Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 25 Be a responsible person (1)
The courage to take responsibility brings more opportunities.

Tolstoy once said: "If a person has no enthusiasm, he will accomplish nothing, and the basis of enthusiasm is the sense of responsibility."

Many years ago, there lived a child in London. He was poor, sick, helpless, and experienced the hardships of life.In order to make ends meet, he had to work as a child laborer in a printing factory.

Although the environment is bitter, the ambition is not short.He had already formed an indissoluble bond with books and newspapers, and he often stood greedily in front of the bookcase, constantly touching the only few shillings in his pocket for buying bread.In order to buy books, he had to go hungry.One morning on his way to work, he found an open new book in the bookcase of the bookstore, and read it eagerly, until he finished reading the two open pages.In the early morning of the next day, he couldn't help but came to this bookcase again. Strangely, the book turned two pages back!He read it all in one go.How much he wanted to buy it, but the book price was too high.On the third day, the miracle happened again: the book opened two pages in sequence, and he stood there and started reading again.In this way, the book turned to the back two pages every day, and he read it every day until he finished reading the whole book.One day, a kind old man in the bookstore stroked his hair and said, "Good boy, from today onwards, you can come to this bookstore anytime and read all the books without paying."

As time flies, this young man later became a famous writer and reporter. He is the editor-in-chief of a British evening newspaper.

The reason why Ben Jiamin succeeded in self-study is because he reads hard and is good at learning, and also because he met a very responsible person.What the kind old man poured into him was the most beautiful thing in the world: tenderness, compassion, love and care, encouragement and encouragement.He opened his heart to the young people in trouble to yearn for a better life, guided him into the world of knowledge, and assumed his own responsibility for him to become a writer who made contributions to mankind and was respected by the world.

The love for life, for people, for nature, and for all beautiful things will make a person realize his mission and responsibility, and strive to contribute to society.

An officer without a sense of responsibility is not a qualified officer, and an employee without a sense of responsibility is not an excellent employee.Responsibility is simple and priceless.Work means responsibility, and a sense of responsibility will make us perform better.

Rooted in the heart, let it become a strong awareness in our minds, and this sense of responsibility will make us perform better in our daily behavior and work.We can often see such employees, when they talk about their company, they usually use pronouns "they" instead of "us", "how about their business department", "how about their finance department" , which is typical of a lack of accountability, where employees don't have at least a sense of "we are the organization" identity.

Responsibility is not easy to come by because it is made up of many little things.But the most basic thing is to be mature in doing things, no matter how small, you can do better than anyone in the past.For example, it’s time to go to work, but it’s cold and rainy outside, and the quilt is so comfortable. Your sense of responsibility, which is not awake, makes you lie on the bed for an extra 2 minutes. You must ask yourself, have you fulfilled your duty? ?Not yet... unless your sense of responsibility really hasn't sprouted, you're only kidding yourself.Compassion to oneself is a violation of responsibility, which must be overcome.

With great power comes great responsibility.

Anyone who makes a decision has to take responsibility, and must be responsible to the end after making a decision.That is to say, decisions create responsibilities, and those with responsibilities must be held accountable.

In poorly run companies, people pass the buck and don't make or delay decisions, creating an inefficient bureaucracy that stifles decision-making.In these companies, issues requiring decision-making are left unresolved in the company, and finally put in front of someone in the upper echelon, forcing him to say yes or no to it, but the same buck-passers are violently behind the scenes. Accusing him (she) of making wrong decisions, refusing to delegate power, and not boldly appointing subordinates.

A good leader, on the other hand, makes decisions and takes responsibility.Because of responsibility, he must try to make himself [-]% clear about his responsibility. His decision is deliberate. If he is not sure whether it is his decision, he will either contact his superiors, or he will rather take the risk and make his own decisions.A good manager understands that the best way to clarify blurred lines of responsibility is to make a decision, looking forward to the day when others will challenge him, and this will be his opportunity to clarify responsibility.He also knows better that once he makes more than one bad decision, or fails to take responsibility for a decision, he may be fired, and it takes courage to take responsibility.

The reason why a person can be successful, first, must be that his goal is clear, and second, he must be very clear about his mission.When everyone encounters a bottleneck in decision-making, he only needs to look back and think about what his mission is, and he can quickly solve his current troubles. However, most people do not have a sense of mission, and have not carefully studied the impact of mission on people.

You might as well first figure out what your mission is?What is the mission of the business?What is your mission financially?What is your instinct, your physical mission?Give yourself a mission in one of the most important areas of your life, and you will find your behavior begins to change because you already have a core idea.

For example, if your economic mission is to accumulate wealth, what do you usually think about when you want to spend money under this mission?You may be telling yourself, "I have to save money." Because you have to accumulate wealth.

If your mission in relationships is to make each other feel great, and you have the idea that when someone fights with you, or has an argument, you fix it right away, because your mission is to make others feel great. great.The mission-oriented thinking mode and behavior mode can help you break through any bottlenecks and help your life be more valuable, because you clearly know: what you want, what you want to do, what role you play, Why do you do this.

The mission needs to be found by yourself, as a philosopher said: "The greatest job in your life is to find a suitable job; the greatest mission in life is to find out your own mission and live out your own life. "When you can make yourself live better, you can spread your influence to benefit the people, so that more people can live as well as you.

Responsibility is simple and priceless.

A boy who worked as a mower called Mrs. Brown and said, "Do you need to mow the lawn?" Mrs. Brown replied, "No, I already have a lawn mower." I'll pull the weeds out of the grass for you." Mrs. Brown replied, "My lawn mower has been done." The boy said, "I'll help you mow the grass around the walkway." Mrs. Brown said: "The man I asked for has already done it, thank you, I don't need a new lawn mower." The boy hung up the phone.At this moment, the boy's roommate asked him, "Aren't you just mowing grass at Mrs. Brown's place? Why are you making this call?" The boy said, "I just want to know if I'm doing a good job."

Ask yourself more "how am I doing", this is the responsibility.

There is also the example of an American writer.

Once, a young man proposed himself to a writer, wanting to be his copyist.The lad seemed perfectly qualified for the copying job.After the terms were settled, he sat down the young man and started to work, but the young man looked out at the church clock and said to him anxiously, "I can't stay here now, I'm going to eat." So The writer said, "Oh, you've got to eat, you've got to go. You just keep praying for the meal you're waiting to eat today, and we'll never work together again." He was very frustrated when he was hired, but when he got a little better, he only thought about going to dinner early, and forgot what he had said and the responsibilities he should bear.

Work means responsibility.In this world, there is no job without responsibility. On the contrary, the higher your position and power, the heavier the responsibility you shoulder.Don't be afraid to take responsibility, make up your mind that you can take on any responsibility in a normal career, and you can do it better than anyone before you.

The most stupid thing in the world is to shirk the responsibility in front of you, thinking that it is better to take it when you are ready and the conditions are ripe.When you need to take on a major responsibility, take it right away, this is the best preparation.If you are not used to doing this, even when the conditions are ripe, you will not be able to take on great responsibilities, and you will not be able to do anything important.

Responsibility is loving what you do.

Living in the world, people inevitably have to bear various responsibilities, such as family, relatives, friends, country, and society.In this way, we can see that the most basic object of a person's sense of responsibility is the family.

"Responsibility is to have a kind of love for what you want to do." Because of this kind of love, responsibility itself becomes a realization of the meaning of life, and one can obtain spiritual satisfaction from it.On the contrary, how can a person who does not love family love others and career?How can a person who goes with the flow in life firmly take responsibility in life?Such a person often regards responsibility as a burden imposed on him, as a pure personal contribution and asks for a return.

A man who does not know what his responsibility is for his own life cannot even know what his responsibility is in the world.

A lady asked Tolstoy what she should do in order to fulfill her responsibilities to mankind.Tolstoy was very disgusted.So he thought: the great disaster that people suffer from is that they don't have their own beliefs, but they pretend to live according to some beliefs.Of course, such a belief can only be empty.More commonly, many people are completely passive in their relationship to responsibility. The reason why they regard some practices as their own responsibility is not out of conscious choice, but due to reasons such as habit, fashion, and public opinion.For example, some people regard a certain occupation that they have been engaged in occasionally but for a long time as their own responsibility, and never try to have a career that really suits their nature; Earn money and spend money; some people attach great importance to the evaluation of others, especially their bosses, so they live for this evaluation cautiously.Because they have never seriously thought about what their life is, they are also blind when it comes to responsibility.

If a person is responsible for his own family, he will have a responsible attitude towards his own behavior in all social relations including marriage and family.If a society is composed of such members who are responsible for their own lives, this society must be a high-quality and efficient society.

There is such an interesting phenomenon: each person is always unable to recognize his greatest strength, unless he is called out by a major responsibility, a major accident, or encountering a major crisis in his life.

There have been many great men in history who could never have found out what they really were, except when, having lost all but their own courage and patience, a catastrophe had driven them to such a desperate situation that they had to seek their own escape.The reason why they become great men is that they are the overcomers of many difficulties and the transcenders of great crisis situations. They gain strength in overcoming and transcending.Plowing the fields, chopping wood, being a surveyor, being a state legislator, being a lawyer, or even being a member of Congress could not arouse this power in Lincoln.Only when he puts the heavy responsibility of the country's critical survival on his shoulders, can his potential power be unleashed.Working among the acres, working in a tannery, being a clerk, and doing hard labor in the town, these kinds of situations are not enough to arouse the sleeping "great humanity" of General Grande, even the West Point Military Academy, the Mexican War, etc. It has never been evoked. If there was no Civil War, the name Grande would have been buried in the long river of history like thousands of other names.

Yes, only when we feel that there is no way out, when there are pursuers, when all foreign aid is hopeless, can we unearth our full strength.As long as we can receive foreign aid, we cannot discover our own strength.How many people's future success is due to the great misfortune at the beginning, these misfortunes forced them to use their own hands to create a piece of their own sky.After a period of time, they have developed a strong strength and character that others do not have, and it is "responsibility" that makes them.

Responsibility is the thing that brings out our strength the most.Those who have never been in a position of responsibility can never use their full strength.This is the reason why there are few great figures among those who have been in subordinate and humble positions all their lives and have served others all their lives.Their strengths have never been honed by any great responsibility, and they live all their lives as weaklings.Some people think that if a person is born with great ability, this ability will always be revealed sooner or later. This is actually a wrong concept.Everyone has abilities, who can reveal them and who cannot, it all depends on the environment he is in, it all depends on whether there is an environment that can arouse the will and awaken the power.

Put great responsibility on a person's shoulders and drive him into a desperate situation, and the requirements of the situation can fully arouse all the inner strength of this person.If in a person's life there is some element of being a great man and a leader, responsibility can call it out.So, if there is a great responsibility resting on your shoulders, you should accept it with joy because it heralds your success.

Build a sense of responsibility and ditch the excuses.

Everyone shoulders responsibilities. We all have certain responsibilities to work, to family, to relatives, and to friends. It is precisely because of this or that responsibility that we can restrict our behavior.To find an excuse is to shift the responsibility that should be assumed to the society or others.And once we get into the habit of finding excuses, our sense of responsibility will disappear with the excuses.Nothing is impossible, as long as we don't put excuses in front of us, we can do everything well and do our duty perfectly.

Excuses make us forget our responsibilities.In fact, people are usually better than they think they are.When he changes his mind, there is no need to improve the skills he possesses.He just needs to use the skills and talents he already has.In this way, he can continuously build up a sense of responsibility and discard excuses.

Don't be self-righteous and forget your responsibilities.For this kind of person, General Patton's famous saying is: "A person who thinks he is great is worthless. When I meet this kind of officer, I will immediately change his post. Everyone must be willing to dedicate their lives to complete the task." "A person Once he thinks he's great, he thinks about fighting away from the front line. This kind of person is a real coward."

What Patton wants to emphasize is that everyone should contribute in combat, go to the place where you are most needed, do what you must do, and not forget your own responsibilities.

Never use your merits or your power to cover up your mistakes and forget your responsibilities.People are used to finding all kinds of excuses for their mistakes, thinking that they can escape punishment in this way.The right thing to do is to acknowledge them, explain them, and apologize for them.The most important thing is to use them so that people can see how you take responsibility and learn from your mistakes.This is not just an attitude towards work, such employees will be appreciated by every supervisor.

Any time, no excuses.

Don't make any excuses about friends, colleagues or organizations, because there are no excuses.

What a business needs is employees who have no excuses.Many people put their precious time and energy into finding a suitable excuse and forget their duties and responsibilities.For employees, don't look for any excuses, even plausible ones.

"No excuses" is the most important code of conduct pursued by the West Point Military Academy for 200 years.A phenomenon of the West Point Military Academy has attracted economists around the world: Among the Fortune 500 companies after World War II, the West Point Military Academy has trained more than 1000 chairmen, more than 2000 vice-chairmen, and general managers and directors. There are more than 5000.

This number is enough to make all business schools in the world that aim at cultivating economic talents feel ashamed.West Point’s requirements for students are punctuality, discipline, strictness, integrity, and fortitude. These are the basic qualities that a business manager in this century must possess and a loyal employee must possess.

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