We are all the same in the pursuit of our dreams

Chapter 5 Perseverance has invisible wings (4)
Wenzi said that he doesn't like people who complain and are full of energy. If someone keeps complaining in Moments, he will block his news without hesitation.The same is true for me, I always feel that instead of spending time complaining, it is better to use this time to enrich myself or enjoy life.

Wenzi was obsessed with writing when he was young, and he longed for his words to become printed one day.He tried to submit manuscripts to magazines, but was repeatedly returned.He didn't give up because of this, and continued to write, and then his manuscript was published, and then he had a regular column in a magazine, and then he published a book.I have also had a similar experience, and I can feel the touch from not being recognized to silently persisting to finally realizing my dream.

Perhaps the biggest thing we have in common is that we are all ordinary people, but we have all found our dreams and are willing to risk everything for this dream.

On Christmas Eve in 2012, the streets of Beijing were shrouded in the atmosphere of Christmas, and dazzling lights could be seen everywhere.On this lively night, Wenzi made an astonishing decision: he planned to leave Beijing, where he had lived for nine years, and go to Hangzhou.

It was very cold that day, and he took his suitcase to bid farewell to his friend Xiaonuan, who asked him, "Are you willing? It's been nine years, and you can leave as soon as you say."

After all, this city is the birthplace of his dream, and also carries his nine years of youthful memories.It was supposed to be a sad moment, but he didn't let himself think too much, smiled, and happily brought this topic to the past.

For his feat of resigning and leaving Beijing, not only many friends around him were quite surprised, but his parents also found it difficult to accept it at first.

When his father talked to him about this, the first question he asked was: "When will you go back to work?"

He answered firmly: "I don't want to go back, I want to take pictures."

My father was very angry when he heard this, and he raised the decibel and said, "If I knew it earlier, I wouldn't let you touch the camera!"

Wenzi didn't want to argue with his father, so he bowed his head and remained silent.

His original job in the TV station looked very glamorous. If he stayed there, he might have the opportunity to raise his salary and be promoted in time, and it would be easier to achieve success in the traditional sense.However, he didn't want to live that kind of life.The life that seems to have a bright future is actually a burden and a prison for him.

He likes photography, travel, and using the camera in his hand to record the beautiful life of ordinary people and the beautiful scenery along the way.He felt that this kind of life was what he wanted.

He doesn't want to be a successful person in the traditional sense, he wants to break the confinement and find a new outlet for his dream.

In the past, he went to school step by step, took the college entrance examination, went to university, looked for a job, and lived a life no different from ordinary people.Until one day he met Hao Sen, the most important friend in his life, and touched the black camera, and a whole new world opened up in front of him.

He suddenly discovered: It turns out that the way to record life is not only words, but also light and shadow.A tiny dream in the depths of my heart seemed to be opened and flourished quickly.

Guided by his interests and dreams, he gradually grew from a rookie photographer to a well-known photographer.More and more people like his photography style. He established the photography studio MOON, and for the first time put forward the concept of "national tour shooting", going to different cities, and recording the youth and feelings of different people with images.

There is always not enough time. He is working and taking pictures at the same time, and it is becoming more and more difficult for him to balance the two, and he cannot freely arrange what he wants to do.So, he resolutely resigned and decided to fight for his dream.

Quitting a glamorous and attractive job is incomprehensible to others, and they also feel that he is a little blind and casual.However, for Wenzi, this is the result of careful consideration.He said that youth is only once, and it is worth all our efforts.

Now that I have decided to leave, I will not look back.When his father calmed down, he said to his father: "I am no longer a child, I should let myself take the helm of my life."

When he was admitted to a key university, when he found a job with a good salary, his relatives and friends envied his father, and his father was also proud of having such an excellent son.

But Wenzi was confused. Did he really like everything he had?Is he doing this job just to follow the crowd, just to meet the expectations of his parents?
He took a short vacation to think about it.Then, he decided to follow his inner choice and do what he really wanted to do.

Only he himself knows how free and happy he is when he is taking pictures of others on the road, as if he is running against the spring breeze, and the wind is full of the smell of flowers.

There are no parents in the world who do not expect their children to be excellent.On the one hand, they expect to spend more time with their children, and on the other hand, they reluctantly let them fly to a wider world to find themselves.

In the struggle between parents and children, as long as the child persists enough, it is often the parents who compromise in the end.

The father found that Wenzi had made up his mind, so he stopped persuading him and gave him support.

In the early days of starting a business, he was in a new city again. He was so busy that he had less contact with his father. Every time he had not had time to call and tell his father what he was up to recently, his father would call first.

Once his father asked him on the phone: "Are you going to publish a book?" He replied "Yes".His father asked him again: "Have you decided to settle in Hangzhou in the future?" He still answered "Yes".He answered verbally succinctly, but felt a little sour in his heart.

Even though he struggled for his dream and neglected to contact his father, his father still learned about his current situation through other channels and has been paying attention to his life.He is like a high-flying kite, no matter how high or far he flies, the string will be firmly held by his parents.

It was also at that moment that he understood his father's good intentions.He usually spends too little face-to-face communication with his father. After the phone call, he laid out letterhead on the desk and wrote a letter to his father.Put his misunderstanding of his father, his gratitude to his father, and his deep affection for his father into writing.

After receiving this sincere letter, my father burst into tears and was filled with emotions.He used to think that Wenzi's willfulness and rebellion were actually a manifestation of Wenzi's growth. After all, the child had grown up and had his own ideas.The father was relieved because of this, and understood Wenzi's choice from the bottom of his heart.

Because of work, Wenzi will appreciate the scenery of various countries in the world and make many new friends along the way.However, no matter how far he went, he always wanted to go home.The more he has experienced, the more he understands the importance of companionship.When he got his own house in Hangzhou, he took his parents to Hangzhou to live for a while, spending as much time as possible with them.

Wen Zi said: "A lot of people asked me what is the most precious thing about Moon. I have never had a clear answer, but today I think I understand: the most precious thing about Moon is the people who accompany us in our lives."

The people who accompany us in our lives, besides our parents, are those friends who will never leave.Wenzi's good popularity has allowed him to meet many like-minded friends, and Hao Sen is the most special one among them.

Haosen is not only Wenzi's partner, but also the person who opened the window of photography dreams for Wenzi.He accompanied Wenzi through the most precious ten years of youth.When encountering thorns and mud, the two encourage each other to maintain optimism and self-confidence; when encountering honor and flowers, the two urge each other to maintain reason and sobriety.

Life is long and long, and it is a great blessing to have a confidant along the way.

Today, Wenzi's studio is doing well, and his new book "I Don't Want a Steady Life" has become a bestseller, and he has loyal fans all over the country.At the beginning, he only wanted to pursue his dream and do a good job in photography, but now, he has also reaped a lot of success.

Even so, he still didn't slack off and didn't stop.He said that he always wanted to learn more things, go to more places, enrich and explore himself.

Persistence is what is most needed on the journey of chasing dreams, as Wenzi’s friend Xiaonuan said: “Persistence is the respect for dreams and the reward for youth.”

The world is vast, we always have to find what we like to do, maybe that is where your dream lies.

And the only way to realize your dream is to have enough courage and action to stick to it.

Your efforts are to make your choice more correct

Life is like a test paper, there are many multiple choice questions, how to choose is up to you.Even if there is no standard answer to the multiple-choice questions in life, you must follow your heart when choosing, and you will live up to this life with less regret in the future.Only in this way, you will work harder than ever, because you want to use actions to prove that your choice is correct.

The reunion with Su Jin was on the last day of the China International Book Fair. At that time, we hadn’t had any contact for more than half a year. Someone who thought we would never meet in life suddenly appeared in front of you and offered to buy you coffee. Quite surprised.

We chose a seat by the window, and amidst the aroma of cappuccino, Su Jin said, "Sister Yajuan, I'm starting to regret it now. I shouldn't have listened to my mother's advice and went back to my hometown to work in the banking system." Work. Now I am doing things I don’t like every day, and I have to deal with all kinds of complicated relationships with colleagues with a smile. I am really exhausted physically and mentally! What do you think I should do now?”

Su Jin used to be an editor in my department. Half a year ago, because of some difficulties at work, and her mother kept advocating to her on the phone how stable a job was found for her in her hometown, she shaken.

I'm not surprised she resigned.She has more than enough heart but not enough energy. She works hard and is serious, but there is always a gap between her and other editors. I can see all these.

But I can feel that she really loves this job. It is said that interest is the best teacher. I believe that in time, she will make achievements, so I tried to keep her.

"Su Jin, don't worry, don't compare yourself with other editors, compare yourself, don't you think you have improved a lot since you first came here?" I looked at her and said.

She froze for a moment and raised her head.

"The reason why you are slow in making books is only because you lack experience in making book covers, and the company has high requirements for covers. But you have made great progress in writing proposals and doing layout design.

"You don't need to compare with others, as long as you compare with yourself, today is a little better than yesterday, it is considered a success."

Su Jin came to resign. She thought I would readily agree, but she didn't expect that I would tell her this. For a while, she didn't know how to respond.

Seeing her silent, I asked her: "What did you study in college?"

She replied, "Accountant."

It turned out that she, like me, was a monk halfway through. She studied other majors but engaged in writing work.It can be seen that he has enough love for writing work.

I asked her to put aside everything my mother and I said, just follow her inner voice, and come back a week later to tell me whether to go or stay.

A week later, Su Jin chose to leave, and of course I respect her choice.

I haven't heard from her for more than half a year. I think she should have lived the life she wanted and deliberately avoided contacting me, her former boss.So, for her who suddenly appeared in front of me and threw me such a heavy topic, I really didn't know how to answer for a while.

Outside the window, the neon lights kept flickering, and the colorful light reflected on Su Jin's lightly made-up face should have been shining, but the anxiety and loneliness in her eyes made her look exhausted.

I said to Su Jin: "I don't know your specific situation very well, but my story may give you some inspiration."

When I was young, many choices related to my life were made by my parents. I didn't have the opportunity to choose, or I didn't give myself the right to choose.

When filling out volunteers for the senior high school entrance examination, my father asked me to fill in normal schools and key high schools. Later, my scores could be admitted to key high schools.So, I went to the provincial key high school.

When I was divided into liberal arts and science classes in the second year of high school, I obviously liked liberal arts, but my parents thought that "if you learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well, you will not be afraid to travel all over the world", so I chose science.

Until I failed the college entrance examination, my grades were not related to my undergraduate degree, my father felt that his dream of becoming a phoenix was shattered, and he lost his temper all day long.

Although it seems to me now that life is long enough, like a heavy book, the college entrance examination is only one page, no matter how good or bad the exam is, just turn over it.

But back then, for me, the college entrance examination was of great significance, and it was the watershed that determined the success or failure of my life.I failed the college entrance examination, and I felt a deep sense of frustration amidst the strange eyes of my relatives and the scolding voice of my father.

When choosing whether to repeat my studies or go directly to a college, my father chose to let me go to a junior college. He was worried that I might not be able to pass the exam if I repeated my studies.This is actually exactly what I want, and I am also afraid of going through the dark days of counting down the countdown to the college entrance examination every day.

Doing multiple choice questions for my life started when I left my parents.

I am a junior college student in a university in Yangzhou. The beautiful scenery of Yangzhou City, like a fresh and elegant Jiangnan beauty, inspires me a lot of creative inspiration.Writing novels in high school was considered by my parents to be a bad job. Now that I am in college, I can finally spend time in the library reading my favorite books, listening to my favorite music, and writing my favorite words.

Compared with the monotonous and hard high school life, university life is colorful and free.In the beautiful university life, the only pressure I put on myself is - I must be admitted to the undergraduate course.There are two reasons for setting this goal: one is that I hope to make full use of my university time to improve myself so as to make up for the regret of failing the college entrance examination; In the future, when you apply for a job, you will not be rejected because of your academic qualifications.

A higher education level means that you have more choices and autonomy when applying for a job, and you can choose a job you like relatively.

Just like Long Yingtai said to Andre in the book "Dear Andre": "I also ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your achievements with others, but because, I hope you In the future, you will have the right to choose, to choose meaningful and time-consuming work, rather than being forced to earn a living."

When I was in my sophomore year, I had the opportunity to "transfer to my undergraduate degree", but the high tuition fees made me a little discouraged. After all, my family's financial conditions were limited.

I called my parents to discuss whether I should take the "special transfer" exam. My father said that I could try it.My mother was firmly opposed to taking the exam, saying that it was not easy for me to go to college, and my younger brother and younger sister urgently needed money to go to school. I couldn't be so selfish and ignore my younger brother and younger sister for my own future.

In the final analysis, my parents did not support me to take the exam because they had no money to support me to continue my studies.

I had insomnia the night of the phone call, tossed and turned, thought about it, and finally decided to take the test.

This is the first time I have gone against my parents' wishes, and it is also the first time I have made multiple choice questions for my life.

I can't imagine what would happen today if I didn't take the exam, I just know that I have never regretted this decision.

Later, I passed the initial and re-examination of the "special transfer" and entered a key university.The problem of tuition fees was solved by myself, and I successfully completed college through student loans and writing articles for magazines to earn manuscript fees.Moreover, in this university, I have gained a rare love.

It was also after doing multiple-choice questions for my life that I really learned to be independent.Since then, although my parents will still give me advice from time to time, I only use it as a reference, and the decision-making power for each choice still lies with me.

After graduating from university and entering the society, there are even more choices to choose from—should I marry him for the rest of my life after dating him for so long?Housing prices have dropped, should I buy a house at this time?I am not very happy with my job, should I choose to resign?

For people in the workplace, the most common choice is to change jobs. At this time, people around you will give you different opinions, and you will inevitably lose your mind sometimes.

Take my last job-hopping as an example, that choice was more difficult than any previous job-hopping.

(End of this chapter)