A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 39 3 Scores Like Salary, Explaining Part of the Problem
The second Chapter 63 score is like a salary, explaining some problems
"Doctor, save my two children." In a hospital in Zhengzhou City, a couple in their 40s walked into the outpatient room with two young people in their 20s.

Their family is from a rural area in Henan, and their two children are a pair of dragon and phoenix twins.A few days ago, the results of the college entrance examination for the siblings came out, and the family changed completely. The elder sister beat her head from time to time, trying to cut her wrists with her father's razor blade; Said: "I'm done, I don't have the face to see people."
How different are the grades of the siblings?My elder sister went to a secondary school, and my younger brother went to a junior college, but because they usually study very well and their goal is to go to Peking University and Tsinghua University, they cannot accept such results.Parents poured all their efforts into them, saving food and money for their children to go to school.He always said to them: "You must be admitted to college. We have never been to college in our life. We can only count on you two." Huge pressure and huge expectations made the two children feel like they were on a roller coaster From the top to the bottom.

Fortunately, the two children are just depressed. There are many children who commit suicide every year because of unsatisfactory college entrance examination results. Only when the children have problems will the parents understand that it is better for the children to live well than anything else.Instead of regretting and being afraid afterwards, it is better to inoculate in advance and tell the children that the score is not important, as long as you work hard.

Scores are not important, this sentence first requires the fathers to convince themselves.The effect of children's schooling and reading is an important measure of the score, but it is not the only indicator.Just like our salary, although it can explain a person's ability and contribution, it is definitely not the only criterion for measuring a person's value. Who is willing to admit that his contribution is worth as much as his salary?

Many children are afraid of exams because they are afraid that their scores are too low and their father will punish them.In fact, there are many things behind a score: whether the score this time has improved compared with the previous one, whether the questions that were wrong last time have been corrected this time, how many points other children have scored in the test, and the overall situation of the grade. How, what is the status of the child's exam, how many of them can be obtained but are careless and wrong... If the father can sort out all these questions with the child, the child will naturally not focus on the score, so I don't feel too much pressure on the score.

Both Einstein and Edison were dropped out of school, Nobel had no formal school education, and Mao Zedong was the first in Chinese and the first in mathematics in his early years... Today, another figure who is active in various fields , there are very few people who have scored double hundred since childhood.Scores are just an indicator to measure a child, and there are many indicators to comprehensively judge a person. How can a father "disable a person because of the score"?

When we change jobs, it is not very pleasant to sit in the competition seat, listen to the interviewer's questions, and wait for the final result.The same is true for the taste of children's exams and other grades.What's more, their world is only about learning, a little setback will cause a huge psychological reaction, and it is easy to get overwhelmed if they don't do well in the exam.

Not many people are happy when a child is faced with a low grade.They have a ruler in their hearts, and they have to compare themselves with their good friends and classmates. Those with low scores themselves bear a huge sense of inferiority.At this time, what they need most is encouragement: It's okay, don't lose heart, Dad believes in you.

When the child has grades, even when the test is full, the father also reminds the child that the score cannot represent everything.There is no end to learning, and the occasional perfect score can only show that you have just mastered the knowledge points of the exam, and there are more things to learn besides the exam.

In fact, not only the score is not important, but also how others evaluate your child and how others evaluate you, what matters is what kind of person you are, what kind of person your child is, whether you can face yourself, take responsibility, and constantly study progress.If it is easy to be swayed by external standards, it is easy to lose yourself. In our society, there are more people who lose themselves.

(End of this chapter)