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Chapter 28 How to Control the Size of Things → The Law of Square and Circle (3)
Rockefeller is like this, treating what happened to him in life with humor.In life, if people can often treat various things with humor, such as telling a few funny jokes on cold, hot, and humid days, it will definitely lift everyone's spirits.

Life is rich and colorful, as long as our imagination and creativity are not bound by some frame, we can use the power of humor to inject excitement into life.

The French philosopher Voltaire had a very loyal servant, but he was a bit lazy.

One day, Voltaire said to him: "Russeff, go and get my shoes." The little servant hurriedly brought the shoes.Voltaire was stunned when he saw it: the shoes were still covered with mud and dust from yesterday when he went out!He asked, "Why did you forget to wipe it off in the morning?"

"No need, sir." Russeff replied calmly, "The road is full of mud and dirt. In two hours, won't your shoes be as dirty as now?"

Voltaire walked out the door smiling.The little servant ran after him: "Sir, go slowly! Where's the key?"

"key?"

"Yes, the key to the cupboard. I still have my lunch."

"My friend, what's for lunch, you'll be as hungry in two hours as you are now!"

Psychological tips:

If the servant does not serve the master well, of course it will cause the master's displeasure, and the master will often reprimand the servant.Voltaire, however, treated the matter with a smile and humor, lightened the unpleasant, and educated the servant with laughter.Voltaire was truly a humorist.

Keeping things small is indeed a great way to use the power of humor in your everyday life.In the face of things that may cause trouble in life, we can use humor and laugh together to put the trouble in an appropriate place without excessive worry and displeasure.Treat troubles with a lighthearted, shared joy that makes troubles seem less important than life as a whole.

Use a smile to face the little things that can cause us unpleasantness in daily life, and the unpleasant negative psychological emotions will dissipate accordingly.With humor, you can put trivial issues in place, making them seem so small in comparison to your whole life.

Small favors and small favors are finally rewarded
Many people with lofty ideals are willing to have their reputations tarnished in order to achieve a greater cause.A proverb says: "It is difficult to establish a reputation, but easy to lose it." It is difficult to establish a good reputation, but it is only a temporary incident to destroy a reputation.Therefore, the loss of fame is not easy, and the courage to sacrifice fame must be for a greater purpose.This is taking into account the overall situation. For this overall situation, fame is pawns. In order to preserve the overall situation, it is inevitable to give up pawns.

At the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, the monarch of Qi State was licentious and immoral, expropriated and extorted, and forced the people to the limit.After seeing this situation, Tian Chengzi, an aristocrat of the Qi State, said to his staff: "Although the public office has obtained a lot of wealth by means of extraction, this kind of extraction is what we will not give up." Reality, but the country is not solid, and it will be a "wedding dress" in the end.So Tian Chengzi made two kinds of buckets, big and small, and opened his own warehouse to receive the hungry people. He used the big bucket to borrow grain and used the small bucket to collect the returned grain, "giving benefits to the people".So the people of Qi State refused to work for the government's farming and went to Tian Chengzi's family. For a while, "the people returned like flowing water".

Tian Chengzi used this method of big fights out of small fights to get in. What he lent was food, and what he received was people's hearts. It seemed to be giving, but in fact he was getting it.Sure enough, the throne of the monarch of Qi State was finally obtained by the Tian family.

The effect of mutual transformation between gains and losses is sometimes not immediately visible, but those who understand the mystery will have the initiative to choose and make it play unexpected effects.

During the Warring States Period, Lord Mengchang of Qi State was a prime minister famous for his support of scholars.Because of his sincerity in treating scholars, he moved a very talented and down-to-earth scholar named Feng Chen.Feng Xuan was determined to work for him after receiving the courtesy of Meng Changjun.Once Lord Mengchang wanted to ask someone to go to Xueyi, his fiefdom, to collect debts for him. Who would he go to?Feng Xuan said that I would like to go, but I don't know what to buy with the money I got back from the dunning?Mr. Mengchang said, let’s buy something that we don’t have at home!Feng Xuan took the order and left.

After Feng Chen arrived in Xueyi, Feng Chen saw that the life of the people was very poor, especially when he heard that Meng Changjun's debt collection messenger had come, he complained.Therefore, Feng Xuan called the residents of the city and said to everyone: "Mengchang Lord knows that everyone is living in a difficult situation, so he specially sent me to tell you this time that all previous debts will be cancelled, and the interest will not be repaid. Mengchang Lord asked me to bring the bonds with you. Here it is, in front of everyone today, I will burn it down, and from now on, I will never urge you to return it!"

As he said that, Feng Xuan really lit a fire and burned all the bonds.The people in Xueyi did not expect Lord Mengchang to be so benevolent and righteous, and they were all grateful.After Feng Xuan came back, Mr. Meng Chang asked him what interest he was asking for?Feng Xuan replied: Not only did the interest not be recovered, but the bonds that were borrowed were also burned.Meng Changjun was very upset, Feng Chen said to him: "Didn't you ask me to return something that I didn't have in the buyer?"I have bought it back for you, this is "righteousness".Burning bonds to promote righteousness will be of great benefit to you in gaining the hearts of the people!

Sure enough, a few years later, Mr. Mengchang was slandered by others, and Qi Xiang was in danger, so he had to return to his fief Xueyi.When the people of Xueyi heard that Mr. Mengchang, the benefactor, had returned, they mobilized the whole city to welcome him, expressed their firm support for him, and followed him.Mr. Mengchang was very moved, and only then did he realize Feng Chen's painstaking efforts in "justice".This is called "the good giver must take more", and a small loss can be exchanged for a big benefit.

Psychological tips:

"Those who love what comes out love to rebel, and those who have blessings come back when blessings come", in the affairs of the world, there is reward only when there is dedication, there is no sacrifice without reward, and there is no reward without sacrifice.The more you give, the greater the reward you get.If you only want others to give to yourself, then the source of "getting" will eventually dry up.

We should control greed in our lives.Desires are endless. If you don't give up something, your body and mind will become heavier and heavier, and happiness will really leave.This requires us to keep the overall situation in mind, and we must stay calm in the face of danger, not worry about gains and losses at critical moments, be good at distinguishing immediate interests, be able to give up our lives to protect our cars, and give up immediate interests for greater and longer-term interests .Pretending to be confused and unmoved in the face of relatively small interests is an essential quality for everyone who desires great success.

Foresight and Surprise Victory
To have the ability to flexibly control things, you must have the mind to handle things by surprise.

A long time ago, there was a Jewish businessman who sent his only son to Jerusalem to study.Soon after, the Jewish businessman suddenly fell ill. When he was dying, he made a will and transferred all the property in the family to his personal slave who had served him for a long time.But if his son wanted any of the property, the slave had to give it to him unconditionally.After the merchant died, the slave was happy.He traveled to Jerusalem to find the young master, and showed him the will made by the master before his death. The merchant's son was very sad after seeing it.

After burying his father, the son kept thinking about what he should do.Finally, he ran to the rabbi in the community and explained the situation to him.After hearing this, the rabbi said: "Your father is very smart and loves you very much." The son said dissatisfied: "A person who gives all his property to slaves is so smart, he is simply stupid."

The rabbi told the young master to use his brain more, as long as he figured out what his father wanted him to want.The rabbi told him: "Your father knew very well that after he died, there would be no relatives around him, and slaves might run away with their hard-earned inheritance, maybe without even saying hello. That's why your father is here and you are not here." Under the circumstances around me, I used this method of protecting the entire inheritance." However, the merchant's son still couldn't understand that since it was all given to slaves, no matter how well it was kept, what good would it do him.

The rabbi saw that he was not enlightened, so he had to tell the truth: "All the slave's property belongs to the master, you should know that. Didn't your father leave you a piece of property? You just need to choose the slave. How is this? Shrewd idea!"

The young man finally understood his father's good intentions.It turned out that the father used an expedient measure. Everything given to the slave in the will was based on a "but" as a premise, turning everything beautiful about the slave into a dream.This "but" is the key to the Jewish businessman's will.To put it bluntly, the Jewish businessman set up a plan to make it invalid when he made his will, and he was ready to break the contract when he made the will, because he was faced with the helpless choice of "either make concessions or lose completely", so he could only Choose to make concessions and give up all the property to the slave so that the slave will not run away with the property.He was unwilling to make such a concession. Giving all the property to the slave was the same as running away with the property.In order to solve this problem, a clever Jewish businessman installed a self-explosive device in the will. As long as the son finds this device, he can achieve the effect of breaking the contract in the form of performance.

Sure enough, under the guidance of the rabbi, the son really activated the self-destruct device, and the solemn will was fulfilled formally, but it was meaningless to the slave.This is surprise.

Psychological tips:

There is not much time in life for us to hesitate, we have to act beforehand.Only from the pace of action can we continuously discover the prerequisites that affect the development of things.

Surprise victory is the combined product of keen insight and quick response in an emergency.Someone once said that the secret of all success lies in paying close attention to everything around you, adjusting yourself to the surrounding environment; realizing the preciousness of timing resources, doing what others want to do at the right time, saying what others want the words said.

In this way, we can arrive at the end of our dreams correctly.

Can bend and stretch easily
A philosopher said: "Perfection is poison." The pursuit of perfection in everything is a painful thing, it is like the bait that poisons your free mind.Because this world is inherently imperfect, not in the past, not in the present, and not in the future. It is presented to us in the form of "defects".If a person pursues perfection in everything, he is undoubtedly asking for trouble.Therefore, a person should learn to face the world with flexibility, so as to achieve the purpose of being a relaxed person.

Only by being able to withstand grievances can one preserve oneself; one can stand up to injustices to straighten things out; one can get full in a low-lying area, one can be reborn in a depression;To protect yourself in times of crisis, you must understand this truth.This is the meaning of Nogqu, which in the final analysis is to treat oneself with a kind of cruelty.Because only in this way can we accumulate strength and not be wiped out all at once.

When Chu and Han were fighting for hegemony, Ji Bu was a general under Xiang Yu's command. Once he chased Liu Bang and almost killed Liu Bang.Later, Liu Bang won the world, and he hated Ji Bu the most. He offered a huge reward to the whole country and wanted him. At the same time, he ordered that anyone who dared to hide him would kill the nine clans.

Ji Bu had nowhere to hide, so he had to shave his head bald and hide in Tibet. Finally, he sold himself as a slave to protect himself.

Some people would say that a real hero should end up dead.A strong man like Ji Bu, contrary to the brave and heroic spirit of the past, fled to the end of the world in a wimpy way, why bother?
In fact, Ji Bu has his own reasons.When Liu and Xiang were fighting for supremacy, with the spirit of "strengthening the mountain" like Xiang Yu, the overlord of Western Chu, Ji Bu was still famous in the Chu army for his bravery.He took the lead in every battle, led the troops to charge into battle, and how many times he rushed into the enemy's army to capture the flag and cut the general. He can be called a real hero.

But when Xiang Yu failed and Liu Bang ordered him to be arrested and killed, he was willing to be a slave instead of committing suicide. He seemed so humble and had no ambition at all.Why did Ji Bu do this?Because he firmly believed that he was a great talent, but he was born in the wrong place and went the wrong way, so he was humiliated but not ashamed. He hoped to have the opportunity to display his potential that had not been fully realized, so he finally became a famous general in the Han Dynasty. .From what he did, we can get a glimpse of his ambition and ambition. He felt that it was not worth dying for Xiang Yu, so he endured the humiliation and begged for perfection.

As long as there is still a glimmer of hope for a comeback, no matter how miserable the defeat is, they will not commit suicide. They would rather be captured, put in prison, tortured, and even die.

Psychological tips:

A knowledgeable, well-educated, and courageous hero is not like a foolish man who is narrow-minded, and is so angry that he hangs himself for a little thing.This is not a show of courage, but exhaustion, feeling that there is no way to save the situation, and has reached a dead end, so I committed suicide.And people with great ambitions, of course, take death very lightly and are not afraid of death, but it depends on whether it is worth dying.

Because their intelligence exceeds that of ordinary people, their only worry is that they will lose their lives. As long as they stay in the green hills and seize power, they will realize their ideals and turn the world upside down, so they would rather be prisoners than die.These heroes and heroes only want to make contributions, and they will not hesitate to suffer any grievances for this.

(End of this chapter)