Sex and the city

Chapter 22 Loving You Doesn't Mean Marrying You
This story is about a dark little secret in the dating code.This has happened to almost everyone, regardless of which side they are on.

In the evening, two men were drinking at the Princeton Club.They were college classmates who moved to New York together after graduation.They were once handsome guys in college days.But after entering their thirties, their demeanor gradually became less than before, and the fat circle around their waists could not be reduced no matter what.Fortunately, the friendship still exists, and they are still close friends who can talk about everything from weight loss to women-this kind of intimacy is not common among men.

Walden had just been promoted to partner at a law firm and got engaged to a dermatologist.Stephen is a producer of a TV station. He has been dating his girlfriend for three years and their relationship is very stable.

Walden was not used to living alone.His fiancée was on a business trip to an industry conference on collagen, leaving him feeling alone.Whenever this happened, he would think of the days when he was lonely and empty, and the woman who once gave him comfort.

Walden met the woman at a party.He still remembered that she was wearing a black low-cut dress, showing her proud breasts.All the people who go to play are handsome men and beautiful women, but she has an ordinary appearance.But the long black curly hair is very eye-catching. "There's always something about a woman that attracts you," Walden said, taking a sip of his martini.

The girl, Libby, was sitting alone on the couch, seemingly enjoying herself.Another girl came up and said something in Libby's ear, which made Libby laugh, but she didn't get up.Walden was standing on the edge of the couch, drinking bottled beer, watching the beautiful girls present, waiting for an opportunity.Libby met his gaze and smiled at him.She looks very friendly.So he sat down, using this place as a temporary haven.

He was going to sit down for a while and go chat up those beauties, but he didn't.Libby was an undergraduate at Columbia University and a graduate student at Harvard.She talked to Walden about the law and told him about her childhood when she lived in North Carolina with her four older sisters.She's only 24, but has already raised enough money for her documentary.She sat forward and took a hair out of Walden's coat. "It's mine," she said with a laugh.They talked for a long time.He drank his second bottle of beer.

"Would you like to come to my house?" she asked.

Of course he would.He knew exactly what was going to happen next—go to bed, then go home and forget about it.Like any other New York man, Walden would quickly categorize the girls he met—one-night stands, would-be girlfriends, long-night stands... At that time, he was dealing with many women, and his living room often staged a The drama of crying and making trouble sometimes even develops to "hanging himself three times".

And Libby was immediately classified by him as a one-night stand.She is not pretty enough to go to the hall.

"I said, what the hell does this mean?" Stephen interrupted him.

"I just thought she was too ugly for me," Walden explained.

They arrived at Libby's apartment, a two-bedroom in a high-rise on Third Avenue, where she shared her cousin.She opened the refrigerator and took out a can of beer.Walden watched her stoop to open the refrigerator door and suddenly thought she was a little fat.She turned, uncapped the bottle, and handed him the beer. "I just wanted you to know," she said, "that I would love to sleep with you."

Pretty girls would never say such things, he thought as he eagerly put the bottle aside and began to undress her.He bit her neck lightly and pulled down her bra so hard that she couldn't even unbutton her underwear.He peeled off her leggings and found that she was actually not wearing panties.Then they went into the bedroom.

"I found that I became very unscrupulous," Walden said. "Because she is not beautiful, I can do things without worrying about anything. The lower the risk, the higher the emotion, and there is no pressure at all. Because I know I absolutely There will be no further development with her, so there is no need to think about the consequences." After finishing, he hugged her and fell asleep.

"I woke up the next morning feeling refreshed," Walden said. "It was very relaxing. Sometimes a one-night stand feels like pain or regret, but with Libby, I was at peace. But when I panicked when I found out that I actually had this feeling for her. I haven't had that in a long time. I had to leave."

He put his hands in his pockets and walked slowly home.It was winter, and he left his gloves at Libby's.

"This kind of thing always happens in winter." Stephen shrugged.

"True confidant"

Walden didn't see Libby again for months.He became more and more entangled, thinking that if she was more beautiful, he would have chased her long ago.He has been fantasizing about the scene with her.Two months later, he finally couldn't take it anymore, and he called Libby to have lunch.They chatted all afternoon, then went to her house to relive old dreams.After that they started seeing each other frequently.They live in the same block and often go out to dinner together, or she cooks for him. "I found that in her presence, I could talk about my deepest emotions," Walden said. "I could even cry in front of her. I told her my most secret sexual fantasies, and then She would make it happen for me. We even considered having sex with one of her friends."

"She also told me about her fantasies, which were absolutely unbelievable," Walden said. "And she let me spank her. She had secrets, too, but overall she was very practical. I always I wonder if she would have such a rich inner world if she wasn't so ordinary on the outside. You know, if you can't be a beauty, at least you can be an interesting person."

Libby had a few suitors around that time, but in Walden's words, "They were all stupid." Walden didn't feel threatened at all.

He knew all of Libby's friends, but never brought her to meet his friends.He also never spends weekends with her, or spends all day with her.They never go to parties together. "I don't want her to have any false expectations," he said.

Libby, however, never complained or made any demands of him.Only once, she asked him if it was because she was not pretty enough that he was hiding it like this. "I lied, I told her no," Walden said, "but you know, if I just close my eyes and don't look at her, she's definitely the one for me."

Walden ordered another glass of wine and said, "I always wonder if it's because of my subconscious low self-esteem that I feel so comfortable with her."

"How should I put it, all men hate beautiful girls in their hearts, because they were rejected by those girls countless times in high school." Stephen said.He also has a similar story.

Allen's maternal grandfather was a leading figure in the television circle.Stephen met her at a work party.They ran to the balcony to smoke at the same time, and then chatted.She's funny and savage, like a little pepper, and a little smug.She was dating someone else at the time, but often encountered Stephen at work.

"We ended up being real confidants," says Stephen. "It's a rare thing. I don't have any sexual urges for her. I go out with her and we talk like buddies. She understands. Movies, Watching Letterman, knowing about TV—you know most women don't understand TV at all. You try to talk about TV with a pretty girl, and she just looks at you blankly."

They also watch movies together, but "just as friends".Even if she had a crush on him, Stephen wasn't bothered at all - or didn't notice at all.They also talked about their relationship experiences and various reasons that let them down.Stephen told Ellen that he was chasing a beautiful woman recently, but she went to Europe for three months, and he had to write several dry love letters to her.

One afternoon, while they were having lunch together, Allen spoke eloquently of how she satisfies her boyfriend with her hands and petroleum jelly.That's when Stephen suddenly discovered her sexiness. "If a girl is not considered a beauty, then she must dare to talk about sex on the table, and not be coy and put on airs," he said.

Later, Allen broke up with her boyfriend, and Stephen was still dealing with different women.He would tell Ellen about all these women.When they were having dinner one night, Allen suddenly leaned over and kissed him deeply on the top of the ear.Stephen felt an electric current spread rapidly from his ears to his heels.

They went to her house and started having crazy sex. "It's amazing!" Stephen says. "I objectively perform better in bed than I've ever slept with any other woman. We did it two or three times, and it lasted a solid 45 minutes!" After that, Their relationship grew by leaps and bounds.They'd lie in bed together and watch TV, and then have sex with the TV on. "Pretty girls just want you to turn off the TV," Stephen says, "but sometimes it's so much more relaxing to have the TV on. You're not the focus, and you don't have to worry about how you're doing all the time. Ellen The best woman can let you calmly be yourself."

Stephen also admitted that from Allen's point of view, maybe their relationship wasn't that perfect. "During the half year we officially dated, we didn't watch as many movies as we did when we were friends. Our date turned into the worst kind of thing - staying at home watching movies all day and eating takeout. I felt so guilty, Hate my shallowness even more. She doesn't care about looks, but I don't think she's pretty enough. Anyway, she's a good girl."

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After that, Alan started to put pressure on Stephen. "'When the hell are you going to meet my grandpa?' She always asks me, 'He'd love to meet you.'"

"Of course I want to see her grandfather," Stephen said, "he is a big man in the circle. But I can't. If I really go to meet her grandfather, then the relationship is considered settled."

In order to avoid this problem, Stephen began to introduce boyfriends to Allen.One night, Alan went to a party to meet a friend of Stephen's.But the man was not at all interested in her.Frustrated, Alan ran to Stephen's apartment and slept with him to vent.

A few weeks later, Stephen met a beautiful woman at a loft party in Tribeca.He brought her home to meet his parents almost the next day, even though he and the beauty barely had anything to talk about.He slept with Ellen anyway, and applied what he learned from Ellen to his new girlfriend.Ellen kept pestering him with details, like what they did, how the girl behaved in bed, how she felt, and what they talked about.

Finally, she couldn't take it anymore.On Sunday afternoon, she burst into Stephen's apartment, and the two had a big fight.She beat Stephen hard. "The fists were raining down on me, not exaggerated at all," Stephen said.

Two weeks later, she took the initiative to call him. "We made up on the phone," Stephen said. "So I went to her house, as usual. Then she kicked me out of bed at the critical moment. I don't blame her, I just gave birth to my own baby." I still have a lot of respect for her, so I thought, as long as she feels good about it."

Walden raised his feet and said: "After we broke up with Libby for more than half a year, one day she called me and said she was getting married."

"Actually, I really loved Ellen, but I never told her." Stephen said sadly.

"I really loved, too," Walden said, "in a way too worldly."

(End of this chapter)