A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 21 6 "Heirloom" Father's Model: Du Fu
Maneuverability: ★★★ Difficulty factor: ★★★ Keywords: lead by example
There are many famous intellectual families in history, and the Langya Yan family is one of them.Generally speaking, the father inherited the grandfather's occupation, and he also hopes that the son will inherit his own occupation and pass it on from generation to generation.But "everyone has his own aspirations", many things cannot be forced, but can only be influenced subtly.A copy of "Yan's Family Instructions" is not only required to be read by the descendants of the Yan family, but ordinary families also use it as a teaching book for their children. Under the influence of this family instruction, many celebrities have really emerged.

In fact, the famous poet Du Fu is also a father who hopes to pass on his poems to his family. On his son’s birthday, he wrote a poem to educate his children:
Zongwu's birthday
When will the boy meet? Gao Qiu will be born on this day.Since the urban language, it has been accompanied by my husband's name.

Poetry is my family business, and it is passed down from person to person.Familiar with the selected texts, don't look for colorful clothes.

At the beginning of the withered banquet, I couldn't sit obliquely.Liuxia splits into pieces, trickling down slowly.

When does it say in the poem that I will see you again?Today is your birthday in late autumn.Since I wrote a poem about missing you, future generations will know about you.Poetry is a career passed down from generation to generation in our family. I hope you can inherit it. This is not an ordinary father-son relationship.You should read more books such as "Wen Xuan" and don't be like the old Laizi in the ancient books who is over 70 years old and still wears colorful clothes to make his parents laugh.I congratulate you on your birthday with a sick body, but I can't do enough to sit upright.While drinking wine, my lovesickness for you also melts into melancholy.

It is obvious that Du Fu’s son did not become a great poet later on, but the inheritance of art is not determined by genes. We still have to say that Du Fu, as his father, has played the greatest role in “family heirloom”. As for success or failure, it is really human Things that cannot be controlled.

Why is it said that Du Fu failed to inherit the family and is still a model of this type of father?Because he himself did a good job.Du Fu's poems and essays are all top-notch, and his demands on his son are not too much.If he can't do it himself but asks his son to be a great writer, it would be a bit too much.The heirloom father starts with one thing: lead by example.

Here is a good case that can serve as another example for fathers.There is a famous elementary school teacher, when someone asked her why she wanted to be a teacher, she said: "Because my father is very happy to be a teacher!" When she was still sensible, her daughter wrote an article about her own life. dad:
Although my father's eyes are not big, there is a light of wisdom in his eyes. There is a pair of myopia glasses on the bridge of his nose, which looks very serious.Dad's stomach is very big, and it is filled with knowledge.

Dad is a middle school teacher. He gets up early every day, sits on a stool and thinks about the main points of teaching for the day, teaching methods, how to manage students, etc. In short, he has endless questions.Every weekend, my father would pick up English books and chemistry books, sit on the stool upright and read them, and copy what he didn't understand in the notebook, so that he can solve them later when he finds time.He is always absorbed in reading. Once after breakfast, Dad was reading a chemistry book. I wanted Dad to take me to buy erasers. I called several times, but he didn’t hear me. Finally, I shouted loudly: "Dad, take me Go buy erasers!" Dad said as if waking up from a dream: "Ah, ah, yes, I will definitely take you on a plane when I have time!" My mother who was cleaning the room in the back room laughed with me.

Another time, it was my birthday, just in time for Sunday.Our family hasn't had a good meal together for a long time. Mom and Dad discussed and decided to go to the restaurant on my birthday.After breakfast that day, Dad picked up his book, sat on the stool, and read it seriously as usual.Mom and Dad said: "Let's go to the mall to buy a birthday gift for the child first, and we will go to the restaurant at noon." Dad said: "Well, you go first, and I will go to you after reading this part." Mom and I saw that my father cherished the time so much, so he didn't insist on going with us, so our mother and I left first.After my mother and I went shopping for a long time, my birthday gift was bought for me, and it was already noon, but there was no sign of my father.My mother and I had to go home after dinner.Who knows, Dad is still reading on the stool.

There is such a father who loves learning in the family. Both mother and daughter are very considerate of him. The daughter may even feel inferior to her father. She feels that her study motivation is not as good as her father. She silently thinks in her heart that I will become a person like my father in the future.

The spirit of learning can be inherited, and the profession can also be inherited, but before passing it on to the family, you have to think about whether you have done enough.

"I used to be a person who didn't like to study until my child had some abnormal problems." A father told the truth in his parenting experience: "My child has Down syndrome. In order to understand this disease, I began to read some medical books, and I began to know that there are many families like mine in the world, and many great parents have made great efforts for their children. These things encourage me and keep me from falling down in the face of bad luck. "He became a doctor after a long illness. In order to let the girl grow up healthily, the father learned a lot of nursing knowledge, and also taught his daughter to read and listen to music at home... Now his daughter is 10 years old, and he seems to have changed to another person. Become gentle and strong.

The misfortune of the daughter has become the luck of the father.If it weren't for such a disaster, the father might still be dissatisfied with the child, irresponsible for the family, not pursuing life, and not interested in anything... This father not only understood the child's illness, but more importantly, he was In the process of self-study, he regained the sense of responsibility and accomplishment that belonged to his father, and he gradually returned to the position that his father should do.

In fact, not only poets and teachers, as long as they can learn in time and constantly update themselves, they can make children feel a kind of self-discipline, and naturally inherit your profession and principles of life, etc.Here are some tips for enjoying the role of "Dad":
1. Enjoy your job.If you don't like your profession, or don't respect your colleagues, and say some dark truths in front of your children, it will be difficult for your children to take your torch and move forward.

2. As far as learning is concerned, if you want your children to learn for life, you must first let yourself fall in love with learning.Everything is difficult at the beginning. If you plan to learn and enrich yourself, it is best not to choose books that look very good but you don't like.It's easy to break your confidence that way.Start with comics, novels, detective stories, etc. that you are interested in, and after reading them, you can communicate with your children, so that you can really fall in love with reading and learning, and then carry out a greater ideological transformation project.

3. When the child makes it clear that he will not accept your arrangement, don't force him to accept this goal.Tell him more about the interesting and beneficial aspects of this goal for him, and give the child time to adapt to a life that is completely different from what he thought.

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