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Chapter 62 Game Law: Harmony is the most important thing in life 4
Don't let kindness flood
A man who would swear to be good in all things would be ruined when he was surrounded by many who were not good.

——"Chapter 15 Reasons why people, especially monarchs, are praised and blamed"

For words such as benevolence and kindness, probably no one dares to say that Machiavelli is advocating.In his opinion, benevolence and kindness are the means by which the monarch wins people's hearts.But most of the time, being too kind and kind is doing yourself a disservice.

"If it is not possible to save his country without those evils, the prince need not be disturbed by the reproaches for them, for if each thing is considered well, it will be seen that some things seem to be Good deeds, but which, if followed, bring the sovereign to his own ruin, and other things, which appear to be evil, but which, if done, will bring him safety and well-being."

In fact, it is not unreasonable to carefully taste these words. An overly kind person, every time he does something that seems to be good to others, but hurts himself and the people around him, then his kindness and kindness become poisonous.

The greatness of Alexander the Great is beyond doubt, but he died in the virtues of kindness and forbearance.Alexander was one of the greatest military geniuses in European history and the most famous conqueror of the Macedonian Empire.He is talented, resourceful, brave and good at fighting. He led his troops across Europe, Asia and Africa, and conquered Persia, West Asia, North Africa, and India. To Yaoshashui (Central Asia, located on the Syr Darya in the Aral Sea), the huge empire with Babylon as its capital made the ancient Greek civilization spread widely.

Such an extremely powerful king has a very kind and just heart. It is said that during the 14 years of Alexander's reign, no one was executed by him without trial.In front of his relatives and comrades-in-arms, he was always tolerant and tolerant, and was even dominated by his mother for a time, without dignity.Gradually, the careerists in the army thought that Alexander was not enough, and finally planned a poisoning case, which caused Alexander to die unexpectedly, and his mother and wife also suffered tragic deaths.Although the specific cause of Alexander's death has not yet been determined, it is a tragedy that he lost the prestige of the monarch because he was too kind and benevolent.

Kindness is a virtue, but excessive kindness is a weak character that can be bullied.Mao Dun once said: "People who don't have a strong hatred for ugliness will not have a strong attachment to beauty and goodness." There are always some kind "lambs" in leisure life, who want to be impartial to anyone and everything Yi, considers everything, pleases everyone, even if he stumbles, he has no complaints or regrets.They don't have the slightest hostility to the world, and they try to bear everything in vain, so that everyone around them can benefit from their existence. This kind of idea is beautiful, even great, but the more such people are, the easier it is for them to be abandoned by the world.

There is an intriguing story about a woman who soon got married and then got divorced for reasons that sound like a fantasy.In her husband's words: "You've been so kind to us, we can't stand it." It turns out that this lady loves caring for people, even to the point of fanaticism.In addition to normal work every day, all housework, including grocery shopping, cooking, washing clothes, cleaning the floor, etc., is done by her alone. Same, almost all the good things were done by her.As time passed, the whole family couldn't bear it, and finally asked her to leave the family because they all felt psychologically unbalanced.

Excessive kindness and too much kindness will make people take your good deeds for granted and despise you, and they will feel psychologically burdened by your excessive goodness.No matter whether it is the high-ranking monarch Alexander or the little poor girl, their behavior is not advisable.

If a person does all good deeds, it often makes people feel that they cannot repay or have no chance to repay. The feeling of guilt will make the beneficiary choose to alienate, or a person has no choice and no place to let his kindness flood. However, once you are in the predicament of intrigue, the first to be bullied and eliminated will undoubtedly be yourself.Kindness and tolerance are not always the best choices. Don’t forget that birds will also play tricks on scarecrows. Don’t let everyone regard you as a saint because you are so beautiful, or dare not approach you, or blaspheme you to your heart’s content.

(End of this chapter)