Super top students: the most efficient learning method for top students

Chapter 55: Attitude Determines Your Score (1)
There is not much difference in people's qualifications: learning is a contest of mentality
The famous British writer Dickens said: "A healthy mind is more powerful than a hundred kinds of wisdom." The same is true for learning. Only by developing the habit of adjusting your mind can learning be even more powerful.A good attitude will make you confident in your studies, allow you to motivate yourself when you encounter difficulties in learning, and finally join the ranks of top students with excellent grades.

There is a teacher who is very close to the students and always advises the students to make the students' problems no longer difficult.Once he was asked: "Mr. Wang, what do you think is the key to excellent academic performance?"

"Two words - mentality."

Teacher Wang talked about an incident he experienced.

There was once a girl who took a mock exam before the college entrance examination.This test messed her up.At that time, it was a volunteer application before the exam. Every year in May, all the volunteers were finalized and entered into the computer.Because this student usually has good academic performance, her first choice was Tsinghua University.

In order to allow students to enter the atmosphere of the college entrance examination in advance, the girl's school found several sets of mock questions and gave them to the students to do. The math test paper with 150 points, the girl usually scores around 140 points, but when she did the math paper that time, she only got 100 points.The girl panicked, and the college entrance examination was less than a month away, but with so many problems in mathematics, she began to suspect that she would not be able to pass the Tsinghua University entrance examination. Instead of failing the Tsinghua University exam, it’s better to lower your grades and choose a lower school for yourself.” Her parents wanted to revise their application, but they didn’t succeed.

When the girl's family was anxious and depressed, they met Teacher Wang.After clarifying the situation, Teacher Wang decided to talk to the girl.

Teacher Wang said: "The college entrance examination is coming soon. Your problems in mathematics exist objectively. Do you admit this?"

The girl said, "Yes."

Teacher Wang continued: "The college entrance examination is only one month away. Mathematical problems are relatively constant. Do you admit this?"

The girl nodded again.

Teacher Wang said: "Under the premise that the questions you don't know have become a constant, do you want to expose as many questions as possible before the exam, or hide all the questions you don't know?"

The girl said: "Of course I hope that the more problems are exposed before the exam, the better."

Teacher Wang said: "It's a lucky thing to find out the questions you don't know before the exam. If you know the questions you don't know, you will encounter fewer difficulties in the exam room. If you can do every question before the exam , This is actually a waste of time and does not achieve the purpose of checking for omissions and filling in vacancies before the exam. You should be happy when you encounter problems that you don’t know at this time. As long as you overcome these problems that you don’t know, you will increase your winning chips. How can you doubt yourself if you don’t know how to do it?”

After listening to Teacher Wang's words, the girl said: "I understand." She left happily.In the end, she was admitted to Tsinghua University majoring in Applied Mathematics with a score of 30 points above the admission threshold.

There is not much difference in aptitude between people. The reason why some students can enter their ideal schools as they wish, while some students are rejected, is because of their mentality.A person with strength and a good attitude will surely win in the academic competition.In learning, we must be the masters of our mentality.

After a storm, the weather gradually cleared up.A spider that was knocked down by the wind and rain struggled to crawl towards the fragmented spider web in the corner.However, the walls wetted by the rain became extremely smooth, and the spider crawled hard on the wet wall. When it climbed to a certain height, it would suddenly fall down, but the spider did not give up because of this, it continued to climb again and again. Climb up, fall down again and again...

At this time, a person walked slowly by the wall. Seeing this situation, he couldn't help but think of his own life.He sighed, and said to himself: "Isn't my life like this spider? I fail again and again, and I am so stubborn to start all over again, but I am so busy and get nothing. What is the use of it?" ?” As a result, he became increasingly depressed and completely lost confidence in life.

The second person saw this scene and said regretfully: "This spider is really stupid. Why don't you go around and climb up from the dry place next to it? Not only saves time, but also saves effort. I can't be as stupid as it in the future." , You must learn to take shortcuts, so that you can live a chic life!" Later, he became smarter and knew how to think from the side.

The third person was moved by the spider's spirit of repeated defeats. "Despite being a tiny spider, he has an indomitable attitude to life," he thought.So he became stronger.

Have a good attitude in learning.Pessimistic students are easily overwhelmed by failure because they cannot see the positive side in their study and life. Every time they fail in an exam, their will will be depressed. Students with a good attitude are often more likely to succeed because they know how to think, learn The failure in business is only temporary. If you are good at absorbing the experience of failure, you will naturally embark on the road to success.Cultivating a good attitude will keep you moving forward in your academic career.

In the study and life, some students often feel depressed because of the failure of the exam, and feel inferior because their grades are not as good as others. So how should we avoid this negative attitude and actively devote ourselves to learning?Adjustments need to be made in the following aspects:
(1) Participate in more activities that you are good at to increase your self-confidence.For example, in cultural and sports activities, I gave full play to my own advantages, won honors for the class, and won unanimous praise from everyone, so that I can get out of the psychological trough and regain my self-confidence.

(2) Find the real reason for the failure.Only when you have a stable state of mind can you evaluate yourself objectively.By analyzing your performance before and during the exam, you can re-evaluate yourself. The evaluation itself can alleviate the psychology of failure and frustration. In the past, overestimating yourself caused failure. Now that you evaluate yourself correctly, the frustration will gradually disappear.On the other hand, finding the problem is also conducive to future study and life.

(3) When adjusting the negative and frustrated psychology, you can also learn to vent your inner unhappiness, such as finding a place where there is no one to cry, talking with your good friends, and participating in some physical activities, etc., which will make you feel better. people feel relaxed.Especially for introverted students, it is more important to learn to vent, and the feeling of inner failure and frustration will be relieved and eliminated in venting.

Catch up with No. 30 in the class: Self-confidence needs to be cultivated step by step
Two good friends were talking in the study room, and one said: "There are still 6 months before the senior high school entrance examination. I have failed in three major examinations in a row, and tomorrow I will have a monthly examination. I feel very nervous. I am afraid that I will fail the exam. "

"Well! I can understand this feeling. Don't put too much pressure on yourself this time. I know you didn't do very well in the exam before, but this time you just need to surpass the one in front of you. Do you have this confidence? ?”

"Yes, I can."

With the comfort of a good friend, the worries disappeared.

In real life, there are not many smooth sailings. There are often more difficulties than good times, more failures than successes, and the same is true in learning. Only confident people can make great strides on the road to success.However, after some students have been hit many times, it is difficult to develop self-confidence. At this time, they should not be anxious. Self-confidence must be cultivated step by step, so that they can finally win and effectively improve their academic performance.

After one child's grades dropped, he couldn't improve.The mother was very worried, so she went to consult an education expert. She said to the expert: "My child used to be the first in the class in the first and second grades of high school. Before the college entrance examination, he was still No. 5 in the class, but when he was the second model, he fell behind. He got out of the top 30 in the class, and then his ranking dropped again and again. We tried everything we could, but we couldn’t build up his self-confidence. The child is about to take the college entrance examination, what should we do?”

After hearing what the mother said, the education expert was very touched and said: "It's not that children nowadays don't want to be strong, it's not that they don't want to learn well, but because they are under too much pressure, the more critical they are, the more they can't stand the setbacks, and they will aggravate it a little bit. Stress, the student would have collapsed. I wanted to meet the kid in person."

The next day, the mother brought the child over, and the education experts asked him how he was doing.

He said: "My grades were very good until the third year of high school, but in the third year of high school, I fell down every time, so I felt that there was no hope at all."

An education expert said: "Life has troughs and climaxes, you are now 31, can you accept this trough."

He said, "Yes."

"After accepting this reality, what do you think you should do?"

"do not know."

"You should overtake the 30th in your class. As long as you can overtake him, you can overtake the 29th, so that there is one progress at a time. Well, overtake him, one step back, you will succeed, find One breakthrough, you can stand up, it's that simple."

The student said happily: "Teacher, it should be no problem for me to surpass him."

Later, while surpassing others step by step, this classmate also surpassed himself, and gradually built up his confidence in learning.As a result, he was admitted to Renmin University of China with the top 10 results in the college entrance examination.

Therefore, it is not terrible to lose confidence in learning. What is terrible is not daring to admit your failure.Only by acknowledging one's failure, finding a way, and improving step by step, can one regain self-confidence and achieve excellent results.

When we encounter setbacks in learning, it is inevitable to lose confidence. The key is to learn to regain confidence step by step in order to make progress in learning.Specifically how to do it, you can refer to the following points:
(1) We must see our own strengths.When you encounter a failure in an exam, you must think of the one with the highest score in your exam, so that you will see hope and motivate yourself to regain your confidence.

(2) Believe that you can learn well.Under the guidance of this awareness, find ways to improve the performance of each subject in a targeted manner.For example, science subjects need to learn theorems and concepts, while arts subjects focus on the understanding and memory of knowledge.

You won't always be number one: Putting scores and rankings in perspective
One day, Xiaowei complained to his good friend: "The mid-term exam results came down. I only got No. 5 in the exam, and my mother was unhappy. The teacher said I didn't study hard."

"You took the fifth place in Class 8 ([-]) of the High School Attached to Tsinghua University. It's really good."

While saying this, Xiaowei's mother came over.

"Congratulations, Auntie, Xiaowei is really great. He passed the class No.5."

"It's embarrassing to congratulate me. When he was in elementary school, he was the first in the exam every time, and his grades have fallen too far."

"Auntie, that's actually not the case. Being able to enter the High School Attached to Tsinghua University is already very good. When Xiaowei entered the High School Attached to Tsinghua University, the competitors he faces are all students with good grades. You can't always look at the rankings of elementary schools."

Speaking of this, Xiaowei's mother rushed over and said, "You don't understand. It has nothing to do with what school he went to. I think he doesn't work hard."

In fact, not only parents, but also many students always use scores and rankings as the yardstick for their progress.If the grades are slightly behind, I doubt my learning ability, and then set a very high goal for myself.If you encourage yourself with an unattainable goal, you will inevitably encounter setbacks, and in the end you will lose even a little confidence.

Using an incorrect scale to draw a wrong conclusion, and then using this wrong conclusion to prove that we are not good, is very detrimental to our good grades.

In the process of learning, we should treat scores and rankings correctly, and let them become the driving force to motivate us to move forward, rather than obstacles and pressure.

There is such a father whose son is in the third grade of elementary school.Dad never forces his children to be in the top of the class, but everyone is self-motivated, and his son is no exception.

One day the son said to his father: "I will be the top 10 in the class next time, do you believe it?"

Although the father knew that his son did not have such strength, he still wanted to protect the child's idea of ​​progress.So he said, "I think you can make it."

But unfortunately, the son failed to achieve his wish in the results of each exam.The good news is that the children's academic performance has improved every time.So after each exam, my son would say that he wanted to get in the top 10 in the exam.Dad still expressed his belief.

In this way, under the care of the father, the child realized that the ranking and score of the exam are not important, what is important is to make progress every time, as long as he can gain something in his studies, make progress, and enjoy the fun of learning.

If you blindly use the scores and rankings on the report card to judge whether you are excellent, and put yourself in the ranks of "losers" just for the poor scores, it is not so much a failure as a kind of self-defeat .We should let rankings and scores be the driving force to motivate ourselves and make ourselves better.

In fact, some students often feel sad because they failed to take the No.1 exam, and feel sad because they did not make progress in the grade ranking. In fact, these students did not correctly understand the true meaning of ranking and scores.

So, how should we understand scores and rankings?

(1) Carefully analyze your own learning situation and find out the worst possible situation.It is a good thing that the ranking has improved. If you fall behind in the ranking, don't lose your confidence in learning.The criticisms from teachers and parents just want us to learn better. As long as we communicate frankly with teachers and parents, all results are acceptable.

(2) The failure of the exam, although not so glorious in the study record, may make you lose interest in learning.This is the worst situation that arises, and you have to let yourself accept it first.This way we can relax and get into learning.

(3) Accept the worst-case scenario calmly, so that you can reduce the stress during the exam.Good scores and good rankings, sometimes let us get it with ease and pleasure.

Complacency is holding your learning back

(End of this chapter)