A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 33 4 Avoid comparisons, financial management is to turn finite into infinite
"Dad, I want a new pair of Adidas sneakers."

"Do you need new shoes now?"

"No, I just want a pair of those shoes. I really like it, can you buy me a pair?"

"Does someone in your class already have such a pair of shoes, or you are all talking about this new shoe, let's see who will have it first?" Dad pointedly said the child's thoughts, and sure enough, it was because there were already two in the class. Personally wear these shoes to gym class.

"This pair of shoes costs close to 1000 yuan, which is three times your tuition fee. Do you think there is really such a need?" The son knew that he was not short of shoes, so he stopped talking, but he could see that he was very upset. Happy.

"I heard this story when I was a child:
"Su Dongpo, a great writer in the Song Dynasty, was a drinker. After he was relegated to the south, he also studied the technology of wine making. Although he was good at tasting wine, his own drinking capacity was very small, while others had a large amount of alcohol. He drank three big bowls, but Su Dongpo could only drink one small bowl, and he would get drunk if he drank more. Others said that he was not blessed to drink, but he said, I drink a little and others drink three or five bowls. We feel the same. They all feel intoxicated.

"If Su Dongpo only drank more than others, then the fun of wine tasting would be lost. Everyone's situation is different. What others think is good may not be suitable for us, and what others think is fashionable is not necessary for us. Follow along. Pick what works best for us, being the ones who make up their own minds.

"There are many students of Confucius, and Yan Hui is the most famous among them. But Yan Hui has always been the one who speaks the slowest, answers the most secure, and lives the most simple life. Other disciples may get promoted and get rich. Only Yan Hui was unmoved by himself, he lived in a back alley, and lived in a humble life, but he was able to enjoy himself. To this day, we still respect this kind of person who is not affected by the outside world.

"More than 1000 yuan is really not a small amount for a student like you. Think about it, your pair of shoes can help three other students pay their tuition fees, you can buy yourself a year's worth of books, and you can exchange them for what you need more. Why do you want things that others have, such as bicycles, etc.?"

The father said something like this to the child, and the child couldn't figure it out for a while, so the father asked him to think about it for himself.

Indeed, the origin of the mentality of comparison is very complicated. After children arrive at school, they have to face their classmates alone and accept all kinds of information. How can they hold their ground without the guidance of their father? Don't compare blindly?Therefore, it is still necessary for the father to control it from the source, and not to set a wrong example for the child.

Some parents themselves are people who like to compare themselves. When they see other people buying a car, they will think about buying one; Good school, come to make yourself look good.

"Others can, why can't you?" This is the mantra that many parents teach their children. "As parents, we are reluctant to eat and wear clothes, and we only want our child to study hard, but he just doesn't live up to it. My sister's child is one year younger than him, and my parents have never worried about studying! I looked at it horizontally and vertically. , Our children are no worse than others, others can do it, why can't he?" The more you say this, the more you are hurting your child.

No child is willing to admit that they are worse than others, they hope to be affirmed by adults, and their understanding of themselves often comes from the evaluation of adults, and this kind of affirmative evaluation is also particularly important for the cultivation of children's self-confidence.Parents always emphasize that children are worse than others, which will make children often deny themselves, and when children encounter difficulties, they will panic and shrink back.Moreover, when parents always compare their children with their peers, children will also pay attention to their peers' hobbies, clothing, and popular topics, so that it is easy to develop a mentality of conformity and comparison.

Dads should learn to appreciate their children, and don't always compare their own children with others. There is no comparison between children.When the child is doing better than before, he can be affirmed; when the child is complacent because of his good ranking, the father should remind him to sum up his experience and see his own shortcomings.

Let the children's eyes turn from looking at others to looking at themselves, so that children can know what they need and what their goals are, without being influenced by the outside world.Many people say that the wisdom of financial management is to increase the value of money, but under limited conditions, it is also a powerful financial management ability to allow wealth to maximize or even infinite value?Compared with the increase in wealth, inner satisfaction and wisdom are the ultimate goals of financial management.

(End of this chapter)