Super top students: the most efficient learning method for top students

Chapter 68
From "networm" to "bookworm"

During the 2007 college entrance examination, there was a man named Zhang Fei who was dubbed a "gaokao genius". His media exposure rate was even higher than the top scorer in the college entrance examination.Zhang Fei once dropped out of Peking University and Tsinghua University because he was addicted to online games and did not earn enough credits. This year he took the college entrance examination for the third time and scored 677 points.

In 2003, after Zhang Fei was admitted to Peking University, he was persuaded to quit because he was obsessed with surfing the Internet and delayed his studies. In 2005, Zhang Fei became the No. 705 student in science in the Nanchong college entrance examination with a score of [-]. He went to Tsinghua University, but was persuaded to quit because of his deep involvement in online games.

In the 2007 college entrance examination, Zhang Fei was admitted to Tsinghua University with the No.2 score in science in Nanchong, Sichuan.From the above story, we can see how huge the "poison" caused by the obsession with the Internet is.

Teenagers' excessive obsession with the Internet has become a social problem that attracts the attention of parents all over the world. How to let their children get rid of "Internet addiction" has become a major concern for many parents.So do you know what kind of children are most susceptible to "Internet addiction"?How to be regarded as infected with "Internet addiction"?Why is your child infected with "Internet addiction"?How to let children avoid "Internet addiction" and break free from the "claw" of "Internet addiction"?In fact, this requires not only the help of parents, but more importantly, the efforts of children themselves.

Let's take a look at how the top student in the college entrance examination treats the Internet.

Xiao Wang, who is currently studying at Peking University, also became obsessed with computer games in the third year of junior high school, and his grades plummeted.Such a thing happened at this critical time, which made the parents anxious.At the beginning, the parents locked the computer in a strictly controlled manner, but seeing the child's lost soul, they felt that this radical approach was inappropriate.Later, under the guidance of an old teacher, they leniently allowed him to relax by playing computer games, but he had to coordinate the relationship between games and learning, and it was best to use the computer to learn something.

There is less interference from parents, and Xiao Wang, who is sensible, is more self-conscious than before. At the beginning, he played for a while, but the more he played, the more boring he felt, and he played less and less.

Shanxi liberal arts champion Hao Yu is a very rational and self-controlled student. He also has a computer at home, but he never chats or plays games online. He clearly understands that students have more important and interesting things to do and should not be wasted on them. time.If you have nothing to do, you can find a book to read, just like eating delicious food, you can not only enjoy the fun, but also absorb the nutrition of knowledge, why not do it?

He feels that computers and the Internet are of little help to his studies. It is better to read books, and the use of computers will also affect his learning efficiency.Therefore, Hao Yu's computer was idle there.

It can be seen that the most important thing is that students themselves must realize the harm of the Internet to their studies and restrain themselves in order to get rid of "Internet poisoning".

What parents play in it is often a guiding and auxiliary role, and they cannot be treated rudely and simply.

1. Parents must break the traditional practice of blindly beating, scolding and complaining or indulging and spoiling their children in the process of "detoxification".Parents should communicate with their children regularly, create an environment conducive to their growth, and meet their needs for normal interpersonal communication and games.Parents need to update their concepts and improve their understanding of the Internet age. They should not just talk about the Internet because of a few accidents in Internet cafes, and prevent their children from surfing the Internet.

2. Parents should understand the Internet, correctly guide their children to use the Internet, and urge their children to use the Internet in a healthy manner.We should pay attention to discovering the problems that children encounter while surfing the Internet, communicate with them in time during the surfing process, and formulate favorable measures together.At the same time, parents can also set up a firewall on the computer to prevent children from being influenced by bad culture and information.

At the same time, parents should make good use of the Internet and be good guides for their children. Parents should guide their children to choose websites that are conducive to their growth.

3. Parents should remind their children in due course, properly urge their children to use the Internet properly, and solemnly tell their children not to patronize pornographic websites.

4. Master certain knowledge of psychological therapy.Many parents face their children's Internet addiction, often persuading and crying, but finally helpless.The correct approach should be to face it correctly, and use appropriate methods to change children, divert children's interests, and help them get out of the maze of Internet addiction.

5. Parents should strengthen and encourage their children's strengths, and hint at their shortcomings when necessary; let their children undertake housework independently and persist for a long time; often work with their children to complete the work within their ability; ask their children for their opinions and adopt reasonable suggestions when they encounter problems ; Caring for children's physical and mental health, and timely assisting children to adjust their negative mental state.

6. Indirectly divert the child's attention.You can take your children out to play, which can not only broaden children's horizons, but also exercise their hands-on ability and communication skills.

7. Form a family network, unite other families, and create a healthy cultural exchange environment in the community.In the spare time that the school cannot control, with the help of the community, organize children to engage in some beneficial network competitions, promote network skills, and guide children to use the Internet normally through family competitions and exchanges.

8. Change the wrong educational methods.Many parents' education methods are too simple, or blindly indulge and indulge, which eventually leads to immature children and poor ability to deal with problems independently. Once children become addicted to the Internet, they will gnash their teeth with hatred and wish to beat them to death with a stick.These wrong ways of educating children are high-risk factors leading to Internet addiction.In fact, implementing correct family education for children is the key to changing the problem of Internet addiction.Be good at "flexible persuasion", put yourself in the child's shoes, understand the child's needs, and avoid alarmist talk.

Don't let the flowering season of youth become the emotional rainy season
Love is an eternal theme and the most beautiful emotion.However, puppy love is full of bitterness.Immature emotions, impulsive and naive, often make children taste the sadness that does not belong to their age...

Love is a beautiful emotion that can evoke the virtues of truth, kindness and beauty; it can refresh people's lives, give people positive enthusiasm, and tap the beautiful parts of human nature.The feelings strengthened by love are responsibility, grace, self-control, kindness, sensitivity, understanding, etc. They can also inspire you to perform at your best and bring a deep and lasting pleasure.

Whether from a psychological or physical point of view, it is normal to have hazy feelings in adolescence.Because adolescence is the stage when the thirst for knowledge is strong, and people's thinking at this stage is extremely active, with strong learning ability and curiosity.Feelings are the most elusive thing they think. Driven by curiosity, many students often get involved in the world of feelings.Some schools have conducted "love" surveys on school students, and the results show that 94.6% of students who have love experience fell in love because of curiosity, novelty, fun, etc. It can be seen that young people do not really understand love.

Adolescence is the golden period of life development and growth.The students' secondary sexual characteristics gradually began to appear, and the subtle changes in their bodies made them extremely sensitive. They longed to have friends of the opposite sex who understand each other, and hoped to find another spiritual haven outside their parents, so they especially longed for love.

However, good flowers do not necessarily bear good fruit.Due to the special period in which teenagers live, especially during the period of the college entrance examination, love often has some bad influences on students.Therefore, students themselves must face it rationally, and don't let emotions get carried away.

On the other hand, parents are the most sensitive to "puppy love". They are often very disgusted with it, and sometimes they will take some drastic measures.For parents, how to correctly deal with the problem of children's "puppy love" is very important.

1. Parents should build a relationship of trust with their children
If a child is found to be in love with a puppy, parents must not be furious, and do not blindly blame the child. Not only will this not solve the problem, but it will also backfire, and the consequences will be very serious.Because in the problem of puppy love, the child is the most critical and core factor, which is the internal cause, while the others are only external causes.Parents should calmly accept the reality, face it objectively, communicate more with their children, and let them develop a sense of trust. Only by gaining their children's trust first can they have the basis for solving problems.

2. Cultivate children's sense of responsibility
Many senior high school students have participated in the adult swearing-in ceremony, and adults should take corresponding responsibilities.If a child falls in love early, parents can educate their child from the perspective of responsibility and ask him or her to think more about the other party. The puppy love is likely to have a great impact on the other party's mood and life, and even affect the other party's future.In addition, they must be educated to think more about the family. As one of the family members, they should also assume certain family responsibilities.

3. Parents can help their children arrange work and rest time
Generally speaking, the work and rest time of the graduating students of puppy love is relatively chaotic, because they will also consider dating time while arranging their study time.Therefore, parents can arrange a reasonable work and rest time for their children under the premise of obtaining their children's consent. It is especially worth mentioning that a certain amount of time for physical activities should be arranged.

4. If you don’t chase after wind and shadow, everything will turn into a soldier
Parents, don't forget the era you once had, and it was mysterious all day long.For example, an ambiguous diary, a suspicious birthday gift, a visit or even a phone call from a classmate of the opposite sex, without any analysis, are all considered signs of puppy love.Don't let the so-called "puppy love" make you feel turbulent and panic.Believe in children, believe in education.

5. Spot signs and guide them correctly

If parents find that their children are showing signs of puppy love, adopting a "blocking" method will only be counterproductive. At this time, they may wish to communicate frankly with their children, and guide them carefully.Let children grasp their own thinking, physiology and inner secrets in their study and life, standardize their morality and personality, enable them to learn how to identify friends, enhance friendship, deal with conflicts, and constantly eliminate and correct unhealthy factors in the inner secret world .

Mr. Xu, who is a postgraduate student at Ocean University of China, said: "I am also a young man. Boys and girls falling in love is not a simple question of right and wrong. I believe many people have experienced and felt the beautiful emotions of the opposite sex. Parents should not criticize , to respect children's view of love, help them establish correct life values, let children know what to do in which stage of life, talk to children calmly, help them analyze, let them realize the most important thing at present. What is important is not to use the high-pressure situation of stick education to make the child submit. Now that the child has developed a strong rebellion and resistance, it is advisable to find a middleman recognized by both parties, gain the trust of the child, and deal with this matter rationally.”

Ms. Hao said: "Parents of both parties must first treat this matter rationally, instead of busy accusing each other of lax discipline. Only when the parents' opinions are unified can they further guide their children to face this relationship correctly. If two children There is nothing wrong with being able to encourage each other, take this beautiful relationship as a driving force in life, improve your studies, work hard, and let nature take its course."

(End of this chapter)