psychochemist

Chapter 214 Expensive Broken Bones
He who has not opened his mind's eye is truly blind.

Yu Fan didn't want to have any contact with such a strange blind mother-in-law, so he pulled her to leave here.

Grandma grabbed Yu Fan who was trying to escape.

Yu Fan asked grandma in a low voice: "Grandma, this blind mother-in-law is so strange. Let's go quickly."

Grandma caressed Xiao Fan's forehead, without saying anything, and turned to the blind mother-in-law.

The grandma asked the blind mother-in-law kindly and kindly: "Old sister, how do you sell your things?"

The blind mother-in-law said a little deliriously: "Five yuan." Then she raised the hand with the plastic bag dangling and made a five.

five yuan? !Isn't this robbery?Everyone should know that five yuan was very valuable in those days, especially for Xiaofan, five yuan can buy endless snacks, which is a huge sum of money!Five yuan for a broken bone in a plastic bag?Are you crazy?

But grandma's reaction shocked Xiaofan!The grandma took out a brand new one hundred yuan bill from her pocket, handed it to the blind mother-in-law, and said, "I bought all your things, and you keep the five yuan, and don't let your children see it when you go back." .”

After speaking, grandma pulled Yu Fan to leave.

"Stop!" shouted the blind mother-in-law.Yu Fan thought, is this over yet?Is this ready to rely on?

Grandma stopped in her tracks.The blind mother-in-law waved her hand and said, "You gave too much. This is one hundred yuan. Although I am blind, I can touch my blind spots with my hands. I...do you have change? I can't find such a large amount of money." .” After speaking, he walked a few steps with his blind cane, trying to find grandma.

The grandma went back to support the blind mother-in-law and said: "You don't need to look for it, just keep the money and remember, don't let your children see it. There will always be difficult times in life, but we still have to look forward, right. "

This was the first time Yu Fan saw a blind person cry. Although her eye disease deprived her of the ability to see the light, it could not deprive her of the human right to feel the warmth of the world.

The blind mother-in-law said while shedding tears: "You are truly a Bodhisattva, thank you, a good person will have a safe life." After speaking, she turned and left.

"Wait a minute!" Grandma called to stop the blind mother-in-law.Grandma stepped forward, took out a pen from her pocket, turned over the sign hung by the blind mother-in-law, and wrote on it: "This world is so beautiful, but I can't see it."

After finishing writing, grandma said to the blind mother-in-law: "If you go out in the future, use this sign."

The blind mother-in-law didn't know what grandma wrote, but she still touched grandma's hand very gratefully, bowed halfway, and left.

After the blind old woman left, grandma took Yu Fan home and passed by the square of the family area. Grandma broke open the "bought" bones, threw them on the ground, and distributed them to the stray dogs playing nearby. (This is also one of the reasons why Yu Fan is willing to buy food for the stray dog ​​Amao every time he grows up. It is to commemorate and pay tribute to his deceased grandma.)
Yu Fan asked grandma curiously: "Grandma, why did you spend so much money on these useless bones? And why did you repeatedly tell her not to tell her children? And grandma, why did you change the words on her brand? "

Grandma stroked Xiaofan's head again and said, "You are such a child who likes to ask questions."

Grandma raised her head and looked at the blind mother-in-law who was going away, and said to Xiaofan: "The value of this one hundred yuan is far more important to her than to us. There are many teeth marks on the bones she sold, which may be bitten by herself. If there is no accident, she is already suffering from hunger and cold, and she will bite these meatless bones when she is extremely hungry." Although grandma usually looks like a very thick person, she has very careful insight at critical moments.

Grandma continued: "As for your question, why did I tell her not to tell her children? Fanfan, think about it, if her children are really filial, why would she be willing to let the blind mother-in-law come out to beg? So if their children know the mother-in-law If I take back one hundred yuan today, I will definitely snatch it away, and make her come out to beg even harder." Although Xiaofan didn't quite understand what it means to be unfilial, he listened very carefully.

Finally, grandma said: "As for why I changed that sign. It was because the content written on that sign was too blunt, 'I am blind, please help me', and others didn't like it. I changed the words to 'this world It's so beautiful, but I can't see it', it feels gentler, and more people may be willing to help her."

In my grandma's time, psychology was just proposed, and the concept of psychology was not popularized in China.But when he grew up, Yu Fan realized that his grandma's operation was extremely clever.Although grandma has never studied psychology, grandma is completely using a superb psychological technique-the empathy effect.

In psychology, everyone has two ways of thinking about problems: one is the internal perspective, which is to look at problems from their own perspective.The other is the external perspective, which is to look at problems from the perspective of others.However, most people look at problems from an internal perspective, focusing on "who I am and what I want".

"I am blind, please help me" is obviously looking at the problem from an internal perspective. This perspective is difficult to impress others, because it does not have any relationship with others, does not meet the interests of others, and cannot resonate.

And the second sentence "This world is so beautiful, but I can't see it", on the one hand, what a beautiful world, it describes the world of everyone, and has an emotional connection with the outside world, and then a turning point, "But I can't see it." see", this kind of conflict will strongly stimulate others.Empathy and compassion.

In other words, grandma pulled the way of thinking of the person who saw the sign from the opposite side to the same-sex side by simply saying her own words.To this day, when Yu Fan thought of this incident, Yu Fan still clapped his hands in admiration.

Xiaofan looked at grandma half-understood, and grandma leaned Xiaofan's head in her arms, and said softly: "Child, there are many things you will understand when you grow up. Life is only a few short days. In ten years, when people come to this world, there are many things that are more important than being alive. If you understand these things in the future, even if your body dies one day, you will live in this world forever.”

Yu Fan hugged grandma's leg and asked with concern: "Grandma, will you die in the future too?"

Grandma also hugged Xiaofan: "Of course, everyone is mortal."

Yu Fan hugged grandma even tighter, and said coquettishly with a crying voice: "No, no, I don't want grandma to die, I want to be with grandma forever!"

Grandma stroked Yu Fan's head again, and said softly and kindly: "Okay, grandma won't die, grandma won't die. No one can bully my grandson at my hands! I will always protect Fanfan!"

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"I will protect Fanfan forever!" The scene returns to the circular staircase in Yu Fan's dream.

Yu Fan hugged his grandma in tears.

Grandma, I miss you...

　If you are the sun, the world will not be dark - fluorapatite

　　
　
(End of this chapter)