Economic Wisdom to Apply in Your Twenties

Chapter 67

Chapter 8 Section 7

"Ten Years" Eason Chan: Ten years later, we can still greet each other as friends, but with that kind of tenderness, there is no reason to hug anymore, lovers will inevitably become friends in the end.

"Quiet" Jay Chou: I really don't have talent, and I didn't get quiet so fast. I will learn to let go of you because I love you too much.

"Happy Breakup" Liang Jingru: Happy breakup, please be happy, say goodbye to wrong talents and reunite with right ones.

"Happier Than Me" Chen Xiaodong: Please be happier than me, so that I won't waste my exit in embarrassment, no matter how painful it is, I don't need to be sorry to make up for it, at least I can fulfill your pursuit.

"Long Live Broken Love" Su Huilun: It doesn't matter if you have him or not, it does matter whether you quench your thirst or not. Sometimes a lover is not as good as a cup of hot coffee.It doesn't matter if I have love or not, it doesn't matter if I am happy or not, as long as I will be chased by someone tomorrow.

"How much love can be repeated" Dick Cowboy: How much love can be repeated, how many people are worth waiting for, and when love has gone through the sea, do you still have the courage to love?

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The everlasting prosperity of lovelorn healing songs is enough to show how many lovelorn people in the world seek comfort and empathy after losing love through music.Every relationship has a good beginning, but not every good love has a happy ending.On the road of love, there are hundreds of turns and twists, and falling out of love is always accompanied by love. In the end, you may still be alone.Pained and cried, we mature and grow in lovelorn.In irrational feelings, perhaps we can try to look at it with economic rationality: What is a broken love?
1. Losing a relationship is like being unemployed
There are two types of unemployment: voluntary unemployment and involuntary unemployment.

After graduating from university, you look for a job. Before you go, you set yourself a goal, to go to a big company, even if they only give you a minimum salary, as long as you can realize your dream, no matter what you do, how hard you work, you will willing.But things backfired, your ideal company did not hire you, and in the end you went to work in other small companies, these companies are actually good, but you always feel that your dream is not here, after much deliberation, you still choose give up.

You can't go to the company you want to go to; you are not interested in going to the company you want to go to.

You are unemployed, and your unemployment is not that you can't find a job at all, but that you are too picky about your job.In economics, this self-inflicted unemployment is called "voluntary unemployment".

In love, most of the time, it takes a little luck to meet the love you want.What if you can’t meet it? Should you find one in a hurry, or don’t worry about it? The economics of love suggests that you wait a while and voluntarily lose your job for a while, and your luck may be fine.

When there is no love, you will definitely feel a little lost and anxious, but you must wait calmly. Love is not bread and water. If you don’t eat for a day, you won’t starve to death.

2. Difficult to recover after being overwhelmed, sunk cost

As Liu Ruoying's "Success" sang, "I have devoted my youth to you for so many years, and in exchange for a thank you for your fulfillment..." When breaking up, lovers often say: "I have been with you for so many years, and in the end it is Nothing is lost..."

In fact, breaking up means that the other party is already your sunk cost, which is hard to recover.

Sunk costs in economics refer to unrecoverable costs, which is what we call "spilled milk".We often say, don't cry over the spilled milk, in the face of irreparable failure, we can only stop nostalgia and move forward chicly.

The same goes for love economics.When a person chooses a lover, he should not always think about the pity of the past sacrifices, but should consider how to find the most suitable love partner as soon as possible without wasting his time and energy.

The existence of sunk costs is beneficial for both men and women to take love seriously and seriously consider the future of themselves and each other.But after being serious, if you find that the other party is really not suitable for you, you have to choose to give up at the first time, and if you keep silent, you will sink yourself.

3. Forced to save
As the name implies, "forced saving" means involuntary saving. When consumers can't find their ideal products, they can't spend the money in their hands, so they have to choose to save.When personal investment channels are limited, the excess money has to be deposited in the bank. This money deposited unwillingly is "forced savings".Also, during inflation, the money income of consumers has not risen, but the prices of commodities have risen, or, although the money income of consumers has also risen, but cannot keep up with the speed of rising commodity prices, consumers can only choose "forced to save".

In love economics, although "forced saving" represents a kind of helplessness, "forced saving" is also a kind of saving. It means that although the person who is looking for a love partner is currently unsatisfactory, he can just use this time to find a way out. To accumulate.In the process of accumulation, luck often falls from the sky, which is far better than the rashness of getting married for the sake of getting married and falling in love for the sake of falling in love.Those who know how to think and make progress in the process of "forced savings" will eventually be able to obtain happy returns.

Wisdom Pieces: Therapy for Broken Relationships

1. Talk.Find someone you can confide in, tell your distress, not only release the psychological pressure, but also listen to their comments and comfort; or use a diary or blog to write down your feelings and show them to yourself or your friends, and you can also seek psychological benefits. relief.

2. Empathy.Transferring emotions to other people or things other than the lovelorn object.Such as developing a closer relationship with other people, or actively participating in various recreational activities, relaxing in nature, releasing depression, and cultivating temperament.

3. Treat it dialectically.That is to analyze in two parts, look at the lovelorn, and use the rational "I" to remind, hint, and overcome the fascinated "I".

4. Abandon love first.Although love is what everyone desires, there is no absolutely smooth love.After falling out of love, examine the value and status of love in life, and put aside the view that love is supreme.Renew and sublimate the self, and use struggle to actively transfer the pain of broken love.

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