The wisdom of I Ching

Chapter 58

marriage
wisdom
up and down
Guimei, levying fierce, no profit.Guimei hexagram and Jian hexagram are "comprehensive hexagrams", progress and return are opposite and complement each other. "Xu Gua Zhuan" said: "When you enter, you must return, so you accept this to return to your sister." "Return" means that a woman stays in her husband's house. The original meaning is to marry, and it also means to return to the place where she should return.The lower hexagram "Dui" is a young girl, equivalent to a younger sister, and the upper hexagram "Zhen" is a superior male, and the girl is combined with the eldest male, so it is called "guimei", that is, marrying a younger sister.

Why do married sister say fierce?Because girls should marry young boys, and they are not compatible with older boys. Moreover, the lower hexagram "Dui" means joy, and the upper hexagram "Zhen" means movement. The woman's initiative to act towards the man happily is also contrary to the principle of husband singing and wife following; " to "five" is not correct, so the advancement is dangerous and there is no benefit.In other words, this refers to the fact that the wife is attached to the wife's house.

"彖" said: Guimei.The righteousness of heaven and earth.The heaven and the earth are not handed over, and everything is not prosperous, which is the beginning and end of Guimei.If you talk about it, you will belong to your sister. "Signing evil" is inappropriate. "No profit".Soft ride rigid also.

Marriage is the most legitimate thing between heaven and earth. If heaven and earth do not intersect, nothing will come into being. If men and women do not marry, they cannot pass on the family line. Therefore, marriage is the end of human relations and the beginning of human relations.In this hexagram, the lower hexagram "Dui" means joy, and the upper hexagram "Zhen" means movement, joy and initiative. It is a married girl, which violates women's morality.It is dangerous to advance.Because the "two" to "five" lines are not correct, "the position is not right. There is no benefit" refers to the soft line of "three" and "five", riding on the head of the rigid line, the reason why the woman suppresses the husband.

"Elephant" says: There is thunder on the lake, and it will return to the younger sister; a gentleman will know his openness forever.In this hexagram, the lower hexagram "Dui" is Ze, and the upper hexagram "Zhen" is thunder. There is thunder on the lake, and the water in the lake vibrates with it, symbolizing that the husband sings and the wife follows.A gentleman should imitate this spirit, look far ahead, see through the results, know the harm, and be able to plan in advance.

Ninth day of the lunar month: Guimei Yidi, lame and able to walk, auspicious.

"Xiang" said: "Return to sister Yidi", Yiheng also. "A lame person can walk auspiciously", which is also inherited. "Di" means that sisters marry the same husband, and the younger sister is called Di, that is, concubine.In the Spring and Autumn Period, when the feudal lords were married, it was often the custom for the younger sister of the Zheng wife to marry as a concubine in the name of a wife: such as Wei Zhuanggong, Jin Xiangong, etc. There are many examples of this. "Ninth day of the first day" is at the bottom of the Guimei hexagram, with a low status, and has no proper correspondence with the upper hexagram; therefore, it is not a regular wife, and it is compared with a younger sister who followed her sister to marry as a housewife.The intermediary has a humble status, like a lame person walking, the range of walking is limited.However, the "ninth day" is Zeyao, which symbolizes women's masculine virtues and chastity. Although married as a concubine, it is still auspicious.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: Although married as a concubine, she has the virtue of constant chastity.The lame can walk, so it is auspicious; the younger sister assists the elder sister to organize the housework in order to follow her husband's wishes.

This line shows that the name and position are not proper, and it is still auspicious to stick to the purity.Ninety-two: Able to see the small, benefit the chastity of people.

"Xiang" said: "The chastity of Liyou people" has not changed. "Ninety-two" is masculine, and for women, it means firm chastity and moderate virtue, and corresponds to the "sixth five" in the upper hexagram, which symbolizes having a legitimate spouse.However, the "Sixth Five-Year Plan" is a soft villain, and the yin and yang are not in the right position; therefore, even if you marry such a good wife, you can't play the role of a helper, just like a person who is blind in one eye. Can't see far.Still, the image of the aloof and self-respecting hermit is advantageous.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: "Ninety-two" although people are not good, but still can not change the constant virtue of chastity.This line shows that it is still beneficial to stick to integrity when encountering unkind people.Sixty-three: return to my younger sister with beards, return to my younger sister.

"Xiang" said: "Return to my sister to have a beard", which is not appropriate. "Shou" means to wait. "Six Three" is feminine, lacks strong chastity, and is neither neutral nor righteous.Bingmin is the main line of the next hexagram "Dui", that is, Yue, which symbolizes that a woman who is happy to get married feels frivolous and promiscuous, so she can't get married and has been waiting.but.If you go back home and marry as a concubine, you can get married.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: This is due to the improper position of the yin and yang of the "Six Three".

This line shows that frivolity is not enough to take on heavy responsibilities.Ninety-Four: When returning to my sister, it is time to return late.

"Xiang" said: "The ambition of the "intervention period" has to be done." "恶" is a fault. "Nine Fourth" has no corresponding in the next hexagram, so that no spouse can be found.But the "Nine Fourth Movement" was masculine, because of their strong integrity, they refused to marry easily, which delayed their marriage.Therefore, the "Nine Fourth" virtuous and virtuous, although delayed, can still marry.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: "September [-]th" delayed marriage because of waiting for a legitimate object.

This line shows that we must choose the right object.

Sixth Five-Year: When Emperor Yi returns to his younger sister, the robes of his monarch are not as good as those of his younger sister. Auspicious.

"Xiang" said: "Emperor Yi returns to his sister", "it is not as good as his younger sister's coat".Its position is in the middle, and it is also expensive.

"Emperor Yi Guimei" is also seen in the "Yao Ci" of the "Sixth Five-Year Plan" of the Thai hexagram. "Emperor Yi" is one of the emperors of the Yin Dynasty. "Jun" is female Jun, referring to Emperor Yi's younger sister. "Yuejiwang" also appears in the line of "Shangji" in Xiaohu hexagram, and it is when the full moon is approaching.

In the "Sixth Five-Year" period, Yin Yao is in the "Five" position, and his status is noble; therefore, there is no need to deliberately decorate the clothes, but it is not as gorgeous as before marrying a concubine.However, in terms of virtue, it shines like a nearly full moon.The moon belongs to Yin, which is used to compare women's virtue.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: "Six Five" is in the middle of the upper hexagram, with the virtue of the mean, and married with a noble status, the clothes are not important.

This line emphasizes noble character, which is more important than vanity.The first six: The women's baskets are worthless, and the soldiers cut off the sheep without blood and profit.

"Xiang" said: The upper six "have no substance", and "inheritance" is empty "basket".

"Xiang Zhuan" said: There is nothing in the upper six yin lines, just like a bride holding an empty basket in her hand.

A Comprehensive Overview of Guimei Hexagram
【Meaning】Talk about marriage——a happy marriage must conform to the morality of heaven and earth.

[Hexagram Meaning] Marriage, marriage, talk about marriage, marry with you.

[Introduction] Guimei means that a young woman is married.But what this hexagram shows is not a normal marriage, it is a young woman (Dui) actively pursuing an older man (Zhen), which violates the way women should abide by.At the same time, the yin line suppresses the yang line, and the male moves (shock) while the female joys (dui), which is to combine for the physical relationship, lacking substantial love.The four hexagrams of the Yijing represent the relationship between men and women (Xian, Heng, Jian, and Guimei), and this is the reason why this hexagram represents unlucky fate. It should be enriched spiritually and promote growth in order to maintain it for a long time. This metaphor is not only used for Marriage, like everything, involves states of affairs that don't quite pander to reason.

[Analysis of the meaning of the hexagram] Zhen in the upper hexagram is the eldest male, and Dui in the lower hexagram is the girl.The combination of a young girl and an eldest male symbolizes the marriage problem of a male and female combination.Guimei hexagram explains the major events of life and marriage, the basic principles of marriage between men and women, including carnal love.

[Structural pattern] Marriage is unfavorable, the wedding is approaching, marriage is late, frivolous and unresponsive, encountering unkind people, sticking to purity, returning to younger sisters (girls, marriage).

[Yin and Yang] three yin and three yang.

[Position] The yin and yang of the second, third, fourth, and fifth yao are misaligned, the yang of the first yao is positive, and the yin of the sixth yao is positive.

[Status] It is fierce for a woman to seek a man, but a man should not.

[Hexagram] Shock on the top, Dui on the bottom, Zhen is the eldest man, Dui is the girl, and the union between the eldest boy and the girl.It symbolizes marriage, the upper hexagram shock is thunder, and the lower hexagram is water.The water in the lake is constantly shaking, which symbolizes the image of a husband singing and a wife following.It also contains dislocations in which males and females do not match each other.

[Thinking mode] Guimei hexagram uses the marriage of men and women as a metaphor to explain the problem of seeking a destination in life.Its meaning includes such issues as finding a job in life, employees looking for a unit, and choosing a leader in the officialdom.The principles in the hexagram are: (1) Everyone is looking for a destination and should stick to purity. (2) If the pursuit is improper once, it can be pursued again.

(3) The pursuit of destination is not ideal, and it should be transformed with virtue. (4) Not right, not suitable for establishing a family, would rather delay than invest against one's will.

[Philosophical Enlightenment] Guimei Hexagram enlightens us on how to uphold principles in our life and career through the marriage combination principle of male marriage and female marriage.Seek for a home that is conducive to your own development, growth, and support.

[Decision-making thinking] Marriage between men and women is the way of human relations and life.Everything in society is the same, and you need to consider your own destination in life.This is also the right way of life, the only way to go.Employees choose companies, bosses, or men and women choose heterosexual couples, just like a pattern, sometimes we cannot let ourselves choose, and we are often troubled by this.When you find yourself in an inappropriate position, such as at work.Your talents are not appreciated, and in marriage, your lover is not the one you love, but you are unable to find another high ground, or when you form another family, you can only live by "seeking common ground while reserving minor differences".

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