Super top students: the most efficient learning method for top students

Chapter 59

Learn to be confident and say to yourself: "I am the best!"

Self-confidence is a powerful driving force for us to succeed.In terms of learning, if we can establish a strong self-confidence, our learning will be half successful.

Shakespeare once said: "Confidence is the first step towards success, and lack of self-confidence is the reason for failure." If you are very confident in yourself, then your knowledge and talent will advance by leaps and bounds; If it doesn’t work, it will kill your courage to try, and you will end up with nothing.

Whether in study or in life, self-confidence plays a very important role for us.It can be said that self-confidence is the cornerstone of our success.With it, we can build our road to success and march toward a bright future unswervingly and without fear of difficulties and dangers.Therefore, as long as we build up strong self-confidence, our study has already been half done.

In 2002, the top scorer in science in Liaoning Province in the college entrance examination said in an interview: "In the final exam of the first semester of high school, I only scored 82 points in physics, and my classmates scored more than 90 points or even full marks everywhere. In science In my life, there is nothing more frustrating than poor physics. I remember that I was depressed for several days. Later, the physics teacher talked to me. I still remember clearly that he encouraged me and helped me to build up again. The situation of self-confidence, and it is this kind of confidence, made me re-invest in my studies with a positive attitude. In the second semester of the second year of high school, I won the first prize in the city's physics competition."

Self-confidence is a necessary psychological quality for success.For those students with excellent grades, there will never be those who are timid, timid, and lack of self-confidence among them.

American physicist Qian Zhirong once talked about his experience in middle school.He said that at that time, many students cheated in exams and did not seek to improve themselves.A teacher with a strong sense of responsibility selected 300 students from 60 students to form an "honor class", including Qian Zhirong.They were told that they were picked because of their prospects.These students were very happy about this, full of confidence in their future, and studied hard, and most of them made important achievements later.It was not until many years later, when Professor Qian met that teacher, did he know that these 60 students were randomly drawn!
It can be seen from this that when some students are told that they are "very promising", they have a strong self-confidence, so they have self-esteem, self-love, self-improvement and finally become useful.Therefore, self-confidence is a small seed, as long as it is discovered, it will always bear fruit.

Of course, don't be too confident.Like lack of self-confidence, blind self-confidence can lead to failure, and many students are like this.Overconfident people don't know when to admit mistakes or when to improve themselves.As a result, they cannot get the improvement they should have quickly.

So, how do you develop the habit of self-confidence?

1. Develop special talents
Special talents can boost self-confidence.We can cultivate some specialties according to our interests and hobbies, so that we can build up confidence by giving full play to our strengths.For example, although some students lack self-confidence, but can write good handwriting, they can learn calligraphy, pen calligraphy or brush calligraphy. As long as they are interested in learning, they will definitely do well.Let yourself understand that you are also capable, so as to cultivate self-confidence.Of course, we can also let others recognize our abilities by showing our strengths, which can increase our confidence even more.

We should understand that everyone has their own strengths. Although we are not as good as others in some aspects, we may surpass others in other aspects.At this time, you can also use positive self-suggestion for self-motivation, such as "I can do it", "I can learn calligraphy well, and I can definitely learn other things well", "I am really a master of composition".These positive self-suggestions can spread the good feeling about one particular thing to other things, so as to form a good self-feeling.

2. Consolidate self-confidence at any time
Consolidating confidence is an uninterrupted process. When you continue to succeed and build up confidence, you must not think that you are done, but you must continue to strengthen this self-confidence.Only through continuous consolidation can we truly build up self-confidence through our own continuous efforts.

It can be seen that it takes time and patience to consolidate self-confidence at any time.During this process, we should pay attention to the following principles: first, don't look down on yourself, so as not to be hit to varying degrees; second, don't overly value praise, so as not to feel proud.Only by properly encouraging yourself anytime, anywhere can you continuously increase your self-confidence.

When you encounter setbacks and failures, you should find out the reasons for the failures in time, encourage yourself to try again, and let your self-confidence be protected through continuous attempts.For example, if you break a bowl because you don't know how to wash it, don't blame yourself, but you should ask your parents and teachers to try not to make similar mistakes in the future.

We should stop blaming ourselves now.Blaming can only make you less and less confident, so when you encounter failure, you must not blame yourself, but calm down, think about the reasons for failure, and find solutions.

Overcoming Jealousy and Developing an Optimistic Mindset

Jealousy is a negative, harmful psychology.It can destroy interpersonal relationships, hurt the friendship between classmates, and even cause tragedy due to the venting of aggressive emotions.We must get rid of the entanglement of jealousy and cultivate our own broad mind.

The word "jealousy" is all too familiar to each of us.It is an unhealthy mental state and emotional reaction. When you see others are better than yourself, you will feel sour and unpleasant, so there is a feeling of hatred and envy, anger and resentment, humiliation and vanity, wounds and pain. The complex emotion of grief, that emotion is jealousy.

Envious people can't tolerate others surpassing themselves, and are afraid that others will get everything they can't get.In his view, others should not do what he cannot do, and others should not obtain what he cannot achieve.

In a sense, jealousy is a human nature. This kind of psychology is very common, not only in adults, but also in students, and even in children. It can be said that almost everyone has it, but the degree is different.Jealousy hurts others as well as oneself.Someone once said that jealousy does not know rest.It has the most lasting consumption and will directly affect people's physical and mental health.

Jealous people often look for troubles and become their own enemies.Jealousy brings inner pain, both tormenting oneself and tormenting others.Jealous people tend to be jealous, worried, and have poor relationships.The accumulation of various negative emotions can easily lead to the generation of psychological barriers.

Studies have shown that jealousy can cause endocrine disorders and gastrointestinal dysfunction; sleep quality will decrease, causing neurasthenia, and frequent backaches.Jealous people tend to be irritable, sensitive and suspicious.If the above-mentioned conditions cannot be effectively improved, they will be transformed into stable psychological characteristics of the individual, forming a bad personality that affects the smooth development of all aspects.

Jealousy is also very common among teenagers. For example, in studies, when you see classmates around you surpass yourself in grades, you will feel very uncomfortable; in terms of interpersonal communication, you will get angry when you see your friends interacting closely with others , Resentment; In terms of social evaluation, seeing others succeed and being praised, while oneself is unknown or fails, the heart will be filled with resentment and resentment.In addition, teenagers will also feel jealous because other people's appearance, material conditions, and daily necessities are better than themselves.

The heart of jealousy is very harmful to a person's growth. In order to prevent the formation of this bad mental habit and keep our mind in a balanced state, what should we do?
1. Correctly recognize other people's achievements

The emergence of jealousy is often caused by misunderstanding, that is, when someone achieves success, they think it is a negation of themselves, a threat to themselves, and damage to their "face".In fact, this is just a subjective conjecture.A person's success depends not only on his own efforts, but also on the help of others. The honor belongs to him as well as to everyone. People give him praise and honor without harming himself.

2. Turn jealousy into motivation for self-improvement

Once jealousy arises, it must be eliminated immediately to prevent it from causing trouble.This method needs to rely on being proactive, finding and developing one's own potential and strengths, so as to enrich life and achieve success.You are no less than your competitors.So Bacon said again: "Everyone who devotes himself to his career has no time to envy others."

3. Be good at self-knowledge and stay optimistic
As the saying goes: "Everyone has hard-to-recite scriptures." There are always unsatisfactory things in life. If you can't see other people's temporary success, you will feel that you are always inferior to others.When getting along with others, you don't have to compare your own shortness to others' strengths, which will lead to negativity, loss, and lead to jealousy, nor should your own strengths be shorter than others, thus becoming arrogant and arrogant, but should be comprehensive and objective.

4. Constantly enrich yourself, find new self-worth, and make up for the original unsatisfied desires
You must understand that no one is perfect, and no one will surpass others in all aspects. Even those students with excellent academic performance may not be better than others in every subject.Learn to find the gap, find out your own shortcomings to determine the direction of your future efforts, and also see your own advantages and strengths in the process of finding the gap, and consolidate, improve, and carry forward.

5. To cultivate noble sentiments
Those who are strong in jealousy are often not broad-minded.Teenagers with this personality are preoccupied with everything and are in an emotional state of complaining and injustice all day long.We should treat the things around us correctly, pay attention to our character cultivation, and develop the habit of being helpful.What's more noteworthy is that the strength of our parents' jealousy is closely related to our jealousy.

Generally speaking, parents who are open-minded and calm-minded will often form a more tolerant character when we are influenced by them; if our parents are narrow-minded, we will also be affected, so parents should be reminded to improve self-cultivation together with us.

"The bottom of my heart is selfless and the world is wide."Only by getting rid of the shadow of closed and narrow individualism and correcting one's own position can we get rid of the psychological toxin of jealousy, transform the negative and harmful jealousy into a positive motivation, and transform it into a modest and prudent mind that is kind to others.

Finally, we should know that everyone has their own unique learning methods, so there will be relatively large differences among students.You have to give full play to your own advantages on the basis of understanding your own characteristics, so that you can maximize your abilities and narrow the gap with others.

(End of this chapter)