The happiness of crossing every day

Chapter 912 Malice
To get married is to be happy.

It is to make yourself live a happier, happier life.

If you can't get happiness in marriage, you can't even get the respect of the other party.

Depressed all day long.

very unhappy.

Then, women should become more decisive.Divorce directly.

Wang Peng thinks that some women in the world really don't understand the meaning of self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence and self-improvement.

In relationships and marriages, those who are hurt are often those women who have low self-esteem, do not love themselves very much, have no self-confidence, and do not know how to strengthen themselves.

They always feel that no one wants them after they get divorced.

This is typical low self-esteem.

I feel that I am incompetent and unattractive. After leaving this man, I can't find a suitable one.That's typical, not knowing that you respect yourself.

I don't know how to face up to my comprehensive strength.

Wang Peng used to have a client who was abused by her husband when she was in her twenties.

Later, after she was beaten twice, she ran away.

And he ran out alone.

None of the sons wanted it.

She was still penniless at that time, and ran from the economically underdeveloped countryside to a first-tier big city.

When she came out, she didn't even have an ID card, no proof of identity.

Along the way, he didn't know how much she had suffered.

And when she came out, she couldn't even speak the most basic Mandarin, so she could only speak local dialect, and no one could understand what she was saying.

In addition, she is not particularly good-looking as a woman, and her skin is particularly black and yellow.

The figure is also the same as that 40-year-old aunt, and for some reason, there are some spots on the face.

Just such an unremarkable woman.

When I was in my twenties, I started looking for work and collecting junk.Give people a babysitter.

She worked in big cities for several years.

In about seven or eight years, she had saved 20 million yuan.

This woman never thought that after she came to this big city, she must find a man.

All she thinks about all day is making money, making money, making money.Stand firm in this city.survive.Be happy every day and live without anger.

She has a clear goal.

Work very hard.

So, 12 years later, she bought her own house in this big city.

After 20 years, she has her own company.

It can be said that she is a completely different person now than she was decades ago.

She used to say that in front of him over and over again with a happy expression on her face.

"If I didn't have the courage to come out of that place back then, I would have to live under the fist of that dog man for the rest of my life."

"Back then, I relied on my strength and my own hands and feet to achieve such a career."

"If you are beaten, you have to run. If you are bullied, you have to run. This is my simple survival logic. If I hadn't run out back then, I would have been bullied to death by them. If I hadn't run, I would have I don't know if I can still live now!"

Wang Peng thought of that woman, recalling the past with that kind of eyes.

Wang Peng felt that although this woman was not beautiful, she believed in herself and was a very confident person.

Confidence is about believing in yourself.

To love yourself is to love yourself.

Self-improvement is to make yourself stronger.

Self-esteem is respecting yourself and acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses.every aspect of oneself.

No one is perfect.

When my other half, with that kind of condescending look, with that kind of condemning look, said that she was not good here, that was not good there, that she was wrong here and there, she was suppressing her anytime, anywhere.

Then, the first thing she should think of is definitely not that she should reflect on herself.If you think about that, correct it if you have something, and encourage you if you don't.

What she should have thought of.

The man who spoke.

The person who blamed her is the one who should reflect on himself the most!
He himself is clearly not perfect.

Why does he always have that, harsh look at her?

Don't say how nice this kind of man is to women.

But generally speaking, anyone who pretends to be good for the other party will not have good intentions.

But anyone who uses harsh eyes to accuse his other half anytime, anywhere, saying that she can't do it here, and she can't do it there.

In fact, from a psychological point of view, he actually looks at his other half with a hostile emotion and a malicious attitude.

If it is not a hostile emotion or a malicious attitude, he will look at it with an open and positive look.

If he wants to control her, he will say that she is not good here, not good there.

If he is really good for her, if he really likes her, he should say anytime and anywhere that she does well here and there.

Pay for her.

Stand in her position and think about the problem.

When he knows what goals, ideals, and aspirations his other half has, he should speak out to encourage him.

Instead of pouring cold water on it.

Instead of looking at your other half with a disdainful look.Say things that make people feel particularly unpleasant.

For example, "Why can't this person see himself clearly?"

"It's obvious that you are incapable, why do you think so much?"

"Just stop messing around, don't make your heart higher than the sky, and your life thinner than paper. Just be down-to-earth and live with me well."

"What are you going to do outside? Is earning money so important? What ideals are not ideal? People are alive, just alive. You only need to take good care of your children at home and do more housework. Don't think too much about it."

"I don't choose a woman like you. I'm the only one who wants you. Otherwise, do you think you can get married?"

"What are you talking about about divorce or not? If you divorce me, your life may be miserable in the future! I think you are pitiful, so I don't want to divorce you."

"Is there any love between me and you? I just live with you. Don't think too much about it. What are the advantages of you, are you worthy of my love? You are not beautiful, and your body is not as good as mine My colleague’s wife is good. Look at your diploma, what’s the use of it except that you’re a little better than me? Your salary is not as high as mine!”

Some women who are not strong-willed will suffer from Stockholm Syndrome unconsciously under long-term mental control.

She will subconsciously brainwash herself.

I feel that my husband controls her so much, does not let her do this, does not let her do that, in fact, he likes her, he loves her deeply.

Hitting is kissing and scolding is love.

Do not fight do not love each other.

It's normal for couples to quarrel and fight, sometimes to kill people, and to engage in domestic violence from time to time.

After all, which woman in this world won't be beaten by her own man?
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