Life never takes anyone lightly

Chapter 9 The road to success has always been full of thorns (4)
He said: "We often see many attractive news and advertisements published in newspapers and magazines, attracting thousands of rural youths to the cities. These young people would rather abandon their beautiful rural life and come to the cities. But In fact, those who have high status and huge wealth in the city have their own special opportunities and skills, which are not available to everyone; in the city, most people's status is too ordinary. Even this ordinary position is hard to come by. Look at those hotels, aren't they full of poor people who want to get a job in the city?"

Why did they take this step?The main reason is that they do not recognize themselves.They have many weaknesses, and they do not have enough experience and ability to deal with various unforeseen difficulties.They had no choice but to bury themselves in this situation where the pressure of survival was extremely high and the competition was extremely fierce. Finally, one day they were squeezed out, so some people began to degenerate and take risks.What a terrible tragedy it is that all the hopes they held when they came out of the countryside were in vain, and they couldn't even comfort their dear parents at home!

Indeed, the huge New York City is full of opportunities for success, and young people with knowledge and skills are needed everywhere.However, there is no easy and convenient road to success. When young people walk into the blood-sucking city, many people are squeezed to death.However, the city is still the arena of all possible success in their hearts, and they flock to it like crazy.Indeed, some of them may have achieved their original goal, but they also paid a huge price.For example, they stay in the office all day long, work, work and work again. These people's energy and physical strength are exhausted very quickly, and their energy is exhausted at a young age.So, they had to withdraw, and another group of strong and ambitious young people followed, and then walked into the mouth of the vampire, the city, and let it swallow blood and flesh!
"Generally, the job seekers who come from the countryside to the city have a very dangerous future. In the countryside, they have enough time to think about things, but life in the city is too stressful and full of traps and temptations. As soon as a young person enters, he is very It is easy to lose your mind. When young people come to the city, they must first try to maintain the purity of their thoughts, strive to be frugal in life, and consciously resist the temptations of the outside world; Work hard in the direction that suits them best. If they fail to do this, they will easily fall into a life of extravagance and waste their good time in the passing prosperity and extravagance. In any case, young people must not regard the city as a Opened his own grave, buried himself in it.

So, please believe that, if you want, poverty is only temporary, everything depends on yourself.

10. It is better to fight yourself than to fight your father
We must understand: Only by abandoning every crutch around us, breaking the boat and relying on ourselves can we win the final victory.That said, self-reliance is the source of strength that opens the door to success.Therefore, the personality of every successful person is to insist on self-reliance and refuse to rely on.

Walking on crutches, especially on other people's crutches, is a kind of "lazy psychology" for many people.For successful people, their habit is to throw away other people's crutches and move their own feet.They are fighting for themselves.

One of the biggest misconceptions people often hold is thinking that they will always benefit from the constant help of others.

Having strength is a common characteristic of every high-minded person, and relying on others can only lead to cowardice.Strength is spontaneous and cannot depend on others.We cannot strengthen our own muscles by sitting in the gym and letting others do it for us.

Nothing undermines independence more than the habit of relying on others.If you depend on others, you will never be strong, and you will never be independent.Either put aside the "crutches" around you and be independent, or bury your ambitions and be an ordinary person honestly for the rest of your life.

The famous American writer Emerson said: "People who sit on comfortable cushions tend to fall asleep."

Relying on others, thinking that someone will always do everything for us so we don't have to work hard, is a fatal obstacle to self-reliance and hard work.

Have you ever wondered how many people you know are just waiting?Many of them don't know what they are waiting for, but they are waiting for something.They vaguely feel that something will come, and there will be some good luck.Or something will happen, or someone will help them.That way, they can get themselves a head start, or move on, without education, adequate preparation, and funding.

Some are waiting to get money from their father, a wealthy uncle, or some distant relative.Some people are waiting for that mysterious thing called "luck" and "prosperity" to help them.

We never hear of someone who is in the habit of waiting for help, waiting for someone to pull him, waiting for someone else's money, or waiting for luck to happen to him who can actually achieve great things.

Once you no longer need the assistance of others and become self-reliant, you are on the road to success.Once you throw away all outside help, you unleash powers you never knew existed.

There is nothing more valuable than self-reliance and self-improvement in the world.It will be difficult to be self-reliant and self-reliant if you try to constantly get help from others.If you decide to rely on yourself and be independent, you will become stronger and stronger every day.

You sometimes feel lucky to have outside help.But, on the downside, outside help is often the bane, and the person giving you the money isn't your best friend.Your friends are the ones who push you and force you to stand on your own feet.

One of the most valuable personalities in human beings is self-improvement and self-reliance, and successful people are the ones who express this kind of personality.The independence of personality is relative to the level of people's ability to discover and solve problems independently in intellectual activities and practical activities.

People with independent personalities always like to think by themselves, do things by themselves, can be unconventional, justify themselves, and take a skeptical and critical attitude towards traditional habits and outdated concepts; while people with dependence always follow the rules, follow others' advice, and lack self-reliance and assertive.

A person with an independent personality must also have a sense of innovation.They value books, but they are not superstitious about books; they respect authority, but they are not superstitious about authority.And those who lack independence and have a dependent mentality lack self-confidence, rarely take risks, are unwilling to explore, and do not like change and feedback.They may perform well in simple tasks, but they will never be able to achieve the peak experience, nor will they experience the joy of great success.

Psychologists point out that due to people's own inertia and lack of self-confidence, everyone has a certain degree of dependence and a tendency to agree, and this is the biggest obstacle to creativity. Therefore, if you are unwilling to be mediocre, then you We must work hard to restrain our dependence and cultivate an independent character.

Cultivating independence is actually "do what you can do" and "independent thinking".These words are easy to say but not easy to put into practice.Many people often don't really understand what they can do, and they don't know anything about their own potential. Therefore, they are at a loss in the face of difficulties, and either shrink back or seek "foreign assistance".Overcoming dependencies and developing the habit of independence and self-reliance is crucial.For this reason, you must start from now, strive for a comprehensive understanding of yourself, and do what you can do better.

Here's a little advice on how to get rid of dependencies:
(1) Start with the little things around you and hone your will.In life, you are required to handle daily affairs independently and arrange your own life.

(2) Have the courage to try and discover your own potential.Make a plan and do a few things every week that you wanted to do but didn't do for various reasons, such as cycling for an outing, applying for a certain position, and so on.

(3) Reflect on yourself regularly and learn to think independently.After a period of busy work, calm down, examine your recent words and deeds, judge with reference to the past, and think about your life in the future.

(4) Decide on your own affairs step by step and check the training effect.Gradually learn to deal with matters that are of great importance to you independently, and judge your independent development by your ability to deal with problems in your daily life.

Advocating independence does not mean denying the spirit of cooperation in life and work. On the contrary, in reality, we should strive to better rely on and make full use of the strength of the collective.

"Three cobblers are better than Zhuge Liang", only by better learning from and absorbing the experience of others, can we be more likely to achieve better results in our future life.In fact, the essence of cultivating independence is to hone the ability of independent thinking from the little things in daily life, instead of just following the crowd and blindly following others. This kind of blind obedience often leads to the loss of our personality and makes us far from success. further and further.

11. Resolutely abandon the barren and barren land that has been cultivated for a long time
In 1888, Mr. Levan Morton, a banker, became a candidate for the vice president of the United States and gained fame for a while. One day in the summer of 1893, the Secretary of Agriculture, Mr. James Wilson, visited Revan Morton in Washington.During the conversation, Wilson accidentally asked how Morton changed from a cloth merchant to a banker. Revan Morton said: "It was all because of Emerson's words. At that time, I was still in the cloth business. The business situation is relatively stable. One day, I happened to read a book written by Emerson, and this sentence came to my eyes: "If a person has a specialty that others need, then no matter how he arrives Nowhere will be buried.' This sentence left a deep impression on me, and it made me change my original goal."

"Like all businessmen, I will inevitably go to the bank to borrow money for turnover when I am in trouble. After reading Emerson's words, I carefully analyzed the environment at that time and felt that the most urgent need of all walks of life at that time was the banking industry. People's daily life , Business and business, money is needed everywhere; there are countless people in the world who have to suffer for money.”

"So I made up my mind to abandon the cloth bank and start a bank. I tried to lend as much money as possible under safe and reliable conditions. At the beginning, I had to look for lenders everywhere. Later, many people began to come to me. So , no matter what, as long as you choose the right direction and do it down-to-earth, you will always succeed."

Since ancient times, I don't know how many people have failed because they have been doing unsuitable jobs all their lives.Among these losers, many of them are very serious in their work and supposedly should be able to succeed, but in fact they fail completely. Why is this?The reason is that they have not the courage to abandon the barren and barren land that has been cultivated for a long time, and go to the fertile and productive fields.In the end, I have to watch myself waste a lot of energy and waste precious time, but still get nowhere.In fact, they should have realized that it was all because they didn't find someone suitable for what Emerson believed, but they might still be confused and continue to live in a muddle.

If you've stuck with your best at a career, but you're still not making progress, and you don't see any hope of success, then it's time to reconsider your interests, goals, and abilities to see if you're on the wrong track.If you go the wrong way, you should turn back as soon as possible to find a more suitable and promising career.

Of course, before you re-determine your goal and change your course, you must carefully consider it, especially not half-heartedly, and you can't have both one thing and the other.

In the western United States, there was a famous lumber merchant who had been a pastor for 40 years, but he still couldn't become a good pastor.After thinking over and over again, he had a new understanding of his strengths and weaknesses, so when he was over sixty, he immediately changed his goal and started doing business.Since then, he has been sailing smoothly and eventually became a well-known timber merchant in the country.

Because two of the same seeds fell in different places, one grew into a tall and lush tree, while the other was abnormally short with thin branches and thin leaves.It can be seen that the influence of the environment cannot be underestimated.

It is a pity that a person cannot make the best use of his talents because he has chosen the wrong profession.However, as long as he can realize the problem, even if it is later, there is still a chance to start again.As long as you find the right direction, it is entirely possible to embark on the road to success.At that time, he must feel that his life and thoughts are completely new, as if he has become a new person.

If you go the wrong way, you should turn back as soon as possible to find a more suitable and promising career.

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