Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 14 You should be gentle and powerful (3)
When she took the burden of selling tea in the city for the first time, she was very nervous.No matter standing on the side of the bustling road or walking through alleys, big and small, she is always timid and dare not shout loudly.On the first day, she only sold half a catty of tea. Gradually, when she became familiar with the life of selling tea, the business gradually improved.People seem to take good care of her, a little girl who sells tea alone, so they take care of her business.She didn't have any lofty ideals. Looking at the tea shops on the street, she wholeheartedly hoped that she would own such a small shop in the future, so that she wouldn't have to walk around the streets to sell tea every day.

Two years later, her wish came true. She rented a shop in the city with the money she saved in the past two years, opened the first tea shop in her life, and started her career as a tea boss.At the beginning, her business was not good. On the one hand, it was because the tea had no special characteristics, and on the other hand, it was because the location of the store was relatively remote, and there were very few people in the shop, so she could barely maintain it.

But if she wants to change to a location with more traffic, she needs a lot of rent, and she doesn't have enough financial ability for the time being.So she could only find a way from other aspects. She heard that "Lei Cha" is very popular with everyone, so she handed over the shop to her mother to take care of it, and went to learn "Lei Cha" skills by herself.With her innate ability to understand tea, she mastered the whole set of "Lei Cha" skills after only two months of learning. However, because she had an appointment with the master, she had to study and work with the master for half a year. Willing to break the contract, I persisted for half a year.

Half a year later, she returned to her small shop. Although "Lei Cha" made the shop's business better, the remoteness of the location still couldn't make the shop really popular.So she began to think of other ways, she printed a lot of small advertisements, and then distributed them in the streets and alleys, just like selling tea in the streets and alleys at first.Gradually, the popularity of the small shop has increased. Whenever customers come to buy tea, she will explain some tea identification skills to them for free, and often perform tea ceremony for everyone.

Slowly, more and more people came to her shop, but there were also more people who liked to take advantage of it.Some old customers, after buying tea, always ask for this or that. If she doesn’t give it, they say they will never come again next time. They also threaten to tell other friends that her small shop is a black shop and the tea is too expensive.She had no choice but to swallow her anger.After a long time, some customers made things difficult for the small shop, which gradually led to a deficit. It became more and more difficult for her to do business. Finally, she had to close the store and find another way out.She likes tea, and besides tea, she has nothing to do. After much deliberation, she still decided to make tea, but this time, she decided to make cultural tea.She came to the University Cultural City, where she rented a small teahouse to sell tea to students.Although her education level is not high, but because she loves tea and understands tea, she has a light and long-lasting feeling. The students like her teahouse very much.In just one year, she made a profit.Soon after, she opened a second teahouse.In this way, after more than ten years of development, she is now in her early thirties, and already owns 35 tea houses and 50 tea houses, and her business spreads all over the country. Almost all famous university towns have her tea houses or tea houses.

This is a classic story of success made possible by tenacity.Life is a long marathon, and only by learning to persevere can we win the final victory.There is no smooth road in life, and there will definitely be setbacks of one kind or another in the middle, but you can't say you're defeated until the last moment, because victory may be to persist until the next second.It seems that there is no way out of mountains and rivers, but as long as you persist, you will find that there is actually another village.

If you can't persevere in everything, you can't bear the difficulties and obstacles you encounter at that time, which is the root cause of many people's final failure; and all major achievements in all fields are all related to the quality of perseverance, and this is true for men and women.Remember, patience is a strategy of retreating and advancing secretly, and it is also a choice of gaining momentum.Patience today is for greater success tomorrow.

5. Use a slow mind to prolong your happiness
Later, I learned that we strive to be extraordinary, but in the end, we will lose the happiness of many ordinary women.

A circle with a missing corner often sighs because of its crippled body. In order to make life complete, it decides to set off to find its missing corner, so it begins to travel around the world.Along the way, it couldn't go faster because of its incompleteness, but it had the opportunity to appreciate the scenery of various places, experience the customs of various places, and make various friends.Finally, it finally found the missing piece.But when it was excited to fix that corner and was ready to enjoy the fullness of life, it found that it could no longer stop moving forward, and all the scenery and things around it became fleeting passers-by, and would never stay for it again One minute and one second.

I believe that many people have heard this story, and when we finish reading it, we will probably feel a little sad, because what happened to this circle makes many of us feel the same way.In this increasingly competitive society, in order not to be eliminated, in order to achieve the success we want, who doesn't build himself into a circle without missing corners?Because we want to move forward quickly, and we cannot be left behind by others. Falling behind means being eliminated. This is true in work and life.

Therefore, for the sake of work, family, and children, we tense our nerves every day, and keep moving forward, moving forward, and moving forward.Don't dare to neglect at all, dare not stop for a minute or a second, because if you are a step slower, your job may be replaced by others, your marriage may be captured by others, and your children may lose at the starting line.

The author of the super best-selling book "Positive Energy", British professor Mr. Wiseman and the British Council jointly conducted a survey in 2007.The survey results show that people's walking speed has increased by 10% in the past ten years.Hurry, nervous, fast, become the state of life of most people.However, do we really get the happy life and successful career we want because of this?Most people are still just living ordinary lives. Although a few people have achieved this wish, they have sacrificed a lot of things at the same time.

After more than 20 years of struggle, she finally realized her dream when she was young and became a famous female entrepreneur and strong woman in this industry.However, what comes with a successful career is not all flowers and applause, and her health has been seriously overdrawn.Just after her 45th birthday, she got a serious illness. After the doctor's full treatment, she finally saved her life, but the doctor warned her that if she didn't take a good rest and recuperate, she might relapse, and the situation would be worse than this time. Serious, even life-threatening.

For the sake of her health, she had to follow the doctor's advice and decided to find a quiet place to recuperate for a while.But before she left, she still didn't forget to bring her laptop and some accounts and documents of the company.After so many years of hard work, she has developed the habit of working every day. She is worried that without her own support, the company will go into trouble.

When she arrives at the resting place, she has to hold video conferences with the leaders of various departments of the company through the Internet every day, and listen to their work reports.The accompanying secretary was worried about her health and tried to dissuade her from time to time. She promised very well, but as soon as the secretary turned around, she started working again.Finally one day, she fell ill again, and this time she listened to the secretary's advice and decided to put aside the work at hand and go for a walk outside to get some fresh air.

The place where she recuperates is an ordinary farm far away from the city. There are no famous rivers, mountains, or historical sites, but only crops and cattle and sheep everywhere.She went to a field and saw a peasant woman who was about her own age pulling weeds, so she walked over and chatted with her.

"Sister, do you like this place? Have you ever walked out of this ravine to take a look outside?" "Hehe," the peasant woman smiled honestly, "I was born here and grew up here. This is my home. If now I'm definitely reluctant to let me leave here." "That's a pity, in this life, one has to go out to see the world, and it's not worthwhile to fight for life."

"It's a pity, everyone has their own way of life. For you urbanites, struggle and success may be very important, but for us rural women, it is important to be able to guard an acre of land and live with men. Raising parents together and bringing a baby, this is the happiest day."

This seemingly simple life ideal of a peasant woman suddenly touched a certain nerve in her heart. She suddenly remembered the small ideal that she had in her heart many years ago, before she started to venture out into the world: when she grows up, marry A man who loves himself, builds a harmonious family, raises a smart and lovely child, and has a job within his ability, then his life will be complete.But thinking about myself now, in order to work hard for my career all these years, everything else has been delayed: no time for love, no time for marriage, no children of my own, and a whole body of illnesses.What exactly are you planning?Is it fame?After fighting in the mall for so long, she has long been tired of fame.Is it wealth?What's the use of having more wealth? You don't need to sleep on a one-foot-wide bed, and you can only eat with a bowl alone. Apart from making others jealous, what is the use of excess wealth?
After going back that day, she turned off her mobile phone and computer. She decided to take a good vacation for herself, think about nothing, do nothing, just have a good rest, and then think about what to do next.

A person can be busy in order to live, but cannot give up life in order to be busy.In order to be happy forever, you must remember to take a vacation for yourself, let yourself stop, and enjoy the happiness you have at this moment.However, in real life, many women have never understood this truth, and they are still living in a busy life.In their view, today's busyness is for future happiness and stability.But they don't know that in the busy process, they ignore too many things and lose too many things, such as family affection, friendship, and their original dream.They exchange the happiness they already have for the happiness that is out of reach in the future. In the end, they may even give away the happiness in their hands.When I can finally look back, the original beautiful scenery may have already become ruins.

Because of their busy schedule, the children have never heard their bedtime stories, seldom eat at the same table with them, or even heard a few words of their nagging.As a result, the children become more and more alienated from them, and a huge gap is formed between the body and the mind.When they finally realized this one day and wanted to save it, the child had grown up, and they could no longer enter the child's inner world.Because of their busy schedule, their parents rarely see them, let alone sit down and have a meal together.The promises I made to my parents, the support plan I had drawn up, and the fiery filial piety I had once had were finally wiped out in the busyness.It wasn't until one day that their parents were dying, or passed away forever, that they woke up, but it was too late.

Their dearest and dearest family members are lost in the busyness, not to mention the friends around them.Not to mention girlfriends, and not to mention "best friends", they have become the background of life in their busy life.Occasionally, maybe you can still think about it, but Juju is too difficult.It wasn't until one day that their friends deleted them from the communication records that they felt lonely, but how easy is it to restore the lost friendship?

Zhang Ailing once advised women all over the world to "be famous as early as possible", but what about Zhang Ailing after she became famous?Did she enjoy the happiness she thought she had?
Don't set the "fast forward button" for your life anymore. Health needs us to stop, and beauty needs us to stop.Sit down and think about it quietly: How long has it been since you took a walk along the tree-lined path, listened to the birdsong, and smelled the fragrance of the flowers?How long has it been since you relaxed and had a SPA?How long has it been since you made a cup of coffee in the afternoon and quietly read a book you like?How long has it been since you just sat quietly like this, without thinking about anything, with your eyes closed and feeling the calm surroundings?

Dr. Zhang Wenliang of National Taiwan University once wrote a timeless essay titled "Leading a Snail for a Walk":
God gave me a mission to take a snail for a walk.

I can't go too fast, the snail has tried its best to crawl, always moving a little bit every time.

I urge it, I bluff it, I blame it.

The snail looked at me with sorry eyes, as if saying: "I have tried my best!"

I pull it, I pull it, I even want to kick it.

The snail was injured, it was sweating, panting, and crawling forward... It's strange, why did God ask me to take a snail for a walk?

"God! Why?" The sky was quiet.

"Oh! Maybe God caught a snail!"

Ok!Let go!Anyway, God doesn't care, so what else do I care about!
Let the snail crawl forward, and I sulk behind.

Huh?I smell the fragrance of flowers. It turns out that there is a garden here.

I feel the breeze blowing, so the wind at night is so gentle.

wait!I heard the chirping of birds, I heard the chirping of insects, and I saw how bright the stars are all over the sky.

Huh?Why didn't you have these experiences before?

I suddenly remembered.

Could it be that I made a mistake!

It turned out that God told the snail to take me for a walk!
Haven't you been shocked and touched your soul after reading this?What better life than this?A little snail has given us a new concept of life - slow down and enjoy every moment.Work slowly, exercise slowly, read slowly, enjoy slowly, we must learn to take a snail for a walk every day.

Facing a favorite book, if you forget to sleep and eat and read it in one day, then you can only have it for one day, but if you read a little bit every day, and slowly appreciate the beauty it describes, Then you will have it for a long time; facing a plate of delicious snacks, if you finish it in two or three bites, the wonderful feeling of taste will only stay for a few minutes, but if you taste it carefully in small bites, It will make its sweetness stay on the tip of the tongue for a longer, longer time.Enjoying slowly can make our sense of happiness grow slowly.

Don’t be burdened by fame, successful career, quick-dating love, education eager for quick success, and don’t make yourself like a spinning top just to survive, spinning and spinning every day.Slow down, slow down, live slowly, and enjoy quietly.Of course, slowing down does not mean that you can’t keep up with the beat, but that you know how to pursue a spiritual and ideological balance, just as musicians often say to grasp the rhythm.Beautiful notes, if added with irregular speed, will destroy the beauty of music.Likewise, enjoying life without a proper pace destroys the enjoyment of life.

Whatever your reason, you can actually slow down.And when you slow down, you will find that your happiness has also been quietly lengthened.

(End of this chapter)