understand man in seconds

Chapter 5

The God of Picking Up Girls

Understand men in five seconds
Features: The two biggest features are love to show off talents, and love to show off loneliness.Open their Weibo, WeChat, Moments, basically these two categories.

If you have any talent, you can show off any talent, and what you take with your selfie must be a lonely text.

The life of literary and artistic young men is easy to be envied and yearned for by girls.And the appearance they showed in the middle of the night easily made the girls sympathize and pity them.

But everything is a disguise.Most of the literary and artistic young men are poor and hard-pressed.Not only are they poor and hard-working, but they also play tricks on picking up girls.Not only are they poor and hard-working, flirtatious about picking up girls, but most of them are also ugly.

Love code: It’s okay to play with young literary men, but if you want to marry, let’s wait until they have learned how to live in a down-to-earth manner.

Real stories to understand men in seconds No. [-]: Literary men
There was a case before about a training company in Shanghai.

This training company mainly focuses on Japanese training. There are a lot of women in the company, and the number of men is relatively small.

The most popular girl in the company is not the boss, nor the director in charge, but a male employee in his 30s.

Some internal sources of this company told me that this ordinary male employee slept with at least half of the young girls in the company.

Although this company is not big, there are more than 50 young women, that is to say, this man has slept with more than 20 female colleagues.

This is simply appalling.

It is common for men to pick up girls, and it is not unheard of to say that ten people beheaded and hundreds of people are beheaded.But someone who specializes in picking up on his colleagues and sleeping with girls all over the place in the small circle can't be described as scum, that's simply god scum.

Because women are all about emotions, whether it's their girlfriends or friends, men who have slept with them will generally stay away from them (except for a few who love to grab their best friend's boyfriend).

When I met such a fetish, I couldn't help but interview him.So I found two girls in this company at that time, and wanted to understand this scumbag from a different perspective.

God Zha's name is Li Pai, and he is 1.7 meters tall. He does not belong to the handsome type, and he is even a little slender.

Li Pai was still unmarried at the age of 30, not because he couldn't find a girl, but because he had slept with too many girls, so he didn't want to be tied down by a long-term relationship.

Li Pai is not the kind of man who can pick up girls as everyone thinks. He is a maverick, solitary, and full of melancholy all day long.

We rarely see him picking up girls.Unlike other men, Li Pai seldom goes to bars, nightclubs, courtesies, and spends money to find girls.

According to Li Pai's own bragging words, it's always the girl who spends money on him, and the girl chases him crazily.

In fact, it is true. Li Pai will never lack suitors. Although in the company, his position is not high, he does not earn much, and he is not handsome enough, but there is never a shortage of girls.

why?I asked those two girls, and they gave different answers, but in summary, they are the following.

First of all, Li Pai is a maverick.The so-called maverick means saying what others don't say, doing what others don't do, not following the crowd, and feeling that you have your own ideas and are different from others.

For girls, being different is a very important point of love.

Just imagine, two men, one is like a normal person, following the crowd, while the other is out of tune, different from everyone else.

Who is more attractive?

Of course it was a different man!
Because for women, a different person is a symbol of charm.

Although this kind of difference does not necessarily mean that you are better than others, nor does it necessarily mean that you are more suitable for living in society, but what you can fall in love with must be different.

The Li school is different, it is a way of literary and artistic young men.For example, at the company's annual meeting, almost all the men yelled, drank, pissed, rolled, and acted cute.Only Li Pai was alone in the corner, drinking a small pot of sake alone, watching the noisy scene sternly.

From the leader's point of view, this is destroying the company's culture and atmosphere, but to the girls, it is simply too special.

For another example, go out to play during the annual vacation, and other men go to Hong Kong to Southeast Asia, but Li Pai is different. He carries his bag and runs to Nepal for hiking.

This kind of alternative is fatally attractive to girls.

Secondly, Li Pai always gives people the feeling of being talented.

What is talent?Everyone's understanding is different, and the views of bosses and subordinates are also different.For the boss, a person who can do a good job, has good ideas, and good ideas is a talent.

But Li Pai has never had the talent for serious work. His specialty is taking pictures, writing poems and singing.

Men can take pictures, so they can make touching pictures of the little tastes and delicacy around them, and then post them on Moments and Weibo, accompanied by small poems written by themselves. Although it is very sour, it is still touching.

Not every girl likes literature and art, but even if girls who are not literary feel that writing poems and taking pictures is sour, it does not prevent them from being moved occasionally.

Therefore, all the girls in the company think that Li Pai is the most talented person. No matter how he works, the girls at least say that Li Pai is the person who knows life best.

And Li Pai's real trump card is singing.He used to be the lead singer of the band when he was studying, so singing is professional.His singing, in the words of the girls, is full of warmth and chic loneliness.

When Lee Pai sings, the girls are all mesmerized.

In this world, the only thing that is easier to pick up girls than money is probably music.

All in all, Li Pai is a typical literary young man.With so many powerful weapons for picking up girls, it is understandable that Li Pai has many girls.

But as I said earlier, he actually slept with nearly half of the girls in the company. How did he do this "feat"?
I interviewed two of the girls, and they used their experiences to analyze what kind of creatures literary and artistic young men are.

The first girl is the front desk of the company. She is very good-looking and young.After she entered the company, she was not attracted by Li Pai at first, but Li Pai took the initiative to hook her up, not only sending WeChat every day, but also often performing all kinds of tenderness.

But the girl at the front desk heard from others that Li Pai is a very caring person, and there are many women in the company, so naturally she will not be easily fooled.

But this kind of resistance is simply a small case for Li Pai, and it is nothing more than a longer pursuit.

Sure enough, the front desk lady fell for less than three months of resistance.

What made her fall was some seemingly unimportant little details.One night, the lady at the front desk worked overtime to pack things. In the end, all the colleagues left, and she was the only one who was still working hard there. At midnight, she was the only one in the huge company. , when she was secretly melancholy, Li Pai suddenly appeared and gave her a bowl of wontons.

When the girl at the front desk was eating the hot wontons, she shed tears.No matter who she is, no matter how defensive a woman is, she will always be vulnerable and helpless.And at that time, Li Pai appeared just right.

As I said before, the warm man is an actor, and he will choose various appropriate times to cut in.

I have always believed that men who can pick up girls are simply the best psychologists in the world, because they always know when a girl is most vulnerable and when is the best entry point.

When the girl at the front desk was most isolated and helpless, Li Pai suddenly touched her with some small warmth, and then turned around and left.

That might be more effective than him staying and demanding something in return.

that's the truth.After this experience, the girl at the front desk completely changed her impression of Li Pai.She didn't think that the other party was a bad guy at all, she just thought he was a lamb lost among all kinds of women.

When a woman starts to sympathize with a man and wants to save him, that woman is actually on the verge of falling.She has lost the ability to judge everything, she just feels that everyone has misjudged this man.

If this is an entry point, then the next time is when this woman completely raises her hand and surrenders.

It was a month after the delivery of wontons, and I forgot what day it was, but it was a festival anyway.

The girl saw in the circle of friends that the man said that he was very drunk and was wandering by the river alone.

The photos and words Li Pai took are all kinds of loneliness, all kinds of sadness, and all kinds of unwillingness to live in the world.

The girl may have developed a little affection for this man before, and had a certain amount of emotional communication.And suddenly seeing him lost and confused, when he was at a low point in his whole life, he had all kinds of thoughts of wanting to save the other party, trying to pull this man out of his pit.

Therefore, the girl couldn't help contacting the man at that time, asking him what he was doing and where he was.

The man followed suit and sent his location to the girl.So the two got together, drank together, and were moved to tears. Then, that night, the man took the girl at the front desk home.

This is the magic of young literary men.If he just pursued this girl superficially like an ordinary person, Li Pai would never be able to catch up with her.

Literary and artistic young men have two characteristics, one is to show their talents, and the other is to bask in loneliness.And these two points are precisely what can impress girls the most.

Because a woman's love is a combination of desire and maternal love.The so-called desire is to have a good impression on people, to generate sexual desire, to generate possessive desire.The prerequisite for desire to arise is that the other party is good enough.And talent is obviously the advantage that kills almost all women.

And what about maternal love?It's not necessarily just for children, but for the pity, sympathy and so-called soft-heartedness of all creatures who want to help each other.

To put it bluntly, if you think a person is very good and feel sorry for him, then you basically fall in love with this person.

After the front desk girl became Li Pai's woman, she did not become his last woman.Li Pai is like the best hunter. He can spend a long time catching a prey, but he will never stop because of this prey.What he enjoys is just this moment of hunting and possessing.

So, after being slept by Li Pai many times, this man turned to the next target.

The girl at the front desk didn't understand at all why such a man had worked so hard to catch up with her, and she took good care of him and cared for him, but he turned his face and ruthless in an instant.

Here is another characteristic of literary and artistic young men, that is, ruthlessness.

The girl at the front desk went to question Li Pai, and Li Pai told her solemnly: "I'm a prodigal son, and I can't stay in a long-term relationship for too long."

The girl at the front desk broke down at that time, but this man is completely different from the woman, he didn't fall in love with her at all, so he didn't feel any pity.

This girl thinks that she has maintained her independence reservedly, and since it is hard to get, she must be the most precious, but in fact, she is just another victim.

So in less than half a year, the girl at the front desk resigned sadly. She really couldn't watch the man she fell in love with repeatedly perform the plot that made her fall in love with him in front of other girls.

The girl's resignation was also a relief to Li Pai, but this did not prevent him from continuing to hunt for beauty in the company.

Interview another girl, or rather, she is no longer a girl. She is 30 years old this year and married, so she is a young woman.

The young woman slept with Li Pai after the girl at the front desk.Even, this young woman is a friend of the girl at the front desk.

At that time, the girl at the front desk was deeply hurt by Li Pai, and she told the young woman all the ins and outs, secret conversations in the boudoir, and of course, more secret things.

Later, the girl at the front desk resigned angrily and left the company, but she didn't expect to seduce the young woman's mind.

The young woman is the finance of the company, she seems to be doing her duty, and she is living the life of a petty citizen.It can be said that living a life with literary and artistic young men is incompatible.

Of course, young women don’t understand why they go to theaters and exhibitions on weekends, and they don’t understand what music festivals are not to be missed, and they don’t even know how to travel as soon as they say they want.

The favorite things of literary youths are things that young women don't understand.

It stands to reason that this is definitely not the "target group" of Li Pai.

In fact, this is indeed the case. Although Li Pai has hooked up with many women in the company, he has never provoked a young financial woman, because the other party is already married, and she is a little dirty, so it is really not worth it!
In everyone's eyes, the honest and responsible financial affairs are actually not so responsible in the heart.This is the same as many girls from well-behaved families. They have walked a path arranged by their elders and relatives all their lives. They knew what the end would be like from the very beginning, and they never took a wrong path, or even a wrong path.

This kind of life seems to be smooth sailing, but you can only see the scenery that should belong to you, the most ordinary scenery.And the other ones that are better and different will never be seen.

So she is actually very envious of literary youths like Li Pai, envious of the lives they lead.

This is another point where literary and artistic young men are easy to pick up girls.Although most of them are poor and miserable, the life they live is very advanced in the eyes of many people who don't know the inside story, and it is a kind of life that people yearn for.

So there are always some people who want to live a "high life" and are willing to jump into this fire pit.

At that time, the girl at the front desk complained to the young financial woman and told a lot of inside gossip about Li Pai, such as sleeping with everyone in the company.

The more the financial young woman thought about it, the more sad she felt. She felt that she wasn't too bad. Although she wasn't a beautiful woman, she had a special charm, but why didn't Li Pai sleep with half of the company's women, but didn't come to sleep with her?
That's right, the young financial woman was jealous, she was angry, she was angry that the man even wanted those women, but he had never been tempted by her.

Why?Doesn't this prove that she is unpopular and no man likes it?

The young financial woman decided to take the initiative to attack. She really couldn't swallow this breath, and she must win it back.

So after that, she started to dress herself up, dangled in front of Li Pai, and started all kinds of nonsense performances.

Li Pai is a veteran among the flowers, he can't feel it once or twice, and can't feel it the third time?

Although he didn't know why this normally decent young woman had such a change, but at least he could feel that the other party was seducing him, or was waiting to be seduced by him!
Li Pai thought to himself, it's already like this, what are you waiting for, let's go!
Soon, the two of them started a fire, hooked up after a dinner, and lingered for several days.

After the passion, the financial young woman finally experienced the literary life plus cheating, and was finally satisfied, so she retired.As for Li Pai, he never refused anyone who came, and he never liked the other party at all, so he was naturally happy as if nothing had happened.

This matter, the young financial woman completely concealed her name (the position was also changed) before she said it out. Even when she said it, she still had an uncontrollable sense of pride, and even told me that she was very lucky. Pai has slept with half of the women in the company, and he is the popular half.

Identify men in 5 minutes and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Literary men
The first characteristic of a literary man:
They are always creating a perfect, exquisite and distinctive lifestyle and psychological realm.

So you see the part of the literary and artistic young man, it will always be the best and the most advanced part that he shows you.The names and works he quoted in his speech are all things you have never heard of.

This doesn't mean they really understand these things, they just know how to use them as a pretense.

You have to know that the really powerful ones are the writers who write books, those scholars, and those who use other people's theories to pretend to be intimidating are just pretending to be powerful.

The second characteristic of literary men:
You will envy his life, but his real life is actually worse than anyone else.

The best thing literary men can do is to share their lives, but if you think their lives will always be so delicate, you are wrong.In fact, they are generally poor and miserable.

It's nothing more than a beautiful display in a small corner for you to see, but most of the places are homeless.

The home life of most literary men is a mess because they are always different and don't need to live a normal life.

Not like ordinary people, that is not normal.

Therefore, most of the beauty you see is abnormal behind it.

The third characteristic of literary men:
They are best at picking up girls for free.

In this world, the only men who can be ugly, poor, and have no career, but never lack girls, are literary men.

They can make women adore and sympathize by showing off their talents and exposing their loneliness.

These two mentalities are precisely the foundation of a woman's love.

The fourth characteristic of literary men:
They will stop for a woman, but will not be moved by a woman.

Being with a literary man is like falling in love in pursuit of the soul.

But in reality you are being lied to.They use the love of the soul to pick up girls, but what they pursue is still the body.

When a literary man tells you, I only love your soul and not your body, it can be judged as nonsense.It makes sense that they love no other soul, but only one's body.

Because of this, they tend to just hang around with everyone and not be touched by all the true love you give.

They know too well how to move others, so they are less likely to be moved.

If you want to impress a literary man, it's easier to seduce him!

(End of this chapter)