Stimulate positive energy

Chapter 17 Negative energy strikes, learn to "immunize"

If the people around you are always used to see the bad side of things, always care about their own and others' shortcomings, or like to spread rumors, or have aggressive behavior, then they are full of negative energy.If you stay in such an environment for a long time, or interact with such people, their negative energy may be passed on to you. At this time, you should learn to "immunize" to prevent yourself from being affected by negative energy, or stay away from such people .

Harm from Negative Energy
As we have said before, negative energy is a kind of energy that makes people unhappy and depressed.Whether you can see it or not, whether you care about it or not, it exists in your body.It's just that some people have more negative energy hidden in their bodies, while others have less.A person with a lot of negative energy is because he cannot transform it in a reasonable way, so that a large amount of negative energy occupies the space of positive energy.Weaknesses of human nature, negative emotions, these are negative energies from our body, such as selfishness, greed, vanity, jealousy, comparison, complaints, anxiety, tension, low self-esteem, anger, worry, etc.

In addition to the negative energy from within ourselves, the surrounding environment may also transmit certain negative energy to us.For example, weather, disasters, accidents, etc., are non-man-made and beyond our personal control; friends with negative energy, some unhealthy and unpositive information spread on the Internet, and the depression of office colleagues are man-made. is something we can control.Now is the Internet age, most people go online every day, "Tell everyone a cruel news, a news of despair, a news of heartbreak... Tomorrow Monday!" "Graduated for a year, no job, My family is relatively poor, I don’t know anything, I have no skills, no friends, no social experience, I feel that life is really boring, I might as well leave this world.” Posts like this are conveying negative energy to us.

Whether it comes from our own negative energy or the negative energy from the external environment, we need to transform and overcome it.In fact, a person with negative energy is unpopular, because he will transmit negative energy to those around him, causing them to be hurt.Foreign neuroscientists and psychologists analyzed the brain activity of some people who faced various stimuli (including long-term complaints) and found that the brain works like a muscle. If it hears too much negative news , which is likely to cause the parties involved to act in a negative way as well.Worse, prolonged exposure to complaining can also make a person stupid and desensitized.This is because emotions are contagious to a certain extent. When we hear complaints and complaints, we will easily resonate in the brain, and thus some bad emotions will also appear, which will affect the thinking of the brain.It can be seen that the harm that negative energy brings to us is indeed great.

When a person with negative energy transmits negative energy to others, he himself becomes less beautiful.We often find that no matter how beautiful a woman or a handsome man is, when they are furious, jealous, greedy, and swearing, they don't look as beautiful as usual because their faces are distorted by anger , Their hearts are ugly because of darkness.Not only that, but by darkening their own lives, they bring harm to others.

The two mothers, each with their own children, met in the park and had a good conversation.On the side, the two children also had a lot of fun.After a while, one of the children suddenly started crying. It turned out that his toy was thrown into the grass far away by another child.The mother asked the child who threw the toy why he did that. The child said that he did not have such a toy, so he did not allow others to have such a toy.

This is a kind of jealousy at work.Children who throw other people's toys feel jealous when they see toys they don't have. In fact, their hearts are full of negative energy at the moment, which makes themselves unhappy first.He threw other people's toys and made the other person unhappy. Isn't this an act of hurting oneself and others?

Negative energy will also bring more serious consequences, that is, harming others and yourself.

Frog and mouse are neighbors.One day, two people quarreled for some reason, you won't let me, and I won't let you.From then on, both parties hated each other, and both regarded each other as disliked.

One day, the frog had an idea, why not find a reason to teach the mouse a lesson.So the frog found the mouse and persuaded it to play in the water.The mouse didn't dare, so the frog said that there was a way to ensure its safety, and he could connect himself to it with a rope.The mouse finally agreed to give it a try.

After entering the water, the frog showed its prowess. Sometimes it swam fast, and sometimes it dived into the water, tossing the mouse to death.The mouse was finally fed with water, and it swelled and floated on the water.

The kite flying in the air was looking for food, and soon it found the mouse floating on the water, so it grabbed it, and the connected rope naturally brought the frog up.After eating the mouse, the kite, still unsatisfied, stretched its mouth to the frog again.Before being eaten by the kite, the frog regretted and said: "I didn't expect to kill myself!"

Although this is just a fable, the enlightenment it gives us is profound - those who harm others will eventually harm themselves.

It can be seen that the harm that negative energy brings to us is huge, so we cannot be a person with negative energy, and even if we have it sometimes, we cannot pass it on to others.At this time, we must restrain ourselves, control our emotions, change our mentality quickly, and drive away the negative energy as quickly as possible.

Only a strong body and mind can be "immune"

Every year, when the flu strikes, it shows a pervasive momentum.No matter who it is, it will not let go.At this time, only those with good physical fitness and strong physique can resist the germs and will not be infected; while the elderly and children, because of their poor physical fitness, often become the targets of germs.In the same way, to resist the invasion of negative energy, only those who are physically and mentally strong have immunity.Being physically and mentally strong is actually what we often call strong vitality.When a person is full of vitality, "germs" can't get close to him.

There is such a story in Xia Yan's "Wild Grass"——

The human skull is very densely and firmly combined. Physiologists and anatomists have exhausted all methods to separate it completely, but they have no such strength.Later, someone suddenly thought of a method, which is to put some plant seeds in the skull to be dissected, and give it a suitable temperature and humidity to make it germinate.As soon as they germinated, these seeds used amazing power to completely separate the bones that could not be separated by all mechanical forces.The power of plant seeds can be seen.

This may be a bit special, and it is not easy for ordinary people to understand. Then, have you ever seen grass growing under the rubble and stones?Most have seen this.In order to yearn for the sun and realize its will to live, the seed must twist and turn and persevere to penetrate to the ground no matter how heavy the rocks are and how narrow the space between the rocks is.The stones that stop it will also be overturned by it.This is the power of a seed.

This is a kind of life force invisible to ordinary people. As long as life exists, this force will appear. The stones on it are not enough to stop it, because it is a force of "long-term resistance", elastic, flexible and stretchable. Resilient, unstoppable strength.

Seeds with vitality fall into the rubble, and they will never be pessimistic and sigh, because there is resistance to temper.And tempering will make the vitality stronger.People are also alive.It manifests itself both internally and externally.

Internally, it manifests as a person's "spirit, energy and spirit". We often say "energy" and "vitality" refer to vitality, which is the positive energy of the person's mind.Our previous chapters discussed how to strengthen the mind, teaching us to accumulate positive energy, create positive energy, and spread positive energy in all aspects from excellent character, innovative thinking, strong spirit, sunny attitude, and transformation of negative energy. This is to make our hearts stronger.

Externally, it manifests as a person's healthy body, which is the positive energy of the person's body.People with strong positive physical energy can often make others feel strong vitality, and only those with tenacious vitality can have strong positive physical energy.Therefore, we say that cultivating positive energy in the body is to maintain a strong vitality, and the health of the body is especially important.

When a person does not have a healthy body, his vitality will be lost. Under the same mental condition, the positive energy he emits can never be compared with a person with a strong body.Of course, this only means that health is a kind of power of life, which is very important, and it does not mean that vitality is equal to health.Life force can be shown through one's body posture, and healthy body posture can also evoke life force.A strong, tough, and energetic body posture, such as holding your head high, waving your powerful arms, taking steady steps, and making a loud voice, can all arouse strong vitality.

For the vast majority of people with normal physiques, their vitality is almost the same, even if there is a difference, it is very slight.So, why do some people look radiant, while others look sickly?That's because the amount of life force that is evoked varies.The best way to arouse vitality is to use your body language to give positive hints to your heart, show the most energetic state every day, and greet every day in life with hearty laughter, bright eyes, and upright posture. One day, it's hard to think that your body's positive energy will not be strong.

Positive body energy is the manifestation of vitality.It is impossible for positive energy to exist independently of the body, and vitality is the driving force for the positive energy of the body to run.A person's vitality is strong, and his body's positive energy has the core power.In the process of cultivating and training the positive energy of the body, we must always pay attention to this vitality from the body, arouse the vitality, and then arouse strong positive energy, so that we can have more powerful positive energy in the body.

To be immune, one must have immunity in both mind and body, and these two aspects are closely linked and inseparable.Because the mind is hurt or cannot be purified, such as depression, jealousy and other emotions, it will bring physical diseases to the body over time; and the body is not healthy, it will also affect the movement and transformation of energy in the body, such as being sick all year round , will hinder the realization of the ideal.Therefore, we need to improve our vitality from both the mind and the body.With strong vitality, those "germs" with negative energy can't get close to you, because the positive energy around your body and mind is escorting you.

Facing rumors, deal with them calmly

Rumors are a kind of negative things that we often see in our lives, with certain negative energy.Rumors refer to rumors that are often not based on facts, but deliberately fabricated out of imagination or according to subjective wishes.Some rumors are aimed at the society, some are aimed at everyone, and some are aimed at individuals. No matter what kind of rumors it is, we cannot easily believe it.In the face of rumors, those with a strong heart laugh it off; but for those with a weak heart, it is a disaster, because their psychological endurance is too weak, and they are too easily overwhelmed by the negative energy brought by rumors.

There have been rumors about the "2012 end of the world" circulating on the Internet. Some people didn't believe it, but some people paid a huge price for it.

The 41-year-old man believed in the rumors of "2012 the end of the world", so that he has been inattentive to work, and spent more than 11 savings to enjoy himself in time, and lived a life of "countdown days". endlessly.The wife couldn't bear it anymore, and ran away from home with her ten-month-old daughter.

A pair of aunts and cousins ​​believed that the earth was about to be destroyed, so they quit their stable jobs and frantically carried out speed robberies. After robbing the money, they spent it in restaurants, Internet cafes and other places, and were finally captured by the police.

A wife in Nanjing secretly mortgaged more than 100 million yuan to an intermediary with her real estate certificate behind her family's back, saying that she would donate the money quickly.It made his husband almost collapse, and a good family was turned upside down.

2012 is over, and we are still alive and well.You said, what should we do in the face of rumors?For those unfounded rumors, the best way is to ignore them and let them go in one ear and out the other, let alone do any irrational actions that will make you too late to regret.

Sometimes, the rumors around us against ourselves come very suddenly.This is because those people who are in a hurry, make a fuss, and are jealous, in order to satisfy their vanity and empty hearts, they will always do some disgraceful and immoral things at any time.In this regard, some people will say that "the body is not afraid of the shadow being tilted" and "the feet are not afraid of the shoes being crooked". Having said that, the damage caused by rumors to our hearts cannot be ignored: the mild ones cause adverse effects on people, and affect people. Normal life, study, etc. In severe cases, it may even affect the prospects and future of one's life, making people mentally decadent and depressed.

There is such a sentence in "Zeng Guang Xian Wen": "Who doesn't talk about people behind their backs? Who doesn't talk about people behind their backs?" That is to say, none of us can guarantee that we will not comment on others behind their backs, and of course it is inevitable Will be commented by others, even slandered.Since it is unavoidable, what we should do is to treat rumors correctly.

——Laugh it off.We don't have to worry too much about those rumors that are small things that don't hurt us. The best way is to laugh it off, or we can say to ourselves, "Isn't it just a few bad words, I don't care."Because we don't need to worry about small things; moreover, the rumor makers will gradually lose interest when they see that you don't overreact, and stop spreading rumors.

——Prove yourself with actions.Psychologists have found that when people's ideas have been formed, any of your refutations to them may become a bullet that injures you in turn.This phenomenon is known as the "backfire effect".In fact, for most victims of a rumour, each rebuttal strengthens the memory of the rumour, leading them to believe it to be true.Therefore, in the face of rumors, we don't need to refute them directly, but should do the right thing to establish a correct image, so as to refute the rumors.Here we should correctly understand the essence of refusing rumors, which is "how to refute rumors", not "how to keep others from speaking".

— to respond.If spreading rumors is of great importance and harms your own personality and reputation, you must respond. Sometimes it may not be enough for you alone, and you need to rely on the strength of your unit, parents, and friends.

——Do not hide or avoid.Even if the rumors are rife, don't deliberately avoid being with people.Your demoralized look will only add new topics for everyone to keep talking about with gusto.You can join their conversation as usual, or be more active than usual.If the subject is brought up to be a rumour, you can deny it very naturally, or sneer to show that you are bored with such childish behavior, or you can calmly ignore it, as long as you change the subject very naturally, and the new topic If it also makes everyone feel very interesting, the rumors will become unimportant.

——Concentrate on work.Rumors are like noise, affecting people's emotions.If you are smart, you must understand that you should never say anything that you should not say. The most important thing is to work with peace of mind. When others are busy spreading rumors, your performance may have exceeded a lot!

——Strengthen yourself.Seriously cultivate yourself at ordinary times, enhance your personality charm, be cautious in your words and deeds, build a good relationship, and don't create a breeding ground for rumors.

——Don't listen or ask.You don't have to get involved in rumors about other people.

Facing criticism, adjust mentality

Criticism is to express opinions on mistakes and shortcomings, which is negative and derogatory, and it does not sound as comfortable as praise.Lincoln once said that "the world likes to praise", but we are all unavoidable to be criticized for various reasons in our study and work.In this way, everyone will encounter an unavoidable problem-how to deal with criticism.After being criticized, some people are afraid of being ridiculed by others, so they are timid and walk on thin ice all day long, so that they are finally devastated; The "face" of others takes good words and advice from others as a deaf ear, so that they cannot correctly recognize their own mistakes, and in the end they cannot correct them.In the face of criticism, we need a good psychological quality. If we cannot correctly understand and deal with all kinds of criticism, we will have a rebellious psychology, and then form bad emotions and excessive behavior.

We often say that "loyal words are harmful to the ears and good for deeds", and we should welcome correct or appropriate criticism.

In 1952, when Master Mei Lanfang performed "The Phoenix Returns to the Nest", Mr. Wang Qinsheng, who was sitting in the audience, discovered that Master Mei Lanfang had made a mistake in one of his movements.After the performance, Mr. Wang bluntly reminded Master Mei that Master Mei was open-minded, and he changed it the next day, winning a lot of applause.

Specifically in our life, because of your carelessness, you made a wrong account, which caused certain economic losses to the company.For this reason, the manager severely criticized you, saying that you were too careless and should correct this problem, and changed you to a new job position.We are criticized because we have made mistakes, and there is no doubt that we should accept it with humility, even if it is severe.Because this kind of criticism is not only a punishment for us, but also a spur, which is very beneficial for us to improve our own quality and professional ability.Therefore, we should not be dejected, give up on ourselves, and have the thought of breaking the jar.

In life, we may also face criticism from friends, family members, etc. Their kind and sincere correct opinions are beneficial and harmless to us.If the other party's criticism method is not good, we should not be haggling, so as not to hurt feelings, as Marshal Chen Yi said, "it is rare to be a critical friend who dares to criticize in person."If you can’t accept that kind of criticism, then think about the mistakes you made and the benefits that this kind of criticism brings to you: it allows you to discover problems in time, rein in the brink, correct objective shortcomings and mistakes, and help you to succeed At this time, the impulsive negative energy you are about to generate will quietly go away.

For those wrong criticisms, that is to say, you have been criticized without any fault, you should keep a calm mind and a good attitude.We should first find out the truth of the matter, maybe someone else accidentally made a mistake, which made the criticism fall on you, and if you get angry out of impulsiveness at this time, it will not only mobilize the negative energy in your body, but also affect your image , It is also bad for your health, and at the same time, it will make your critics unable to step down, which is very embarrassing and hurts the harmony between the two parties.If you act calmly and handle things gently, without hurting yourself and preserving the self-esteem of others, this will make others appreciate and trust you more in the future.Everyone feels bad about being criticized.Especially receiving malicious criticism, or receiving criticism that is not so realistic on some important occasions, will make people angry and want to get angry.For example, a person who is serious and responsible at work is late for a meeting this morning due to traffic jams, and he has never been late before. When he hurried into the office, he saw the supervisor with a serious face and shouted at you in a high voice: "What's wrong with you, you are late every time, so irresponsible, who will trust you in the future?" At this moment, some people immediately burst into anger: "How can you treat me with such an attitude?" Some scholars can be killed but cannot be humiliated, so they are furious and start to fight back with vicious words to prove that they are the party of the truth and cannot be slandered; others will feel ashamed and feel ashamed: "I am really useless, I can't even do this well." !” and fell into self-pity.

Whether our response is to fight back or run away, it's easy to let ourselves sink into a low mood, get upset, lose our temper, and then lose our relationship.A wise person is not in a hurry to get angry or argue at this time, but to calm down and look at this criticism from a higher perspective, seeing it as a test.If we can stand the test and successfully pass this test, we have improved our self-cultivation one step; if we cannot stand the test and pass this test, then our self-cultivation still needs to be improved.Smart people neither argue nor get angry in the face of criticism, but only use a "sorry" to stabilize the situation first, and then overcome rigidity with softness: "Maybe you are right, please give me a chance, I will think about it carefully. "With the guidance of this thought, no matter how depressed we are, we will not take unwise actions.

Carnegie said: "Don't worry about criticism. As long as you believe that you are doing the right thing, don't care about what others say." During the American Civil War, if Lincoln hadn't learned to ignore all kinds of overwhelming attacks, I'm afraid he would have collapsed up.Lincoln's method of dealing with malicious criticism has become a classic.Lincoln had this to say about it: "As long as I don't react to any attack, it goes so far. I do my best, and I continue to do so to the end of my life. In the end, I turn out to be right, and all the blame Conversely, it turns out that I was wrong, so even if 10 angels testify that I am right, it is useless." What a brilliant statement, from which we can find the correct way to deal with malicious criticism.

From the perspective of a malicious critic, criticizing others is often a kind of self-satisfaction.Specifically, if someone criticizes you, it is because criticizing you gives him a sense of satisfaction.Not only does it not mean that you are worthless when others criticize you, but if it is malicious slander, it means that you may have the advantage of being envied.

Therefore, in the face of criticism, whether it is well-intentioned or malicious, we don't have to be brooding, have hostile thoughts, or even have revenge. Depression in the heart to seek psychological balance.

Facing accusations, deal with them indifferently

In our daily work and life, we will inevitably suffer some accusations.Among them, there is no lack of criticism and correction of our mistakes by leaders, elders, friends, and colleagues, and sometimes there are some groundless accusations, even "wearing small shoes" and "cynicism". "It's all your fault. It's because you insisted on going your own way that our plan was not approved." "Look at them, they can be rated as advanced even if they don't do a good job. We can't keep up." Similar words, we are in the office. can often be heard. "How can someone get 95 points in the test, why do you only get 80 points?" heard in the mouth.Yes, some people may often be accused of this.

So, how do you deal with accusations?The way and method of handling can generally reflect a person's psychological quality and ability level.Facing accusations correctly, we can use accusations as the basis of our progress; on the contrary, accusations may become a stumbling block to our progress.It can be seen that how to face accusations is closely related to the realization of our dreams on the road of life.In the face of accusations, we must first correct our attitude.It is a positive attitude to regard being criticized as a promotion and spur to oneself.With the attitude of "correct if there is something, and encourage if there is nothing", conduct a calm analysis of the incident that has been accused, and reflect on your own shortcomings in the incident in order to correct and improve yourself.Immediately after being accused, attacking the accusing party, or even "swearing", is an impulsive emotion that is absolutely unacceptable.

Throughout history, some people say that Xiang Yu is a hero, but his failure is entirely due to himself, because he is too arrogant, and his only thought is to kill those who point out his shortcomings.On the other hand, Liu Bang, some people said he was a rascal, but he won the favor of accusers with a low profile. If Li Shiqi criticized him for neglecting others, he would thank him with his clothes, treat each other with courtesy, and use Li Shiqi for his own use.He humbly accepts other people's suggestions, earnestly finds his own deficiencies from others' accusations, corrects mistakes when he knows them, and constantly improves and enriches himself.It can be seen that it is very important to have a correct attitude in the face of accusations.

Second, clarify the facts concisely.Some people advocate that "silence is golden" and "the clearer is self-clearing", and think that clarification is "adding fuel to the fire" and "the more you smear, the darker it is", and feel that there is no need to explain, but they don't know that "silence is not all golden sometimes".Sometimes, due to a misunderstanding, the accuser says one thing and the accused understands another, and if not clarified, it will always be a misunderstanding and affect the relationship.By clarifying the facts, the problem can be put on the table and discussed, which helps to solve the problem better and faster, so that both parties know exactly what happened, and don't ask or say it. Sometimes clarifying the facts is a confirmation Are the two parties aware of the same thing?Therefore, when the other party's anger subsides a little bit, it is necessary to look at the right time to explain the reasons for the incident and your own attitude.

Clarifying facts is not the same as arguing.There is no point in arguing. We must believe that facts speak louder than words, and at the same time we should not be stingy with our tolerance.Former U.S. President Clinton said in a talk at the White House: "If I had to read the accusations against me, let alone make corresponding defenses one by one, then I might as well resign. I am doing my best work with my knowledge and ability." , and will always be, if I am proved to be right, those objections will be self-defeating; There will be more accusations."

In the face of groundless accusations, we must treat them with peace of mind.Being entangled in accusations may make you unable to extricate yourself and delay the proper and important things you should do. It may also make you feel depressed and troubled for a long time, consuming the positive energy in your body and stimulating more positive energy. Negative Energy.Facing criticism and dealing with it calmly is the embodiment of a person's quality and ability in life and work, and it is also a kind of practice in life.

Facing an attack, deal with it calmly

In life, we will encounter some very aggressive people, they often speak hurtful words, and they are justified, and they say that "it is better to speak face to face than behind the back".For example, when you are with him, no matter what topic you are talking about, he can always sharply point out your misunderstandings; any joke made by others can cause him to immediately retort; as for gossip, he will suddenly become humorless feel.Getting along with such a person is actually quite tiring. You don't know which sentence will suddenly "offend" him, so no one wants to associate with such a person.And facing such a person, many people will feel fear and be at a loss.If you fight back directly, the conflict will definitely intensify; if you don't fight back, you won't be able to swallow that breath.what to do?
In fact, getting along with such people is not very difficult, the key is to understand their inner psychological mechanism.Aggressive people are overly conceited, more emotional, have poor emotional management skills, and even have psychological problems in impulse control.Such people will think that they are always right, and we can always hear their intentional or unconscious self-affirmation: I am very good, my judgment is the most accurate, and at the same time always use a pair of harsh eyes to search for other people's problems , is also examining everything around him with critical eyes, so he targets the people and things around him, and the people around him are vulnerable to his attacks.Such a person may not know how flippant insults make others feel, and he is expressing himself purely.There is also a situation where people who are full of insecurity are very aggressive. They always say things like "I can't make them think I'm a bully" angrily. This may be related to their personal experience.For example, her father was lost when she was young, and her mother and daughter depended on each other. If she didn't have sharp teeth, she wouldn't be able to cope with the ten years of her growing up.She has been accustomed to it for a long time, and she must be vigilant to believe that normal arguments and good-natured jokes are hidden threats, so she likes to attack others.

It is impossible for an emotional person to think rationally. When communicating with him, don’t talk about big reasons. Reasoning is useless. The most effective way is to deal with his emotions and stabilize his emotions.So, the best response when he spouts is to listen patiently.Of course, it is not easy to listen patiently, and the main reason is to be affected by the emotions of the other party.

So, how to get rid of the influence of each other's emotions?In fact, when you know that his attacks are not aimed at you alone, but a consistent pattern of communication, which is true of everyone, your emotions will not be affected by it.

If you adopt the method of direct counterattack, you will just enter his communication mode and be led away by his impulsive emotions.If you listen patiently, you can take the initiative in a short period of time, disrupt his inherent communication rhythm, and thus influence the other party with sincere positive energy.

Whenever you face aggressive people, you always feel uncomfortable, and you have a kind of pain that you have no reason to say or can’t say, and you know that you are not a confident person, and through the influence of your own positive power If you can't achieve the effect of making him stop attacking, then you should try the most helpless way, that is, stop interacting with him.In this situation, if you associate with him again, you will become like him, extremely sensitive, lack of confidence, full of complaints, dislike everyone, and full of negative energy in your body, so leave him cruelly.Almost everyone will shy away from a person who is aggressive and unaware that his actions have a negative impact on others, because any conversation of any nature will turn into asking for trouble, or turning into irrelevant people. An angry denunciation of the matter.In that case, too, he would soon be the loneliest man.

If there are offensive remarks aimed at ourselves, we can refer to the methods of dealing with criticism, accusations, and rumors to deal with them reasonably. The most important thing is not to get angry indiscriminately, but to learn to "handle them coldly". no harm.

【Stimulate positive energy】How to treat people with negative energy
People with negative energy often bring us depression and pessimistic thoughts, which can suddenly bring our emotions to a trough.Such people are not welcome.So how should we treat such people?

Some people say not to associate with them, stay away from them, but in fact it is not to the point of helplessness, we should not do this.Because everyone stays away from them, don't they become lonely?They feel lonely and feel that everyone doesn't like them. On the contrary, they will be more autistic and prone to depression, which is very detrimental to their physical and mental health.And sometimes we can't choose to stay away from them, because they are our relatives, friends and other people who are very important to us. If we choose to avoid them, it will hurt the other party and affect the relationship between the two parties.We might as well use our own positive energy to influence them, impress them with our sincerity, maybe they can slowly get rid of the negative energy on their bodies and transform into a person full of positive energy.

For example, you don't want your brain to suffer from "listening to complaints", what should you do?First of all, we should actively guide the person who complains to you, guide him how to solve the problem by himself, develop his thinking, and find a calm solution to the problem.Second, carry out active defense.If your positive guidance does not work, you can try to build a psychological "firewall" for yourself, listen to their complaints, but use some psychological techniques to block the complaints from entering the brain and avoid damage to brain nerve cells.If the above two methods are not effective, then we can only stay away from complainers.Because emotions are contagious, we are more likely to be happy when we are with happy people, and more likely to be pessimistic when we are with pessimistic people.By using a distance from the complainer, the brain will not be attacked by the complaint.

We often hear that some parents keep their children away from those "bad friends", but the children think they are good friends and are willing to play together. In addition, the child's self-control is poor, it's not that adults say to keep him away He can do it now, but if he insists at this time, it may be counterproductive.We might as well look at the communication between children positively, don't underestimate the positive energy of good children, and don't wantonly magnify the negative energy of "bad children". Encourage children to use their own positive energy to influence those "bad friends".

As the saying goes, "one who is close to vermilion will be red, and one who is close to ink will be black". If you associate with people with bad hobbies and behaviors, you will of course be affected by them.Therefore, when parents find that the child's positive energy cannot affect his "bad playmates", they can reason with the child and remind the child to have less contact with such playmates.This must be done, otherwise children will become as full of negative energy as "bad playmates", and it will not be easy to correct those bad habits when they grow up.

However, sometimes, we can’t stay away if we want to. For example, if you have to work in an office every day, how do you stay away?Even if you greet him in a good mood early in the morning, he will still look at you weakly, or ignore you at all, or make sarcastic remarks, transfer negative energy to you, and your bad day will start like this.In such a situation, we have no choice but to cultivate ourselves all the time, arm ourselves with knowledge, improve our self-cultivation and personality charm, and constantly accumulate various positive energies, so that our hearts will continue to grow stronger, and our whole body will be better. Full of positive energy, in order to "immunize" against negative energy.

(End of this chapter)