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Chapter 103
Ancient women's tricks to dissuade men from cheating

Love has always been selfish, no matter ancient or modern. The modern monogamy system can't control the whims of some men. The ancient polygamous system makes women endure the pain of their husbands being snatched away by others.In terms of sex and emotion, women in ancient and modern times are not allowed to be invaded by others, and they all hope to monopolize the body and mind of the person next to them.

But in ancient times, there was no clear marriage law to protect the rights and interests of women. Women in low status could only watch their husbands take concubines and form new loves, and could not spend the spring night with themselves every night.So in order to defend their marriage and love, some women come up with various tricks to prevent such things from happening.

Why did ancient women prevent their husbands from taking concubines?And how do you defend your own sexual rights and prevent your husband from taking concubines?Here we must first mention the timing of the sex life of ancient men after taking concubines.

In ancient times, after a man took a concubine, there was a sequence of sexual intercourse with his wife and concubines. This regulation has always required a man to fulfill the obligation to stop performing sexual life until he is 60 years old. "Book of Rites?"Nei Ze" records: "Although the concubine is old and under fifty, she must be under the imperial court for five days. The imperial officer, fasting, washing and washing, careful clothes, combs and hairpins, flicking fashion, scorpion tassels, and Qi Xie. "

It means that when concubines are less than 50 years old, they have to clean themselves every five days and make friends with men. Most women naturally don't want to send their husbands to other women's beds, but there is no way.In ancient times, there were too few men who did not take concubines, although the sages once advised: "The body of the [-]th beauty is like a crisp, and the sword in the waist kills the fool; although the head does not fall, the bone marrow is dry in secret."

But it doesn't help. Even if a man doesn't take a concubine, he will go to the fireworks place to fool around. In order to keep his husband from cheating, and to keep his husband from having relationships with other women, many women in ancient times have tried hard. Fang Xuan, the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty Ling's wife Lu Shi is a good example.

When Fang Xuanling was in his later years, Tang Taizong bestowed beauties on him many times, but Fang Xuanling politely refused them all. After questioning, he found out that Fang Xuanling's wife was very powerful and he was not allowed to take concubines.In order to do the ideological work of Mrs. Fang Xuanling, Emperor Taizong of Tang specially asked Empress Changsun to go there, but Mrs. Fang Xuanling just said: "The concubine would rather die of jealousy!".

Hearing this, Tang Taizong sent someone to send her a jar of wine, telling her that if she continued to object, she would drink the jar of poisoned wine, but she did not expect that she would rather drink the poisoned wine than be with others. The woman in the house shared Fang Xuanling, so the matter had to be dropped. Later Tang Taizong said with emotion: "I am still afraid to see, let alone Yu Xuanling."

A firm attitude can prevent men from cheating, while some women are cruel and merciless, and they will kill anyone who seduces their husbands, and use violence to defend their wife's rights.Empress Dugu of Emperor Wen of the Sui Dynasty is such an example. She not only made an agreement with Emperor Wen of the Sui Dynasty: "In this life, we will love each other forever.

He also obtained the power to clean up the harem from Emperor Wen of the Sui Dynasty, so that those concubines did not dare to approach Emperor Wen of the Sui Dynasty. Once, Emperor Wen of the Sui Dynasty had just visited the Yuchi family, and the woman was beaten with sticks by Queen Dugu the next day died.Not only that, but she also followed Emperor Wen of the Sui Dynasty inseparably. When Emperor Wen of Sui Dynasty went to court, she and Emperor Wen of Sui rode in a chariot together.

Eating and sleeping together, enjoying each other's care.It looks like a prisoner. Of course, not every woman in ancient times can be so strong. The average woman still uses tenderness to impress her husband and prevent her husband from seeking out women.From the Yuan Dynasty to the 24th year of the Yuan Dynasty, the calligrapher Zhao Mengfu married Dao Sheng, a beauty from Wuxing, Zhejiang.Pipe Sheng is not only beautiful, but also a rare talented woman. She writes a good poem and draws a good calligraphy and painting.

However, this did not reassure Zhao Mengfu. Not long after getting married, Zhao Mengfu found another new love. In order to win back her husband's heart, Guan Guansheng began to think of ways. At first, she wrote a poem to influence her husband: "Husband, go The bamboo is first planted in Japan, and the bamboo will become the future of Mr. Lin. It’s hard to be beautiful once the beauty fades, it’s better to bloom again when the flowers fall.” Duan Sheng wants her husband to think about the kindness before, and think about the benefits of being a young couple when they grow old.

In addition, she also wrote a very famous "Wo Nong Ci", expressing her attitude towards her husband's concubinage: "You and I are very affectionate. There are many places of love, and they are hot like fire. Take a piece of Clay, twist you and mold me. Break us both together and mix them with water. Make another you, and then mold another me. I have you in the mud, and I in your mud. I have the same quilt as you, Die in the same coffin."

However, despite his deep affection, Zhao Mengfu did not stop taking concubines because of this. Unlike modern women, ancient women did not have strong autonomy. In many cases, they could only feel sorry for themselves, enduring being neglected, or even being rejected. The fate of men abandoned.Whether a husband is cheating or not depends mainly on himself. How a woman makes a move does not solve the fundamental problem.

(End of this chapter)