Back to 80s: Hello, my husband!

Chapter 240

"Why?" Zhu Zidong didn't understand, "Isn't your relationship very good?"

Moreover, Shan Jianping is not irresponsible.

He took the initiative to take responsibility.

Generally speaking, when there is a relationship between a man and a woman, the man is not the one who is most anxious, because they think that they will not suffer, and the woman is the one who suffers the most.

What's more, the current era is still very conservative, and there are not many premarital sex, at most, it's just holding hands, kissing small mouths and so on.

Even in a few decades, if you don't get pregnant before marriage, that's fine.

Once pregnant, the woman is equivalent to being tied up, losing the initiative and becoming very passive.

Because the man will take the opportunity to make a fool of the woman.

For example, the dowry money agreed in advance will be reduced, there will be no banquets, and there will be no wedding rooms, etc.

With a weak temper, no matter how unconvinced in his heart, he can only hold his nose and live with the man.

If you encounter a tough one, you will directly abort and break up.

But in this way, even if the anger in my heart is expressed, the most hurt is the woman.Because abortion is not only harmful to the body, but if it spreads, most people will accuse the man of being unkind, but they will also say that the woman is indiscreet and had a child before marriage, which allows the man to take advantage of it.

So, being a woman is really hard.

To meet a responsible and responsible man is a lifetime luck for a woman, and it is related to what kind of lifestyle she chooses for the rest of her life.

Xiaomei's face was full of sorrow.

She said: "It's one thing to have a good relationship, but marriage is not a union of two people, but two families, or even two big families. I... I'm not sure I can be a good wife to someone else's family. Are you Knowing me, I have always been free and easy. I seem to be unruly. I don’t care about other people’s eyes, and I won’t give up what I like if others don’t agree with me. Let’s talk about my dress. Some people will think that I Western style, envious of my dress, but old-fashioned thinking, they can't stand it, think I am not a decent girl, and even whisper behind my back that I have improper relationships with several men. Shan Jianping, I know He is a rare good man. He has been silently supporting me and caring about me all these years. He has never disliked my somewhat bohemian character. But there is a saying called 'people's words are awesome', I worry about his time It's been a long time, and if you hear too many negative things about me, sooner or later you'll get bored with me and can't accept me like this..."

"That is to say, you approve of Shan Jianping in your heart and want to marry him, right?" Zhu Zidong hit the nail on the head.

"If I live with him alone without other people's participation after marriage, then I'm still willing." Xiaomei didn't deny it, but there was a premise.

After talking about herself, Xiaomei asked Zhu Zidong again, "Are you still used to living in your in-law's house?"

Zhu Zidong knew the meaning of Xiaomei's words, but he was mainly asking her if she was bullied or excluded in her in-law's house.

"My situation is different from yours." Zhu Zidong didn't hide anything, "You know more or less about my natal family's situation. They treated me harshly from a young age, which is worse than the little maids in ancient times. Comparing this kind of natal family, even if there is something wrong with the in-law's family, but compared to the hellish natal family, the in-law's family is also heaven."

"This... is indeed..." Xiaomei continued to worry.

Zhu Zidong pointed out a way for Xiaomei, "You should have a good chat with Shan Jianping alone. It's better for two people to communicate in private and know each other's thoughts than to be alone. What if there is a difference between the two? Isn’t this going to cause a misunderstanding? It’s not easy for two people to know each other and meet each other, so let’s cherish it. Besides, I think the worry in your heart is not a problem in the current environment. Yes. The current social atmosphere is becoming more and more open. Unlike before, the whole family lived under one roof, drank some water next door, and knew everything about going up and down the latrine. In order to earn more money, young people now He went out to work and did not return home for three to five years. Some moved outside for the education of their children and lived separately from the people in their hometown. I don’t think Shan Jianping is that pedantic person. Since he can I discussed marriage with you, and I definitely want to grow old with you. In this case, if you have any opinions in your heart, then talk to him, see if you can compromise with each other, each take a step back, and find a relationship between the two the balance between."

"Hmm..." Xiaomei was a little absent-minded.

She turned her head frequently to look at Shan Jianping who was walking side by side with Bao Zhigang behind her, with some thoughtfulness and some hesitation in her eyes.

Everyone has their own way to go.

No one can replace it.

Zhu Zidong has said everything that should be said, and the rest is up to Xiaomei's own choice.

…………

Learning to drive takes guts.

Zhu Zidong was sitting on the driver's seat, holding the steering wheel with both hands, with a particularly nervous expression, not only his forehead was sweating, but even his palms were sweaty.

"This is the handbrake, this is the accelerator, this is the brake... Yes, take your time, don't keep your head down, keep your eyes on the front..." Bao Zhigang sat in the passenger seat and patiently taught Zhu Zidong how to drive.

Zhu Zidong was in a hurry and couldn't deal with it calmly.

Either the brakes were applied too hard, or the accelerator was stepped on too much, and the person sitting in the car swayed back and forth greatly.

Had he not been wearing a seat belt, the man would have been hit.

"It's too difficult..." Zhu Zidong was very frustrated.

After studying for hours, she couldn't even hold the steering wheel firmly.

Bao Zhigang patted Zhu Zidong's head to comfort him, "It's okay, don't worry, you're doing fine now."

"But your family leave is coming to an end..." Zhu Zidong was very anxious.

She doesn't want other coaches teaching her.

When two coach cars passed by them just now, she heard very clearly that the coach in that car scolded the students very fiercely, and scolded the students for a while. It was red, but he didn't dare to refute. He sniffed and continued to drive.

Zhu Zidong is the kind who gets more and more nervous the more he scolds.

If Bao Zhigang kept scolding her by the side, she would become more flustered and fail to learn well.

Probably because Bao Zhigang doted on her, being bullied was a very common thing, and she was used to it.

Now, not to mention bullying her, even if Bao Zhigang speaks a little louder, she can't bear it.

"This home visit is over, isn't there a next time?" Bao Zhigang comforted Zhu Zidong, "It's okay, just learn slowly, we don't rush to learn how to drive well."

(End of this chapter)