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Chapter 110 The Law of Attraction 5
Volume 1 Chapter 5 Law of Attraction [-]
Don't dwell on looking back on the past
If you look back at your life and focus on past difficulties, you will only create more difficulties for your present self.Let it all go, whatever it is.

--"secret"

Dwelling on the past doesn't do people any good.There's nothing anyone can do about what happened in the past, so why bother moping about irremediable regret?

The past has passed, no matter success or failure, no matter success or loss, it has become yesterday's memory.A wise person can always firmly control the present, instead of hovering in the irreparable past.Past experience and lessons, achievements and brilliance can all be kept in mind, but people must live in the present after all.

Kerr was very frustrated because he failed to complete a very important task assigned to him by his boss due to a series of mistakes at work.Regret and loneliness bound his heart like a rope.So Cole decided to visit his friend Charles.Charles is an excellent therapist, and Cole hopes to get help from him.

In Charles' clinic, Cole poured out his troubles.Charles did not directly tell him the solution, but took out a tape and stuffed it into the recorder.

"On this tape," said Charles, "there are three patient accounts. I won't tell you their names, of course, but listen to them and see if you can pick out the common factors in all three cases. .Remember, only four words."

Cole listened carefully. The three voices on the tape didn't sound very happy.The first is the voice of a man who is distressed by the loss of his business; the second is a woman who has been unable to get married because she has been taking care of her widowed mother for a long time. She said that she has missed many times in the past ten years. A chance to marry; the third woman is a mother whose son is being punished for having confronted the police in the street and is deeply disturbed by her failure to discipline her son.

In these three voices, Cole heard them use four words, "if, only" six times in total.

"You must be amazed," said Charles. "I hear thousands of guilty words every day that begin with those words. They keep talking until I tell them to stop. Sometimes I will Ask them to listen to the tape you just listened to, and I said to them: "If, as long as you don't say if, only, maybe we can solve the problem!" The doctor paused and continued, "These words not only Can’t change what’s been done, and it can lead us in the wrong direction—backwards instead of forwards, it’s just a waste of time. If you use these words as a habit, they will become obstacles to your success Obstacles become an excuse for you not to try harder.”

"Now take your own example. Your plan didn't work out, why? Because you made some mistakes. What does that matter! Everyone makes mistakes, and mistakes teach us. But before you tell I mean, you made mistakes, and when you regret this and that, you don't learn from those mistakes."

"How do you know?" Cole defended himself in a low voice.

"Because," said Charles, "you're not out of the past tense, and you don't say a word about the present. In some ways, you're very honest, and you still enjoy it in your heart. There's something wrong with each of us. Good bug, like to talk about past mistakes over and over again. Because after all, when recounting past disasters or setbacks, you are still the main character, you are still the central person in the whole thing..."

Under the enlightenment of Charles, Cole finally realized that he was immersed in the shadow of past misses, hadn't really gotten out of himself, and failed to change the current situation with a positive attitude.

As Charles said, people who dwell on the past and deny the present and the future always love to use words like "if" that have no practical meaning.But the so-called "if" does not exist, nor can it bring them any spiritual comfort and real relief, but it is easy to fall into the pathology of "nostalgia".

People suffering from this "nostalgia disease" will lose the confidence to pursue a new life.This kind of heavy emotion not only cannot change the past, but will affect the present.Finish each day's work and let the day pass!As long as you've done your best, you may still make some mistakes, but don't always take them to heart.

The past things may be beautiful or sad, but in any case you can't put them on the altar of the soul, because you can't walk into history.Don't delay your progress by looking back at the past, start each day with a positive attitude.Say to yourself every day: "This is a new beginning, today is the most beautiful and important day." And in this kind of meditation, forget yesterday's sorrow, and go on the road with hope.

(End of this chapter)