Do it and you can beat procrastination

Chapter 29 Your Time is Yours: Super Time Management (2)
There are many reasons for doing everything by yourself, the main ones are: firstly, you don’t know the art of time management, that is, you don’t know how much time you have, and you take over too much work to yourself whether you are competent or not, and you can do some unimportant chores by yourself Whether it is worth it, I don't know that my task is to lead the overall situation instead of doing it myself.The second is to demand others according to their own behavior patterns, mistakenly focusing on performance and ignoring results.Again, I only see saving time for one thing at a time. I only see that doing it myself can save the time of supervision, inspection and explanation. I don’t see that once I let others do it, I don’t need to do it myself when I encounter similar tasks. , which ultimately buys itself more time.So if you want to manage your time better, you can't have the idea of ​​doing everything yourself.Otherwise, you will lose the joy of life, and the heavy work will make you do nothing at all.

3. Do not know how to control desires

Everyone has interests and preferences, and they like to do things they are interested in and enjoy doing them. The younger you are, the stronger this preference is.You may have this feeling. When you are fascinated by a wonderful novel, you will not let go of the book, regardless of other things;At work, if there are several things in front of you to choose from, you will often choose the one you are interested in, and sometimes ignore whether it is urgent and important.These behaviors that first satisfy your own desires often cause you to fall into a time trap, delaying the things that should be done, causing delays in the entire plan.

Therefore, in order to overcome the time trap, we must work hard to cultivate self-discipline and get rid of bad habits.Be able to resist the temptation of interest preferences, even if the ongoing activities are so pleasant, you should stop when they are over; even if there are things you are willing to do, as long as they are not so urgent and important compared with other things, You should let it go without hesitation.You know, instead of procrastinating unpleasant things and making them even more unpleasant in the future, it is better to finish them as soon as possible, put them in the back of your mind, and be happy and relaxed.

If you want to control your desires, you must improve your self-discipline, which is the key to time management.The strength of self-discipline is not only an important sign to distinguish the strength of an ability, but also a "watershed" between extraordinary people and mediocre people.

4. Hesitant to do things
Indecision is an important reason for wasting time and reducing efficiency.Deep and prudent people, lacking a certain spirit of adventure, always want to think about problems as carefully as possible, always think about work and other conditions before doing it, the specific manifestations are resourceful but not decisive, longer than planning but later than action, Many things have been delayed for a long time, and the result is often delayed opportunities.

Usually such people worry too much about the future, spend a lot of time planning things that are too far away, and think that the things in front of them are a foregone conclusion, and don't start from the moment.However, thinking about the future too early will only make you develop the habit of hesitation and procrastination, and your own few decisive impulses will be wiped out. In "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms", the story of Zhuge Liang setting up an empty city plan to retreat Sima Yi wisely, it is said that Sima Yi hesitated, lost the opportunity, and gave the Shu army time to retreat.Indecision is a taboo of time management. Usually, the longer a difficult decision is delayed, the more difficult it will be to make a decision, which will also bring sequelae.By the time things get to the point where you have to make a decision, the time to take precautions against possible problems is lost.

5. Not paying attention
Some people don't cherish time and take an indifferent attitude to pass it casually. This is a manifestation of lack of value in life.What he often says in his mouth is: what to do?To pass the boring time.And in terms of time management, even ambitious people sometimes lose time due to carelessness.Therefore, if you want to pursue high efficiency, you must pay special attention to the traps that are set for you by carelessness.

In life and work, there are many traps of "casual camouflage", which happen anytime and anywhere, just around you.A newspaper in the United States once described it.For example, it took a long time to find things when they were used because they were misplaced; because they misremembered the time, they delayed what should be done; Watching the excitement; because I heard two people talking about yesterday's game, I also want to express my opinion; because I am so excited about playing chess, I have to compare myself with my opponent, and I have forgotten all other things.Your time is swallowed up by these usual things, and your work plan is often postponed again and again because of this.

Therefore, if you want to be a good person, you should arrange them into your time schedule and implement them.High achievers do exactly that.

6. Overemphasis on social etiquette

In life and work, interpersonal communication takes up a lot of time. The more accomplished a person should be, the more attention should be paid to this. If such activities are done improperly, time will be wasted, as is the case with excessive social etiquette.

Etiquette social activities take up a lot of people's time. Welcoming and sending off at airports, stations and wharfs, and handshakes in hotels and restaurants. If you can simplify and focus on reality, you will save yourself more precious time and do more important things.

In social interaction, meeting guests takes up a lot of people's time, some are for work, some are for etiquette, and some are for rest.In order to seize the time, for working meetings, it should be less polite and start discussions on substantive issues as soon as possible, which is beneficial to both parties.In some European countries, the work lunch that was popular in the past is disappearing and replaced by a faster-paced work negotiation method.Former German Chancellor Adenauer treasured his time very much. When he was the mayor of Cologne, in order to avoid politeness, he specially hung a motto with a frame on the wall behind his desk: "Please speak simply and clearly. , don’t talk nice words! Whoever takes up our time is stealing from us, and you shouldn’t be stealing!”

In addition, talking in a social environment is endless, going all over the place, or always trying to figure out every detail, which will also take up a lot of time.Among them, both parties are eloquent out of etiquette and to express enthusiasm, or it may be that the other party has nothing to do to kill time.In this regard, it is necessary to grasp the principle of enough is enough, give polite hints to the other party, and end the meaningless conversation without losing the opportunity.It should be clear that friendliness and politeness are not measured in conversation time.

In order to escape the time trap in social interaction, many accomplished people often adopt the method of "thanking guests behind closed doors" or finding another quiet room for a certain period of time, so that they can concentrate their energy for a period of time and enjoy themselves in a place free from external interference. Under certain circumstances, complete the work that takes a long time to do well.If you lack the courage to escape and indulge in entertainment, some work will be interrupted and restarted again and again, and efficiency will be out of the question.

Avoid getting bogged down in trifles

If you carefully calculate the time of each day and your itinerary, it is not difficult to find that about one-third of the time may be busy with some trivial matters.

For example, washing face, hair, laundry, eating, wiping the floor, etc., for an ordinary person, these chores can be done after work.But for a person who wants to achieve something, it cannot be limited to [-] hours of working time to do work.Only by spending more working hours than ordinary people can we do better than ordinary people and thus gain more than ordinary people.

Almost all the eminent men in history spent very little time on trifles.For example, when Mrs. Curie first got married, the layout of her home was very simple.Mrs. Curie's parents wrote to say that they wanted to buy a dining table for them as a wedding gift, which would come in handy when inviting guests to eat at home.

However, Mrs. Curie politely wrote and declined.The reason is simple. She thinks that there is no time to treat guests to dinner, not even time to meet guests, so there is no need to set up a dining table. Besides, after having a dining table, she must spend time cleaning the dust every day, which will affect her life. experiment.

Mrs. Curie and many other celebrities use the time of other people to do trivial things, in order to achieve their own goals, reduce unnecessary trivial matters, and maximize the value of their time.

You should also minimize meaningless and worthless trivia, merge what can be merged, and resolutely not do what can not be done, and everything will serve to achieve your work goals.

· Good at self-control, don't waste time
In life, if you can let your own temperament do what you do, that would be great.But the problem is that no one is the only one in the world, you can do whatever you want, and it is impossible for others to exist for you and obey you.Therefore, an excellent person knows how to restrain himself, restrain his emotions, and restrain his temper.Self-restraint is actually a kind of self-discipline, which is an essential ability for a successful person.In daily life, everyone can feel that their thoughts and behaviors are restricted by society all the time.At the same time, as long as they are normal people, most of them are accustomed to accepting the normative requirements of social customs, morals, laws and systems, and restraining their behavior in order to keep in line with social requirements.This consistency of heteronomy and self-discipline is an important guarantee for the smooth development of the business.

The famous French writer Dumas had such an experience. When he was young, he fell in love with Marie du Plessy, a famous Parisian prostitute.Marie du Plessy was originally a peasant girl, forced by life, unfortunately became a prostitute.Dumas was overwhelmed by her charming face and wanted to save her from a depraved life, but her annual expenses were 15 francs, and just to buy her gifts and various expenses, Dumas borrowed 5 francs debt.He found that he was on the verge of bankruptcy, and his reason finally defeated his emotions. He made a decisive decision and wrote a letter of disengagement to Marie Du Plessy, severing contact with her.Later, Dumas wrote a novel based on Mary's life experience - "La Traviata", which caused a sensation in Paris, and Dumas became famous in one fell swoop.Reason enabled Alexandre Dumas to overcome his own desires, and self-control enabled him to rein in the precipice and overcome the fetters of emotion.

Learning self-control is the key to success and happiness for everyone.The things that everyone usually encounters are big or small, indirect or direct, and there are not many matters involving principles. There is no need to haggle over some trivial matters, especially emotional ones.For example, a colleague in the unit talked about his own views on human rights in the United States. Although his views are too biased, you don’t need to argue with him emotionally. It is very likely that your one or two sentences It just hurt the relationship between the two, it's really unnecessary.

As a person who wants to achieve something, he must learn self-discipline in practice and learn to be good at self-restraint. This is a necessary prerequisite for gaining a lot of time and successfully enriching and developing himself.

·Go your own way and let others waste their time
Some people's comments are more pertinent and frank, while others are different, just making irresponsible remarks on others.

There are of course different attitudes towards the very different evaluation characteristics of these two kinds of people.Some people laughed it off; some people were very happy for the good evaluation, but very annoyed when they slandered their own evaluation.What is advocated here is the first attitude: laugh it off.Whether the reviews are good or bad, don't take them too seriously.As for the pertinent evaluation, it is good to listen to it. After all, it is an affirmation of yourself, which means that you did not do it in vain; as for the slanderous evaluation, don't feel sad about it.There are all kinds of people, and some people are naturally jealous, which you can't change no matter what.Since you can't change it, why bother.

When Edison invented the incandescent light bulb, he did not know how many times he failed. Others said: "This kid is crazy." But Edison seemed to have not heard it. He still did his own thing and finally succeeded. Everyone exclaimed: "This kid is so great!" But Edison still didn't hear it, and he continued his other invention calmly as always.

Edison's attitude towards evaluation is worth learning and learning from everyone.I have my own views on things and life. If I can affirm and believe in my own views, why should I care what others say?Life is short, and you don't have much time. It would be unwise to spend this little time on evaluating others.A wise choice is to use your own actions to change the status quo. In the final analysis, the results are for yourself, and you can only do it by yourself.Although others can see your achievements, they cannot make achievements for you.

So, don't pay too much attention to what others say, even if it is an unfriendly attack.Go your own way and let others waste their time.

·Take care of yourself and don't listen to other people's privacy

In society, there are often people who complain that they don't have enough time. They often spend a lot of time inquiring about other people's privacy, but they don't realize that this is also a waste of time.

In fact, inquiring about other people's privacy can be said to be the most stupid waste of time.Because inquiring about other people's privacy is of no benefit to oneself or others.It is bound to spend a lot of unnecessary time to inquire about other people's privacy.Privacy, because it is very seductive, just satisfies the weakness of human curiosity. Knowing the first point, you want to know the second point, and knowing the second point, you want to know more. If you continue to inquire like this, there is no end. Don't know how much time will be wasted.And once the privacy of this person is known, those who listen to the privacy will inevitably have a potential view of this person, and this view is likely to be distant or even opposite to the previous view.Once you have this kind of "deep view", maybe you will have a sense of "pride" and "sense of accomplishment": "Huh, you think you can hide it from me?" So the interest in inquiring about other people's privacy is even stronger.He also thinks it's no big deal for the price of prying into privacy - time, and even dismisses it.In his opinion, other people's privacy seems to be much more interesting than work achievements.

When a person has a certain potential view of others, he has a sense of distrust and subconscious resistance to others.This kind of mistrust and confrontation, although not on the surface, is much worse than it appears on the surface, and it is a major culprit of low productivity.

And once others know that someone inquires about their privacy, it is difficult to ensure that they will not get angry, so that the relationship between the two will suddenly become tense, and even turn their faces. This kind of example happens all the time in life.

Everyone has privacy, and keeping one's privacy is a need for one's self-esteem and a manifestation of one's personal dignity. If others inquire about your privacy, you will definitely be unhappy.In the same way, if you inquire about other people's privacy, others will be unhappy.So, if you like to inquire about other people's privacy, you must work hard to get rid of it now.

First, realize that it is immoral to inquire about other people's privacy, which is no different from stealing other people's personal belongings.Secondly, put yourself in other people's shoes and think about it. You can switch the positions of the two people, so that the person who snoops on the privacy will feel ashamed of his behavior.Finally, think carefully about the consequences of inquiring about other people's privacy: what good will it bring you, other than satisfying idle curiosity, wasting precious time, and destroying hard-won friendship? More "benefits".What pain does it cause others?If you think about it this way, those who listen to privacy will be responsible for their actions.

You know, there is a price to pay for any wrong move.

·Simple life, not slavery
In modern society, you should strive to simplify your own life, and never turn yourself into a slave to objects, and let these human creations swallow up your free time.

(End of this chapter)