The Complete Works of Wolf Road

Chapter 28: Take the initiative to act like a wolf (4)
From a theoretical analysis, in our world, everyone has the same chance of success.However, this is not the case. Successful people are only a very small number of people after all.The reason is that people have different attitudes towards setbacks.In a sense, the attitude towards setbacks is the watershed of success.

The most prominent habit of people who bow their heads in the face of setbacks is to give up their efforts when they encounter setbacks.The habits of successful people are just the opposite. They dare to stand up straight in the face of setbacks, and repeatedly deal with and compete with setbacks from all aspects.Therefore, there is such a sentence in the life dictionary of successful people: My habit is that there is a way to change my destiny.

When we encounter setbacks, we are often quick to give up and stop trying, and our reasons for not trying are often insufficient.We often say, "It's impossible." Or, "I can't change myself." Actually, we can.

In psychology, frustration refers to a complex emotional state that occurs when a person encounters various obstacles and disturbances in the environment that make his motivation unsatisfied when he is engaged in purposeful activities.

Frustration makes people feel frustrated in a light or heavy way.This is a negative emotional state that some call a "mental stagnation state"

.This state sometimes leads to very serious and even irreparable consequences, which could have been completely avoided.

During an open recruitment of senior management personnel by a well-known Japanese company, something like this happened: a college graduate with excellent grades and full of confidence in the future committed suicide because he was not admitted.

Two days later, the recruitment ended.When the person in charge of the company checked the computer to sort out the data, he unexpectedly found that the applicant who committed suicide was actually the best grader, and it was only because of a computer error that he failed the job.

This is indeed a deeply regrettable and unfortunate event.What is even more thought-provoking is what the person in charge of the company said after the truth came out: "I am deeply sorry for the computer error and feel sorry for the misfortune of this college student. But from the perspective of the company, I am grateful I am grateful for this incident and this particular exam for my company."

The words of the person in charge are worth pondering.People who can't deal with setbacks can't do many normal jobs; people who can't overcome setbacks can never be successful in their careers.

Different attitudes and different reactions actually reflect the differences in frustration tolerance between individuals.

Frustration tolerance refers to the psychological tolerance of individuals when they encounter setbacks, and refers to the ability of individuals to withstand blows or withstand setbacks.Being able to endure setbacks and have good adaptability to maintain normal mental activities is a sign of mental health and one of the important psychological qualities that successful developers must possess.

Frustration does not equal failure.It is possible to turn failure into success, not to mention those temporary setbacks that may happen anywhere and at any time?
The famous success scientist Napoleon Hill once explained failure and setbacks like this:
"Here, let's explain the difference between a 'failure' and a 'temporary setback.' Let's see if what is often seen as a 'failure' is actually nothing more than a temporary setback.

"Sometimes, I even think that this temporary setback is actually a kind of luck, because it will cheer us up, redirect our efforts, and make us go in a different but more correct or better direction. go ahead."

It can be seen that if a person can have a correct view of frustration, frustration is not only not a bad thing, but can also become a positive psychological motivation.It can increase a person's ability to solve problems and lead a person to achieve his life goals in a better way or a better way.

Once this inner urge to challenge ourselves is turned into action, no setback in the world will bring us to our knees.

For a strong man, encountering setbacks is the time for him to challenge himself.

He wants to challenge timidity and change timidity into fearlessness.If he can't overcome his timidity, he won't be able to continue on the road to success.He wants to challenge misfortune and turn misfortune into luck.For a person with a positive attitude, in every misfortune lies a seed of good fortune.He wants to challenge the various problems he faces, because the problems already contain the solutions to the problems.He wants to challenge poverty and turn poverty into wealth.A person who works hard will not be poor forever, at least spiritually, he will not bow to poverty.He wants to challenge difficulties, because he knows that every difficulty in life is a test of a person's ability to overcome difficulties.He wants to challenge all dissatisfied things, change his own destiny and change his world in the challenge.

The more dangerous the wolf is in the environment, the more it can show its survival advantage.

Only those who have successfully developed can continue to survive amid hardships and setbacks, have the courage to meet difficult challenges, and have the perseverance to overcome adversity and achieve new successes.

A famous American TV host once gave a very interesting example.

Farmers in Iowa grow potatoes for a living. Every year, they are accustomed to sorting the harvested potatoes into three categories: large, medium and small. They are then packaged and sold at different prices.Sorting and packaging took up a lot of their energy and time.

But there is a farmer who never does this. He is the highest-paid local farmer.

One day, one of his neighbors couldn't help asking him: "Why do you never sort potatoes?" Rugged roads. After 8 miles of bumpy mountain roads, small potatoes will naturally slide down and around, while larger and medium-sized potatoes will naturally stay on top and in the center."

This principle is not only suitable for distinguishing potatoes, but also enlightens people: rough life roads and difficult and difficult environments often enable a strong person to fully reflect the value of their own existence.

Frustration is an unavoidable objective reality, and dissatisfaction is a mirror for self-reflection on the road of life, and it is an inevitable experience for everyone living in the real society.As long as you have the right way of thinking, troubles will naturally leave you.As long as you take action, setbacks will eventually turn into successes.

10 Stimulate your nerves with victories
In work and life, in addition to thinking and analyzing, we also need to be bold and act immediately.When the time to act comes, don't hesitate.

In 1946, a young man named G. W. Castro in Niagara Falls, Canada, retired from the army and returned home.He soon found a job as a mechanic for Ontario Hydro.After working steadily and happily for 18 months, one day the boss told Castro good news—he would be promoted to be the foreman of the heavy diesel machinery in the factory.

I was worried.I had been a happy mechanic, and now I was a poor foreman.Responsibilities weighed down on me.Anxiety is always with me, whether I am awake or asleep, at home or in the factory.

Finally, the major emergency that I have been worrying and dreading happened: all 4 tractors were broken.I was there and my whole head was about to explode.After hastily reporting the news, I waited for the roof to collapse on top of me.

Later, the roof did not collapse.My boss said something to me with a big smile on his face.Even if I live to be 1000 years old, I will never forget that sentence: "Fix them!"

My worries, fears, and anxieties melted away instantly, and the world turned upside down and looked the same again!I went out, picked up my tools, and started working on the machine.That beautiful line, "Fix 'em," was a turning point in my life that changed the way I approach work, and since then, I've thanked that boss every day and worked enthusiastically.I made this determination that if anything went wrong, I would find a way to fix it, not just worry.

Thanks to his superior common sense, G.W. Castro learned maturity—the ability to act when necessary.

Making decisions and implementing them is part of maturity.Of course, we have to study and analyze the problem, but we have to be clear about the solution to the problem.

Many are afraid to take up the responsibility of making decisions and carrying them out.For them, the fear of being blamed for going wrong is far more influential than the hope of success.As a result, they try to avoid responsible situations as much as possible, and even when they have to make decisions, they will instead fall into a fog of worry, panic, and hesitation.The inner conflicts and tensions caused by such delays in necessary action are likely to, and often do, lead to physical and mental breakdown.

This can be overcome by forcing yourself to do what you fear.Lucky is he who learns this at a young age.

Otto G. Stankamp of Indianapolis, Indiana, is one of those lucky ones.Not only did he know the value of definite action, but he also knew how to teach his own children in ways his sons will never forget.

Tyler Steinkamp was beaten by a neighbor's kid Wang when he was 12 years old, so he decided to stay at home and not go out, which was safer.

A few days later, Taylor's father gave him some money to go to the movies and buy ice cream as a reward for helping mow the lawn.Tyler took the money his father gave him, but he didn't go to the movies—which was usually his favorite—for fear of meeting the kid who beat him.

"My father asked me if I was sick," said Tyler Steinkamp, ​​"and I just faltered. The next evening I ventured out into the alley to play billiards. Then I saw my enemy—and when He looked almost as terrifying as the giant Felistine that David killed in the Bible—rushing at me. I ran like hell into my garage, out of breath, frozen with fright— Then I found myself face to face with my dad. He asked me what the hell I was doing and I weakly explained that we were playing hide and seek. That's when a voice from the alley said, "Come out, you coward. "

"My dad came over with a thick car belt about two feet long, and told me calmly that if I didn't go out and face the little boy in the alley, I had to hide in the garage and wear the belt. Since I hesitated too much It's been a while, so the belt is on my ass, and it hurts more than a fist in a fight.

"I came out of the garage like a cannonball and I hit the guy by surprise. The first time I punched him, he wasn't prepared for it, so I hit him hard and fast and I pushed him out of the alley.

"The next few days were some of the happiest I can remember from my childhood. I reaped the rewards of courage and regained my self-esteem. And I learned a truth I've cherished for a long time."

Making a decision and acting on it is one of the elements of protecting yourself.Although life for most people, most of the time, proceeds according to routine.But no one can predict when an emergency will occur, so acting quickly, weighing the available options, and choosing the best one to put into practice may one day be the difference between life and death for us and for us.

This happened in the life of Al Bysop.His family lives in Springfield, Ohio. Once, the Bysops and their 3-year-old daughter were driving to spend Christmas and encountered a heavy snowstorm. The cars on the highway were forced to stop. They wanted to adjust Turning back, but the road behind was also blocked by the wind and snow.

"We waited for an hour anxiously," recalls Mr. Bysop. "The night was falling, the weather was getting colder, and the wind was blowing snow onto our car in gusts. It was piling up. I looked at my wife and daughter. , I knew we had to figure something out if we wanted to survive."

"I figured we had passed a farmhouse not too far away and would have been saved if we got there. I carried my little girl and started walking through the snow, which was a very hard walk. I got stuck up to my waist in snow , a hard trek. But we did it!"

"We spent the next 24 hours in the farmhouse, which was a safe haven for us and 33 other people who were also caught in the storm. If we got caught and didn't act in time, we would all die tragically in the cold in the snowdrifts."

Yes, there are situations that require something more than thought and analysis, and only bold, immediate action is the way to go.

When the time to act comes, don't worry, don't procrastinate, don't make any excuses.Let's pick ourselves up and get into action!
(End of this chapter)