Your waywardness must be worthy of your ability

Chapter 9 Your Conceit and Pride Should Be Worthy of Your Hard Work and Dedication (3)
In fact, one or two occasional failures on the road of life are not as terrible as we imagined, and there is no need to lose the courage to challenge opportunities because of this.Xiao Chen failed the college entrance examination, did not enter a decent school, and was not successful in finding a job. He did not get a decent job, but he also relied on his own efforts to challenge opportunities, change his life, and reap happiness.

Because our life can only go once, if we can't bravely challenge the opportunity and face failure with strength, who can succeed for us? !
Don't want to compromise, you try to improve yourself

Have you ever had an unbearable low point in your life?Do you wish you could one day stand out?Don't want to compromise with fate, only hard work can do it!
As the saying goes, a strong man has a strong man, and every mountain is as high as another.No matter what you do, there will always be people who are better than you.What's even more frightening is that these excellent people often work harder than you.To do things well, you have to work harder.If you don't want to let yourself go on doing nothing like this, then you should work hard to improve yourself!
Many motivated people are serious when they are studying, and they still do not forget to work hard to improve themselves after work.While working diligently, I don’t forget to either take more vocational qualification certificates, or study self-examination or on-the-job college.These practices are all for self-improvement.

We know that even people in the wealthiest areas work in low-paying jobs.And even people in the poorest areas have achieved satisfactory heights through their own efforts.

Speaking of this, the author thinks of a familiar friend.He was born in the countryside. He was mischievous since he was a child, and he didn't like reading. When he was in high school, he even hung out with social youths.When he was 16 years old, he was arrested by the public security organ for participating in group fights and filed a case for intentional injury.After many times of voluntary compensation by the family, the victim's written understanding was obtained.The procuratorate also thought that since he was still young, he would be released on bail pending trial.

According to the general situation, this child is ruined. He has been regarded as a "reform through labor prisoner" by his classmates and friends. How will he live in the future? Will he continue to be degraded?His father thought of a special way to temper him. He sent him to a snack bar run by his relatives in Inner Mongolia as an apprentice, and told him not to go home until he made a name for himself.

His father's idea was very simple. The folk customs in Inner Mongolia were tough, and all men were good at fighting. Where would he dare to fight and cause trouble?Moreover, the unfamiliarity of life in other places can also save him from being ridiculed and stared at.

After going to work, he learned to think differently and be eloquent in the process of serving customers, and his previous spoiled temper was tempered.

In the dead of night, he remembered what his father said, and remembered how he was despised and ridiculed by habitual criminals in the detention center, so he made up his mind to make a name for himself.In the snack bar, he never slackens, he works as a waiter and a knife maker, and he asks the master chef how to cook when he has nothing to do.

Three years later, he recruited a master chef and opened a snack bar by himself. He was busy with other things, and his entrepreneurial journey began.Unexpectedly, due to poor management and other reasons, the snack bar could not continue and had to close its doors hastily.

what to do?Go back to other snack bars to work?No.He bravely applied for a job in the hotel, started as a waiter foreman, and slowly grew up in the hotel.Another three years later, six full years away from home, he became the deputy general manager of that hotel, and then he went home to see his parents.

When I knew him, I heard him talk about the experience of pulling a cart to buy goods in the cold wind of tens of degrees below zero and cleaning the floor of the snack bar with freezing water. Compromise in dreams and stand the test can make progress step by step and achieve amazing results.In fact, almost everyone will have one or another unsatisfactory, and even various encounters and disasters come unexpectedly, but in any case, you should not give up on yourself, and do not settle for difficulties and bad luck.You work hard to see a better version of yourself in the end.Efforts can make the poor become rich, make the lost find the right way, make the prodigal son wash his hair and change his face, and make you feel worthy of life after many years.

Go to the difficult place, don't complain, let alone give up

Complaining will only drive away good luck, and giving up will only accomplish nothing.

Among the parents' friends, there is Aunt Li's daughter Yanyan who has always been a legend, which is what parents love to mention "other people's children".What I heard the most when I was a child was: Yanyan was admitted to a university in Beijing, Yanyan won a high scholarship, Yanyan went to Japan to study, etc.

In my life, the word Yanyan has been one of the words I am most afraid of hearing for a long time.I found out later that she only lived a particularly glorious life in the legend, but in fact, Yanyan did not have a good life in Beijing or Japan.But she never complained and never gave up her efforts, which is why she got what she is today.When talking about this, Yanyan half-jokingly said: Because complaining will not only drive away good luck, but also scare away those who originally wanted to help you.

In fact, Yanyan’s family environment is not good. Her father often stays out at night because of her hobby of gambling, and her mother, Aunt Li, not only goes to work, but also helps others to do some manual work to earn a meager income to supplement the family.Because of these, Yanyan has been very sensible since she was a child, and she never needs her family to worry about her studies.

After being admitted to university, Yanyan also hopes to reduce the burden on her mother by her own ability.When she first went to Beijing, Yanyan wanted to go to KFC for a part-time job, but after asking her, she found out that usually such part-time waiters are only recruited by people with Beijing household registration.

A month passed quickly, and this was the first time Yanyan left home, and she began to miss her parents very much.At that time, mobile phones were not as fashionable as they are now, and because Yanyan's family was in a difficult situation, she didn't even have a phone installed, so she could only write a letter to reassure her family.The days of waiting for the reply letter are long and full of expectations, but when I see the words and sentences of my parents in the reply letter, life is difficult.Yanyan was very sad.She can only write back to comfort her parents: she has won a scholarship, so they don't have to worry too much.

But the truth is, Yanyan didn't have any job at the time, and the living expenses her parents gave her were already stretched.Soon another month passed, and there was no sign of part-time jobs or income.But Yanyan has no place to complain, let alone time to complain.In order to reassure her parents, she has stopped letting them send living expenses over.Because she knew that she had no choice, and her family's finances had long been overwhelmed. She didn't complain, but faced it with a smile, because life still had to go on.

Because Yanyan was young and didn't graduate from college, she repeatedly encountered obstacles when looking for a part-time job. Finally, Yanyan found a job.The title of this job is nicely called an education consultant. At the beginning, Yanyan’s idea was very simple: she has a good foundation, so she must be more than enough to be a tutor for ordinary children, and life with a group of children should be simple and full of fun.

The first few days of training were all about how to teach, which was not difficult.However, when she officially started working, she realized that the position of education consultant was actually a part-time salesperson.Whether a person's performance is good or not, and how much salary he can get depends on the professional ability of the educational consultant-the ability to find students and money.If you can't complete the task, you will be persuaded to quit, that is, fired.

Thinking of this long-term salary, Yanyan hardly knew how difficult the road ahead was, but she didn't complain, let alone give up, because she knew that only by persisting could she survive.Even in such a difficult situation, Yanyan smiled and said to her parents on the phone that she was fine.

Because Yanyan doesn't need to send living expenses from her family, Yanyan's parents used the saved money to install a landline phone so that her daughter can contact them conveniently.

Fortunately, Yanyan's hard work has finally paid off: the parents of the students like this consultant teacher who is always smiling, and when they know that she is still a student in a famous school, they feel relieved to entrust their children to her educate.This kind of word-of-mouth praise is much better than Yanyan's handing out leaflets on the street. She actually managed to finish the task at the end of the month and got the first month's salary. Yanyan herself couldn't remember how she survived the years.But when talking about these past events, Yanyan would always say with a smile, in fact, it's not that difficult, she is very lucky, and always meets noble people.

Yanyan has walked so hard all the way, she never complained in front of anyone, because it was meaningless.When she returned from working in Japan, she brought nearly one million in savings.After returning to China, she opened a small hotel in our local area and established an online booking platform.

Because we are a tourist city here.The market prospect of opening a hotel is still very hot.But there is a problem that has become crucial, that is, Yanyan has never been in this industry before, and she doesn't know what kind of place customers want to live in when they leave home to be most satisfied.What she thought at first was that she, who had been wandering for many years, returned to her hometown to have a career of her own, and then she could take care of her parents.

However, once you start to do it, you will find many problems. It cannot meet the high standard of hygiene requirements, and eating is also a problem... Finally, Yanyan thought of a very humane advertisement, a relatively exquisite accommodation environment, and she gets along well with the tenants These photos make people feel that choosing her hotel during the trip will not only solve the problem of accommodation and meals, but also get the most authentic recommendations and help from the locals.

However, the decoration of the hotel and the advertising expenses were all thrown out like running water. In the most difficult time, Yanyan had less than 1 yuan in deposits, and the salary of the employees for that month had not been paid at that time, and she almost wanted to cry.

Parents asked her with concern: Is the business okay?Shall we go out and borrow some?

How could she have the heart to let the old man go out and borrow money for her?So she still didn't complain, just smiled and said she was fine.It is impossible for her to give up, because once she gives up, the previous investment will be considered in vain.

Yanyan visited travel agencies one by one, hoping to receive some business.When describing the situation at that time, Yanyan's eyes are now flushed.She was very lucky, because she finally got the first batch of customers from the travel agency.But it's time to pay wages, and the customers of the travel agency have not yet settled, and the money has not yet been received.She was really afraid that all the employees would walk away because they didn't pay their wages, and all the customers she had managed to pick up would be in vain.At that time, Yanyan felt that she was about to collapse, but she still invited all the employees to dinner with a smile, and told everyone the predicament, saying that if the employees wanted to leave, she would not complain and would find a way to settle the wages to everyone. I hope Everyone can accompany her to persevere, and don't give up the hotel they built together.Fortunately, her sincerity moved everyone, and the employees understood her, and everything gradually got on the right track.

Yanyan never complained to anyone, and never said to give up, because she had no way out.In her words, other people's retreat is home, and her retreat is already the Yangtze River.What if she can't afford the family and the debt her parents have incurred for her education?So when everyone saw that her life was getting better and better, she still had such an apologetic smile on her face, and when she was living a difficult life in Japan in the past, she also went back to China to visit her relatives once, and her face was also so timid at that time Laugh timidly.No one knew that at that time she lived in a cubicle of only about three square meters, which was so small that it couldn't fit a table except for a bed.

Some people say that a woman who can laugh is blessed, because everyone likes her and is willing to help her, so she will naturally have good luck, that's why Yanyan succeeded.

I don't think so, Yanyan's success is not a bit of luck, it all stems from her own hard work and persistence.Everyone likes her because no matter how difficult she is, she will bloom like a sunflower, never complain, and never give up.

Any suffering, you need to face it yourself
If you pin all your hopes on others, you will only end up with disappointment and greater harm and pain.

The so-called suffering refers to events and situations that cause great pain to the mind and body of a person.Life is full of suffering, but all these can only be faced by oneself.

Because no one can really understand other people's misfortune.I still remember reading a book about a girl. There was a girl in the United States named Diana. She had a wish since she was a child to become a skier.In order to achieve this wish, she has been learning to ski since she was five years old. Everything went well, but an unexpected misfortune came to her when she was 12 years old-the doctor announced that she had bone cancer and had to amputate her right leg!Bone cancer, the right leg needs to be amputated!When such bad news came, Diana's first reaction was - what about my favorite skiing?Everyone knows that skiing is a sport that has always required a high level of balance. Once you lose your right leg, how can you maintain your balance?

However, in order to survive, Diana has no choice. The cancer cells are spreading day by day. If the delay continues, even her life may be lost.After the operation, Diana was not discouraged even though she had only one leg left. She still practiced skiing diligently and dreamed of becoming a world-class skier.Everyone thought it was an impossible task when they saw her staggering there with the ski equipment.

However, Diana was not knocked down, she was still actively practicing.One-foot skiing is not an easy task, because a good sense of balance must be trained.Diana said that once she slipped and fell while sliding down the hill quickly, the ski on her foot was thrown 80 meters away on the hillside.The two ski poles, gloves, goggles, hat and wig, which were equipped with small skateboards to help balance, also fell everywhere.She was bald, lying on the snow, wanting to cry, because she was still undergoing cancer chemotherapy at that time, and her hair had really fallen out long ago.

But Diana faced all this bravely. When she fell, she would deliberately laugh and scream: "Help, my leg is gone! Help, it's over! My hair has fallen out!"

In the desperate situation that everyone sees, Diana always maintains such a black sense of humor, encouraging herself, even if she falls, she must bravely get up again!She believes that persistence is the glory of life, and she must constantly challenge herself, overcome fear, and never be defeated by bone cancer.

After more than ten years of hard work, she has completely overcome the obstacles of skiing, sliding down the hill at an amazing speed of 65 miles an hour, but the god of doom is still watching her!At the age of 30, Diana suffered from breast cancer again, and the doctor ruthlessly removed her two breasts.After waking up from the operation, Diana couldn't help crying because—one leg had been severed, why did God take away her breasts?is this fair

However, she once again faced life calmly and stood up bravely, because she knew that no one could help her regain her confidence in life except herself.Doctors can try their best to treat her physical diseases, but they can't help her face these spiritual pains.

Later, Diana became a speaker. She often shared her painful life experiences with everyone, and comforted everyone that no matter how much suffering you encounter, it is actually not a big deal, because these are the things you have to face in life.When talking to the audience about the double breast removal due to breast cancer in the past, she would laugh and say, "Hey, it's just a pair of breasts. Besides, it's not that big!" laughing out loud!Because everyone can't understand the sadness and pain behind Diana's words, and no one will see Diana's tears shed behind her back.

Life is like this, no one else can really understand any suffering except yourself.Any suffering must be faced by oneself.If you pin all your hopes on the sympathy or help of others, you will only reap disappointment and greater harm and pain in the end.

(End of this chapter)