Life is but a thought: Nan Huaijin's 15 Life Wisdom Lessons

Chapter 9 Children of Nature, Nurture the Heart of Nature (1)
Keep your true colors and show your true self

Everyone is a different individual with their own unique personality and characteristics. We don't have to obliterate our own personality to cater to the needs of others, and face everything with sincerity, but we will have unexpected gains.

Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "It is generally believed that the social environment affects a person. In fact, the social environment is not enough to affect us. If we have independent attainments and self-cultivation to make our spirit supernatural, in any complicated world, In any complicated environment of the times, "there must be room for recovery" and always maintain the feeling of starting out, this is the highest self-cultivation." That is to say, one must not forget the original intention in life, and only by maintaining the true self can we Having a foothold in modern society, maintaining one's self and showing others the truth is itself the highest level of self-cultivation.

Zhuangzi once described a state of returning to nature in "Xiaoyaoyou", calling it the ideal state of life.Wang Fuzhi, a great thinker in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties, also emphasized in his book "Zhuangzi Tong" that everyone lives in the world and should not "go down with the world with his heart", otherwise it will become "difficult for Han Fei to know and explain, but not for others". It is said to punish. Yang Xiong knows that the white cannot be defended, and he dies with Xuan".This sentence means that people can't be worried about everything in their hearts, even if they are playing, they will not be happy.But Yang Xiongming knew that he could not live a clean life, he would rather choose to live with stains all his life, and leave this world with stains.This also just shows that in the long journey of life, there are many courses to learn, the most important of which is called "showing others with the truth".

Carnegie once asked Paul Baoyanden, director of personnel department of Sufan Petroleum Company, what is the most common mistake job seekers make?Paul replied, "Not being who you are." Job seekers are always thinking about what the boss wants to answer, so they will choose to go against their original intentions and give an answer that the boss wants to hear.As everyone knows, just as no one in the world likes a hypocrite, an answer that is too satisfactory appears to be insincere, which is what the boss least wants to see from employees.

Keith Daly loved singing since she was a child, and dreamed of becoming a singer one day.Once, during an evening show in New Jersey, she couldn't resist pulling off her upper lip to cover her teeth because she thought they were too ugly, but this behavior also made her make a fool of herself, and the audience roared laugh.The little girl felt very embarrassed and wronged. As soon as the performance ended, she couldn't help but shed tears.

Just when she was crying the most, an amiable old lady in the audience came up to her and said kindly: "Son, you are very talented. But you pay too much attention to your teeth Lah, I know you're trying to cover them up. Listen, boy, it's your singing that we enjoy off stage, and no one's paying attention to your teeth. Sing louder, boy, the audience will see you so brave. I was moved by your beautiful singing."

Kath Daly suddenly understood something. Since then, when she performed, she only paid attention to the audience in the audience. She opened her mouth wide and sang enthusiastically. Later, she also became a singer as she wished.

Indeed, when everyone comes to this world, they may have congenital defects, or they may also have deficiencies in acquired life.But everyone is not perfect, so you don't have to magnify your shortcomings, which makes you overlook your own strengths.The important thing is that we dare to show our true colors, don't lie to others, keep the truth and discard the false, show a true self, and live a true life.There is always such a kind of people in life. They know how to discover themselves and insist on themselves, love life and enjoy life. Even if they encounter depression and difficulties, they will immediately cheer up and spend every day happily.Everyone will face negativity and negative energy, but the important thing is how to learn not to wallow in it.As long as you maintain a sunny and upward mentality, even if you are in adversity and are in a trough, you can still maintain hope to get out of the predicament and face the light.

Everyone is a different individual with their own unique personality and characteristics. We don't have to obliterate our own personality to cater to the needs of others, and face everything with sincerity, but we will have unexpected gains.In fact, as long as we abide by the rules of the group, we can still maintain ourselves and follow the trend of others, we can experience the beauty of life and create a new world of our own. No matter which stage we are on, such people will Can glow with new brilliance.

have to admit it
We should take everything around us seriously, strive to do it well, and achieve the ultimate.Only in this way can we say with a clear conscience at the last moment of our lives: "I have done a good job in this life, and I have no regrets."

Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "A gentleman has no concept of more or less in any environment, such as the amount of treatment, the level of benefits, etc., and has no concept of position or position. He is not contemptuous of anything. Small things are often done with all one's strength." That is to say, the environment does not affect a gentleman's conduct in the world, but he will make great efforts in small things and small details, do every little thing well, and live every life well one day.

Seriousness is an attitude to life.A person who does everything seriously may be an ordinary person, but he will definitely not be an ordinary person: he not only understands life, but also loves life; Take it seriously and actively.

When the construction of Desai Park in South Africa was invited for construction, a German design institute won the bid for construction.This incident received a lot of criticism at the time. After the park was completed, the citizens still had different opinions.Since then, foreigners are no longer allowed to participate in the bidding construction of the South African park.

In the 20s, the South Africans designed, planned, constructed and built Kekena Park by themselves.South Africans are very satisfied with Kekena Park, and feel that the park is more elegant than Desai Park.But two years later, a series of events changed their views.

When the rainy season came, Ke Kena Park was half flooded, but Desai Park was not affected at all.It turned out that when the Germans built the park, they had long considered the increase in rainfall during the rainy season. They not only widened the sewer pipes for the park, but also raised the entire foundation by 50 centimeters.At that time, people only thought it was time-consuming and labor-intensive, but when the flood came, people admired the foresight of the Germans.In addition, when the rally was held in Kekena Park, because the gate width of the park was not wide enough, people had a crowded stampede accident when entering the park. There was no such problem when the rally was held in Desai Park before, because The gate of Desai Park is designed to be spacious and convenient, even when there are many tourists, it is easy for people to enter.South Africans were very dissatisfied with the high investment in the cobblestone road in Desai Park. They blushed several times and asked the German side to stop work, but the German side insisted on using the expensive stone pavement.A few years later, the ground of Ke Kena Park was severely worn and had to be renovated and strengthened, but the stone slabs of Desai Park were still as new as a rock.

South Africans have always believed that the Germans were too rigid and stupid when they built the park, but now it seems that it is a well-intentioned consideration.The German Design Institute took into account many factors such as the weather and the flow of people when designing, but the South Africans lacked experience, so naturally they could not take such comprehensive considerations.

After the completion of Desai Park, it has remained unchanged for several years, but Kekena Park is always renovated and repaired due to various problems, and the repair cost has doubled the original park construction.For this reason, the South African counterpart once asked the German counterpart: "Why are you so smart?" The German counterpart smiled and replied: "We are not smart, we just do things seriously, and you South Africans are the smartest."

Everyone has only one life, and the life is only a few dozen years, in the blink of an eye, there is nothing more worthy of our seriousness than every day of life.Therefore, no matter what kind of people you meet, what unhappiness you encounter every day, or some unexpected changes, we should take every minute and every second of our lives seriously.The result may be more direct and important, but life is originally a process.Therefore, we should take everything around us seriously, strive to do it well, and achieve the ultimate.

In fact, the best motivation to do something is to like it from the bottom of your heart. Only when you are interested in something, you will have unlimited motivation and energy to do it well, and you will take it seriously and make it the best .However, not everything in the world will be liked by you. On the contrary, it is very likely that you will not like the things you have to do.At this time, what you need to do is to take it seriously, you have to get serious, let go of your prejudices, forget your bored emotions, learn to concentrate on the matter in front of you, try to like it, and strive to do your best.Even a boring thing, you can gain something from it, so you should find the fun of the thing itself, so that you will not only not be unhappy, but also forget about frustration, irritability and disappointment, and you will feel that you have completed every day Many tasks, improving every day, every day is a new self.At this time, you will find that there is a bit of fun in the fact that you have to admit it.

Seriousness is the attitude of persevering in doing one thing with life, emotion, and all enthusiasm.Mao Zedong said: "No matter what you do, be afraid of the word 'serious'." If a person has achieved success, then you can definitely find the potential for seriousness from him.In the same way, if a person has not succeeded, then he must not want to succeed enough, which only means that he is not serious enough.

The most precious innocent wild fun

Naive people are more likely to succeed, because they will not focus their lives on material fame and fortune, they can stay curious and focus on doing what they like, only in this way can they be closer to success.

Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "Writing poems and prose has nothing to do with the way of Zen, but if it is naturally revealed from the nature, it is the same as the snap of the fingers, so why not use it. Those who are capable of writing are easy to write, and those who are capable of martial arts are easy to use. You can do your part.”

People who stay innocent and have a childlike innocence will never ask about the benefits of it. Instead, they are not naive and do everything possible to know the benefits of innocence. In fact, the biggest advantage of innocence and wildness is that you don’t ask about the benefits, and only enjoy the natural exploration fun and mystery. , always maintain a pure childlike innocence, and have the original intention to explore everything in the world.If a person is ignorant of the world when he is seven or eight years old, he is innocent and cute.If you are still ignorant at the age of seventeen or eighteen, you are naive and frivolous. If these two conditions can be admired, then you can only be accused of being naive if you are still ignorant when you are in your twenties.However, innocence and wildness have been possessed by everyone in childhood. At an innocent age, we would wonder how a tree grows, how an ant carries food back to its nest; Fish, touch crabs for a day, know how to fight and play house.At that time, we seemed to understand nothing, we had nothing, and we didn't understand what power and money were, but at that time we happily owned the world.

Feng Zikai loves painting children's paintings the most. He once answered the original intention of painting children's paintings: "I have always admired children's lives, especially at that time, when I first tasted the world, I saw the hypocrisy and arrogance of the society at that time, and felt that adults were too old. It is a loss of nature, only children are innocent and have complete personality, this is the real 'human'."

(End of this chapter)