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Chapter 19 Love Comedy (2)
"A wicked feudal society. People get married and they are not allowed to do serious things, and they are not allowed to do serious things but they are allowed to have children. What kind of messy ideas are these?"

"Aren't you good at analyzing human behavior patterns from the perspective of human nature, animal nature, and biological nature? What do you think is the reason for this custom?" Xiaoyu was very curious this evening, "I am I really don’t understand why this happened, what do you think?”

Li Sichuan thought for a while, then raised his eyes to look at the deep sky: "Let me try it. I think this may be the result of the struggle between patriarchy and husband power. In the final analysis, the power of the clan is too strong, and personal freedom is suppressed to a minimum. You can't see falling into the husband's family. After you have a husband, you still stay in your natal family. It seems like a sign of a matrilineal society, and the family structure is centered on the mother. But the history of social development tells us that the patrilineal society will inevitably replace the matrilineal society. Family surname, growing up in the father’s house, this is the proof that the father’s influence is expanding. According to the law of development, such relics should have been replaced long ago, but because the place is close to the sea, the men’s livelihood is to go to sea to catch Yu was away from home for a long time, so the power of the occupied family was transferred back to women in desperation, and the so-called "not falling into the husband's house" was formed in this way."

"Huh?" Xiaoyu said doubtfully, "I didn't think mother had such great power?"

"It's not the mother, it's the power of the patriarch. The mother's family is often said to be the parents' family, but the daughter is always closer to the mother, so it is omitted as the mother's family. This phenomenon is superficially a struggle between patriarchy and husband power. It is the domineering power of the clan society. It is the power of the clan, which has already overwhelmed the power of the husband, and even a male individual has to submit to the clan."

Xiao Yu hummed, "I understand a little bit, but it's still not clear enough, please explain in detail."

"Okay." Li Sichuan clarified his thoughts while talking, "This has to be analyzed from the perspective of productivity and production relations. In the past society, the age of women entering the marriage stage was from 14 to [-] or [-] years old, which happened to be a mature woman. Labor, the matrilineal patriarchal family spent time and financial resources to raise their daughter, and gave it to her husband's family before repaying the clan. In the past, it was not cost-effective to raise a daughter. There are some conveniences The custom of drowning female babies. However, if they do not give birth to a daughter, it will inevitably cause the problem that men of the right age will not have enough marriage partners, so it gradually evolved into this situation: after three years of marriage, they will not leave their husband's family and continue to serve their father's family. It seems that in other places, the man’s family pays a large bride price to compensate the woman’s family.”

Xiao Yu muttered: "The result is buying and selling people."

Li Sichuan said: "Yes. Either it is the more common exchange of bride price for labor, or the more distinctive "Never fall into the husband's family" here, you have to choose the same. According to me, the rule of "Never fall into the husband's family" is more powerful. In the same situation, men must be more depressed, having a wife is equal to not having a wife. You don’t know that you are not a man, this is more torture than not having a wife.”

Xiao Yu bent his elbow to him, and Li Sichuan laughed: "Actually, people in the past got married too early. If both men and women married after the age of 30 like now, this problem would not exist. Even if you are an adult at 16, why not I can work for more than ten years, and I have earned the rice I ate when I was a child. But in the past, people’s lives were short, and the average life expectancy was only over 40 years old, so the age of marriage and childbearing had to be brought forward. As for why the customs here and most places are It's different, I think the men here want to go to sea, so even if they marry into their husband's house for a year, they won't see each other for a few days, so it's better to stay in her mother's house for three years, and it's reasonable to try my best."

Xiao Yu nodded, "You are right."

Li Sichuan didn't say a few serious words, and smiled again: "You think, if women can't get sexual release, men can't get it either. We usually only see women's repression, but what about men? Not all Are you gay? They also want comfort from women. It is only the strong normative and shaping power of the society that hardened them into the image of tough guys. If the bride’s hair is messed up, she will be laughed at. As a man They will also be looked down upon, right? 'Sex hunger' is more or less a derogatory term, and it is the same in modern Western society, although it is a very normal need."

"Bah, you're talking nonsense again." Xiao Yu frowned and gave him a sideways glance, "Can you speak well?"

"Everything I say is good, it depends on how you listen. You have to know that I have the right to speak in this regard. When I was in high school, when I read and wrote my homework, I would feel obsessed when I saw the radicals of female characters." " Li Sichuan said without shame.

Xiao Yu laughed muffledly, "Did you want to prostitute the classmate of your class at that time?"

Li Sichuan did not step on this minefield, and returned to the topic: "One of the symbols of matrilineal society is the lofty status of uncles, which represents the status and strength of men in the mother's family. Therefore, although you are not a Hui'an woman, your mother's At home, the status of the uncle is still important, and your whole society still acquiesces in the importance of the uncle. Your uncle supports you, so your father has no choice but to recognize it. Both men agree with each other’s territory, so unmarried daughters belong to the uncle The clan is the mother clan. Your uncle can do this because he knows that your father will acquiesce in his interference in your marriage. In the north of us, no one’s uncle has such great power. It can be said in the family It’s about the second uncle, there’s nothing wrong with uncle.”

Xiao Yu completely bowed down now.She said: "You really know what's going on in my mind, right? I went around in a circle, you circled in a bigger circle, and you still came back in the end. I'm really worried about my uncle's attitude tomorrow. , I'm afraid they will quarrel. After hearing your analysis, I feel relieved. It seems that there is a tacit understanding between men. "

Li Sichuan rubbed the center of her brows, "Why are we talking about this on a spring night? Change it to something more romantic, such as 'The stars are not the same as last night, for whom will the wind and dew stand for the night', you said you couldn't sleep, you were thinking Me, not family grievances."

Xiaoyu relaxed her body and lay more comfortably in his arms, so that there was no gap between the two bodies, "Talk about the stars? Okay." She pointed to the night sky, "Look, the starry sky on the spring night, that star The brightest star is Xuanyuan Fourteen."

"I like this name. It is full of martial arts. In "Peerless Twins", there is an evil gambler whose surname is Xuanyuan, and his name is Xuanyuan Sanguang." Li Sichuan also looked at the starry sky, "I don't know much about constellations, so I also know about martial arts. You are familiar with novels, you seem to have done some research on constellations?"

"Well, I haven't been sleeping well. I couldn't fall asleep in the middle of the night, so I got up to look at the constellations." Xiao Yu said: "There are four sentences to describe the starry sky in spring: the battle turns, the lion roars, the galaxy returns home, and the two horns go east. Shou. Shen means Betelgeuse, Orion in the west; Dou refers to the Big Dipper; when Leo rises to the starry sky in the north, the Milky Way sinks below the horizon, as if returning home; 'Shuangjiao Dongshou' refers to the horns of the 'Oriental Canglong' The two bright stars above, Arcturus in Bootes and Spica in Virgo. Both stars have the word 'horn' in their names."

"It's really learned." Li Sichuan sighed and said, "Have you designed it as a necklace or ring?"

Xiao Yu smiled at him proudly, "Yes. You know me really well. My graduation project is to inlay constellations into necklaces. The stars are made of tourmaline, chevron, garnet, tiger eye stone, malachite, aquamarine, etc. The price is not high. Expensive semi-precious stones, regardless of oriental elements, all use the foundation of Greek mythology. Some Chinese designers, whether it is clothing design or jewelry design, always like to use some oriental elements, for fear that people will not know that he is from China, but the design The works that come out are not well received. They don’t know the reason, they just say that the judges and teachers don’t understand oriental culture. In fact, what they don’t understand is that the oriental culture in the knowledge base of the judges’ teachers and the Chinese culture that Chinese students think they are self-righteous are not at all. A thing."

"I agree with this. Our architectural design also has the same problem. How to integrate oriental culture and western architectural philosophy together? Chinese students are always reluctant to give up this kind of thinking, but you have passed this hurdle all at once. It's amazing. Good student. What happened to the design?"

"Oh, of course I passed, and I won the first prize. I took the bonus and opened my own design studio when I came back." Xiaoyu said, "I don't need to rely on my family, and I can live a good life by myself. "

"Xiao Yu," Li Sichuan said sternly, "You used the bonus to open the studio because of your own ability, but your school expenses were provided by your father."

Xiaoyu looked at him for a few seconds and said, "No, I used my trust fund for my studies, which was left by my mother. Don't try to win over my relationship with my family. If you don't understand, don't worry about it." in conclusion."

"Then tell me," Li Sichuan didn't allow her to push him away, "I don't know anything, how do you ask me to help you untie your knot?"

Xiaoyu bit her lip and was silent for a while, then made up her mind, "My father's fortune is half of my mother's credit. He happened to transport a few trucks of troops to replace the equipment and eliminate them more than 30 years ago. The military supplies he sold were sold in our rural areas, such as military uniforms, liberation shoes, wires and cables. By the time he had spent more than half a year selling out all the military supplies, the number of his unit had been revoked. , he couldn’t go back, and there was no place to turn in the funds. He didn’t know what to do for a while, so he had to go back to Jinjiang to make plans.”

"My mother is his elementary school classmate, two grades lower than him, graduated from accounting school, and now works in a rural credit union. When my father went to the credit union to save this huge sum of money, he happened to meet my mother and started chasing her. After they got married, my mother asked him where he got such a large sum of money, and my father told the story. My mother said that you can’t take this money, and if you take it, something will happen. My father was in the army at that time. Education is very honest, and I agree with what my mother said, but I am reluctant to just pay it back, not to mention I don’t know where to pay it back.”

"My mother said, you can borrow it for investment. How did my father know what investment is? My mother said that there was a small mine in her hometown village that she wanted to find someone to contract, but no one dared to make such a decision. I don’t have so much money, and secondly, I don’t know how much can be mined in this mine. My mother said that you contract it for a year, and when you make money, you can return the money to the country. Don’t try to touch state-owned property. The fact that the troops didn't take care of you for a while doesn't mean they couldn't think of it."

"My dad was still hesitant at that time, saying that the mine didn't have much ore? My mother said that my family has been in this village for generations and knows what is in the mine. You can contract it, that's right."

Li Sichuan was fascinated by what he heard, and asked, "What happened next?"

"Later my father and my mother got married, and then contracted the mine as a villager. My mother told him at this time that in the past 30 or 80 years, only villagers dug some granite to build houses in this mine. As soon as it was opened to the public, young people in the village went out to work outside. The mine could not recruit people, and the mine was abandoned. At this time, the commune had become a village committee, and it wanted to set up a collective enterprise. There were no knowledgeable people to take the lead, and no Projects and funds, it was only then that I thought of finding someone to contract.”

"What's in the mine?" Li Sichuan asked, since Xiaoyu's mother was so serious about it, there must be a reason.

"My dad asked the same question," Xiao Yu said. "My mom said, I told you because you became my husband. This is not just a granite mine, there is a small iron mine underneath, and a gold vein underneath."

When Li Sichuan heard this, he was startled, and then he understood it all at once, "That's why you went to study jewelry design, registered the trademark of gold jewelry, and used your own name."

"You know that our clan is very powerful here, and each village has its own surname. Only the patriarch knows about the mine. My great-grandfather was the patriarch, so he naturally knew it, and so did my uncle. But in the first 30 years, the mining industry here I didn’t get up, only fishery. My uncle studied history and was a history teacher in middle school. He had no interest in running a business. Although my mother studied accounting, 30 years ago, a young woman would not have dared to imagine that she could go to the contracting village I happened to meet my father, and she thought it was an opportunity. He had received military education and had a broad vision. In the past half a year, he has been in sales, established shipping channels, has contacts, and is decisive in handling things. The most talented people are the talents who run the enterprise.”

"Of course, if he didn't have the payment from the army, he wouldn't go to the credit union to save money, and he wouldn't know my mother. If he didn't pursue my mother, he wouldn't get the right to mine the gold mine. He followed my mother's instructions. , Another mine was opened, and gold was dug out under the iron ore layer. Although it is a small mine, gold is always gold."

"He took the first sum of money and went to fill in the embezzled funds. In fact, if he really wanted to pay it back, where would he find no one? The superiors were always there, and they sent someone to find him. Because of his repayment Behavior, the leaders of the army think that he is a trustworthy person and an old subordinate, so they can be trusted. Some infrastructure projects in the army are entrusted to him to undertake the construction. In this way, he has a gold mine and a construction team. Gold After mining, he changed to stone and building materials. As you can see, the mountains here are full of granite, and there are stone factories on both sides of the road.”

"Well, I have noticed a long time ago that from Jinjiang to Quanzhou and then to Hui'an, there are stone companies all the way." Li Sichuan said.

"My mother later resigned from the credit union to manage accounts for my father, apply for loans, and be his financial director. So my father's business is half of my mother's. But my father still owes her..." Xiao Yu His voice lowered.

"Why did this happen?" Li Sichuan asked, "Your mother looks like you, a natural beauty, how did it become what happened later? It stands to reason that your father should be grateful to your mother. Could it be that he Do you think that a kindness that is too difficult to repay has turned into revenge?"

Xiao Yu hid her face and felt embarrassed for her father, "My mother had a lot of bleeding when she gave birth to me. After I was born, her health became very bad. The doctor said that she might not have any more children. My mother gave birth to me. Her share was given to me and a trust fund was set up for me."

"Why do you do this, she is worried that your father will treat you badly?"

"You know people on our side value boys very much. If they don't have sons, they think the sky is going to fall." Xiao Yu's tone became cold, which made Li Sichuan tremble. My mother raised her body at home, and she will have children naturally. My mother believed it naively. She no longer went to work in the company and only took care of me at home. Later, I heard about that woman. My father said He has no relationship with that woman, he just wants a son, otherwise, who will inherit such a large family business in the future?"

Li Sichuan scolded: "Damn!"

"You know what happened later. My mother died as they wished, and he married that woman right away, who would have given birth to a daughter. They owe my mother their life, and my mother is watching them in the sky. How can I make them come true?" Xiao Yu's eyes became as cold as ice.

"Xiaoyu, Xiaoyu." Li Sichuan called her name, wanting to call her back from the hatred, "You are already married, you should be cut off from your mother's umbilical cord, shall we live our lives? Are you not Hui'an girl, you don't have to bear such a heavy historical burden. Since you can choose your own husband, you can ask me to marry you, you can be with me before you get married, you don't worry about whether your hair is messy or not, and you don't care about other people's eyes, why don't you Can you give up hating your dad and his wife?"

Xiao Yu smiled, but her eyes were full of sadness, and she couldn't find any joy, "If you were in a dream, always dreaming of your dead mother, would you forget it?"

(End of this chapter)