Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 52
Complaining and waiting can only get you nowhere.

If you don't know what you want, don't complain that your boss doesn't give you a chance.Those who like to complain loudly about their lack of opportunities are often making excuses for their failures.

Maybe a life of poverty haunts you like a shackle, living in a foreign country without relatives and friends.You are eager to lighten the heavy burdens that have weighed on you.Yet you seem to be sinking into a dark abyss, and the burden is so heavy.So, you keep complaining, lamenting the injustice of fate to yourself, complaining about your parents, your boss, and why God is so unfair, making you suffer from poverty, but giving others wealth and comfort.

Stop your whining and let the restless mood calm down.What you are complaining about is not the cause of your poverty, the root cause is yourself.The very act of your complaining shows that you deserve to be blamed for your unlucky situation.

People who like to complain have no place in the world, and worries and sorrows are the killers of the soul.Lack of a good attitude is like tightening the chains on your body, binding yourself tightly in darkness.

No one is rewarded and promoted for having a bad temper and a negative mindset.Look closely at any well-managed organization, and you will find that the most successful people are those who are aggressive, helpful, and able to give encouragement and praise to others when appropriate.People in high positions tend to encourage others to be as happy and enthusiastic as they are.However, there are still some people who cannot understand this intention and take complaints and complaints for granted.

An old adage goes like this: "If you can't say good things about someone else, say nothing at all." This adage is even more precious in the modern world where fault-finding, gossip, and complaints never cease in almost any institution, big or small.

"Good words don't go out, bad words spread thousands of miles", those who gossip about others in front of us will definitely criticize us in front of others.Going back and forth is easy to breed right and wrong, affecting the cohesion of the company.Instead of complaining about your company and your boss, make an effort to appreciate the good things in each other, and you'll find yourself in a much better situation.

If you don't know what you want, don't complain that your boss doesn't give you a chance.Those who like to complain loudly about their lack of opportunity are often making excuses for their failure.Successful people are not good at and don't need to make excuses, because they can take responsibility for their actions and goals, and enjoy the fruits of their efforts.

People often develop courage, perseverance and noble character in the process of overcoming difficulties.A person who complains a lot will never achieve real achievement in his life.

Maybe you are living in a humble shabby house and dreaming of a large and bright hall in your heart, then the first thing you should do is to try to make this hut a clean and tidy paradise, and let your spirit fill this room. cabin.

May wish to think about it, which kind of work partner do you like?Is it the ones who are always complaining?Or those who are helpful, dynamic, and trustworthy?
Complaining is useless, only action can improve the situation in which you do things.

Observe the person walking in front of you.

Only when a person is urged by his opponent can he be cautious and make fewer mistakes.On the contrary, if you go your own way without the urging of your opponent, you will often fall into the trap of failure.In fact, as early as hundreds of years ago, Da Vinci also told a similar fable:

Long, long ago, there was a little mouse who lived in a tree hole.However, not far outside, there lived a weasel that wanted to prey on it.Therefore, every time the little mouse wants to go out to find food, it will be very careful, and it is only because of this that it has escaped its life many times.

One morning, as he was about to go out, he found that terrible weasel walking not far away.Wow, what a dangerous day today!I want to let it go first, lest I become its lunch.But all of a sudden, a gray cat jumped out, grabbed the weasel in one fell swoop, and began to devour it.The little mouse, who was initially in shock, couldn't help but feel proud.Wow, how lucky I was today, the danger is over now, and from now on, I can swagger out and forage.Before the happy little mouse could play freely in the forest for a long time, it lost its life in the mouth of the greedy gray cat.Just like this little mouse, when faced with the threat of a weasel, it will become extremely vigilant, thus escaping one catastrophe after another.On the contrary, after the lack of opponents, get carried away and relax your vigilance, and you will naturally fall into the abyss of failure.

What exactly is the opponent?Perhaps in many cases, the opponent is someone who makes himself more mature and more perfect.Maybe you have to thank the opponents who have brought you troubles and even pains, because only in this way can you go further and longer on the road to success.

Maybe thank your opponent.In this complex society, there are always various competitions, even life-and-death fights.Therefore, no matter in the workplace or in the shopping mall, almost everyone has more or less opponents in front of them.It may be your colleagues, peers, or even people you don't know at all, and they will fill your life with tension through one channel after another.But are opponents all negative and unnecessary?The answer may be beyond your expectation, there is such a story.

In a certain company, there is a deputy general manager in charge of sales, we can call him Mr. Zhang, who always has many conflicts with Ms. Liu who is in charge of accounting.In this manager's office, one can often hear Vice President Zhang complaining: "This can't be reimbursed, and that can't be spent. She doesn't know how difficult it is for us to develop business outside!" Indeed, the current economic downturn, Salesmen usually have to spend more energy to achieve certain results, and various unclear expenses will naturally increase.But this relatively rigid accountant Liu didn't know how to be flexible, and he only followed the rules all day long. No wonder this Vice President Zhang was indignant and caused many disputes.The employees of the company also know that Vice President Zhang and Accountant Liu are enemies who are difficult to work with.Not long after, Vice President Zhang, who is good at using resourcefulness, made a bad move, making the honest Accountant Liu a scapegoat and forced to resign as a scapegoat.And not long after, the elderly general manager also retired, allowing him to be promoted smoothly and become the new general manager.Sitting in the spacious general manager's office, Mr. Zhang is triumphant. Now everything in the company is going well, and no one dares to fight against him anymore.It is naturally bold to spend money.

But not long after, the company's performance did not improve. Faced with the pressure from the board of directors, the anxious general manager Zhang tried many methods, but all failed. Finally, he finally came up with a new idea.Changing the company's accounts to turn all losses into profits would not satisfy the board of directors.Thinking of this, he got the company's new accountant, but fortunately he was very cooperative and immediately changed the accounts.Suddenly, at the board of directors, the new general manager received a burst of applause. All the directors were very satisfied with his performance and planned to give him high bonus shares.But the paper still couldn't contain the fire. Not long after, the Dong Chuang incident broke out. Not only was he dismissed by the board of directors, but he was also pursued by the prosecutorial department, which ruined his reputation.One day, when he was questioned by reporters, he said with deep feeling: "If only I didn't drive that accountant Liu away, she would definitely not let me do it, and I wouldn't end up like this. "It's just that it's too late.

Believe me, many people have heard similar stories.

Remember: regard opponents as friends, and regard every accusation and criticism as a good opportunity to correct.This may be the best way to do things.

An indecisive person may not succeed even if he makes a decision.

Mike Wallace is a well-known TV host. His "Six and 10 Minutes" on CBS is a popular show.There is such a story... When he first entered the TV station, he was a news reporter. Because of his articulate and quick response, in addition to covering news during the day, he also reported the prime time at 07:30 at night.With his hard work and good audience response, his career should be smooth sailing.

But unfortunately, because Mike is very straightforward, he accidentally offended his immediate boss, the director of the news department.Once at a meeting of the news department, the director of the news department unexpectedly announced: "Mike's style of reporting news is strange, and ordinary audiences are not easy to accept. For the sake of the ratings of this station, I announce that Mike will not report news in prime time in the future, and change it to Reporting the news at eleven o'clock at night."

This unexpected decision surprised everyone, including Mike.He knew that he had been demoted, and felt very sad, but suddenly he thought, "Maybe this is God's arrangement, mainly to help me grow up", his heart gradually calmed down, he expressed his acceptance of the new job, and said: "Thank you The supervisor's arrangement, so that I can use the time after get off work at six o'clock to study. This is a wish I have long had, but I dare not mention it to you."

Since then, Mike went to study every day after get off work, and rushed back to the company around ten o'clock in the evening to prepare for the eleven o'clock news.He read every press release in detail to fully grasp its ins and outs.His work ethic has not been dampened by the low ratings on the late-night news.

Gradually, more and more viewers watched the nightly news, and more and more good reviews.Accompanied by these constant praises, some viewers also questioned: "Why does Mike only broadcast the late-night news, but not the evening prime-time news?" Inquiring letters and phone calls continued, and finally alarmed the general manager.

The general manager spread the thick letter in front of the head of the news department, and said to him: "What's wrong with you, the head of the news department? Mike is such a talent, but you only send him to broadcast the eleven o'clock news instead of the 07:30 news. Golden hour?"

The director of the news department explained: "Mike hopes to have the opportunity to study after get off work at six o'clock in the evening, so he can't be scheduled for the prime time in the evening, so we have to schedule him in the late night time."

"Tell him to return to his 07:30 position as soon as possible. I ordered him to broadcast the news in prime time."

In this way, Mike was "invited" back to the prime time by the head of the news department.Not long after, he was voted one of the nation's most popular television journalists.

After a period of time, there was a wave of quiz programs in the television industry. With the support of more than a dozen advertising companies, Mike decided to start a program, so he consulted with the head of the news department.

The director of the news department, full of resentment, said to Mike with a straight face: "I don't allow you to do it! Because I plan to ask you to do a news commentary program."

Although Mike knew that the commentary programs at that time were full of controversy, often thankless, and the income was low, but he still accepted it happily and said: "Great!"

Naturally, Mike suffered a lot, but he didn't say anything, and he still went all out to work on the new show.The show gradually became famous after it was on the track, and the participants were all famous and important people.

The general manager is optimistic about Mike's new program, and also wants to get in touch with celebrities and dignitaries.One day he summoned the director of the news department and said to him: "In the future, Mike will bring me the script of the program directly! In order to seize the time, I will review it. If you have any questions, you can directly discuss it with the producer!"

Since then, Mike has discussed directly with the general manager every week, and he also has his opinions on many reforms of the news department.He gradually became a popular figure from the producer of an unpopular show.He has also won numerous production awards for nationally renowned shows.

Believe in your own strength, even if you experience various obstacles, as long as you persevere, you will eventually get what you deserve.

Dr. Wang An, a Chinese computer celebrity, said that the event that affected his life happened when he was 5 years old.

One day he went out to play, and when he passed a big tree, suddenly a bird's nest fell on his head, and a little sparrow rolled out of it, waiting to be fed.He decided to take it back to feed, and he took it home with the nest.

Walking to the door, he suddenly remembered that his mother did not allow him to raise small animals at home.He gently put the little sparrow at the door, and hurried into the house to ask his mother, who made an exception and agreed to his son under his pleading.Wang An excitedly ran to the door, but unexpectedly the little sparrow had disappeared, and a black cat was wiping its mouth caringly.

Wang An was sad for a long time.Since then, he has remembered a big lesson: as long as it is something he believes in, he must never be indecisive.Indecision can certainly save some opportunities for doing wrong things, but it also loses opportunities for success.

An action is worth a basket of dreams.

The famous writer Hemingway loved fantasy when he was young, so his father told him such a story:
A man asked a thinker: "You can become a great thinker, what is the key to success?" The thinker told him: "Think more!"

The man seemed to gain a lot from what the thinker had to say.After returning home, I lay on the bed, looked at the ceiling, and began to "think a lot" without moving.

A month later, the man's wife came to the thinker and said, "Please go and see my husband. After he came back from you, he seemed to be possessed by a demon." The thinker went to the man's house and saw that People have become broken bones.He struggled to get up and asked the thinker: "I have been thinking every day except eating. How far do you think I am from a great thinker?"

The thinker asked: "You just want to do nothing all day long, so what do you think about?"

The man said: "I think about too many things, and my mind can hardly hold it."

"I see that except for the hair growing on your head, what you have harvested is rubbish."

"Rubbish?"

"He who thinks not to do can only produce thought rubbish," replied the thinker.

Our world lacks doers, but never lacks dreamers.Those who love to dream are always full of economics. They are giants of thinking, but dwarfs of action; such people will only add chaos to our world, gain nothing for themselves, and will not create any value.

Under the teaching of his father, Hemingway always preferred practical work to empty talk throughout his life, and in his immortal works, he created countless images of "tough guys" who advocated practical work rather than empty talk.As a successful writer, Hemingway has his own philosophy of action. "Without action, I sometimes feel so painful that I can't die." Hemingway said.Because of this, when reading his works, people find that the protagonists never say such words as "I am miserable" or "I am disappointed", but only say "Go drink" and "Go fishing".

The reason why Hemingway was able to write masterpieces that have been handed down to later generations is that he traveled thousands of miles throughout his life, and traveled all over Asia, Africa, Europe, and the United States.Much of the context of his articles is the places he has been.With his down-to-earth actions, he has achieved great success.

Thoughts are good, but what matters is action.Everything is meant to be realized in action.

Tips for building success Act now.

Sow an action and you will reap a habit; sow a habit and you will reap a character; sow a character and you will reap a destiny.

Suppose you had a call you should have made, but because of a habit of procrastinating, you didn't make the call.When the self-motivational phrase "Act Now" enters your conscious mind, you'll make the call immediately.

Also suppose you set your alarm for 6:[-] am.However, when the alarm clock goes off, you are still sleepy, so you get up and turn off the alarm clock, and go back to bed to sleep.Over time, you will develop the habit of not getting up on time in the morning...

The secret to success is "Act Now!"

Be proactive.Be brave in practice, be a person who is really doing things, not a person who is not doing things.

Don't wait until everything is ready to do it, there is never absolute perfection.It is expected that there will be difficulties in the future, and once they occur, they will be resolved immediately.

Ideas by themselves do not bring success, ideas are only valuable when put into practice.

Use action to overcome fear while boosting your self-confidence.Do what you are afraid of, and your fear will disappear immediately.Just try it and you'll understand.

Push your spirit yourself, don't wait for the spirit to push you to do things.Take the initiative, and you will naturally be full of energy.

I often think that sentences such as "now", "tomorrow", "next week", and "future" have the same meaning as "it will never be done", and they must become "I will do it now".

Start working immediately, don't waste time on unnecessary preparations, start to act immediately.

Be proactive and be a reformer.Volunteer to improve the situation.Take the initiative to volunteer and prove to others that you have the ability and ambition to succeed.

With the goal, without action, everything will run counter to the original goal.With a positive attitude towards life, without immediate action, everything is very likely to turn positive.Therefore, action is the creator of all success.Knowing and doing, doing and knowing, continuous exploration is the true meaning of life.Dedicate yourself to life, work happily, and relax happily, and you will get rich rewards. Treat life well, and life will bring you surprises.

Opportunities always favor those who are always in action.

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