A Survival Guide to the Qing Harem

Chapter 19 Gongdou is a hard work (2)
When Emperor Daoguang hadn't confirmed the crown prince, he was tangled all the way, couldn't eat well, sleep well, worried about this, worried about that, something happened in the palace. According to historical records: "Empress Xiaoquan was photographed by the emperor in the sixth palace." , Xuanzheng Zhonggong, collapsed violently after several years, and many things were hidden. At that time, Xiaohe and the Empress Dowager were still there, and the family law was strict, and Xuanzong (Daoguang) did not dare to disobey his orders."

How to talk about this matter?It was Emperor Daoguang's original wife, Empress Xiaoquan, who tried to poison the other princes in order to make her son a successor.The empress dowager found out about this, and she was very angry, and she was going to issue a decree to execute the empress, but the empress didn't want to die, so the empress dowager ordered the maids to cry in front of the empress' gate every day, and forced the empress to commit suicide.I have to sigh with emotion that this is really the highest state of harem murder. It is done openly and aboveboard without sneaking around, but also achieves the goal.

If you want to resolve these murder methods, you must achieve the state of mind cultivation of no desires, no demands, no fights and no grabs, that is, relax your mind!A good attitude can not only keep the harem women young and prolong their lives, but also prevent themselves from being pissed off by their opponents.Therefore, a good mentality is the key to the long road of palace struggle.

Brothers are used to betray, sisters are used to betray | The sincerity of friendship
In the huge harem, is there any real friendship?If you are already living there, then I still advise you to give up the so-called fantasy, because all the women there have only two goals: first, to survive and get the emperor's favor;Few people are obsessed with the good food there, and want to live an ordinary life there.

Let's not mention those who want to leave the palace, then there is only one kind of woman left - wanting to be favored by the emperor.This is very typical polygamy.Do you think you can be good friends with the woman your husband likes?Can Ma Yili and Yao Di become good friends?No, it's impossible, absolutely impossible!Perhaps, you will think that I am exaggerating, so we might as well appreciate several friendship models of women in the harem of the Qing Dynasty.

The first is to start the friendship mode - when we met when we were poor and humble.Participate in the harem audition together. At this time, everyone's identities and backgrounds will not be too different. Occasionally, individual cases will be ignored!Leaving the house for the first time, like leaving the warm embrace of a parent to go to college for the first time, can always feel lonely and insecure.Therefore, "roommates" or "comrades" who are assigned to participate in the draft can easily establish friendship, and the picture is to take care of each other.

So where does this friendship model go from here?The answer is that it starts when you are poor and humble, and ends when you are rich.The same two good sisters in the draft, if they can be selected together, it will be a joy.If not, the disparity in their identities and backgrounds will create conflicts between them.The poor and the humble dare not think about looking for the rich and the rich, and the rich think that the poor and the humble have forgotten their friendship, and if they come to look for them, they feel that the other party is suspected of seeking wealth.It may not be a good thing for the rich and the noble to extend a helping hand to the poor and humble.The self-esteem of the poor and lowly will be frustrated, and they will misunderstand that the rich and noble are sympathetic to themselves.For example, the poor and the humble can obtain the favor of the emperor with the help of the rich and noble, so the two will secretly compare the degree of favor.Either way, nothing is right.Like this kind of friendship, when is it best to start and when to end, so as not to add unnecessary trouble to yourself in the future.Of course, it doesn’t take so much trouble to say so much. If you are the one chosen and your “good sister” loses, then you probably won’t have a chance to meet again. .

The second mode of initiating friendship is the League of Abandoned Women.The firmness index of this friendship is often relatively high, and the women who start it are all poor people who were once favored and abandoned by the emperor.If this type of woman doesn't stick together, don't encourage each other, and live a good life, what else can they do?Of course, if some of them change from "abandoned wives" to "brides", then the friendship pattern will be reshuffled.

The third mode of starting friendship is relatively advanced, which is the like-minded alliance.This kind of friendship is often based on a common understanding of something, for example, they don't like Gongdou, or they like playing the piano.This type of women will sit together when they have nothing to do, discuss their interests and hobbies together, and enjoy flowers together.However, where this seemingly solid friendship goes depends on how the women manage it.

To give a simple example, like-minded little sisters, if they happen to wear the same skirt, someone who is interested will cut off the skirt and say: "I don't look as good as my sister, and I will be ashamed if I wear it again." If you can be so smart If you are smart, then the friendship you manage will last forever.If you are stupid enough to comment on each other, then friendship can only lead to death.If there are still some people who don't understand how the emperor treats him and what gifts he gives him, and make a comparison in private, then the day when the friendship is broken is not far away.

The fourth and somewhat dangerous mode of initiating friendship is the alliance of interests.With mutual interests as constraints, under certain circumstances, the two will carry on their friendship peacefully to the end, after all, they hold each other's lifeblood in their hands!However, if the hole cards that the two can restrain each other are shuffled, resulting in uneven power between the two, then life and death is the inevitable end.

After talking about friendship, we should talk about family relationship.In the harem of the Qing Dynasty, it was common for women from one family to marry the same man. Originally, most marriages in the royal family were marriages between close relatives.Although it is stipulated in the draft that aunts, nephews or sisters cannot participate in the election at the same time, if they are staggered, there are no more detailed regulations.

Why do you have to bring up this family relationship?Because I don't want you to have any illusions, don't think that sisters have a care for each other, they share the same father at home, and share the same husband when they come out, it's nothing.But in such a chaotic situation where men are mixed with power and then mixed with the power of offspring, sisters will also become enemies.

For example, the Empress Dowager Xiaozhuang, her mother’s name is Borjigit Bumbutai, she and her aunt married Huang Taiji together, the relationship between the aunt and nephew is good, and they did support this man’s career together. But when her sister Hai Lanzhu entered the palace, the situation was not so optimistic.

"Drafts of Qing History" records: "The concubine favored Taizong and gave birth to a child for amnesty." Huang Taiji really liked this woman because she was not only beautiful, but also gentle as water. She looked very weak and gave birth to infinite protection for men. want.At this point, her aunt and sister obviously lost, because those two women only wanted to use their sincerity and hard work to support Huang Taiji's status, but ignored the role they needed to play—as a harem woman, To make one's man want to care and love continuously is the greatest coup to save one's life.However, once she is favored by a man, it is almost impossible for her to get the support of her sisters, even her own sisters.

The relationship between Hai Lanzhu and Concubine Zhuang (Borzigit Bumbutai) is not good, although she also wants to coordinate the relationship between the sisters on the surface, for example, when she is sick and crooked, Huang Taiji hugs her. When she refused to let go, she would struggle hard, tearfully persuading Huang Taiji to visit her sister more... (what kind of logic is this?) Of course, Huang Taiji would definitely not go, but deep down he was more Affirmed the irreplaceable status of this woman.

It's a pity that "I often stand by the river without getting my shoes wet." After pretending to be ill for a long time, it developed into a real illness. Since the death of her son who was less than two years old, she was depressed and said goodbye soon after. world.Whether the mother is more expensive according to the child, or the son is more expensive according to the mother, it has all become a play.The point is, her own sister Concubine Zhuang didn't shed even a drop of tears for her, so she really didn't have much affection.

Having said so much, I just want to say that in the special environment of the harem, sisters are used for betrayal, and husbands cannot be used for sharing!The sincerity of friendship is as thin as wallpaper, and it will be broken with a poke!
Standing in the wrong team will be unlucky|

The harem is a big class, if you say there are no factions, you wouldn't believe it, would you?We know that in the harem, palace fighting is an eternal theme.Then if there is a palace fight, there will naturally be factions.If you can form your own school, then congratulations, it means that you are qualified and your status is not bad. Naturally, there will be a lot of young people who want to follow you.If your faction is large enough to form its own system, then you don't have to think about which big faction to join, because your purpose is to fight for yourself, just like running a company, you just have to work hard for the team, It's about maximizing your own interests.

And if you are unlucky and not qualified to compete with the biggest master of the harem—the queen, and you are just an individual or a small faction, then it is best to find a big tree to lean against, after all, it is good to enjoy the shade under the big tree.

So how to find big trees?You must know that standing on the wrong team is bad luck.If the leader of your square team is unfortunately suppressed in the palace fight, your life will naturally not be easy.The dog legs of masters who have been defeated since ancient times seldom transform successfully, so choosing the right team is very important.

Next, let's take a look at the general factions in the harem of the Qing Dynasty.The queen faction, the queen is in charge of the harem, and is the most powerful person in the harem. Naturally, it is also the largest faction in the harem. Just like the Shaolin Temple and Wudang faction in the martial arts, it is a big faction that can go to the hall!However, unfortunately, since ancient times, most queens have power, and no one!

"No one" naturally refers to those who cannot get the emperor.After all, there are only a few successful women who want power with one hand, husband with the other, grasp with both hands, and be strong with both hands.If the queen has power and someone else, then she doesn't have to work hard to run any faction, because she is the boss!You see, Concubine Dong E is known as the most favored queen in the history of the Qing Dynasty. Shunzhi liked her terribly, but she only got the title of queen after her death, and she was not eligible to be buried with the emperor. In that world, she probably couldn't find each other.

Therefore, there are still a small number of women who combine power and thousands of favors.Then, the queen must establish her own sect (after all, there are not a few people who are eyeing this position).If she fought alone, she would be exhausted, so she had to rely on the power of the sect to suppress these covetous women.

Since I said that the queen's sect is the largest sect, do we want to participate in it? After all, this is a government agency!No, examples from ancient and modern China and abroad have repeatedly told us that there are not a few queens who dismounted. Like Shunzhi, one queen was abolished, and he wanted to abolish the second; If you don't deal with it, you will be abolished immediately, which is like entering a limbo. It is said that the reason for not dealing with it is as simple as hell, that is, the empress dissuades the emperor and tells him not to be merciful on the road to the south. , Jealousy and jealous, who knew it would lead to a catastrophe?Therefore, the queen's faction may not be the best faction.

Except for the queen faction, other women will form two major factions. Of course, these big factions will be subdivided into smaller factions according to their respective influences.Here, let's talk about the two factions first.These two factions are distinguished according to their purpose, the first faction is related to seizing the throne, and the second faction is pure palace fighting.how to say?Seizing the throne means that the emperor already has a designated heir, but the mother who gave birth to a son is not reconciled, and always tries to find ways to fight the queen, trying to pull the prince down and make his own son the prince.In this way, when the emperor dies, he will be the biggest woman in the harem—the emperor's mother!Therefore, very few people can play well in the queen's faction and the second faction, after all, their contradictions are opposites!

(End of this chapter)