, and you are also very embarrassed, so every time you scratch the back of your head and apologize to others. Later, the other party will quietly tell me about my analysis. Very accurate, you can open an emotional counseling office, I smiled and said that I am too busy with so many side jobs.
I also received a call at home during the summer vacation. My buddy said that his Apple earphones were lost on the train, and then he bought one for more than 100. After unpacking, he found that it was fake.I also took pleasure in his misfortune, and it was evened out. In that summer vacation, my buddies and I could only spurn each other and keep each other warm. We are both poor people, so why kill each other.
In fact, this kind of disaster one after another is not uncommon. The story of me and my buddies is not a big disaster. It is just a lesson learned, and the process is also very happy.We also know that there are many more hopeless things in this world. Although we did not continue to be stubborn to the end, in the end we are thinking of our parents, and we don’t want to make any mistakes. If something happens, it will be difficult to recover.
But that experience also taught us a lot, and I began to walk cautiously on my fantasy road of literature and art.The novel that has been put on hold for a long time is also in my creative plan; my buddy learned a lesson from the last time, and began to selectively find part-time jobs, and gained a lot.He also became more "invulnerable to all poisons". He volunteered to be the person in charge of the school's national innovation project. He worked hard all the way, resisted external pressure, and finally completed the project perfectly and won the first prize.
It may be that we are not too miserable, but my buddies and I have encountered the greatest love in our lives so far, Waterloo. When we were short of money and money, we were like dogs, staring at our phones every day in the dormitory, dreaming We all dreamed that our ex came back to us, won the lottery and won the jackpot, and all the exams were excellent.
From our point of view, we can also be regarded as the nirvana of the phoenix, reborn from the ashes.But we know that when we are most desperate, we are like a withered grass in the desert. God did not give us timely rain, but gave us sunny days and scorching sun.The same is true for the world around us. The sudden twists and turns in the movies are difficult to appear in reality. In addition to lingering, in addition to gritting your teeth, of course you have to let nature take its course.
I read an article before. At the end of the article, it said that since there is no way to escape, let's fight to the end together.Indeed, the suffering and setbacks we have to face will not be reduced because we have suffered enough, God will not pity you because of your misery, it will only arrange one difficulty after another to temper your will.Just like Tang Monk studying the scriptures in the West, if you want to obtain the scriptures, you don’t have to think about going back. You have no other way out except to continue smashing to the end.When I decided to go forward bravely, the door of comfort was closed; you want to turn back, sorry, people will not give you a chance.
The world won't treat you all of a sudden just because of how miserable you are.What people look forward to most in adversity is an instant reversal, and they need "something from heaven" to solve their urgent needs. Even if some joy comes from heaven after a while, we will not be so grateful and grateful. We may have already forgotten the misery of the year.
Since there is no "all of a sudden" miracle, then break your own record, keep refreshing the number of times you have confronted suffering, and fight to the end as long as you have a breath.In fact, later you will find that just because of your little persistence, you have achieved yourself, and the situation will be different.
You might as well take a risk with your life, because you're going to lose it anyway.If there is a miracle in this world, it is just another name for hard work.No one can save yourself, only you can save you in the end.The joy of surviving a desperate situation and the joy of surviving a catastrophe are not the "conservation of character" you imagined.In front of this world, life is an extremely specific and cumbersome vine, and only when you experience the ups and downs from it can you know its last lingering fragrance.
The dream is something, the more you put it in your heart, the heavier it is, and the farther it is from reality.Don't wait for the pie to fall from the sky, and don't expect the heaven to sympathize with you.Only by working hard can we see a new sky.We might as well think of it this way, fruitful efforts are exercise, and fruitless efforts are tempering. No matter what, every encounter is an indispensable element in your life.
Suddenly, I remembered a sentence from a netizen, which couldn’t be better used here:
With the heart of a liberal arts student in mind, he got into Li Kezai's way by accident.The life of an engineering student, simply go all the way to the dark, if you don't regret it, what can you do?The days are rice that has been washed ten times, and a lot of nutrients have been lost, but if you don’t eat it, you will die; I chew it repeatedly, and taste the sweetness.
Life is heavy, why do we always want to take it lightly
By half cup warm
In the end, I came back because I still have nostalgia and dreams, and because life is similar everywhere, there are hardships here, and difficulties there.Therefore, life is heavy, why should we always want to take it lightly?
At noon, when I was discussing things in the leader's office, I heard the sound of quarreling outside. When I came out, I found out that a colleague had a conflict with her partner, and even fought violently.My colleague is an Aquarius woman, born in the 80s, single, straightforward, and speaks outspokenly, which often offends some people, including me when I first met her.But after getting along for a long time, you will find that her sincerity and enthusiasm are enough to offset her sharpness, and even like her outspokenness.
In today's society where everyone wears a mask, I like people who are more sincere.Even if she has many shortcomings, as long as she is sincere, I like it.Yes, I like to hit the nail on the head and be outspoken, but I don't like hypocrisy.So I always tend to those simple people and things, so that I, who is clumsy in interpersonal communication, will not appear so obtrusive.
I don't know what happened between them, what caused the conflict, or even who is right and who is wrong. I don't think I need to know these details. I only know that every time I see a girl who walks independently and pretends to be strong, her soft heart is always Couldn't help pulling them into a ball, strands of strands.
In the end, she was called out alone by that man. At that moment, I empathized. I remembered the scene when I faced the intermediary scoundrel alone last year. A stream of moisture gushed out of my eyes unexpectedly. That's how I'm being hypocritical.Yes, I am hypocritical enough.Always hypocritically like some people who are as easy to commit crimes as me and pretend to be brave.
They argued for a while outside the office, wondering if the man had done anything.I sat in front of the computer calmly, but I hated myself for not being a good man, for not being able to be chivalrous once.
She returned to her seat, and there was no sign of any quarrel on her calm appearance, but when she answered the phone, her voice trembled.Yes, she is stronger than me, my tears are always poured out, and her teeth are always knocked out and swallowed back into the stomach with blood.I know that she is fragile, and she doesn't want the world to see her fragility, so she is so brave that she hides all her grievances secretly and swallows her blood alone.
She said that she has been drifting in Beijing for ten years. She has been rich and prosperous, dilapidated, hurt others, and was hurt by others. Without it, it is just experience.When she said this, her expression was extremely indifferent.Yes, such a woman is cold, so cold that it makes people feel distressed.It seems that they always look invulnerable to all poisons, but in fact, thousands of arrows have pierced their hearts after the armor.
Compared with the vicissitudes they have experienced, my misfortune is nothing to worry about, so how can I always talk about it when I meet everyone.I know that there must be many people in Beijing who are desperately strong, blooming brightly, but weeping without anyone knowing.I once read an article saying that every night in Beijing there are people crying.Yes, there are you, me, and all kinds of him who come and go.
Before coming to Beijing, I couldn't understand the difference between life and survival, nor the meaning of firewood, rice, oil and salt to love, and the gap between dream and reality.So I came here just to go through some hardships and then go on piously.
Beijing?I often ask myself in the middle of the night, if I hadn’t come to Beijing for love, would I not have encountered these life and death or joys and sorrows.However, without these experiences, youth is a little thin and pale.I also used to desperately want to escape from this city, thinking that if I leave, the clouds will be calm and the wind will be calm, and the years will be quiet.But the reality didn't make me get what I wanted.During those gloomy days, I used to feel depressing even thinking about it, but now I can write about it calmly.It can be seen that life is familiar, and its speed is far faster than imagined.
In my memory, that day was gloomy and cold. Even though the spring was bright and the sun was scorching hot, I still felt cold. I often tossed and turned in the middle of the night, and was so afraid that my whole body was covered with fine cold sweat.The tremors that can only be seen on TV actually happened to me. I was so panicked that I often cried bitterly in the middle of the night.I feel like I'm going to break down, and if I'm brave enough, I'll kill myself.In short, I was extremely depressed, and desperately wanted to roar out the depression, but I had nowhere to go wild.Because I know that there is no one else outside, only myself.
So, I desperately resisted myself to the death until I sent myself to the operating table.Yes, my body is ailing from chronic fear and depression.On the day of the diagnosis, my tears fell endlessly.I feel extremely wronged, I am a good girl, why should I suffer such successive blows.I feel like I can't take it any longer.I sat at the door of the hospital and wailed uncontrollably. People passing by looked at me, thinking that I had a terminal illness.Actually not.But even if it wasn't, I was terrified, fearing it and rejecting it like a terminal illness.
After the operation, I went back to work in the company, but my emotions were still one after another, and I still couldn't feel at ease.I am tired of such wandering days.I suddenly longed for someone to love someone, someone to take care of me until someone saddles me.I want to go back to my hometown, treat only one person well, and only yearn for one kind of smile.I felt that I could no longer bear this upheaval.Lose or lose, I admit it.
Some people say that if you look up and see that this city has neither your relatives nor your lover, not even your girlfriends and friends, wouldn't it be too desolate.In fact, it is not bleak, but it is really not that warm.Yes, just not warm enough.So, I decided to go to a warmer city, meet a warm person, talk about a warm relationship, and live a warm life.When I left, I felt a lot of unwillingness. After all, what I paid was far from what I got.Although I don't want to be ordinary, forgive me for not having the courage to stay in an extraordinary place and compete with extraordinary people.
I'm just an ordinary person, please allow me to be vulgar for a while, even if I fail everyone's expectations, I will leave.What love dreams of a big house, I just want the person I love and the person I love to be healthy and happy, and let the rest go.Think so much about what to do in the future, there are so many unpredictable variables in the future.These variables may bring us unexpected surprises, but more often they will give you a shock.So we really don't need to worry about buying a big house, buying a luxurious car and living an extravagant life.No matter how big the house is, it doesn’t just need a bed that can fit you and me.No matter how luxurious the car is, it is just a means of transportation.No matter how extravagant life is, it is not just three meals a day. Whether it is a lifetime of simple tea and light food, or a lifetime of fine clothes and fine food, it will all be nothing but ashes in the end.
Of course, in the end, I came back, because I still have nostalgia and dreams, and because life is similar everywhere, there are hardships here, and difficulties there.Therefore, life is heavy, why should we always want to take it lightly?
It's just that you didn't work hard enough
By Ye Yexi
For maintaining an intimate relationship for a long time, a good temperament is more important than a good appearance, self-reflection is more important than insight into the other party, and moral cultivation is more important than mastering skills.In terms of gaining more life satisfaction, achieving a strong and independent self is more important than successfully maintaining a close relationship between the sexes.
A good friend broke up with her boyfriend the other day.
The reason is simple, this man is too selfish, childish, flamboyant and playful.
Although the two have only dated for 4 months, it can't be said that they are deeply in love, but after all, they are serious feelings, there are some internal frictions, and the various disappointments in the relationship between the two, it is impossible to say that they will not hurt people.
What happened next was that within a few days, she found the job that had been causing her anxiety before. It was a very good consulting company in the medical field. You must know how difficult it is for a person who is struggling in a foreign country.
You might say that this is the conservation of character, or why she is so lucky, or maybe secretly jealous.
But I know that she read a lot of industry materials in order to find a job. In order to prepare for interviews, she wrote letters to consult alumni of the same company in turn, communicated with internal people to better understand the company, and found the company's annual report and related news for the past ten years. Do research one by one.As a foreigner, HR was amazed by her understanding of the French medical industry, but she is not a student with a medical and biological background.
Let’s talk about her personally. She is a lady, dignified and beautiful. She has two British master’s degrees and one French master’s degree.
This kind of hard work, this kind of her, this is not luck, she deserves it.
Let's talk about another person, a friend of a friend.
Started to learn French at the age of 12, then came to France, graduated from engineering school, and then entered HEC (Paris Higher Business School), fell in love several times, each time getting higher ranks, and finally got married and worked at the age of 26, and married into Rothschild Gerd family.
It is inevitable to be tall, beautiful and have a good temperament. There is also a patient smile and gentle voice waiting for the younger generation in the heavy rain for more than half an hour; it has been a long time since the order was placed, and the waiter was not unhappy and comforted; he laughed at himself living in Paris French is still not good for many years, but I speak with an authentic accent; during the internship, I always send several versions of each document (WORD 2007, WORD 2003, TXT, PDF) for the other party to print and edit according to different formats.She said that she hasn't lost her temper since she was in high school, and she always calms down and doesn't complain about all the unsatisfactory and unexpected displeasure in her life. As always, she is like a huge positive energy luminous body.
She said that girls should have a good posture no matter what. If the posture is good, it will not be bad.
I have seen a popular saying before, most people's effort is so low that it is not enough to compete for talent.In fact, my opinion is that most people's effort level is low enough to complain about luck at all.
When others are reading newspapers to learn languages, you are watching dramas and playing games, and when others are looking for various ways to expand your network, you pretend to be shy and do not want to contact outside circles, then, inevitably, success will not decline. to you.
The relationship between hard work and rewards in career may be more objective, but it is the same in relationships.
True love has no reason, it is nonsense.
Family, growth environment, and educational background shape a person's personality and conversation, and also determine the social class. The basis of emotional resonance lies in the combination of temperament and three views, which is difficult for people who are not in the same social class.
Just like it is impossible for a person who has been working in agriculture since he was a child to be illiterate and a person who grew up in a city and went to university to study abroad to have a common language.
Similarly, everyone yearns for a better partner. Who doesn't love tall, rich, handsome, and white, rich and beautiful, but Hold can live tall, rich, and handsome, first of all, if he is white, rich, and beautiful.Otherwise, even if you are favored for a while, it will be difficult to be happy for a long time, such as Princess Diana.
Women, especially Asian women, always attach great importance to marriage and love, are ashamed of being single, and feel that a woman's career in life lies in marrying a good man.Many times, when a woman finds a reliable partner, she tends to neglect her struggle, weakens, and gradually focuses on the other party. At this time, it is often a harbinger of a red light in her relationship.
But in fact, the essence of love and marriage is that two people support each other, just like two big trees, each with roots, and then support each other, while not forgetting to continue to absorb the sun and rain to grow well, in order to better resist life.And any parasitic relationship with a sense of attachment is doomed to be difficult to last, which is more obvious in the relationship of Westerners.
Marriage and love can't save a woman, the sense of security and happiness, in the end, only by oneself can have a long history.
As someone said: To maintain a long-term intimate relationship, a good temperament is more important than a good appearance, self-reflection is more important than insight into the other party, and moral cultivation is more important than mastering skills.In terms of gaining more life satisfaction, achieving a strong and independent self is more important than successfully maintaining a close relationship between the sexes.
If you're not good enough, why attract better people?
If you want to meet better people, don't you also have to be on the way to become a better person?
So, stop complaining about luck, good and bad, in fact, all have cause and effect. Everything comes for a reason (everything happens for a reason).
Don't be jealous of other people's luck anymore, don't focus on others anymore, instead of comparing angrily, it's better to let yourself do your best first.
You know, it's not bad luck, it's just that you didn't work hard enough.
You gotta get over the shame of not getting anything done
By rice ball riding a broom
Surrounded by secular values, shame makes us bear shackles, and we are unwilling to become a roadblock in our hearts.How difficult it is to have the best of both worlds, it has almost become an endless cycle of propositions between ideals and life, and we humans have always been greedy.
"You have to get over the shame of not being able to do anything," says a friend.One word wakes up the dreamer, and the unwillingness and confusion accumulated for a long time find an outlet for catharsis in an instant.Why do you work hard without asking overtime?Why do you want to be the best at every job you do?Why feel guilty about not doing well enough?Why is it so painful to work hard but not get good works?Everything has a very good breakthrough - it is the shame in my heart that is constantly pushing and torturing me, making me stay here, unable to move a step.
In the early years, I used "no dream, why go far away" as a mantra, until one day my body warned me that I could not abuse this physical body like this, then I realized, what is the so-called unwillingness?Of course, people need careers and work to gain a sense of accomplishment on which to live, regardless of whether they are men or women.This is also the main reason why I worked so hard when I first entered the workplace, desperately trying to be the best, and wanting to go to the top company.However, the actual situation often backfires. Sometimes what you spend time, energy, or even sacrifice your health to do is not as worthwhile as you imagined.
What is life worth?
When they wanted to turn around and leave Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, there seemed to be three words written on everyone's back - "not reconciled".But how to be willing?What is the annual salary?Or is it possible to achieve the so-called "getting ahead"?There will be bottlenecks in our career, and there will be no end to work. Of course, hard work can make us achieve certain achievements.But do we lose our way when we leave work or something?What does it mean to be unreconciled?
Haruki Murakami stopped the store he had been running for nearly ten years and concentrated on being a writer. People around him opposed him. Not only did he do this, but he also saved himself from smoking addiction by trying a good life routine and habits. And eventually became a long-distance runner writer.Surrounded by secular values, shame makes us bear shackles, and we are unwilling to become a roadblock in our hearts.How difficult it is to have the best of both worlds, it has almost become an endless cycle of propositions between ideals and life, and we humans have always been greedy.
When I have nothing to do, I searched for the word "do nothing" on Baidu, and found that from "24 years old" to "30" in related searches, there are confusions of "doing nothing". The age of 30 makes people look back at life. A frustrating thing, but each of us, how ordinary, how ordinary?If it is destined not to be dazzling, it is better than dying in splendor.
Of course, everyone has their own pursuits. Some people insist on spending their youth in the hot spots of big cities, even if they become invisible.And no matter what kind of life you choose, the most important thing is your own health first, and the second is that people come and go. The only thing worth cherishing is those lives that are worth cherishing, including ourselves.
(End of this chapter)
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