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Chapter 84 "Walk around the world without reason, but can't walk an inch without reason"

Only those who are "unreasonable" can truly "travel all over the world", this is by no means a "joke".After reading this topic, don't get the urge to "pick up bricks".I really didn't write this topic in a moment of confusion, let me explain the reason slowly.With all due respect, I have always believed that only "unreasonable" people can travel the world.The reason why I say this is not a simple and naive "cynical" "cynical mentality" at work, but I have shown 12 points of sincerity and am talking about things very seriously.In my management career, I often encountered such a headache: "reasoning" for employees.Whenever there is such a conflict among employees, they will always complain to me crying.

And everyone is so "wronged", as if the other party is an out-and-out "bad guy", looking for "soft persimmons" and bullying themselves every day.The most common argument they use is that the other party has a problem with their "character".I was originally a very broad-minded person, if the other party hadn't gone too far, I would never have "complained" to the leader.Every time I hear this, I can't help laughing—you are too noble!As far as your matter is concerned, if you are a "broad-minded" person like you said, you have already "settled it" yourself, so do you need to stab me?Not only that, I am also quite disgusted with employees who talk about "character" all the time.Therefore, I always solemnly express my position "Everyone is a good employee, and there is no person with a problematic 'character' in our company." "People with a problematic 'character' should stay in prison, and everyone here is a good person .It’s just that there will be conflicts and disputes among good people. That’s all.”

Then, I always patiently persuade them, "Don't always use your own 'reason' to talk about things, you might as well try 'empathy'. If you were the other party, what would you think and how would you do it?" As long as you can take the initiative to give in, the other party will not be able to stalk you. You are not class enemies, and you have enemies in your previous life, unless he has lost his mind, why should he insist on you?" So, sometimes , Take the initiative to give up your own "reason" and think about the other party's "reason" (no matter how reluctant) is the fundamental way to solve the problem.As long as you take out 12 points of courage and try to follow the "reason" of the other party, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that the other party is far less "unreasonable" than you imagined, and your own "reason" will come naturally "Come along".This is the real "win-win".

Taking a step back, even if the other party was indeed "unreasonable" at the beginning, it will definitely be beneficial for you to do so.Think about it, the other party has already been "unreasonable" and "playing bachelor" with you, and you still insist on "reasoning" with him. Can this "reasoning" "make sense"?I'm afraid there is no other possibility except "fighting" in the end?Therefore, if you take a step back and come to him to "repay grievances with virtue", the deadlock will often be resolved.Unless the other party is really a "dead-knocking" master, and it is clear that he wants to fight against you, then it will not be too late to "fight to the death" with him.As for our employees, often before the "outpost battle" has started, they have already put on a "fight to the death" posture, which is really dumbfounding.I have experienced many such things, and I naturally have the feeling of "walking around the world unreasonably, but unable to walk an inch without reason".

Of course, this does not include "legal principles" (in fact, even "legal principles" are sometimes difficult to explain, and it is difficult to truly "explain clearly". Therefore, even the law allows, and even encourages "legal principles" Negotiations in court” and “Settlement out of court.”).Because for us Chinese, "reason" is the most difficult thing to explain.Everyone will think that "reason" is on their side, and others are "unreasonable".Therefore, everyone is an "incarnation of justice and truth", as if he is the only "victim" in the world, and everyone else is a "perpetrator".Not only that, what's more terrible is that Chinese people's "reason" is often closely mixed with "face".And "face" is the "super killer" of us Chinese.Once the "face" is hooked, the "reason" can be clearly explained, and it will be "hell".Therefore, in our Chinese language, there is a saying of "unreasonably disturbing three points", which really "hits the nail on the head".

Therefore, for us Chinese, there is no objective "reason" in the world, only subjective "reason", that is to say, "reason" always belongs to ourselves alone.As long as others offend, they will be anxious with him.This is why we Chinese always like to find someone to "fight" so much, and why both sides are so "righteous" and "righteous".Looking around, among the masters around us who clamor for "reasonableness" every day, who talk about "traveling the world with reason" every day, which one is the most popular person?Basically, people who put the word "reasonable" on their lips every day are "thorny heads" who are holding back their energy to find someone to "fight"-most people will avoid them, for fear of provoking them.The great leader Chairman Mao taught us that "'why' is not important, but 'what' is".As long as we truly understand the connotation of this sentence, we will understand why it is said that "walking around the world without reason, it is difficult to walk an inch without reason". "Speaking" - These people are always focused on the "why" and therefore devote all their energy to wrestling with the "why" that is not constructive and meaningless.

So these people are always "difficult to move an inch" and run into walls everywhere. "Don't talk about" reason - these people focus on "what", so they can always get out of the quagmire of "why" quickly, and devote their main energy to "how to face, how to deal with" and so on. into something constructive.Therefore, they can truly "travel all over the world" and have both ways.Remember, the earth does not revolve around you, you should revolve around the earth.Only by "following the trend" can there be "a glimmer of life" in everything, and "going against the trend" can only be a dead end.Obviously, those people who always love to "reasonable" are actually the ones who always like to "care about everything" in everything, which leads to "everything goes wrong".Moreover, the more unruly they are, the more they need to be reasonable, and the more unreasonable they are, the more unruly they are.In the end, it makes others tired and oneself tired, often ending in a "both-lose" result.As a result, they are often the unhappiest group of people in the world.For the pitiful "gains" and "reasons", (I tried my best to talk about it) what they gave and lost was too much, too big, and too heavy.This is the principle of "the more you reason, the more you suffer".On the contrary, those who never talk about things with their own "reasons" and can always "take a step back" can always reach the realm of "both right and left", "everything goes well", and "broad sea and sky".How about trying a fun little experiment?Starting today, temporarily delete the word "reasonable" from your dictionary, and see what happens around you.

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