12 Mindfulness Lessons Listened to at Tsinghua University

Chapter 15
Confucius was a sage, and Mencius was a sage, but how many people believed in them at that time?How many people actually implement their methods today?There must be, but they are all those who yearn for and understand saints.You don't have to be a saint to everyone, you just need to be a saint to someone with quality.For those who regard virtue as "heartless", enough is enough, and don't be too sentimental.

A saint is actually a person who suffers.Greatness is basically the same as being wronged.Ni Ping wrote in "Grandma's Quotations": "Grandma has been afraid of people's jokes all her life, and has lived for "family" all her life. Compared with many people who do their own way, grandma has curled up all her life and never stretched her heart in a real sense. , isn't she wronged? If there is a next life, I don't want my grandma to live like this. I look forward to her curling her hair, rouge and powder; I hope she will be domineering and domineering; I hope she will be selfish Self-interested, arrogant; I hope that she will think for herself first, love no one but herself; I hope that she will wear gold and silver, eat, drink and have fun... At that time, I will still apply to be my grandma's nephew. Change to another Isn't the way of life pretty good? Anyway, the face is torn off, and you don't have to worry about losing face. If you scold me once, I'll scold you three times, and if you punch me once, I'll punch you ten times. Anyway, you can't suffer! Old man Saying that suffering is a blessing, what is a blessing? Where is the blessing? Aren’t there thousands of kinds of happiness? Why do you only choose that one? Ha, I feel happy and enjoyable just writing this…”

Of course, if you become domineering and domineering after reading our book, it is definitely not Ni Ping's responsibility.Whether it’s Ni Ping or me, they’re all trying to persuade you that a saint is a height beyond the reach of most people in life, and there’s no need to live so tiringly.

Let's look at another classic case:
Confucius had two disciples, Zilu and Zigong.Zigong is a good talker, skilled in business, and rich in wealth.Zilu is brave, courageous, chivalrous, and unparalleled in loyalty.

Once, a man fell into the river and was about to drown. Zilu happened to pass by the river, so he rescued him immediately.In order to thank Zilu for saving his life, the man who fell into the water brought a cow from his family and gave it to Zilu.Zilu was not polite, he accepted it immediately, and happily told Confucius and his classmates.The students were angry when they heard this: "We are the students of the sages. We should not be rewarded for doing something good!" But Confucius didn't think so. He praised Zilu for doing the right thing and gave three reasons : First, the person who was saved should express his gratitude. Compared with the value of a person’s life and the value of a cow, it is not too much to accept a cow; second, the saved person is willing to give a cow to thank Zilu, which shows his gratitude Life is cherished, and when Zilu accepts a gift, he actually respects that person's values. If he does not accept it, it is not beautiful; third, good people deserve good rewards, and accepting good rewards calmly can encourage everyone to do more good deeds and be good people.In the future, when the Lu people see others falling into the water, they will immediately help them, even if they have the intention of repaying them.

Coincidentally, not long after, the State of Lu promulgated a law calling on Lu people who were doing business and traveling in other countries to buy their compatriots who were reduced to slavery and bring them back to the country. Offer bonuses.At that time, Zigong was doing business in a neighboring country, and happened to see a man from the Lu country selling himself as a slave, so he redeemed him back to the Lu country, but he did not go to the government to collect the money.When the news spread, people said that Zigong was a noble person who was out of vulgar interests.Zigong himself thought so, and found an opportunity to tell Confucius that he hoped to be praised by his teacher.Unexpectedly, after Confucius listened to it, he scolded Zigong, saying that he "has harmed the people of Lu", and explained: "Your actions will put pressure on other people, so that they will spend money to redeem their work." The Lu people who were slaves were also embarrassed to go to the government to get money. For those who are not well-off, they can’t afford such a loss-making business. In the end, when they see the Lu people who are slaves, they will turn a blind eye. Shut up, Quan pretended not to see it. So, you have harmed the Lu people."

Confucius' words are indeed reasonable, but is Zigong's actions so unreasonable?Don't easily bring a small matter together with the whole world.Why put so much moral pressure on someone who has done something good?There are few good people, and they are required to carefully consider whether they are doing a good thing or a "bad thing" before doing a good thing. No matter whether your original intention is good or bad, the result will not be much better.

Chuang Tzu sees this very clearly. He said: Saints never die, but thieves never stop.A saint may not be so brilliant.Saints still have their dark side.Don't move around like a saint.As long as you don't be a bad person, don't be a villain, and act according to your true colors, there is nothing wrong with being a little vulgar, a little grassroots, and a little bit of a market.

6.If you can't be a big tree, just be a grass

No matter how humble you are, as long as you have the same feelings, even a small grass will tower to the sky!

——Geng Yan (Graduate of Tsinghua University)

Guo Meimei was the topic of 2011. In the words of Mr. Zhou Libo, since Guo Meimei, godfather has become the third word destroyed by the Chinese after "Miss" and "comrade".However, Guo Meimei is not useless, at least she is very frank: In an exclusive interview with Professor Lang Xianping, she said that showing off her wealth is just to become famous, and all incidents have nothing to do with the Shenzhen Red Cross Society.Not to mention whether she has anything to do with the Red Cross, she wants to show off her wealth and become famous, but it is really the voice of the "Guo Meimei" represented by her.

There is a saying that if a man has money, he will learn to be bad, and if a woman learns to be bad, she will have money.Now, if you open the Internet and look around, there are people everywhere who want to use the Internet and the media to become famous.It may be that men's bodies are really not worth seeing, so most of these people are women.In the past, we called women's lines curvy, but now, sharp entertainment reporters directly define it as "career line". Shake it off with gossip, some simply have a naked interview, no matter how bad it is, they have to take a photo or something.It is said that there are still special hype companies to help these people package hype, with various means and tricks, and doing their best.

In the words of one of my neighbor's aunts-the children nowadays are crazy!And a young lady I know responded: I would rather be crazy if I am not famous!Of course this was all a joke.Today, this young lady is neither famous nor crazy, but obediently became a good wife and mother.It is said that he is still very happy.

Why do so many people have fame always on their minds?Does fame mean happiness?In fact, it is not the case. Celebrities have their dazzling side, but they also have unspeakable secrets that are not known to others.How many people envy Leslie Cheung, Weng Meiling, and Chen Lin, but at least their endings are unfortunate.Ordinary people must be unhappy?Ordinary people have enough time to spend with their families, can do what they like to do, cry when they want, laugh when they want, don't need to be cute, don't need to lip-sync, and don't need to wear a "mask" all day long .

Su Dongpo recorded a story in "Ai Zi Za Shuo": One day, a frog and the Dragon King met on the seashore. After exchanging pleasantries, the frog asked the Dragon King: "My lord, what is your residence like?" the Dragon King said proudly. "The palace is made of pearls, the pavilions are made of shells, the steps are made of jade, and the eaves are made of colored glaze..." In short, it is both magnificent and magnificent.After the Dragon King finished speaking, he asked the frog, "What about you? How about your residence?" The frog said, "My residence is like a carpet of green moss, with delicate grass, clear springs and fertile water, and white stones reflecting the sky." After speaking, the frog asked again. Dragon King: "My lord, what do you do when you are happy? What about when you are angry?" The Dragon King said, "If I am happy, I will send down nectar to moisten the earth and make the grains plentiful; , and then flashes and discharges, so that there is no grass left within a thousand miles. What about you?" The frog said: "When I am happy, I will face the breeze and the moon, and croak for a while; It's all over."

The frog in the story is a cute frog.It understands better than many people: Dragon Palace is beautiful, but my dwelling is not bad either.What's more, I can't feel comfortable in my small house, and I can't be angry. I sing when I am happy, and vent when I am angry.After venting, everything is over, not like the Dragon King, who "makes no blade of grass within a thousand miles" when he gets angry.In such a comparison, Dragon King is not only unenviable, but rather hateful.And our world is becoming more and more complicated, precisely because too many people blindly worship, imitate, and pursue to become a great dragon king!

What is fame for?Some say it's money.not necessarily.Guo Meimei is not short of money.What they lack is a peaceful heart, and what they have is a heart that is vain, impetuous, and unable to bear loneliness.

Many people can't understand, you are so rich, you are not from the right way, you just spend and have fun secretly, why do you have to hit the muzzle of the masses?An old friend of mine gave the answer: how is it possible!Xiang Yu once said: Wealth and honor do not return to the hometown, such as walking in brocade clothes at night, and it is more uncomfortable not to let the rich be frightened than to not let them be rich!
Of course, being famous is not a crime, and many celebrities are still remarkable.If we can become famous, we should try our best to become famous.But the reason why celebrities are called celebrities is that celebrities are not so easy to be.It requires extraordinary IQ, the right time, place and people, and strong support.Brother Xili, why can't he become sharper?Because he wasn't supposed to be famous.He's just some boring guy's dream of stardom.

People often use big tree and small grass to describe successful people and ordinary people in life respectively.We should try our best to become a big tree, and it is better to be a big tree than a small grass.Yu Minhong, president of New Oriental, said in a speech at Tsinghua University: "When you are a grass on the horizon, don't expect others to see you from a distance, even if they walk by you or even step on you, there is no way , because you are just a grass; and if you become a tree, even from far away, people will see you and appreciate you, because you are a tree!" But this does not mean that we It must be a big tree.Not all big trees are pillars.There are all kinds of "killing trees" all over the world, and there are similar black sheep in human society. "One general succeeds and ten thousand bones dry up".If a big tree does not fall, it will block the sunlight; if a big tree falls, it will inevitably overturn the bird's nest.

If you can't be a big tree, just be a grass.But we can’t be the weeds in the farmer’s uncle’s field, nor the Danish grass in the gardener’s altar. We should be the weeds that grow wildly in the wild as Feng Lun, chairman of Vantone’s board of directors, said in "Wild Growth"!Tough as weeds, crazy growth, wanton spread, domineering expansion, ignorance and fearlessness, not looking forward and backward, the courage and willpower of PlayerUnknown's Battlegrounds, the relief of having nothing... not only Feng Lun likes that state, but we also like it.

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