A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 52 1 Keep pace with the family and avoid "gangs everywhere"

Chapter 8 To be a learning father, to broaden oneself is to broaden the way of education

——As the old saying goes, "It is better to teach him to fish than to teach him to fish." A good method can certainly solve temporary problems, but the truly effective education method lies in improving the "quality" of fathers.Only a high-quality father can give high-quality love, and a perfect father can give his child a complete family.Just as white-collar workers in the modern workplace need to recharge, fathers also need to "recharge".

Understand some psychological common sense to minimize "accidental injury"

"I have a secret in educating the child, which is not to make him too complacent. The mother and I are a little tighter, and the other is a little looser. I am responsible for putting pressure on her, and she is responsible for calming down emotions. The two of us can control the child into obedience. "A father was talking about his experience in teaching children in the community.

This kind of education of "one who sings the red face and one who sings the bad face" is typical in Chinese families. The father and mother are strict and loving, and they sing and harmonize each other. It seems that the division of labor is in place.But this kind of logic does not stand up to scrutiny. For example, an adult certainly cannot accept being slapped and rubbed by another person.But isn't the singing and harmony between the parents just beating and kneading?

Everyone thinks that a child should be sung by a red face and a white face, the father should be more dignified, and the mother should be more understanding.However, every child is different, and every parent has a different personality and charm. Isn't the child educated in the same way like a product on the assembly line?Some fathers, who obviously have a natural talent for humor, want to behave dignifiedly in front of their daughters. Others will be happy because of getting along with him, but daughters will suffer because of getting along with him, and gradually alienate them from their fathers.

There once was a girl who was very quiet and had good grades.A child like her should not be in the counseling room, but on the school podium.But because her relationship with her father deteriorated, she was forcibly dragged by her mother to receive guidance.It turned out that the daughter has always worshiped her father, and her father is a majestic and a role model in her heart.But in the past few years, my father's business has collapsed. After my daughter knew about this, she gradually changed her view of her father. When her father told her to save a little money now, her daughter made a big fuss, said some unpleasant things, and even started to treat her father badly. Dad was sneering and sarcastic, and the family's life was hard to survive.

Father, the greater the authority established in the heart of the child, the deeper the impact will be when it falls.In fact, why is it necessary for a father to maintain a tall and complete image in the child's mind?Many great people also have many small flaws. Everyone has shortcomings, and no perfect person exists.

It is impossible to maintain a single majestic image for a long time. Always singing against the mother will only make the child feel very confused, and he does not know who loves him more.

Jews who are good at tutoring also believe that family atmosphere is a factor that plays an important role in family education.Although most of the Jewish people have lived a wandering life in a history of more than 5000 years of development, they have tried their best to create a harmonious and warm family atmosphere for their children.This is not only true of Jews, most of the accomplished celebrities had a good family atmosphere in their childhood.

A British scholar visited more than 20 countries, surveyed more than 1 school-age children with different skin colors and different economic conditions, and found that children attach great importance to the spiritual life and family atmosphere of the family.The scholar summed up the 10 most important requirements that children from all over the world have for their parents and families, and "Parents don't quarrel when children are present" topped the list.

A Chinese child education expert also conducted a survey on "what kind of home do you like best" among elementary school and kindergarten children.It was found that children's requirements for their parents and families are not economic and material conditions. They don't seem to care much about what they eat, wear, use and play. On the contrary, they pay much attention to their own family. spiritual life.There are five favorite homes, and the first one is: a harmonious, united, and friendly home.Children like the kindness of their parents the most, they do not quarrel or bicker, and the whole family lives in harmony, making the family always full of love.

The love between parents and a harmonious family atmosphere can inject vitality and vitality into the physical and mental growth of children, and increase children's confidence and courage in life.If a child grows up in a tense and depressive family atmosphere, he will gradually become worried, lack enthusiasm, introverted, and even form a serious psychological barrier.Under the influence of a good family atmosphere, your children will surely grow up healthily and vigorously.

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