The wisdom of I Ching

Chapter 79 Don't stray from the right direction——No far back, no regrets, Yuanji

【Original Code】

Ninth day, not far away, no regrets, Yuanji.

"Xiang" said: "The recovery that is not far away is for self-cultivation."

——"Book of Changes·Fu"

On the ninth day of the ninth day, what is to blame for regaining self-reliance?lucky.

"Xiang" said: Recovering one's own way, its righteousness is auspicious.

—— "Book of Changes Small Animals"

【Interpretation】

The ninth line of the hexagram Chu in "Fu" says: You can return after a short walk, without much regret, and good luck.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: Returning after a short distance is used to cultivate one's own morality.

"Not far back" in the ninth line of the first day means that you can return to the starting point after a short walk, not far from the starting point, return quickly, and return early.The meaning of this line is that when a person makes a mistake, he can quickly recognize the mistake and correct it in time, thus achieving good luck.

The ninth line of the hexagram "Little Animal" said: What is wrong with returning to the original path?And it will be lucky.

"Xiang Zhuan" said: Returning from the way forward, you should be lucky.The ancients said: "A meritorious service cannot be exchanged for a word of honor; a heinous crime cannot be exchanged for a word of repentance." There is a saying in the folk proverb that "the prodigal son will not be exchanged for gold". It is a principle that we must abide by and implement at all times. , especially for those so-called "prodigal sons", it has great practical significance.

Everyone makes mistakes, and when they make mistakes, the key is to see if they can recognize the mistakes in time and correct them in a timely manner. A shrewd person can always find his way back.In life, it is the way of a gentleman to know the mistakes and correct them.If you make mistakes and don't want to correct them, or if you say something that is not true, you will do one thing in front of your face and another behind your back. If you do that, you will only go further and further down the wrong path.

【Category】

Story [-]: Ruan Ji corrects his mistakes

It is said that Sima Zhao and Ruan Ji went to the early court at the same time, and suddenly a waiter came to report: "Someone killed your mother!" Ruan Ji, who was unrestrained, said without thinking, "It's fine to kill my father, how can I kill my mother?" ?”

As soon as this remark came out, the civil and military officials of the Manchu Dynasty were in an uproar, thinking that he "violated filial piety".Ruan Ji was also aware of his utterance, and hurriedly explained: "I mean, a beast knows its mother but not its father. A man who kills his father is like a beast, but a man who kills his mother is even worse than a beast."

The words made everyone irrefutable, and Ruan Ji avoided a fatal disaster.

In the process of interpersonal communication, no matter ordinary people or celebrities, it is inevitable that verbal mistakes may occur. "A man has a slip of the tongue, but a horse has a slippery hoof." Although the reasons are different, the consequences are similar: it may be ridiculous, or disputes arise, and sometimes it is even out of control.At this time, it is necessary to take certain remedial measures or corrective techniques to avoid the embarrassing situation caused by speech mistakes.In the story, Ruan Ji took advantage of the topic and corrected his speech mistakes in time is a good example.

It is not intentional to make mistakes, it is commonplace in our life.However, once you realize that you have made a mistake, you should correct it immediately so as to avoid greater losses.

Story [-]: Zhou Chu reforms himself
Zhou Chu was a native of Yixing County in the Jin Dynasty.When he was young, he had a violent temper, was troublesome, and often fought with others, endangering the village, and was regarded by the locals as a major disaster.

At that time, a dragon appeared in the big river in the county, and a fierce tiger appeared in the mountains at the same time, and they often came out to attack the people.The local people regard Zhou Chu, Jiaolong and Tiger together as three scourges, and among these three scourges, Zhou Chu is the most harmful.Some people persuaded Zhou Chu to go up the mountain to kill the tiger and go to the river to kill the dragon to change people's views on him.Zhou Chu immediately went up the mountain to kill the spotted tiger with dangling eyes, and then went down the mountain to the river where the dragon was doing evil.Three days and three nights passed, and the people on the shore all thought that Zhou Chu was dead, and they were all running to tell and congratulate each other for the demise of these three scourges.After Zhou Chu killed Jiaolong, he swam to the shore.When he got ashore and saw people congratulating each other for his death, he realized that he was already considered a scourge.Why is this?He asked himself, and after introspection, he finally had the idea of ​​reforming himself.So he went to Wu County to look for the two brothers Lu Ji and Lu Yun.Because the Lu family brothers were well-known and respected sages at that time, Zhou Chu wanted to ask the Lu family brothers to guide him.

When Zhou Chu came to Lu's house in Wu County with doubts, Lu Ji was not at home and happened to meet with Lu Yun, so he asked Lu Yun for advice.Lu Yun enlightened him and said: "The ancients believed that if a person can understand the truth in the morning, even if he dies in the evening, it is still valuable; what's more, you are still young and your future is full of hope."

Lu Yun went on to say: "A person may not have good aspirations. With good aspirations, why worry that the good name will not be spread?"

After listening to Lu Yun's teaching, Zhou Chu changed his mind and reformed himself.

After his hard work, he finally became a famous loyal minister and filial son.It is not terrible for a person to make mistakes. As long as he dares to face up to and correct his shortcomings and mistakes, and re-establish his own goals, he will definitely become a pillar of talent.

Story Three: The Prodigal Son of Greenia Repents in Time
Victor Grignard was born in a prestigious capitalist family in Cherbourg, France.His father ran a shipbuilding factory and had a fortune of tens of millions.

When Greenia was a teenager, due to his wealthy family and the doting and pampering of his parents, he wandered around Cherbourg all day long, domineering.He has no lofty ideals, and he doesn't care about his studies at all. Instead, he dreams of becoming a prince all day long.Because of his handsome appearance and luxurious life, many young and beautiful girls in Cherbourg are willing to associate with him.

However, at a banquet, he was hit hard.A countess who just came to Cherbourg from Paris said to him unceremoniously: "Please stand a little farther away, I hate being blocked by a playboy like you!"

These words pierced his heart like a needle prick.He suddenly came to his senses, regretted his past absurd behavior, and felt ashamed and bitter.He is determined to study hard to make up for the losses caused by wasting time in the past.

So Greenia left the family that had made him degenerate, and left a letter, writing: "Please don't inquire about my whereabouts, let me study hard, and I believe that I will create some achievements in the future. "Grignard came to Lyon to learn from Louis Pouvet.After two years of hard study, I finally made up all the courses I missed in the past, and was successfully admitted to the University of Lyon.

During his university studies, Greenia's hard-working attitude won the respect of Philip Barr, an authority in the field of organic chemistry.Under the guidance of Barr, he re-did all the famous chemical experiments of the teacher, and corrected some of Barr's mistakes and omissions.Finally, after a lot of experiments, the Grignard reagent was born.

Once Greenia opened the door to science, his scientific research results gushed out like a spring. From 1901 to 1905 alone, he published more than 200 academic papers.In view of his significant contribution, the Royal Swedish Academy of Sciences awarded him the Nobel Prize in Chemistry in 1912.

"People are not sages, who can be without fault?" In fact, not only ordinary people, but even sages cannot avoid making mistakes.It's just that a sage is better at correcting his mistakes than ordinary people, so he appears to be greater and wiser than ordinary people.

【The Heart of the Book of Changes】

As the saying goes: "It's too late to rein in the horse at the cliff, and it's too late to make up for the leak when the boat arrives in the middle of the river." In life, there will always be mistakes. The important thing is whether you can correct the mistakes in time and walk on the true and correct path.The ancients said it well: "It is better to be brave when you change your past, and to be quicker to change the good." Many people have the ability of self-knowledge, but if they just stay at the stage of self-knowledge and do not implement it in action, the result can only be self-cocooning. Taste the pain alone.In addition, we should treat other people's faults and mistakes with tolerance, adopt the attitude of "being kind to others", explain them sincerely and tactfully, comfort their distress, and encourage them to correct without hurting their self-esteem.If you have suffered a loss, just be careful in the future and don't have to forge hatred with the other party because of this. You should give the other party a chance to repent.

There is nothing more tolerant of people than when the other party offends you, you not only don't care about him, don't take revenge on him, but forgive him, forgive him, and help him when necessary.Under normal circumstances, he will probably be very grateful to you, and will therefore change his past under your influence.

Generally speaking, those who have wronged us or made us make mistakes are not mortal, and their mistakes can be forgiven and corrected.Therefore, we should properly handle the occurrence of such things in accordance with the principle of tolerance.

(End of this chapter)