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Chapter 25 Understanding Entertainment Banquet Etiquette (3)
Some people eat fish by eating one side and then eating the whole piece of fish upside down without removing the bones.This method is very unsightly, it is best to do it less.The key to eating fish is how to deal with the fish bones. Some people even use this as the basis for judging whether the other party is cautious or not.Therefore, even experienced people should not intentionally show off their attitude or make rude actions with disapproval, because not only does it not prove anything, but it will also be considered as a frivolous performance.Especially when eating fish, it would be embarrassing if you accidentally broke the fish bone.

Eating steak is not a very rare thing for people nowadays, but the method of eating it is not necessarily well known.Here is an example.Mr. Song came back from studying in the United States. He likes to eat steak, and he always eats bloody medium-rare steak.Every time the steak comes to the table, he will inevitably show off to the neighbors and say: "How can a steak without blood be considered a steak?" Then he will boldly dance the knife and fork, and cut the whole steak in one go. Divide into five or six small pieces, and put them into your mouth to chew exaggeratedly.Perhaps when Lao Song was studying in the United States, he learned the etiquette of American cowboys. Why is it so uncivilized?

It is etiquette to eat steak in western food and only cut a small piece at a time and put it in your mouth to chew carefully.Finely chopping a whole piece of meat in the first place seems a bit inelegant, even "messy".Therefore, when we eat Western food, we should pay attention to being humble in everything, and give priority to matching other people's positions.Arrogant, boastful performance is often the root cause of failure.

When eating in a restaurant, there is usually a dessert or fruit after eating.Generally speaking, when eating Western food, there will be a cup of coffee or black tea or a small piece of cake at the end, and it doesn’t matter what the guest likes to eat.However, eating small cakes does have its principles.To eat a small triangular cake, start from its apex and cut the cake into bite-sized pieces with a fork.At the same time, be careful not to let the cream or cake crumbs stick outside your mouth when eating the cake.The points to note in the way of eating cakes are: to eat desserts in western restaurants should be elegant; to eat triangular cakes should be eaten from the top side; When drinking coffee or black tea, hold the teacup with one hand; after drinking the cup, wipe off the lip print.Here is an example.

"Would you like coffee or black tea?" Every time Ms. Wang went to a western restaurant, she would think about it for a long time when she heard the waiter ask this question.It wasn't that she didn't know what to drink, but that she was always preoccupied with which question to answer, "Give it to me" or "I want it."

Maybe Ms. Wang is just thinking about whether she should be polite to the waiter! The tone of the two sentences "please give me" and "I want" is indeed a little different, but from the standpoint of a guest, it seems appropriate to use whichever sentence to answer.Besides, it is really rude to make the waiter wait for a long time just for such a sentence!
In matters of etiquette, "know what you know, don't know what you don't know", and "don't be ashamed to ask", is the most important thing.

[-]. Etiquette for drinking tea, wine and coffee

Tea is the favorite drink of Chinese people, and it is also accepted by foreign guests.When receiving visitors at home or in the office, tea is a must.Sometimes tea parties are also specially held to entertain guests.Although tea is of good quality and cheap, drinking tea is a kind of culture.

Tips for drinking tea
When a visitor comes, treat him with tea.Although this matter is small, it should not be neglected.Before making tea for guests, wash your hands first, and wash the tea cup or tea bowl.Pay special attention to whether the tea cup or tea bowl is damaged or cracked. Broken tea cups or tea bowls cannot be used to entertain guests.Also pay attention to whether there is tea rust in the teacup or tea bowl, and if there is, be sure to wash it off.Tea sets are preferably made of ceramics.

You can't entertain guests with old tea or leftover tea, you must make new tea.As for whether guests like green tea, black tea or scented tea, they can be consulted in advance.As far as the reception of foreign guests is concerned, Americans like to drink tea in bags, Europeans like to drink black tea, and Japanese like to drink oolong tea.

Do not make the tea too strong or too weak, just fill each cup of tea [-]% full.For regular tea drinking, it is important to put the teacup on the saucer and offer it to the guests together.The handle should be placed on the left.If you drink black tea, you can prepare sugar cubes for guests to take by themselves.You can prepare one or two more cups of tea, because there may be guests who will arrive later.When drinking tea, it is not allowed to scoop it with a teaspoon, and the teaspoon should be taken out.

When serving tea, the host can offer tea to the guests, or the hostess can serve tea to the guests.When offering tea to a guest, the host should stand up, hand the teacup to the guest with both hands, and say "please".Guests should also stand up, take the teacup with both hands, and say "thank you".The same should be done when adding water.

When the tea is served by the hostess, the tea should be served to the guests first, and it is not allowed to serve tea to the host first.If there are many guests, the guest of honor should be served tea first.The specific steps of serving tea are: first put the tea tray on the tea table, pass the teacup from the right side of the guest, hold the saucer with the right hand, and attach the saucer with the left hand.If there is no place to put the tea tray, you should hold the tea tray with your left hand and pass the tea with your right hand.Be careful not to rest your fingers on the edge of the teacup, and don't let the teacup hit the guest's hand, or spill the guest's body, and if it hinders the guest's work or conversation, say "I'm sorry".Guests should thank the receptionist for their service.If there is no special usher, the secretary can act temporarily.

If entertaining guests with tea and snacks, the snacks should be served first.Dim sum should be served on a small plate for each person, or a large plate for several people.The snack plate should be served from the right side of the guest with the right hand.After it is used up, it can be removed from the right side.

Neither the host nor the guests should gulp down the tea or drink it so loudly.It should be savored slowly and carefully.When you encounter tea leaves floating on the water, you can brush them off with the cup lid, or gently blow them away.Don't take it out of the cup with your hands and throw it on the ground, and don't eat the tea.

In the West, tea parties are often used as a form of entertaining guests.The tea party usually starts around 4 pm and is set in the living room.Just prepare the seats and coffee table, no seat arrangement.In addition to drinking tea at the tea party, some snacks or snacks can also be served.Sometimes in China, foreign guests are entertained with tea parties.

In the old days in our country, there was a practice of inviting tea repeatedly as a reminder to the guests that they should leave. Therefore, when entertaining the elderly or overseas Chinese, be careful not to persuade them to drink tea again and again.

Although many countries have the habit of drinking tea, there are all sorts of strange things about drinking tea.The Japanese advocate tea ceremony as an art to cultivate people's spirituality.Entertaining guests with tea ceremony focuses on exaggerating an atmosphere. As for tea, each person drinks a small bowl, or all participants take turns to drink a bowl, instead of drinking one bowl after another.

There are more and more foreign guests who come to Chinese teahouses to look for folk customs.When meeting foreign guests drinking tea at the same table in a teahouse, they should treat each other with courtesy.Don't be too cold or too enthusiastic, just be neither humble nor overbearing.

drinking etiquette
Drinking is an indispensable item in various banquets. Although people drink different types of wine, they still abide by the basic drinking etiquette.

Although there have been sayings in ancient times that "a thousand cups of wine is less than a bosom friend" and "a drink is enough to rest", but for those who really don't know how to drink, it is not appropriate to persuade them to drink.People who don't drink or don't plan to drink at the banquet can politely stop others from toasting, but don't refuse everything.Have at least a little soda, juice or other beverage to keep the party entertained.

There are usually three ways to refuse a toast from others.The first way is to offer to ask for some non-alcoholic beverages and explain why you don't drink alcohol.The second method is to ask the other party to pour some wine into the glass in front of him, and then gently push the bottle away with his hand.According to etiquette, the wine in the glass can not be drunk.The third method is when the toaster pours wine into his own glass, tap the edge of the glass with his hand, which means "I don't drink, thank you." When the host or friends warmly toast to themselves When drinking, don't hide, don't turn the wine glass upside down, or quietly pour the wine toasted by others on the ground.

The toast should be done in moderation, as long as the meaning is reached.Don't get others drunk on purpose, and don't secretly pour hard alcohol into other people's soft drinks.To devout Muslims is not allowed to toast, not even wine.Drinking alcohol is illegal for Muslims.A large pile of wine bottles should not be placed on the table.At a formal banquet, after the waiter opens the bottle, he will first pour a little for the host to taste.The host should take a small sip and taste carefully, and then take another sip. When he feels that the wine served is completely in line with the requirements, he will signal to the waiter: it is time to pour wine for the guests.The order of serving wine is: first the guest of honor, then other guests.When pouring wine, the wine glass should be placed on the table, and the wine bottle should not touch the mouth of the glass.

Those who can drink should taste the wine politely before drinking.You can first appreciate the color of the wine and smell the aroma of the wine.Then take a sip and savor slowly.Don't raise your wine glass without looking at it to show your vastness, and then drink it down in one gulp, letting the wine flow down the corner of your mouth.You don't have to raise your little finger pretentiously to show your elegance.It is not advisable to drink alcohol while smoking.

In view of the fact that it is easy to make gaffes and disrespects after drinking, the amount of alcohol you drink during foreign-related activities should be controlled to less than half of your usual alcohol amount.Don't get carried away as soon as you see the other person's hospitality or food and wine.A well-educated drinker will not let others hear his swallowing sound when drinking, and the wine should only be [-]% full.In formal banquets, the hosts all make a toast, and those who can drink should give a toast in return.When toasting, the upper body is straight, the legs stand firm, and the glass is raised with both hands, waiting for the other party to drink; and each table can send a representative to the host's table to return a toast.

To participate in a foreign banquet, you should know the other party's drinking customs and toasting in advance.When both the guest and the host make speeches and toast, drinking and talking should be stopped.No alcohol is allowed during the national anthem.

When it is necessary to toast with foreign guests, the host and the guest of honor should toast first in the order of protocol.When you meet someone to toast or toast, you should stand up and raise your glass, and look at each other.When there are many people present, they can raise their glasses at the same time, instead of clinking their glasses one by one and let the other party wait.Do not crowd your toasts, and avoid cross-clinking glasses with other people. This is a big taboo.

If you host a banquet at home to entertain foreign guests, you should pay attention to the cleanliness of the wine utensils and do not use old and unclean wine glasses.Westerners generally drink low-alcohol alcohol, and they often lack perceptual knowledge of strong alcohol in our country. Therefore, it is necessary to remind the other party not to drink too much in an appropriate way, and it is not appropriate to pour wine for them.To drink different wines, use different wine glasses.

Drinking customs in some countries are completely different from ours, so you should know something before receiving foreign guests.For example, the Japanese pay attention to drinking freely, and they are not surprised by their words and deeds after drinking.They do not clink glasses when toasting, but the toaster kneels in front of the toasted person, holds the bottle in his hand, and keeps pouring wine for the other party.Some countries pay attention to holding the wine glass with the whole palm of the hand. If it is a goblet, you should pinch the foot of the glass with your fingers.Drink beer without clinking glasses, but you can wish each other health.

At a formal banquet abroad, usually the host should toast first and invite the guests to toast together.If he were to drink to the health of the ladies here, no lady should be forgotten.Guests, juniors, and ladies are generally not the first to propose a toast to the health of the host, elders, and men.

When a lady accepts a toast from others, she doesn't have to raise her own wine glass, just smile to express her thanks, and it's better to drink a little bit naturally.

When toasting the health of a noble person, it is best to drink the wine from the glass in one gulp.If you know you can't drink enough, you should only pour a little wine in advance.

When drinking with your family, play finger-guessing to help you enjoy the drink.However, do not do this in a diplomatic setting.

How to experience the feeling of "delicious" coffee? The song "Passing by the Coffee House" makes drinking coffee romantic, and more and more people go to coffee houses to experience the feeling of "delicious" .But a few people behave vulgarly in the coffee shop, drinking coffee is like drinking a big bowl of tea, which seems a bit nondescript.In fact, drinking coffee is quite particular.

The coffee can be ground by yourself, and the coffee beans can be brewed in a coffee pot later, or instant one can be brewed with boiling water.Foreign countries generally think that homemade coffee is of higher grade, while instant coffee is just to save time.Milk and sugar can be added when drinking coffee, which is called milk coffee.It can also be called clear coffee without milk and sugar.Some people also like to mix it with beer and drink it.

The sugar added to coffee is usually sugar cubes, which are placed in special containers.Once the drinker needs to add sugar cubes, it can be taken with a sugar cube holder or a coffee spoon.

The coffee spoon is specially used to stir the coffee, it should be taken out when drinking coffee.It is unethical for someone to use a coffee spoon to slowly drink coffee spoonful by spoonful.Don't use a coffee spoon to smash the sugar cube in the cup.

If you think the freshly brewed coffee is too hot, you can use a coffee spoon to gently stir it in the coffee cup to cool it down, or wait for it to cool naturally before drinking it.Trying to cool the coffee with your mouth is very uncoordinated.

The cups and saucers that hold the coffee are all specially made.They should be placed in front or to the right of the drinker, with the ears pointing to the right.When drinking coffee, you can hold the ear of the coffee cup with your right hand, gently hold the coffee saucer with your left hand, and slowly move to your mouth to chew lightly.It is not advisable to hold the cup full, swallow in big gulps, and it is not advisable to bow your head to take the coffee cup.When drinking coffee, remember not to make any noise.

Of course, sometimes there are some special circumstances.For example, if you are sitting on a sofa away from the table, it is inconvenient to drink coffee with both hands, and you can make some modifications at this time.The coffee saucer can be placed at chest level with the left hand, and the coffee can be drunk with the right hand.After drinking, the coffee should be placed in the coffee saucer immediately, and the two should not be separated.

Do not lift the coffee cup from the saucer when adding coffee.

Sometimes drink coffee and eat some snacks.But don't alternate between eating and drinking with a coffee cup in one hand and a snack in the other.Put down your snacks when you drink coffee, and put down your coffee cup when you eat snacks.

In the coffee shop, behave civilly and don't stare at others.The quieter the voice of the conversation, the better. Don't talk loudly regardless of the occasion.

Drinking coffee is a kind of culture. Only by paying attention to etiquette can you appreciate its warmth.

fruit eating etiquette

In families and banquets, guests are generally invited to eat fruit.In informal occasions, how to eat fruit is not very important.However, in formal occasions, eating fruit will be associated with etiquette.

Invite guests to eat fruit.Usually more than one kind should be prepared, so that the guests have a choice.The fruit should be washed and put into a fruit bowl and brought to the table.Do not take the initiative to peel or peel fruit for guests, it is unhygienic.It is not very polite to force customers to eat with peeled and peeled fruits.

On formal occasions, fruit knives or a complete set of fruit cutlery should be prepared while serving the fruit.Whether it is a fruit knife or a complete set of fruit tableware, absolute cleanliness is required.

In foreign-related activities, it is forbidden to eat fruits directly with your hands.To eat apples and pears, cut them into 4 to 8 pieces with a fruit knife, remove the skin and core, and eat with a fork.Another way to eat is to put the apple or pear upright on the plate, cut a corner along the longitudinal direction, remove the core first, then hold it with a fork, then peel it, and cut it into small pieces for consumption.

To eat plums, you can break them open with your hands first, and then eat them after removing the pits.Fruits such as apricots and peaches should be divided into appropriate small pieces after being peeled and cored with a fruit knife.Bananas can be peeled first and cut into small pieces with a knife to eat.You can also cut off both ends with a knife, peel off the skin, and then cut into slices or segments for consumption.Oranges and lychees can be eaten after being peeled by hand.Oranges can be peeled with a knife and cut into pieces to eat.

When eating grapes, you should not eat the whole bunch of grapes, but grab them one by one with your hands.To eat this kind of fruit with stones, you should cover your mouth with your hands, so that you can spit the stones in your hands or spoons and put them in the peel tray.When inviting people to eat honeydew melon, watermelon, cantaloupe and pineapple, they should be peeled and cut into pieces in advance, and put on a plate.When eating, it can be cut into small pieces with a fruit knife, and then eaten with a fork.Sometimes when you invite people to eat watermelon and honeydew melon at home, it’s okay to cut them into pieces and serve them directly, but at least one small fruit plate should be prepared so that guests can put the cut melons and fruits on the plate and eat them. When the fruit juice flows on the guests or on the ground, it can also make the peel and melon seeds fall.Hand towels should be prepared in advance.

When eating nuts with hard shells such as walnuts, you must never bite them directly with your teeth.The more particular way to eat is: first use a special walnut hammer to break open the shell, and then eat with a special clip.

Hands should be washed before eating fruit in social situations.No matter how rare and delicious fruit you see, you are not allowed to put it in your pocket quietly and take it away.When eating fruit, it is not advisable to stuff your mouth full at once, but to eat it in small bites.Do not talk while eating, and it is not allowed to spit or throw the peel and core.

[-]. Prom Etiquette

During the dance, the greetings between the host and the guest, how to start the dance, accompany the dancers and invite the female guests to dance, etc., must be in accordance with the etiquette and stop at the festival.

Etiquette that the host should pay attention to
1 The hostess and hostess must greet the male and female guests of honor to the seats arranged by the dance floor, and introduce other guests to meet the guests of honor.

2 Hosts and hostesses should pay attention to introducing dance partners to male or female guests without a partner.

3 It is advisable to be friendly and entertain during the dance, so as not to make guests neglected during the dance.

4 Generally speaking, the hostess must invite the hostess to dance with the hostess at least twice, otherwise it will be rude.

5. The male host invites unaccompanied female guests to dance together, and cannot allow unaccompanied female guests to be left out.

dance etiquette
1. The hostess must invite the hostess and hostess to accompany the hostess to start the dance first, and other guests are only allowed to dance on the dance floor.

2 If it is a wedding ball, the newlyweds must lead the dance.

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