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Chapter 114 Interaction Part 2
See other people's characteristics in subtle ways

The topography has a pass, a hang, a branch, a pass, a danger, and a distance... All of these six are the way of the earth.

Sun Tzu pointed out in The Art of War that generals must carefully observe and study the terrain, and as a leader in modern society, it is especially necessary to observe people.Confucius said: "The human heart is more dangerous than the mountains and rivers, and it is more difficult to know people than to know the sky." There are spring, autumn, winter, summer and morning and evening in the sky, but what about people?
There are people who look dignified but are not decent in nature; there are people who seem gentle and honest but are thieves; ; some appear to be in a hurry, as if they are too busy to do anything, but in fact accomplish nothing; But there are practical ones; there are those who look fierce but are cowardly in heart; there are those who are confused and look down on others...

From this, we know that seeing people is a profound knowledge.To correctly understand and judge a person, one should not only rely on the external performance of words and deeds, but must observe the subtleties, and Emperor Han Jing knew this truth well.

During the Seven Kingdoms Rebellion, Zhou Yafu made illustrious military exploits. From the official position to the prime minister, he offered advice and suggestions to Emperor Han Jing, and was an important minister of Emperor Han Jing.However, when Emperor Han Jing was choosing the next auxiliary minister, he received a cold reception. The incident originated from a banquet.

One day, Emperor Han Jing invited Zhou Yafu to a banquet and prepared a large piece of meat for him, but he did not cut it open and did not prepare chopsticks for him.Zhou Yafu looked at it and was very unhappy, so he turned around and asked the official in charge of the banquet for chopsticks. Emperor Han Jing smiled and said, "Prime Minister, are you still not satisfied if I give you such a big piece of meat? You need chopsticks, it's really particular." Zhou Yafu Hearing this, he quickly knelt down and apologized to the emperor. Emperor Han Jing said: "Since the prime minister is not used to eating like this, then forget it. Get up, this is the end of today's banquet." After hearing this, Zhou Yafu resigned and walked out of the palace gate quickly.After watching him leave, Emperor Han Jing said: "Looking at his sullen look, he is really not a minister who assists the youngest son!"

The young master is young and energetic, if there is something that goes too far, only a person with the demeanor of an elder can tolerate these mistakes.The ministers who assist the young master must be steady and peaceful, work hard without complaint, and must not have any arrogance.Judging from Zhou Yafu's performance, even the emperor's impolite behavior towards him, he couldn't bear it, so how could he tolerate the young master's fault in the future?
Some people may think that it is a bit of a fuss to decide the future prime minister of the auxiliary country because of such a small expression.actually not.Everyone's gestures reflect their mentality and character, and we can see the deepest part of their hearts from their gestures.

People who often shake their heads are always very confident, so that they reach the level of dominance.They are very good at expressing themselves in social situations, but they are often hated by others.They will also ask others for help, but many times they are not satisfied because they have their own way and just want to get some kind of inspiration from the process of others doing things.

People who are used to talking and laughing are mostly cheerful, not too demanding on life, contented and happy, and full of human touch. No matter where they go, they will always have excellent popularity.It's a pity that most of these people like a peaceful life and lack an optimistic spirit.

People who often wipe their mouths or pinch their noses like to play tricks on others, but they can't dare to act boldly.This kind of person is ultimately a person who is dominated by others.He may do what others ask him to do.They like grandstanding, seeing you gnashing your teeth in anger, but they are dancing with joy.

Nine out of ten people who are used to walking around corners belong to the inferior type, and most of their personalities have a rather weird side.If you say he is incompetent, he will definitely do something for you to see; if you say he can do it, he is very modest; everyone says something cannot be done, and he will try it.They attend all kinds of meetings or parties, and always find the most remote corner to sit down...

People's subtle words and actions are like every plant and tree in a war environment. Although they are small, they are extremely real.You can find the opportunity to win from the wind and grass, and you can also detect the secrets of the heart from every move.No matter how subtle the words and actions are, they are also the reflection of the inner world of the person. As long as you try to figure out and savor it carefully, you will be able to discover the characteristics of the other party in a short time.

(End of this chapter)