Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 49: Do things with a good attitude (1)
Be careful with every little thing.

Father and son cross the desert together.After a long journey, they were all exhausted and thirsty, and every step was extremely difficult.At this time, my father saw a horseshoe in the yellow sand, shining in the sunlight, which was left over from the pioneers in the desert.

The father said to his son, pick it up, it will be useful.The son raised his absent-minded eyes and looked at the endless desert. What's the use?The son shook his head.So, the father didn't say anything, just bent down, picked up the horseshoe, and moved on.

Finally they reached a castle, and the father exchanged the horseshoe for 200 sour grapes.When they trekked again in the desert and encountered thirst, father and son ate sour grapes.

A small thing that you dismiss may be your opportunity.Even if it is a small thing, we should do it with our heart.

Behavior itself does not describe its own nature, but depends on the state of mind in which we act.Whether work is tedious or not often depends on the state of mind we are in when we do it.

Every thing has a very profound meaning to life.Masons see poetry in bricks and mortar; librarians feel that they have made some progress in sorting out books after hard work; As soon as they saw their students, they became very patient and all their troubles were left behind.

If we only look at our work with the eyes of others, and only use secular standards to measure our work, the work may not have any attractiveness and value at all.

Looking out the windows of a cathedral, the inside is dusty, its splendor gone, and there is nothing but drabness and decay.Once we cross the threshold and enter the church, we can immediately see the gorgeous colors and clear lines.The sunlight is dancing through the windows, forming wonderful pictures.

People usually know things are limited, we have to observe from the inside to see the true nature of things.Some work cannot realize its significance only from the appearance.Only when everyone understands work from the perspective of work itself, and regards it as the right and glory of life, can everyone maintain the independence of their individuality.

Don't underestimate everything you do, even the smallest one, you should go all out and do it with due diligence.The successful completion of small things is conducive to the smooth completion of big things.Only by climbing up step by step will you not fall easily, and the real energy of work is contained in it.

Believe that only you can save yourself.

In the dictionaries of successful people, there is absolutely no word "despair", because they will not deny themselves easily, only know that what awaits them will be hope, even if many things seem to have reached the edge of despair, they will take risks Fight hard and dig out the hope of survival for yourself.

Here is a story of a cowherd boy who survived a desperate situation. It tells people to hold on to their last hope even in the most desperate time, and to make the last struggle and adventure, so that they will give themselves one more chance.Maybe, you will get a brand new life because of it.

One day, the cow-herding boy went to the mountain to cut firewood, and was suddenly attacked by a tiger. The cow-herding boy was frightened, grabbed the sickle and ran away.However, there is already a cliff ahead!But the tiger was approaching the cowherd boy step by step.In order to survive, the cowherd boy decided to fight the tiger.Just when he turned around to face the tiger with its jaws wide open, unfortunately he stepped on the ground and fell towards the cliff.At the critical moment, the survival instinct made the cowherd boy grab a small tree in the air.Will it be possible to survive this way?There are hungry and hungry tigers on the top, and the eerie deep valley below, surrounded by cliffs and cliffs, even if people come, they cannot rescue them.After the cowherd boy hanging on the cliff understood his situation, he couldn't help crying in despair.

At this time, he caught a glimpse of an old monk passing by on the opposite mountainside, and shouted "help".The old monk looked around, sighed, and shouted to him: "I can't help it. It seems that only you can save yourself!"

Hearing this, the cowherd boy cried even harder: "How can I save myself?"

The old monk said: "Instead of holding on to the little tree and waiting to starve to death or fall to death, it is better to let go of your hand. After all, there is still a glimmer of hope!" After speaking, the old monk walked away with a sigh.The cowherd boy cried for a while, and scolded the old monk for a while.It was getting dark, and the tiger above had set its sights on him, refusing to leave.The cowherd boy was hungry and tired, and his hand holding the little tree felt weaker and weaker.what to do?The cowherd boy remembered the old monk's words again. After thinking about it carefully, he felt that his words were also reasonable.Yes, if this goes on, it will only be a dead end, and if you let go of your hand and fall, it may still be a dead end, but maybe you will have the possibility of survival.Since everything is a death, it is better to take a risk and give it a try.

So, the cowherd boy stopped crying, turned his head with difficulty, and chose the direction to jump.He found that there seemed to be a small piece of green under the abyss, could it be grass?It would be nice if it was grass, maybe you won't fall to your death after jumping off.He told himself: "I'm afraid it's useless. Only by taking a risk can you have the hope of survival." He gritted his teeth, and let go of the hand that held the little tree at the moment when his feet pushed hard towards the cliff.The body fell down quickly, with the wind whistling in his ears, he was very scared, but he told himself that he must never close his eyes, he had to choose a place to land with his eyes wide open.Miraculously, he landed on the only small piece of green land in the deep valley!
Later, the cowherd baby was carried home by the villagers to recuperate.Two years later, he is back on his feet!The cowherd baby tells people with his own experience that life can be saved even in a desperate situation.As long as you don't give up hope and don't give up your efforts, you may have a chance to be born again.

Don't despair of life easily, regard disaster as a school, regard adversity as nourishment, dare to take a big risk for yourself, the result may be that you seize the opportunity and create the spring of life.

With a brave fighting spirit, do not admit defeat to fate, do not admit that there is despair in the world, always hold on to the last hope, and dig hope out of despair.This may be the secret of many people's success in doing things.

There is a little spirit of Jingwei reclamation.

Emperor Yan, the sun god, had a youngest daughter named Nvwa, who was very smart and lovely, and was his favorite daughter.Emperor Yan not only manages the sun, but also grains and medicinal materials.He has a lot of things to do, he goes to the East China Sea every morning, directs the sun to rise, and doesn't go home until the sun goes down.

When Emperor Yan was not at home, the girl played alone. She really wanted her father to take her out to see where the sun rose in the East China Sea.But her father was busy with business and never took her there.On this day, Nvwa was extremely bored, and her sister and sister were not at home, so she drove a small boat to the place where the sun rose in the East China Sea by herself.

Unfortunately, a storm blew up on the way, and the wind and waves rolled up, surging with huge waves that rowed to the sky. In the blink of an eye, the waves as high as mountains rushed and roared and closed from all sides. Let the boat be swallowed by the sea, but the ferocious huge waves still overturned the girl's boat, and the girl was swallowed by the ruthless and terrible sea, and she will never come back.Emperor Yan lost his beloved daughter with great grief, but he couldn't use medicine to bring her back to life, and he couldn't even avenge her. All he had left was to mourn alone.

After the girl died, her spirit still refused to dissipate, and finally turned into a bird with a colorful head, white beak and red feet, and uttered the mournful cry of "Jingwei, Jingwei", so people called her "Jingwei, Jingwei". Jingwei".

Jingwei hated the merciless sea for taking her young life, and she wanted revenge.Therefore, she kept picking up a small stone or a twig from the mountain where she lived, and flew high to the East China Sea.She flew back and screamed on the rough sea, and threw stones and branches down, trying to fill up the sea.

The sea was galloping, roaring, and mocked her arrogantly: "Stupid bird, forget it, I am the most powerful force in the world, and no one can defeat me! If you do this job for a million years, don't even think about it!" Fill me up."

Jingwei replied to the sea from a high altitude: "Even if you work for 1000 million years, [-] million years, to the end of the universe, the end of the world, I will fill you up!"

"Why do you hate me so much?"

"Because you took my young life, and you will take many young and innocent lives in the future. I will go on forever, and one day I will fill you in the ground."

Facing the long wind, relying on the strength of the long wind; facing the flowing cloud, relying on the speed of the flowing cloud; facing the heavy rain, relying on the impact of the heavy rain; facing the thunder, relying on the roar of the thunder, passing through the mountains and the East China Sea every day In between, I swear not to give up until the sea is filled up!She cast her anger and hatred to the sea, and she also cast her life and youth!

Later, Jingwei and Haiyan got married and gave birth to many chicks. The female resembled Jingwei and the male resembled Haiyan.Like their mother, Xiao Jingwei fills the sea with stones every day.To this day, they are still doing this kind of work.

The people sympathize with the fine health, admires the fine health, calls it the "female bird" "the oath bird", "the will bird" and "the emperor's bird".

Persevering and defying power, the spirit of Jingwei bird has been praised by people for thousands of years.

There will always be difficulties, setbacks and failures at work. In the face of them, do you never give up and move forward bravely, or do you shrink back in despair and be depressed?Different choices lead to different results, which is why some people can still stand up after failure and finally succeed, while some people never recover from it!Find hope from despair, life will eventually be brilliant!
Firmly believe that misfortune is just passing by.

Life is not a smooth journey of happiness, but a constant swing between luck and misfortune, ups and downs, light and darkness.There is only one way to face misfortune of all kinds, and that is to accept it.Psychologist and philosopher William James offered advice: "Being willing to accept what must happen, accepting the fact that it happened, is the first step in overcoming any misfortune that follows." There are others.In the course of the ages you and I are bound to encounter unpleasant situations which, being one, cannot be otherwise.We can also choose.We can accept them as an unavoidable situation and get used to it, or we can use our worries to ruin our lives and our jobs, and we may even end up with a nervous breakdown.

When our lives and our work are shattered by misadventures, only time can pick up the pieces and put them back together again.We have to give time a chance.When you've just been hit, the whole world seems to stop, and our suffering seems never-ending.

This is not to say that when you encounter any setbacks, you should be humble and become a fatalist.It means that no matter what the situation is, as long as there is still a little chance of saving, we must fight.But when common sense tells us that things are inevitable and there is no possibility of any turnaround, we should remain rational and not "look left and right, mediocrity".

Here's what you can do when you're "unlucky":
Try first to accept the inevitability;

Allow time to heal your wounds;

Take some action to change your plight;

Be fully confident, because misfortune is just passing by.

Wave your hand and bid farewell to misfortune; if you are addicted, misfortune can only be by your side and be your eternal partner.

Some people say that occasional failure will not make me discouraged, but if you do a thing with very little success and failures, will you stick to it?

When Mr. Silas Field retired and had accumulated a large sum of money, it occurred to him that he wanted to lay a cable under the Atlantic Ocean to connect Europe and the United States.He then devoted himself to promoting the cause.He tried his best and finally got funding from the British government to start his laying work.However, when the cable reached 5 miles, it suddenly got caught in the machine and broke.

Unwilling to fail, Field conducted a second experiment.In this experiment, when the 200-mile-long paving was completed, the current was suddenly interrupted, and it appeared magically again soon. As a result, the ship suddenly had a serious tilt at night, and the brake braked urgently, which unfortunately cut the cable again.

But Field is not one to give up easily.He ordered another 700 miles of cable, and hired a specialist to design a better machine for the length of the laying.Eventually, the two warships rendezvoused in the Atlantic, and the cable was connected; then, the two ships sailed separately to Ireland and Newfoundland, and they both ran out of cables.In the meantime, they experienced three more cable cutting accidents, and finally had to return to the Irish coast.He continued to work day and night, sleepless nights and food, because he was not willing to fail.

So the third attempt began again, and this time all went well, the laying work was successfully completed, and everything seemed to be done!But the current was suddenly interrupted again.This time, with the exception of Field and a few others, there was little hope.But with Field's confidence and perseverance, they found investors and started a new round of attempts. On July 1866, 7, a new experiment started again, and it was successfully connected, sending the first transatlantic telegram!The text of the telegram read: "July 13th. We arrived at our destination at 7 p.m. and all was well. Thank God! Cables are all laid and running perfectly. Silas Field."

The stimulation of bad luck to people is often relatively strong, and it is accompanied by different degrees of involvement in psychological and physical activities, so it will leave a deep impression on people, especially things that can bring shadows to people, and make people feel that they are always attracted by it. entanglement.However, if something has happened, you should face it and find a solution; if it has passed, then you should throw it away, don't keep it in your memory, let alone stare at it all the time.Painful feelings are like a muddy swamp. The more you cannot get out of it quickly, the more likely it is to trap you, sinking deeper and deeper, until you cannot extricate yourself.

Li Yu, the empress of the Southern Tang Dynasty, wrote a poem after being captured:

"The past can only be sad, but it is difficult to look at the scene.

The moss in the courtyard invades the steps in the autumn wind.

If the bead curtain is idle, who will come all day long!
The golden sword has been buried, full of vitality.

The night is cool and the moon is blooming.

I want to see the shadow of Yulou and Yao Palace, and the sky is like Qinhuai. "

How can I not be overwhelmed by the heavy pain when I miss the glory that has passed away like this and stare at my own experience?

Mrs. Xianglin described by Lu Xun, after her beloved son was taken away by wolves, was in pain like a knife, and she told everyone about her son's misfortune.At first, people felt sympathy for her.But when she said it again and again, the people around her began to get bored, and she herself suffered more and became numb.If you always tell others about your pain repeatedly, you will not be able to forget these pains for a long time, and you will be tortured by pain for a longer time.

Of course, we are not advocating not to look at it at all, and to adopt an evasive attitude.Rather, on the one hand, emotions should not stay on painful things for a long time; on the other hand, our rationality should find breakthroughs in setbacks and bumps, and strive to overcome them and solve them.

Many people think that the presence or absence of faith is innate and unchanging, but it is not.Children who were popular in childhood feel that they are kind and smart, and that is why they are loved by others.So he tries to live up to his name, to make himself what he believes to be.And what about those unfavorable children?People always say to them: "You're an idiot, a wimp, a slacker, a loafer!" And then they really develop these bad qualities, because human character is basically based on self-confidence.Each of us has our own standards in our minds, and we often compare our behavior with this standard and guide our actions accordingly.Therefore, if we want to make someone better, we should reprimand him less, and help him improve his self-confidence and revise his standard of conduct in his mind.If we want to transform ourselves, to cultivate ourselves in any way, we should first change the way we think about ourselves.

Confidence in truth, goodness and beauty is of utmost importance to us.We instinctively try to maintain the image of this self-confidence.We also accept criticism from others, but only those who are well-intentioned and those we think we trust and love.When someone hurts our self-esteem, that is, belittles us with his own opinion, reprimands us, and calls us stupid or stupid, we will get angry and fight back.Our psychology spontaneously guards ourselves, the most precious self-confidence of human beings.If someone weakens our self-confidence, then we will really fall, and our will to pursue truth, goodness and beauty will decline.

If a person really has character, he will have confidence and courage.The great musician Wagner was criticized and attacked by his contemporaries, but he had confidence in his own works and finally defeated the world.Yellow fever has been around for centuries and has killed countless people.But a small team of medics believed they could conquer it, buried their heads in Cuba, and succeeded.Darwin worked in a small British courtyard for 20 years. Sometimes he succeeded, sometimes he failed, but he persevered because he was confident that he had found a clue, and he succeeded in the end.

Eighth, stop moving forward.

(End of this chapter)