Stimulate positive energy

Chapter 10
The watershed between success and failure lies in the difference in willpower: successful people are often people with strong willpower; losers are often people with weak willpower.As long as a person has firm willpower, he can endure hardships that ordinary people can't bear, overcome obstacles that ordinary people can't conquer, and accomplish things that ordinary people can't accomplish.Start training and improving your willpower now, it can make you gain powerful motivation.

Willpower is the mental force of self-direction

Willpower is an important component of personality and has a major impact on a person's life.As early as more than 2000 years ago, Mencius said: "Heaven will send a great mission to the people, and they must first suffer from their will, exhaust their muscles and bones, starve their skin, empty their bodies, and chaotic their actions, so they are tempted to endure. Sex, once benefited what it can't do." These words vividly illustrate the importance of willpower.It tells us that before achieving success, we must endure hardships, believe that there will be a rainbow after the storm, light the torch in the dark with high passion, and drive away the devil in despair with persistent persistence.If you do this, you will have a stronger will than ordinary people, and your willpower will guide you to overcome all difficulties on the way forward.

Willpower not only refers to the decisive power to make up your mind, or the sensibility used to perceive understanding, or the imagination to conceive, but willpower refers to all "self-directed spiritual power itself".Royce, the most representative figure of American Neo-Hegelianism, said: "In a sense, willpower usually refers to our entire spiritual life, and it is this spiritual life that guides our actions. In every way.” That is to say, a person’s willpower represents the way he lives or does things, and the willpower guides himself and also directs other parts of the human body.

The abolition of slavery on British soil was a lofty goal of Fauwell Buxton.It was strength of will that helped him win this day.

Buxton was once an urchin with a simple mind and well-developed limbs. His difference lies in his tenacious willpower.This willpower had manifested in his childhood as violent, domineering, and stubborn.He lost his father when he was young, but fortunately his mother is very knowledgeable.She carefully tempered his will, and while forcing him to obey, she always encouraged him to make up his own mind and make up his own mind about some things that he could decide for himself.Mother firmly believed that, as long as it is properly guided, the formation of a strong will for a worthy goal is the most valuable quality for a person.Therefore, she raised her son in this way. When someone talked to her about his willfulness, she just said indifferently: "It doesn't matter. He is stubborn and willful now. You will see that it will be good for him in the end."

At school, Buxton achieved almost nothing, and he was considered a mentally retarded, lazy and stupid person.He asked others to do his homework for him, but he was jumping around and causing trouble.The mentally retarded, tall lad was only interested in rowing, shooting, horseback riding, and athletics.In fact, Buxton was naturally intelligent, but he lacked culture, training and development.

Just when he was at the juncture of forming a good or evil purpose in life, he was fortunate enough to enter the circle of life of the Gurney family.This family is not only famous for their good social conduct, but also famous for their knowledge, understanding and generosity.He married a girl of the family, and began his new life as a clerk in the workshop of her uncle Hambali, a London brewer.

The contacts with the Gurney family made his life colorful and colorful.They encouraged him to focus on self-cultivation, and he regarded himself as a well-cultivated person from the bottom of his heart; they encouraged him to study more, and his heart told him that he was a very cultured person.Of course, what he thinks in his heart, he has worked hard to achieve it.For example, when he was not working, he had to study diligently by himself every night, researching and digesting comments on English law by Blackstone, Montesquieu and others.His reading principle is: "Never give up halfway through reading a book." If you can't master a book and use it skillfully, you can't say that you have finished reading it.The guidance of the inner will, coupled with positive actions, made him a truly noble person.

Buxton's strength of will, which had made him a recalcitrant urchin as a child, now made him tireless and energetic in whatever he pursued.He said proudly: "I can brew wine for an hour first, then do math problems, and then go to practice shooting, and I can concentrate on everything." After being accepted as a partner, Burke Stone became the dynamic manager of the firm, personally attending to every detail, and business flourished like never before.

When Buxton entered the British Parliament, he was only 32 years old.In Parliament, the main issue he was committed to was to abolish slavery in the British mainland and colonies, and completely realize the emancipation of slaves.In the end, he did.

Buxton is not a genius, nor is he an intelligent leader, he is just a warm, forthright, determined, and energetic everyman.In fact, all of his character traits can be roughly summed up in a passage of his own - "As I grow older, I realize more and more: between people, between the weak and the strong, between the great and the strong The biggest difference between little people lies in the strength of will, that is, the determination to be invincible. Once a goal is established, if you don't die in the struggle, you will succeed in the struggle. With this quality, you can accomplish anything. Otherwise, No matter what talent you have, no matter what circumstances you find yourself in, no matter what opportunities you have, you can't make a two-legged animal a capitalized human being."

At the fork of justice and evil, Buxton chose the path of justice and walked on bravely.From the story, it is not difficult to see that willpower gave him a strong self-guided power, otherwise he would probably turn his head back from the path of justice.Willpower is a kind of energy, and according to the size of the energy, it can be judged whether a person's willpower is weak or strong, whether it is well developed or has obstacles.

ignite hope with dreams

With dreams, there is hope in life, and we will bravely embark on the journey, take firm steps without hesitation, and keep going.Because of dreams in childhood, we learned to fly kites, skate, and swim...Because young people had dreams, we learned to observe, learn to explore, and learn to communicate...It is all because of dreams that we Only when we have the opportunity to get closer to life and experience life, can we develop the quality of persistence and temper our strong will.Without a dream, life will be like a headless fly, bumping into walls everywhere, often failing, and the vigor of the body will be exhausted after a long time, and then collapsed to the ground in the lifeless days, never recovering from a setback.

A 65-year-old man always wanted to see the grand World Expo in Shanghai. This is very common for ordinary people. A ticket can solve the problem, but the old man did not do that.He lives in Beijing and decided to walk there.This seems to be a fantasy, even a young man in the morning sun can hardly do it, let alone an old man who is over fifty years old.But to everyone's surprise, we saw him in the Expo.A reporter asked him: "Did the difficulties and obstacles along the way scare you? How did you summon up the courage to hike?" He said calmly, "It's nothing, you don't need to walk step by step. What courage, the key is that you have to be clear about your goals and where you are going! I have not forgotten the dream in my heart."

Indeed, we sometimes forget the dreams we had when we set out on the way forward, and thus fail to reach the destination.If we forget our dreams, we don't know where we are, the front is dark, and we don't know where we are going.The words of the old man have given us a good inspiration: remember your dreams, and the blossoming life ahead is beckoning to you.

Sometimes, we may lament that the dream is too far away, but the process of realizing the dream is the best way to exercise the will, because the road full of thorns will eventually be swept away by the scythe you forged with bravery and strength.When you arrive at your destination, you have gained a valuable quality and spirit, that is strong willpower.

In the winter of 1939, in a room on the outskirts of Los Angeles in the western United States, a 15-year-old shy boy, John Goddard, was doing his biology homework at the kitchen table.At this time, he heard a friend of the parents next door say: "If I were to go back to Ge Dade's age, what I would do would be very different!" This sentence deeply touched Gedade's heart.He wrote six words squarely on a new page of the loose-leaf book: "The Dream of My Life".It took Ge Dade 5 hours to write down 127 goals in one breath.The following are some of these goals:

目标第1：探索尼罗河；目标第21：登上珠穆朗玛峰；目标第40：驾驶飞机；目标第54：去南极、北极；目标第111：读完莎士比亚、柏拉图等十七位大师的全部名著；目标第125：登上遥远、美丽的月球。为了实现这些梦想，葛拉德在他的小本子上写上了周计划和月计划。

He weighs himself every week, cleans out his closet, analyzes his recipes, and checks his successes and failures.Every morning, he spends 60 minutes exercising with barbells, pulleys and horizontal bars to keep his body in shape.In short, Gerard is working hard towards the goal he set with all his strength.Whenever he achieves a goal, he puts a red mark next to a "goal" for success with a sweet look on his face.

葛拉德61岁时，他已经成功地实现了原订的127个目标中的108个。他的第40个目标是驾驶飞机，他后来驾驶过46种飞机，其中包括时速达到1500英里的F－111战斗机。他还把自己实现第1个目标的经历写成了一本名叫《漂下尼罗河的皮划子》的畅销书。

Looking back on his life experience of realizing his dreams, Glad couldn't help but say with emotion: "Dreams filled me with vitality, gave me inexhaustible strength, exercised my will, and gave me perseverance. My life has not been in vain."

Yes, Gerard realized his dream, but what he gained was not only the joy of success, but also more - colorful life, training of will, understanding of life... Similarly, a 16-year-old Australian girl Watson sailed alone and completed the feat of sailing around the world alone. When Prime Minister Rudd praised her as a hero, Watson said: "I am not a hero, I am just an ordinary girl who believes in dreams."Susan Boyle from rural Scotland has touched hundreds of millions of ears with her natural voice.However, what is more touching is the phrase "I once had a dream".How many people quietly buried their dreams in the wind and dust of the years, but this unattractive aunt tenaciously guarded her dreams until she knocked on the hearts of everyone in the world with it.

Life with dreams is gorgeous, life with dreams is colorful, life with dreams is not lonely, life with dreams is not lonely.Have you set a lifelong dream plan for yourself, if not, then what are you waiting for, act now, it is never too late! "Where there is a will, there is a way." I believe that you will be able to realize your dreams and gain more on the way.

Perseverance is the key to success
Shakespeare said: "Even if you use a small ax to chop a hard oak tree, the ax is small, but if you keep chopping, it will eventually cut down the tree." However, with the passage of time, the increase of difficulty and frustration, and the exhaustion of strength, many people began to feel loose and fearful in their minds, and then slowed down until they stagnated, and finally gave up their efforts.

The reason why some people stop at halfway and give up halfway when doing something is mainly because people are born with a kind of inertia that is difficult to get rid of.When people encounter setbacks, difficulties and obstacles, this inertia will come out to make trouble.People with weak will are often defeated by it, thus presenting a dejected and shrinking mental state.Because of this, those who failed to persevere to the end could only get nothing, and stood aside, watching the successful people pass by with their heads held high, and the rich people striding forward, and a lot of longing arose in their hearts.But they don't know that the reason why they didn't gain anything is because when they need to work hard, spend a lot of effort, and persevere relentlessly, they stop working hard and let success pass by.

Binstock, the author of "The Power of Faith", pointed out: "Life is a long-term test of our perseverance. Only those who can persevere can get the greatest reward."

With a loud cry of "wow", a baby girl came into this world.However, 5 days later, the mother received a notice that her daughter was critically ill-the daughter actually suffered from cerebral palsy!In the next few days, although the doctors tried their best to rescue her, the critical illness notices were sent to her mother again and again.Half a month later, the family had exhausted all their savings and loans, and had no choice but to take their daughter home.

The daughter's two eyes are not on the same level, and because of severe hypoxia, the skin all over her body is purple.The mother hugged her daughter and cried loudly.

"The child is like this, let's give up." When I first got home, someone also advised my mother like this.The mother hugged her daughter and said nothing at most: "My daughter will be fine." But she told herself over and over again in her heart, "Mother and daughter are connected, as long as I have confidence, my daughter will definitely feel this idea and will be happy." slowly recovering."

The mother had no time for pain, and from the moment she brought her daughter home, she began a difficult life that lasted for 5 years.

In order to make money to make ends meet, my father has to go out to help others drive trucks, and he is at home for a few days throughout the year, so my mother has to bear the heavy responsibility of taking care of her daughter alone.

Every hour, the mother turns her daughter over.Because if I don't turn over, my daughter's eyes will be very slanted, and her face will appear large and small due to the asymmetry of her cheeks.Every hour, the mother also massages her daughter for 1 minutes-kneading, pinching, patting, and pressing. She thinks this will make her daughter feel better.The mother who graduated from junior high school has never learned any nursing knowledge. She does all this by instinct.

Heaven pays off.Mom's hard work was not in vain.Her daughter's condition gradually improved.

At 3 months, the eggplant purple meridians on her body were clearly visible.

At 5 months, when she heard the melody of a concert on TV, her daughter would twist her body slightly.

At 8 months, the daughter could stand up; at the age of 1 year and 5 days, the daughter took the first step... This little bit of progress is great news for the mother.She continued to massage her daughter without stopping for a day. Five years have passed, and my daughter is almost the same as a normal child in terms of appearance, learning and sports ability.

Massaging my daughter for 1 minutes every hour has never stopped for 10 years.With such persistence, my mother created a miracle—the daughter became a lively child who can speak well, loves to sing and dance.

And all this is at the expense of the mother's health.Mom hardly has a complete sleep time, and can only sleep three or four hours a day.This kind of work and rest, she lived for 5 years.Due to the lack of rest for a long time, her health has deteriorated sharply, but she has been gritting her teeth and persevering.Just because she believes that her persistence will bring health and happiness to her daughter.

With this level of perseverance, you can move mountains or fill seas.So we say that the daughter is lucky, because her mother did not give up on her, and her mother is willing to give everything for her; the daughter is also strong, and she repays her mother with her perseverance.Let us imagine that if the mother stopped massaging her daughter midway, the reason may be that she lost her faith or her body could not bear it, then it is impossible for God to return her a lively and lovely daughter.

Therefore, no matter what we do, once we give up halfway, it means that all previous efforts have been wasted.And only those who can stand the wind and rain and various tests can become the final winners.Therefore, don't be afraid of failure and don't give up easily.When there is a big tree standing in front of you that prevents you from going to success, and you can't cut it down with a single saw, why don't you take the persistent power in your will as a sharp saw, saw it down little by little, and let it become A small boat that takes you on the road to success?
Of course, there are many temptations on the way of persistence, which may make us want to give up.For example, if you want to quit smoking, you muster up the courage to quit at first, and persist for a long time. Suddenly, someone offers you a cigarette one day. At this time, you hesitate for a while, but finally take it, and then start smoking.As a result, you didn't follow through and you were a failure.Persistence means rejecting all kinds of temptations and eliminating the interference of all unfavorable factors.For example, if you are determined to quit drinking, don't touch a glass of wine on any occasion; if you decide to insist on jogging, even if it rains heavily when you wake up in the morning, you should exercise indoors as usual.In this way, over time, everything you do will reward you with satisfactory results.

Success depends on hard work

The great writer Hemingway told us such a story in "The Old Man and the Sea" - an old man was fishing alone at sea.One day, he caught a big fish he had never seen before, and he tied the head and upper body of the fish to the side of the boat.The big fish struggled with all his strength, but was finally tied by the old man.Unfortunately, a shark fell in love with the big fish caught by the old man, opened its mouth wide, and pounced on the big fish again and again.The old man tried his best to fight the shark, but the shark ate up all the places it could eat on the big fish. As a result, only a skeleton remained of the big fish.

The old man said: "A person is not born to be defeated. You can destroy him, but you can't defeat him." This kind of "tough bone" spirit of never giving up runs through the story of "The Old Man and the Sea".Many people like to read this book because they are attracted by the courageous and hard-working spirit of the old man in the book, and they are finally convinced by that spirit.

Only hard work will win, this is not true at all.When encountering difficulties, even if it is a little bit, you can step over it with just one step, while those who shrink back can never reach the other side of the difficulty. This kind of small joy is so precious to him luxury.Just think, what else can such a person do?As for fighting, it has nothing to do with him.On the contrary, the kind of people who refuse to admit defeat, persevere in spite of setbacks, and become more courageous as they get frustrated, rely on their hard work, just like the old man in the story, they can always taste the joy of victory.Here I will tell you a true story about the struggle of the post-80s generation.

His name is Tong Hongjiang, and he was born in an ordinary peasant family in Taonan City, Jilin Province.When I was in elementary school, my family was so poor that I couldn't afford a bicycle or even pay the tuition fees.He walked back and forth every day for the ten-mile journey from home to school.At that time, he had low self-esteem in class, he didn't have decent clothes to wear, and when it came time to pay the tuition fees, he was so worried that he couldn't eat.Seeing his mother borrowing money everywhere made him feel very uncomfortable, so he secretly made up his mind: study hard, and change the fate of his family and himself through learning.

When he was in junior high school, due to his talent and hard work, he was admitted to a key high school in the city.When he was a sophomore in high school, he was selected to participate in the National Olympic Physics Competition due to his outstanding performance in science, and won No.2.For this reason, the Department of Physics of Jilin University issued a notice of exceptional admission to him in advance.In the sophomore year of high school, he had a college admission letter in his arms, and he was not under the pressure of studying, which made him the envy of his classmates.However, luck did not favor him.This year, there was a severe drought in the spring, and the crops were almost wiped out. In the summer, it was cloudy and rainy, and a catastrophic flood broke out. The flood destroyed his family's field and only two houses.At this time, he was in great torment.Seeing that his younger sister had to go to school, and his parents were worrying about making a living every day, he resolutely gave up the exceptional admission letter and went out to work without telling his parents.During that time, he worked 12 hours a day and was paid 600 yuan a month.Half a year later, he brought 3000 yuan home through his classmates, saying it was a school scholarship.At this time, his parents were still in the dark, and the son who always thought he was competitive was still in the third year of high school.

After earning enough for his own tuition and living expenses, he went back to school for the third year of high school.At this time, it was only 3 months before the college entrance examination, and he only slept 6 hours a day to make up for the missing courses.In the college entrance examination that year, he was admitted to an undergraduate college in Nanjing with excellent results, but the tuition fee marked on the admission letter was 1 yuan, and he was worried again.

After learning about his situation, the school allowed him to suspend the tuition payment and arranged for him to work and study in the school cafeteria.However, misfortunes never come singly.When I was in my sophomore year, my parents were both sick, and I needed someone to take care of me at home, so my younger sister couldn't go to school.He immediately made the decision to drop out of school and took a part-time job in a computer company in "Nanjing Silicon Valley".Most of the time, he held placards on the streets of Nanjing as a tutor.In tutoring, he taught his students by precept and deed his struggle process, and received very good results.

With the money he earned from part-time jobs and tutoring, he not only paid for his younger sister's tuition, but also helped the family pay off tens of thousands of yuan in debt.At this time, he had the idea of ​​going to school again.It happened that a high school in my hometown heard about his experience and decided to admit him for free.After 5 months of hard study, he was successfully admitted to Dalian University of Technology in the college entrance examination that year.

In college, he made a name for his tutoring, "Teachers only study how to teach, but I study how to learn." He started from cultivating students' study habits and formed his own unique tutoring method.In a tutoring competition held in Beijing, he brilliantly explained the most difficult topic in the competition and successfully challenged the price standard of 4000 yuan per hour.Gradually, he has the title of "Emperor of Family Education".

In his sophomore year, he formed his own tutoring theory of "cultivating students' good study habits" and opened a tutoring company.Subsequently, the scale of the company became larger and larger, and he also gained a lot of income.

In his junior year, when most college students were still relying on their parents financially, he had already spent 10 yuan to build a new house for his parents.And his annual income has reached 30 yuan, and he is known as "the richest 'non-rich second generation' college student in China".Good things came one after another. When he graduated from university, he was recommended to study in Structural Engineering for Master and Ph.

Life is a big melting pot, everyone is a piece of iron.Some people abandoned it in the wilderness and turned it into a piece of rusty iron or scrap iron; some people withstood various tests and turned it into steel.Tong Hongjiang relied on his indomitable hard work to temper himself into a "steel" and won the current success for himself.Contemporary Paul Zhang Haidi, Tai Lihua, the lead dancer of "Avalokitesvara", and Liu Wei, the champion of China's Got Talent who lost his arms, none of them moved us with their tenacious struggle and self-improvement spirit.This can't help but remind us of Zheng Banqiao's "Bamboo and Stone": "Don't let go of the green hills, but the roots are in the broken rocks. Thousands of blows are still strong, let the wind from east to west." They are the ones in the poem who are not afraid of wind and rain. The image of "bamboo and stone" is indomitable and indomitable.

There is no smooth road in life, and there is no easy success in the world.Our life needs to be created by ourselves, and our success needs to be fought and struggled by ourselves!Those ups and downs, setbacks, tribulations, misfortunes and pains are always just stepping stones for the strong.On the road to success, there will be many tests, don’t be afraid, fight hard, and you will be greeted by sunshine.

Self-control is needed on the road of life
In order to catch wild ducks, a red fox has been lurking in the icy swamp for several days.It is so tenacious and patient, slowly and silently, it sticks to the ground and approaches the wild duck.Every time, the mallard would swim away inadvertently. At this time, the red fox licked his lips with his tongue, and returned to the original place in disappointment and waited.In order to fill his hungry stomach, the red fox made dozens of round trips like this.For thirty consecutive days, the wild duck was finally caught by the red fox due to negligence.

Red foxes are very good at controlling their own behavior, which is a kind of hunting instinct that they gradually formed in the long evolutionary process.One of the fundamental points that distinguishes human beings from animals is that human beings have thoughts, so they can rationally control their emotions and actions according to certain purposes.If it is said that even animals can control their behavior in order to achieve a certain purpose, then we who are thoughtful should be better at controlling our words and deeds.

The so-called self-control is the ability of a person to control his thoughts, feelings and behaviors in the act of will.The key to self-control is controlling yourself consciously and without supervision.Self-control is a kind of magical power deeply rooted in the human heart. It is like the steering wheel of life, making your life boat avoid reefs and whirlpools, and never be destroyed.People with strong self-control tend to have a strong will and are not easily overwhelmed by difficulties; if a person lacks self-control, it is like a car losing its steering wheel and brakes, and will inevitably "deviate" or "out of line", or even "overturn".

From the ancient encyclopedic scientist Aristotle to modern philosophers, they all noticed: "A good life is based on self-control." It can be seen that self-control plays a very important role in people's success. role.

Self-control requires not only overcoming material desires, but more importantly, spiritual control.If you plan to do something today, can you leave the warm nest and get out of bed without hesitation?If you want to travel far, but your body is weak, do you want to cancel the travel plan?If you encounter insurmountable difficulties in something you are doing, do you continue to do it or stop and wait and see?Questions like these, if answered on paper, can be easily answered by everyone, and the answer will be clear at a glance.But when you're in it, you probably won't answer so crisply.In fact, once many people encounter difficulties in life and work, they are intimidated because they have difficulty controlling themselves in thought.It's not hard to see that self-control isn't easy, as there's a constant battle between the intellect and the emotions within each of us.Self-control is not innate. Only through practice can we truly acquire self-control. Only by relying on inertia and repeated self-control training can our spirit be completely controlled.From the perspective of repeated effort and repeated training of will, the cultivation of self-control is largely a habit formation.

To enhance your self-control, you must start from every bit of daily life and strengthen your training.

American physicist Franklin once made up his mind to "overcome all bad natural tendencies, habits, or temptations of partners" in his youth.He formulated a moral plan for himself including 13 items, and implemented them one by one.For example, in order to correct the habit of gossiping and telling jokes, he listed the "silence" item, and he asked himself to "avoid trivial conversations unless they are beneficial to others or himself."Later, a friend said that he often acted very proud, so he added "humility" to the moral plan.When he wrote his autobiography in his later years, he once talked about the plan of exercising self-control in his youth, and believed that his achievements should be attributed to self-control.

You can choose to go for a long run every morning to help you develop a high level of self-control, or you can choose from a variety of physical activities.No matter what you choose to do, it is first and foremost a "drudgery" that you must force yourself to do.Second, this "drudgery" must also be something you can do every day.In the end, this "drudgery" should of course also be a beneficial thing, such as physical exercise.You can choose bodybuilding, swimming, cycling, walking, yoga, etc., but this does not mean that the "drudgery" available is limited to physical exercise, practicing a musical instrument, reading or writing consistently, correspondence or emails with friends, etc. Equally Be applicable.What kind of "drudgery" you choose is not important in itself, persistence is the key.Persisting in doing something that you don't like at first every day will eventually allow you to gain self-discipline, perseverance, and thus enhance self-control.

In life, if we let our emotions dictate our actions, we will become slaves to our emotions.Therefore, don't use emotions as an excuse, indulge yourself, and be strict with yourself. After a long time, self-discipline will become a habit and a way of life, and your personality will become more perfect as a result.When you can't hold on, you can think about Mark Twain's words: "The key is to do a little thing every day that you don't want to do in your heart, so that you won't feel pain about those obligations that really need you to complete, That’s the golden rule of creating conscious habits.”

[Stimulate positive energy] Exercise strong willpower

In life, we can find that some people have very strong willpower, while many people have very weak willpower or no willpower at all.They have no strong resolve for virtue, they are impersonal beings, passive recipients of ideas, and once accepted they do not last long.When the wind blows to the left, they fall to the left; when the wind blows to the right, they fall to the right again.Any kind of spirit can treat them as puppets, and any kind of will can rule their hearts.They are unthinking, passive, resigned, weak-willed, and seem irrelevant to others.Therefore, it is very important to pay attention to the improvement and tempering of the will.Because without a strong will, it is impossible to be independent, persistent, and have a distinctive personality; without a strong will, it is impossible for us to establish the correct direction for morality, and it is impossible to set ourselves from Freed from being a worthless puppet, it can only become a "machine" manipulated by people.

So, how to exercise willpower? "Frozen three feet, not a day's cold." Strong willpower can never be cultivated in a short period of time, it must be exercised in long-term practical activities.

develop good motivation
Will, without regard to its direction, is but a byword for steadfastness, indomitability, and tenacity.A strong will, however, can be a disastrous force if misled in character.It does bad things or is brutal and tyrannical like a demon.It was the unfettered will that produced a Napoleon who, after ravaging Europe, set his foot on the snow of Russia.But when his sabotage was done, the Europeans threw him aside.A strong will is a blessing when combined with good motivation.Such a person is energetic and steadfast, able to influence the behavior of others and stir the hearts and consciences of others.Therefore, before exercising strong willpower, we should cultivate good motivation first, so that willpower can work under the drive of good motivation.

The goal should be clear

Professor Pross in the United States once studied a group of experimental subjects who planned to change their behavior from New Year's Day, and found that the most successful were those with the most specific and clear goals.One of the men is determined to be kind and equal to his wife every day.Later, he really did.The other person just said in general that he wanted to be better to the family members, but within a few days it was the same and still quarreling.So, don't say empty words like: "I plan to do more physical exercise", "I plan to read more books", but should be specific and clear, "I plan to walk for 45 minutes every morning", "I plan to take a walk every Monday." [-], [-], [-] in the evening to read a book for an hour", you can definitely achieve such a goal.Slowly, you will enjoy doing things that you didn't enjoy doing at first.Over time, your willpower will slowly increase.

imagine tenacious willpower

The famous general of France in the 17th century, Touranwa, was famous for taking the lead, and he stood at the forefront of the team every time he fought.When others asked about this, he said bluntly: "I acted like a brave man, but I was terrified from the beginning to the end. But I didn't give in to the timidity, but said to the body, 'Old man, you Although I am trembling, I still have to go forward!' As a result, I charged forward resolutely." A large number of facts have proved that acting as if you have strong willpower will help you become a person with real strong willpower .So, before doing anything, imagine that you have tenacious willpower, which will help you achieve your goals.

do everything seriously
Willpower is a kind of self-directed spiritual force. As long as you are doing something with your heart, willpower is always working behind the scenes.Or it can be said that to live seriously and do things seriously is itself a way to exercise willpower.

Record persistence time
The cultivation of willpower cannot be achieved in a day or two, it requires a long-term process.The purpose of long-distance running is not how long you can run, but how long you can persist, because only by not giving up can you exercise your willpower.For example, if you run for 30 minutes every day, if you insist on doing this every day, you will gain something.How long should you persist? It doesn't mean running for 5 minutes today and 10 minutes tomorrow. It doesn't mean the length of this time.Even if your increased intensity is small, such as 5 minutes every other month or no increase, as long as you can persist for a long time, it can help you develop strong willpower.Record the time you persist every day. After a long time, you will taste the sense of accomplishment and joy brought by persistence, which will help you continue to persevere.

Of course, in the process of cultivating and establishing willpower, there will be setbacks and failures, and the phenomenon of "relapse" and "wavering and repeated" will inevitably occur.At this time, we must find out the reason for our lack of fighting spirit, so as to prescribe the right medicine.When a person quit smoking for the first time, she made a lot of determination, but ended in failure.After analyzing the reason, she realized that she needed to do something instead of taking a cigarette.Later, she bought needles and yarn and knit sweaters when she wanted to smoke.A few months later, she quit smoking completely, and knit a woolen vest for her husband, killing two birds with one stone.

In addition, we must let ourselves understand that it takes courage and perseverance to correct a problem that has been developed for many years and develop a good habit that we have never had before.Evasion, retrogression, and cowardice are the opposites of a strong will. There is no way out if you turn back. Only by persevering in overcoming difficulties can you form a good quality of will, grasp your own life journey, and move towards the other side of success.

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