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Chapter 24 Talent also needs to be cultivated 6
Striving for perfection is abusing yourself
The reason why a hero becomes a hero is what makes him brilliant. It is wrong for people to pay attention to the outstanding side, but once they see the ugliness of the hero, they cannot tolerate it.It is important to know that everyone has ugliness, and heroes are no exception.Therefore, looking at a person should not only see his ugliness, but also observe his beauty.The result of demanding others is often to make yourself more disappointed and uncomfortable.

In our daily life, we often see such a situation, some people feel extremely painful because of some flaws: some people feel inferior because of their short stature, some people are upset because of their small eyes, some people are worried because they are fat... These people often Seeing only the flaws and not seeing them is part of perfection.Striving for perfection is sometimes a good thing that pushes us to be the best we can be, but there is no such thing as absolute perfection, so if you are still striving for perfection, please give up this idea.

There is no perfection in life, perfection only exists in ideals.There are regrets everywhere in life, this is the real life.Worrying about the pursuit of perfection leaves us with regret and pain.

In the "Hundred Metaphors" of Indian Buddhism, there is such a funny and thought-provoking story:

There was a gentleman who married a lady with a graceful body and a pretty face. The two loved each other very much, and they were the envy of everyone.This lady has delicate features and gentle disposition, but the fly in the ointment is that she has a rosacea.On the willow eyebrows, phoenix eyes, cherry mouth, and melon-seeded face, there is a rosy nose, like a dereliction of duty artist, for a piece of art that is supposed to be famous in the world, he has missed a few knives, which looks very abrupt and weird.

The husband was always obsessed with his wife's nose.One day, I went out to do business and passed through the slave market. In the wide square, there was a lot of voices all around, vying to bid and snap up slaves.In the middle of the square stood a thin, thin and thin girl, with teary eyes, timidly looking around at this group of wolves and tigers who decided the fate of her life.The husband looked carefully at the girl's appearance, and suddenly he was deeply attracted.great!This girl has a straight nose on her face.

The husband bought the girl with a straight nose at a high price. He was very happy and took the girl back home day and night, wanting to surprise his beloved wife.When he got home and settled the girl down, he cut off the girl's beautiful nose with a knife, held the bloody and warm nose, and shouted:
"Madam! Come out quickly! Look at the most precious gift I bought for you!"

"What kind of expensive gift made you shout so much?" The wife came out suspiciously.

"Here! Look! I bought you a straight and beautiful nose, put it on and have a look."

After the husband finished speaking, he suddenly pulled out the sharp knife in his pocket, and chopped off the wife's distilled nose.In an instant, the wife was bleeding profusely, and her rosy nose fell to the ground. The husband hurriedly stuck the straight nose to the wound with both hands.But no matter how hard the husband tried, that beautiful nose still couldn't stick to the bridge of his wife's nose.

Poor wife, neither the correct and beautiful nose that her husband bought with painstaking efforts, lost her own ugly but genuine rosaceous nose, and also suffered unreasonable pain from the blade.The ignorance of that foolish husband is even more pitiful!
Some things can be changed through hard work, and some things are hard to change no matter how hard you try.For what we cannot change, whether we like it or not, we can only accept them and not resist.The world is like this, things are like this, everything is born, and some things can never be changed.In order to make themselves more perfect, some people do not hesitate to undergo surgery to change the face, and then when there is discomfort on the face, they have to spend a lot of money to restore the face, otherwise their lives are in danger.It is undoubtedly a kind of self-abuse to demand oneself for the sake of perfection.

Everyone has shortcomings. Don't take these shortcomings too seriously, which will affect your emotions and suffer from low self-esteem.People should learn to appreciate their own imperfections, and life will be more joyful.

A water bearer has two buckets, which are hung on both ends of the pole, one of which is cracked and the other is intact.After each long-distance pick-up, the intact bucket can always deliver a full bucket of water from the stream to the owner's house, but when the cracked bucket arrives at the owner's house, there is only half a bucket of water left.

For two years, the water bearer carried one and a half buckets of water to the owner's house every day.Of course, Good Bucket prides itself on being able to deliver a full bucket of water.What about the broken barrel? It's so ashamed of its own flaws that it feels sorry for being only half-responsible.

After two years of suffering from failure, the broken bucket finally couldn't bear it anymore, and said to the water bearer by the stream, "I'm ashamed, and I must apologize to you." "Why?" asked the water bearer, "Why do you feel ashamed?" "In the past two years, because the water leaked all the way from my side, I could only send half a bucket of water to your master's house. My defect caused you to do all the work but only received half of the results." Broken Bucket said .The water bearer felt sorry for the broken bucket, and he said lovingly: "On our way back to the master's house, you should pay attention to the blooming flowers on the roadside."

Sure enough, when they were walking on the hillside, the broken barrel's eyes lit up and saw colorful flowers blooming all over the side of the road, bathed in the warm sunshine. This sight made it much happier.But, at the end of the path, it suffered again, because half of the water was lost on the road again.The broken bucket apologized to the water bearer again.The water bearer said gently: "Have you noticed that on both sides of the path, only your side has flowers, but the side of the good bucket has no flowers? I understand that you have defects, so I make good use of them. The ones on your side Flower seeds were scattered along the road, and every time I came back from the stream, you watered the flowers for me. For two years, these beautiful flowers have decorated the master's table. If it weren't for you, the master's table would not be so beautiful Flowers."

Perfectionism often quietly and deeply penetrates into people's bones and blood, but how can there be true perfection in the world?Don't worry about your own flaws, but dare to face your imperfect self. This is the real brave.Free yourself from the insufficiency of your own conditions and the limitations of the unfavorable environment you live in, and do what you want to do.

(End of this chapter)