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Chapter 12 Virtue, Lovely and Terrible Book 5
Praise is like drops of water on a rose
Conversation is an art and a measure of a person's true character.The sage said: "Listen to his words, and you will know his person." Speech is like people's clothes, the more comfortable and beautiful they are, the more you will show your temperament.Generally speaking, a person who is good at praising something has a very high taste, and his temperament should also be elegant. In front of such a person, everyone hopes to get his praise.Compliments also provide something to talk about and an example to emulate, and are a gentle way of exhorting those around you to be courteous.It is one of the methods that people must use in communication.

The craving for admiration is an important aspect of human nature.On the physiological level, everyone is willing to hear others praise themselves for being beautiful, strong, healthy, and young, and to have better food, clothing, and housing than others; The respect and recognition of relatives and friends; in career, everyone is eager to find a place in society and realize self-worth.The desire for praise comes from human nature, and praise gives people infinite power.

The reason why people are accustomed to hearing compliments is that the compliments of others can satisfy their self-esteem and show that they are valued by others.The deepest desire of human nature is to be recognized by others, which is one aspect that distinguishes human beings from animals.The famous psychologist Jess Rale said: "Praise is like sunlight to the human soul. Without it, we can't grow. But most people are just sensitive to avoid others' sarcastic remarks, but they are stingy. Give the sunshine of approval to others."

In fact, praise is an important means of communication. It can communicate the feelings between people, so that you can win the friendship and favor of the other party, and at the same time improve your status in the hearts of others.

When French President de Gaulle visited the United States in 1960, at a banquet held for him by Nixon, Sir Nixon took great pains to arrange a beautiful flower booth: in the center of a horseshoe-shaped table, bright and dazzling tropical flowers Set off a delicate fountain.The shrewd General de Gaulle saw at a glance that this was carefully designed and made by the host to welcome him, and he couldn't help but blurt out praise: "The hostess spends a lot of time on such a beautiful and elegant plan and arrangement for holding a formal banquet." Sir Nixon was very happy when he heard this.Afterwards, she said: "Most of the great people who visit either don't pay attention or don't bother to thank the hostess for it, while he always thinks and talks about others."

It can be seen that a simple sentence of praise to others not only satisfies the psychological needs of others, but also allows oneself to be loved and admired by the other party.

There are many ways to praise, it can neither be too heavy, nor can it be said to be innocuous, or it should be subtle, but also clever.Subtle compliments are like drops of water on a rose, adding color to others and revealing your own light.Try to turn complimenting others into a habit, turn your good words into the most beautiful roses, and when you give them to others, your hands will have a lingering fragrance.

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