Be a Man and Do Things Pillow Book

Chapter 59
From this point of view, a single spark can start a prairie fire, confidence is like a single spark, and the efficiency created by the potential inspired by confidence is like a prairie fire.

When a person has no confidence, he can't take any action, so he doesn't want to change his living environment, and he doesn't want to help other people.Now that you have the ability to control your thoughts, feelings, and actions, why not take positive action?In the past, you didn't understand the influence of confidence on people, which formed you today. However, this is the first time you can grasp confidence. Why don't you try to change your sense of powerlessness?With the principles and skills you have learned, as long as you can practice well, you will be able to become an efficient person.

Don't just focus on the surface of the problem, but find out the inner reason.Don't forget that maybe any insignificant decision you make will affect your future destiny.In addition, remember that all decisions will have consequences, so if you do not make your own decision, but let others or the environment make the decision, or take action rashly without even thinking about the consequences of the decision, you will spend money as a result. You spend a lot of time doing it, but you won't see any results, and it may even cause a catastrophe.Sometimes people make decisions to avoid temporary trouble that end up causing long-term trouble, and when they realize that something is wrong, they tell themselves that the problem is terminally ill and beyond repair.

Many of the problems people are facing today are very difficult, and most people think that only "Superman" can solve them, which is really wrong.You must know that the various results encountered in life are actually accumulated by countless small decisions. It may be your personal decision, or it may be your family, the community where you live, the unit where you work, The decisions made by the society in which you live, and even the country to which you belong.A person's success or failure is by no means because he made an earth-shattering decision, but because of the small decisions he makes every day and the actions he takes based on this decision.

Use clothing to lift your spirits and build confidence.

An old professor of psychology often advises his students before the final exam: "Dress up for this exam. Wear a new tie, iron the clothes, and polish the shoes to make people look radiant, A sense of being capable also makes you feel that you are really capable.” The professor certainly understood the above principle.Please abide by it earnestly and don't be sloppy, because your external image does affect your emotions and affect your inner feelings.

When a manager dresses like a manager, he will feel that he is really a manager, so he will show the style and demeanor of a manager, and work with great energy.A salesman once said, "Unless I look like I'm doing great business, I don't really feel good. If you want to get big deals, you have to feel good about your business."

Your appearance speaks to yourself, and of course to others, and it can help others decide how they perceive you.Although in theory, people should look at the inside of a person more than the first glance when others look at you, but this impression is very important, and it will last, affecting other people's perception of you in many ways.

A decent appearance can tell everyone: "This is a smart, capable, promising person who can take on great responsibilities. He deserves to be respected and trusted. He respects himself very much, and I respect him too." It's not flattering, their appearance seems to say: "Here is a down-and-out man. He is unkempt, ineffective, and the kind of little person who doesn't matter. He doesn't deserve attention at all. He has already Get used to being manipulated by others." Although the old saying goes, "A person cannot be judged by his appearance, and the sea cannot be measured." But in fact, there are too few people who can really do it.

Always remember that what you wear will reveal your inner temperament to yourself and others, and you must dress so that you can express "here is a very self-respecting person, he is really important, and we should also value him" .

You should make others see your strengths, and you should create a perfect image.

Paul is a student of Napoleon Hill. He has always had good grades, but he desperately wanted to get a first-class grade in an exam. As a result, he cheated in the exam room. Although he was not found out, the guilt in his heart made him unable to calm down. Thinking, the result was a mess.After learning about the situation, Hill had a conversation with his students. He said: "Paul, you are so desperate to get an A grade that you do something against your conscience. Similarly, in your life, you will also There are many situations where you desperately want to get A-level achievements, and try to do something against your conscience. For example, one day you desperately want to close a deal, and you will use any means to lure customers into their pockets. Such a chance of success Possibly big, but what are the consequences? Guilt will haunt you, and the next time you run into the client, you'll feel uncomfortable wondering if he'll see what you've done. Your behavior will also be driven by Uncertain and confused, it is very likely that you will not be able to continue to do the second, third, and fourth business that keeps coming in. As a result, the business made by using fraud will make you lose a lot of money."

"How can a famous socialite be efficient because he is afraid that his wife will find out that he is having an affair, and the result is that his confidence is eroded by fear and he can't do anything well?"

Each of us has a will to do good.When we go against this will, we put cancerous cells in our conscience, they eat away at confidence, and they spread.So avoid doing anything that makes you ask yourself, "Will I get caught?"

Happily, Paul, who had heard this, had by this time understood the practical value of doing the right thing.

It can be seen that "doing the right thing" can satisfy the conscience and thus build self-confidence. "Being off the rails" can lead to a variety of negative outcomes: first, guilt can erode people's confidence; second, sooner or later others will find that they no longer trust them.

Psychologists tell us that we can change our mindset by changing our actions.For example, if you make yourself laugh, you'll feel really funny; .

Try to sit in the front if you are allowed.In various occasions, the seats in the back row are always filled first, and most of the people who occupy the back row seats, except for the reason that they have no chance to sit in the front, mostly hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". The main reason for fear of being noticed is lack of confidence.

Sitting up front builds confidence.Take it as a rule and try to sit as far forward as possible from now on. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but it will make it easier for you to concentrate and work more efficiently.Remember, everything about success is visible.

High efficiency means that there are limits to advancing and retreating.

Perfectionism is a problem that many people are prone to make. Such people always think that it is efficient to do things with full marks, but in fact it is just the opposite.Sometimes focusing too much on one "point" often sacrifices the entire "face".If you can achieve full marks for one thing in 3 hours, but you can also use so much time to do three things worth only 75 points, which one would you choose?
If you are an efficient person, you should choose the latter.Of course, at the beginning, you will feel very uncomfortable with this approach, but just thinking about it, getting three things for one thing sounds quite fulfilling.Of course, you can't generalize, the scale depends on your own grasp.

Try not to reserve too much time for yourself to complete one thing, it is best to maintain the sense of urgency of "not enough to eat and starve to death", so that you will not have too much time to be nosy.Of course, you can't schedule too tight or too full, otherwise it is easy to endanger your physical and mental health due to excessive work pressure.

Don't always compare yourself with those outstanding people. Although they are better than you in terms of performance, they may not be better than you in everything!Everyone has their own advantages, and we must do what we can.If you waste your time on things you can't win or opponents you can't beat, you have more to lose.

Try to find more things to do that you are not good at, and feel more frustration.Frustration can not only help you grow and improve, but also remind you: "Since you are not so perfect, what's the point of pursuing it?" The pursuit of perfection, is not it?
Compare the benefits and costs of action versus inaction.

If people know how to act, sometimes they need to be reminded of the benefits of taking action, and sometimes they need to figure out what will happen if they don't.By counting the benefits of action and the harm of inaction, people can start to act.

After you are convinced that you should act, the next step is to actually act quickly.To do this, you need to create a sense of urgency in your heart, which is an external cue.Instead of picking a deadline to get started, look at the problem from the opposite angle and ask yourself, "When is the fastest time I can start? How efficient can I be?" After all, people don't The younger you live, you can even make your goals public and give yourself a little more motivation.

Another way to take action is to work out the schedule and work according to the schedule to pursue high efficiency.Sometimes, these things written in black and white can spur yourself to act.In addition, it will be more efficient to break down a large task or project into small tasks that are easy to complete, so that the entire plan can be realized smoothly.

When it comes to motivating yourself to be more productive, a common mistake people make is thinking they can wait until they want to.Don't fall into this trap, you probably won't feel the urge until you've done it.Once you have recognized that this is something that should be done, you should immediately act to complete it efficiently.

With enthusiasm, efficiency will naturally be high.

Those who achieve great things will immediately seize the great opportunity, make a major decision quickly, and then immediately jump into action.If you want to be successful, you need to act now.

Personal positivity sets everything in motion.Positivity leads to action and drives momentum, which is invaluable to success.

Incentives can motivate people to make choices and act, and incentives can provide motivation.The motivation is the "internal motivation" in the individual, such as instinct, enthusiasm, habit, attitude, impulse, desire, etc., which can motivate people to act.

The same method of motivating others can be used to motivate oneself, but there is a big difference between the two: the motivating factor of self-motivation is internal, and the factor of motivating others is external.

Who will motivate the Motivator?The answer is the motivators themselves, nothing else will work.

Pick the most important and do it in advance.

There are so many things waiting for us to do every day, if we do our work regardless of priorities, then in the end we not only "lose the watermelon", it is very likely that we have not even picked up the "sesame seeds".Make some "times that can produce benefits" be wasted in vain.

Smart people know how to improve their efficiency in doing things.

Bill Gates is a person who is good at distinguishing between priorities. He always chooses the most important things to do first, and puts the less important things later.The same goes for his business philosophy.Gates can now devote the vast majority of his time to what he loves most: creating software alongside the developers who have made the most of Microsoft.The new role may have given him room to make the most of his uncanny foresight, which is the ingenious combination of emerging software technologies that adds value to the "industry-standard" products that people need. It will also increase the requirements for software from Microsoft and other vendors.He settled into his new job in good time and began directing the development of Longhorn, the granddaddy of all integration projects (actually a brand new version of Windows).If all goes well, the product could be launched after 2005 (Longhorn, the code name for the Microsoft Windows Vista operating system, has been successfully developed and promoted.)
If Longhorn can become a true super Windows, its computing power will make Oracle, Sun, AOL Time Warner and Sony daunting.But this is not what Gates is most concerned about. Whether it is work or family, there are too many things that require him to take care of.Abandoning the CEO position allowed Gates to regain his beloved evenings and weekends of "thinking time," giving him more opportunities to play the role of family member and time to focus on the Gates and Melinda Gates Foundation's $240 AIDS patients and other difficult problems that have been rescued by US$[-] million.

But many times, people are always bound by their own hands and feet. When dealing with problems, they always arrange the order of things according to the sense of urgency rather than the priority of things. This approach is passive rather than active. Successful people Impossible to work like this.

The essence of time management is: there is a distinction between primary and secondary, and setting priorities.That is to divide the things to be done into levels and categories, and do the most important things first, and then do the secondary things.By prioritizing the time for the most important things, you can give priority to ensuring that the most important work is done well, so that you can control the value of time from the overall situation.

Bill Gates believes that those highly efficient people, no matter what they do, first use the method of prioritizing to coordinate the work.

How to distinguish between primary and secondary, and greatly improve your work efficiency, Bill Gates summed up three criteria for judging:
First understand what we have to do?
This has two meanings: whether it must be done, or whether it must be done by me.It must be done, but it is not necessary for you to do it yourself. You can assign others to do it, and you are only responsible for supervising it.

Secondly, I should understand what can give me the highest return?

You should spend 80% of your energy doing what brings you the highest return and 20% on other things. (Bareto's law)
The so-called "highest reward" thing is the thing that meets the "goal requirements" or can be done more efficiently than others.

Where the returns are highest, that is where you are most productive.This requires us to look at "diligence" dialectically, and "proficiency in industry is more than diligence than playfulness".Diligence has its different content and requirements in different times.In the past, people regarded the diligence of "three shifts of light and five shifts of chicken" as the standard of diligence, but in the fast-paced and efficient information age, diligence needs a new definition.Diligence should be diligent in ideas (the most productive place), which is the characteristic of "diligence" in today's era.

A few years ago, most entrepreneurs in Japan regarded those who worked overtime after get off work as the best employees, but now it is not necessarily the case.They think that an employee who completes his work by working overtime means that he probably does not have the ability to complete the task within the specified time, and his work efficiency is low.Society recognizes only effective labor.

Secondly, it should be clear what can bring us the greatest satisfaction?
Not all things with the highest rewards can bring you the greatest sense of satisfaction, only harmony and satisfaction can be found in balance.Therefore, no matter what your status is, you always need to allocate time to satisfying and happy things. Only in this way, work is interesting and easy to maintain enthusiasm for work.Through the above "three layers of filtering", the priority of things is very clear, and then, prioritize the importance (note that people always have a tendency to do things not in the order of importance), and stick to this principle, you will I found that there is no other way to use time more effectively than to act on importance.

Bill Gates once asked the efficiency expert Ivey for advice on "how to better execute the plan".

Ive claimed that in 10 minutes he could give Bill Gates something that would increase his company's performance by 50 percent, and then he handed Bill Gates a blank sheet of paper and said, "Please write this on this piece of paper. Write down the 6 most important things you will do tomorrow."

Bill Gates wrote it in 5 minutes.

Ive went on to say, “Now put numbers in the order of importance of everything to you and your company.” This took another five minutes.

Ivy said, "Okay, put this piece of paper in your pocket, first thing in the morning take out the note, and do the first and most important thing. Don't look at the others, just the first one. Go to the second One thing until it's done. Then do the same with items 2, 3... until you get off work. If you only get the first thing done, it doesn't matter, you're always working on the most important thing. "

Ivy finally said: "Do this every day. You just saw that it only takes 10 minutes. After you are convinced of the value of this method, ask the people in your company to do the same. How long do you like to do this experiment? Do it for as long as you want, and then send me a check for what you think it's worth."

Prioritize things and give priority to the most important things. This is the magic method taught by efficiency expert Ivey to Bill Gates.For the trick, Ive was paid $2 and accompanied the check with a phrase: "I've never learned so much in my life."

Of course, in addition to emphasizing the priority, we must also emphasize the long-term importance.This is the breakthrough concept of the "fourth generation of time management" beyond the previous three generations, and it is also the core essence of the "fourth generation of time management".Emphasize long-term importance, that is, to emphasize doing "not urgent but important and long-term things".

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