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Chapter 78 Communication quotient: understanding the communication philosophy of people coming and going 5
My heart and your heart, mutual respect and mutual respect can know each other
In order to keep the minister loyal, the monarch must always think of the minister, respect him, make him rich, make him grateful, let him share the honor, share the responsibility; the monarch must also let the minister know that without himself, he cannot stand. , and the monarch should have many honors that make his subjects want nothing more, and so much wealth that his subjects don't want to get more... When the relationship between the monarch and his ministers is in such a state, they can trust each other Submission; otherwise, the result is loss to one or to the other.

——"Chapter 22 On the Ministers of the Sovereign"

In interpersonal communication, mutual respect and mutual care are indispensable conditions for getting along. If this cannot be taken as a prerequisite for daily friendly communication, then what awaits people will be loneliness and intrigue.Whether it is people's daily communication, or the communication between the boss and subordinates, making the other party feel your respect and gratitude for him will make the other party tend to yourself.Especially as a leader, giving subordinates sufficient decision-making power, allowing them to share part of their blame, or giving them enough respect and rewards will give them a sense of accomplishment and honor.Don't underestimate this honor and sense of accomplishment. It has great power and can make a leader win the loyalty of his subordinates.

During the American Civil War, after a fierce battle, a senior commander of the Southern Army named Fichardt had only 2 troops left, but the enemy army he had to deal with was 8. He is forced to fight.At the very moment when the enemy's onslaught was on the verge of attack, another force from the south arrived in time, that is, the "Southern Storm Column" led by Joan Goley.

The history of the Civil War in the United States has recorded the battle situation at that time: General Joan Coley led the column to arrive in time day and night, and arrived in time. At this time, Fischert immediately cheered up. Overshadowed all the noise: "The members of the Storm Column will always be the pride of the southern people, and will go forward for the common interests of everyone." His speech made all the soldiers of the Southern Storm Column feel extremely important, proud, and responsible Spontaneously.One of Golly's secretary was moved by this and said: "I can go through fire and water for him."

A word of encouragement and praise from a leader is effortless, but it can produce excellent results.We have to admit that paying full attention to others can sometimes even stimulate people's morale better than directly giving your subordinates material stimulation.In real life, people hope that they are valued by others, and this psychological requirement is the need for survival.People all have a kind of consciousness, and they all want to be valued and become the core of organizations and groups.Therefore, as a leader, if you can grasp such key points to win over your subordinates, you will surely make them do things with confidence.

For a leader, the most captivating thing is to authorize trusted subordinates, which can show the leader's attention and trust.General James Stogodal, who was once a candidate for vice president, once declared: "Leadership must be based on goodwill, that is, to be honest and support followers with all their strength." As a leader, treat people with integrity , even willing to cultivate others to replace himself, such a leader will never lose his job or lose his followers.

President Lincoln, one of the greatest leaders in American history, was a man with a broad mind who dared to delegate power to others.Lincoln's confidence as a leader was evident in how he selected his cabinet.Most presidents choose the partners they like, but not Lincoln.Lincoln brought the leaders of the various parties together, building strength in an atmosphere of diversity and mutual inspiration.

Lincoln's biography mentions his human methods: It is not unheard of for a president to recruit political opponents to his cabinet, but deliberately surrounding all political opponents who are disappointed in him seems to be a disaster.Lincoln's unafraid of being sidelined or ignored shows his remarkable purity of character and his unquestionable confidence in his ability to lead.His emphasis on and trust in others, especially his political opponents, further highlights his leadership.

During the Civil War, Lincoln's ability to authorize played an important role between him and his generals.At first, it was difficult for him to find someone to confide in, and when the South became independent, the best generals went south to join the Confederacy.But Lincoln never gave up hope. Although several generals broke their promises, he still gave the remaining generals full power and freedom.

Because he knew how to respect and was good at delegating power, Lincoln won a good reputation in the political arena and won the hearts of the people.His success is instructive.

People often feel that they are clumsy in communication. In fact, it is not that they are not good at talking and doing things, but that they have not grasped the essentials of communication.A leader should show respect and love to his subordinates and those around him, while ordinary interpersonal communication needs more respect and sharing to realize the harmony of hearts.What we usually seek is not a vigorous life, but an occasional pause to feel the beauty of life.Therefore, if life loses the sincere emotion between people, it will be meaningless.

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