Madam is leaving today

Chapter 7 Oppositional Defiant Disorder

When Su Yun returned to the room, the child in his arms had already fallen into a deep sleep, his eyes were completely swollen from crying, his face was covered with snot and tears, it was really not beautiful.

Su Yun felt distressed and angry, and whispered to Huaping to bring hot water to wipe the child's face, and asked Su Niang to call the child's nanny.

Then she hugged the child and walked lightly to the bedside, trying to put him down.

Unexpectedly, when she moved, the child's brows would be tightly frowned, with a look of uneasiness on his face, and even in his dream, his little hands were still tightly grasping her collar.

Su Yun felt sore, and patted him on the back comfortingly, while bending over and gently putting him on the bed.

Then she carefully pulled off his pair of small hands. During this period, she never stopped patting him.

When the child's brows were finally relaxed again and he breathed evenly, apparently in a deep sleep, Su Yun sat on the side of the bed, looked at the child's sleeping face, and let out a long sigh.

Soon, Huaping came back after fetching water, and Su Niang also brought Jiaming's nurse over.

Su Yun softly asked Huaping to wipe Jiaming's face clean, watched him sleep, and walked with Su Niang to the study on the other side of the yard.

This courtyard is probably Zheng Yunge and Gu Dalangjun's new house when they got married.

Jiaming's nanny, Yu Niang, was already waiting there, as well as two doctors called by Mrs. Cui and Mr. Gu Dalang. One of them was an old man with white hair and the other had a round face and thick eyebrows, and he was wearing a blue suit. Young man in blue clothes.

As soon as the young man saw her, he showed a row of shiny white teeth, looking very lively and energetic, quite childish.

Su Yun was taken aback for a moment, and then saw that the three people in front of her stood up and bowed briefly to her.

Su Yun withdrew his thoughts, let them sit down with a "hmm", and stared at Yu Niang closely, but saw that after she sat down, she twisted the handkerchief in her hand at a loss, her eyes were full of people who didn't know why she was being held. Call here the fear and anxiety.

Su Yun took all of Yu Niang's reactions into his eyes calmly, and when he thought that the only person who had been by that child's side for the past six years was this kind-hearted but cowardly woman, Su Yun felt a sense of shame. Can't help but let out a long sigh.

She also walked to the seat behind the desk and knelt down. This era was similar to the Tang Dynasty, and there were few seats. In most people's homes, there were only empty square couches or seats. When sitting, she used kneeling. Su Yun was not used to it at first, but fortunately, kneeling is a more dignified sitting posture, but it is usually more casual.

After sitting down, Su Yun glanced at the three people in front of him, then looked at the two doctors and said, "I know that Madam invited you here because she was worried about me and Xiao Langjun."

As she said, she deliberately avoided a certain man, and she saw the round-faced young man raised her eyebrows, "It's just that madam is really worrying too much. I have nothing to do with Mr. Xiaolang, but Mr. Xiaolang suffered a little." Scared, there is really no need for the two doctors to go so hard. I have something to ask Yu Niang later, if you two have something to do, you can leave first."

Hearing this, the elderly doctor twirled his beard and nodded, and just about to leave, the young doctor with a round face grinned and said, "It's already here, it's not good to just leave like this, the kid is frightened." It can be big or small, if you are too frightened, you will easily have nightmares, Madam, for the sake of safety, it is better for me to show you to Xiao Langjun."

Su Yun took a deep look at him. She could guess that Cui Shi and her cheap husband invited these two people over. It is more important to see the doctor than to inquire about the situation. After all, Zheng Yunge's performance today is very different from before.

Even Su Niang and Huaping also looked weird when they saw her challenge Cui in the public, if they didn't know that she had "lost memory" and stayed with her all the time, they might think that their young wife had changed. people.

Anyway, it's time to let them know something about the kid in the room.

Su Yun felt heavy in his heart, nodded his head and said: "That's fine, but Mr. Xiao Lang has fallen asleep now, if you want to see a doctor, you need to wait for him to wake up, please wait a moment."

The old doctor hurriedly cupped his hands and said, "I dare not do it."

The young man was still smiling, and he also looked like he would do his best for the little master.

Su Yun didn't look at them again, turned to Yu Niang who had been lowering her head uneasily since she sat down, and said with dark eyes: "Yu Niang, I want to ask you a few questions now, just tell me the truth .”

Yu Niang seemed to be startled, her voice stammered, "Young...Young Madam, if you want to ask anything, just ask, and this old servant will definitely tell you everything."

Su Yun nodded, and subconsciously picked up a pen and paper to record. His eyes scanned a table of familiar and unfamiliar utensils, and then he remembered embarrassingly that this place was in ancient times, without the notebook and fountain pen she was used to.

Su Niang, who was beside her, saw Su Yun's slightly frowned brows, she seemed to have thought of something, she leaned over slightly and asked, "Young Madam, do you want to use paper and ink?"

Because of the presence of outsiders, Su Yun couldn't say anything, so he could only bite the bullet and let out a "huh", secretly regretting why he didn't enroll in a calligraphy class before to cultivate his sentiments.

So far, I can only bite the bullet.

Because Zheng Yunge could write and write before, Su Niang guessed that Su Yun wanted to make some records, so she chose a small regular script pen for her to write small characters, and soon prepared a pen, ink, paper and inkstone for her.

Su Yun clumsily recalled how the people on the TV held the pen, pretended to pick it up calmly, and said: "I will ask you some behaviors that the little man might have in a while, you can think back to the little man in the past six months. In terms of performance, you only need to answer whether he is often like this, occasionally or not, I don’t know, do you understand?”

Yu Niang hurriedly answered yes.

The round-faced young man looked at Su Yun's apparently unskilled pen-holding posture, and frowned imperceptibly. Hearing her words at this time, he felt even more weird in his heart, and he couldn't help but aroused a little interest. The mentality of watching a play.

Su Yun ignored the obvious interested eyes of the round-faced young man, and asked the first question, "Is Xiao Langjun usually angry or lose his temper easily, and often small things make him unable to control his emotions?"

Yu Niang was stunned, and nodded quickly, "Young Madam is right, Mr. Xiaolang often loses his temper, and sometimes he just dropped a few grains of rice while eating, and Mr. It took a long time to calm down."

After getting down to business, Su Yun's heart calmed down. She picked up a pen, carefully wrote down what Yu Niang said, and continued to ask a few questions.

When asked "Do you sometimes hurt others", everyone's expressions changed, and Su Niang couldn't help but softly called out, "Young Madam..."

The voice was full of uneasiness.

Xiao Langjun is only a 5-year-old child, if such urination will hurt others, that would be terrible, why would the young lady ask such a question?

But Su Yun turned a deaf ear and just looked at Yu Niang fixedly. Yu Niang bit her lip and whispered: "It can't be said that it hurts others, but sometimes some people gossip behind their backs and say... about Mr. He is the lone star of the devil, destined to be loved by no one, Xiao Lang will...be emotional, and even...will..."

Seeing that Yu Niang couldn't continue speaking, Su Yun's eyes sank, and he took her words, "There will be some violent acts, won't you?"

Yu Niang's eyes were red, she nodded, and said, "But Mr. Xiao Lang didn't do it on purpose, he's still so young..."

Su Yun pursed his lips and remained silent. Yes, it wasn't intentional. Such a young child doesn't know what is intentional or unintentional. He just... can't control his behavior.

But Yu Niang continued: "Actually, Sanlang-jun and Xiaolang-jun were very close before, they were about the same age, although in terms of seniority, Sanlang-jun was Xiaolang-jun's uncle, but when they played around, they were just like children of the same age.

It's just... just once, Mr. Dalang sent another letter saying that he couldn't come back. It was about a year and a half ago. Mr. Dalang made great achievements in battle and was proclaimed as the God of War. His wife wrote a letter early to ask Mr. Dalang to go home for the New Year. Who knows Mr. Dalang still didn't come back.

Mr. Sanlang then... took the anger of Mr. Xiaolang, saying that Mr. Dalang didn't come back because of him and Mrs. Young, and said a few bad words, Mr. Xiaolang lost his temper and pushed Mr. Sanlang down. On the ground, Lord Saburo sprained his foot, and after that..."

Yu Niang wiped away her tears with a handkerchief, and said with a sob: "Madam punished Mr. Xiaolang to kneel in the ancestral hall all night, and didn't allow anyone to accompany him...such a small child! The ancestral hall was dark and gloomy at night, so the ancestral hall was dark and gloomy. It's an adult who feels hairy, let alone a child.

The next day when the old slave went to pick up the little man, the little man huddled in a corner. Even when the old slave walked into him, he screamed in fear. After returning, he developed a high fever, and he was rescued with great difficulty... ..."

Su Yun's heart trembled suddenly, and he finally managed to stabilize his trembling hand, and recorded these things word by word.

A young man with a round face——Qin Huan looked at the corners of the woman's tightly pursed mouth and the seriousness in her eyes, but there was no more playfulness in her eyes, and a pensive expression appeared on her face.

After a while, Su Yun finally finished asking all the questions. She looked at the three sheets of paper full of words and let out a long breath.

Su Niang couldn't help but asked worriedly: "Young Madam, Mr. Xiao... Could something have happened? Mr. Mr.... Did Mr. Mr. Xiao suffer from some kind of illness?"

Those questions just now made Su Niang startled one by one. With these questions, Su Niang seemed to see a child who had low self-esteem, irritability, mood changes and often showed aggressiveness. Mr. Xiaolang?

Although Su Niang didn't want to admit it, she couldn't help but guess at this moment, is Mr. Xiao Lang's brain...a bit abnormal?

Su Yun lowered his eyes slightly, and naturally understood what Su Niang was thinking.

Even in modern China, people still don't have a correct understanding of psychological problems and pay enough attention to them, let alone children's psychology, which is often neglected.

There are many examples of immature children who have psychological problems due to the negligence or influence of their parents, and gradually develop into serious mental illnesses that ruin their lives.

Experiments have proved that the root of many criminals' criminal psychology is the psychological trauma they suffered when they were young.

And because of the lack of understanding of psychological problems, parents will label children as "mentally ill" just because of the abnormalities they show, even the closest people, let alone others.

Once, a friend of Su Yun, who has been engaged in children's psychological counseling for many years, said to her helplessly: "What children need is the normal teaching and explanation from their parents, not because children are disobedient and they think they are mentally ill."

However, after some understanding just now, Su Yun has already come to a preliminary conclusion in his mind that the situation is not so serious that it is irreversible. He couldn't help but feel a little more relaxed, slightly raised the corners of his mouth and turned to Su Niang and said: "Su Niang, if you If you think like this, it will be very difficult for Jiaming to recover from the injury he suffered."

Everyone looked at her curiously, obviously waiting for her to explain the series of strange behaviors just now.

Su Yun paused, tried his best to convert some difficult nouns into plain language, and said in a deep voice: "Xiao Langjun is indeed ill, but it is not an incurable disease, he is... sick in his heart.

If a child lives in an environment with strict parenting and a depressing family atmosphere for a long time, he will easily develop low self-esteem, sensitivity, and irritability.

If this environment also poses a threat to the child's survival, the child will show violent tendencies and irresistible impulses, because his brain has become accustomed to seeing the surrounding environment as a threat. You may not believe it, this is just the child's adaptation The survival mechanism of the environment is the stress response of children after experiencing trauma.

Just like a ferocious beast pushes its cubs into the jungle where the jungle is preyed on by the weak, in order to survive, the cubs can only master the method of survival from their instinctive desire to survive. "

In modern times, this mental illness is called oppositional defiant disorder, which usually appears around the age of 8, and may appear as early as 3 years old.

The question that Su Yun asked just now was a preliminary examination of whether the child suffered from oppositional defiant disorder.

Fortunately, the symptoms of Jiaming's oppositional defiant disorder are still mild. Even without the help of experts, parents can communicate with their children or change their training methods to improve their children's symptoms.

It's just that psychological problems are the most difficult, and many times the factors that affect it are not the patient himself, but the environment in which he lives.

How to create an environment for Jiaming to heal in Gu's house is really a big challenge.

　Miss sister is going to negotiate with General Gu for her son~ Miss sister: You have to love him and love him.General Gu: ...Miss Sister: Don't be cruel to him, play with him, always affirm him and praise him.General Gu: ...Miss Sister: ...I despise you!

　　
　
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