12 Mindfulness Lessons Listened to at Tsinghua University

Chapter 24 Money and Love (3)
The protagonist of the story is Wu Qi, a man of Wei during the Warring States period. According to "Historical Records", he was not virtuous and filial since he was a child, and he was idle. The business is completely lost.The villagers couldn't help but use Wu Qi as a negative teaching material, but he killed more than 30 people who laughed at him in a fit of anger.Later, Wu Qi fled to the state of Lu and became a disciple of Zeng Shen, a disciple of Confucius. During this period, he worked so hard that his mother died of illness and did not go back to see him. Therefore, he was spurned by Zeng Zi and expelled from school.Wu Qi had no choice but to abandon literature and martial arts. After he was successful in his studies, it happened that the people of Qi State attacked Lu State. Lu Jun valued Wu Qi's military ability and wanted to appoint him as a general. , so hesitation.In order to become a general, Wu Qi killed his wife in exchange for Lu Jun's trust.Wu Qi finally achieved great success, but soon after Lu Jun listened to the slander and dismissed him, Wu Qi had to leave the state of Lu and moved to the state of Wei.Wei Wenhou heard that he was good at using troops, so he made him the guard of Xihe to resist Qin and South Korea.Since then, he has made outstanding military exploits and has become a famous military general in Chinese history.

So what is Wu Qi's reason?It is said in the history books that it depends on compassion for soldiers.When he was the commander-in-chief of the Wei army, he shared joys and sorrows with the soldiers every day, so he was deeply supported by the soldiers.Once, a soldier had an abscess on his body and was groaning in pain. Wu Qi sucked the abscess for him with his mouth when he saw it. The whole army was moved.The soldier's mother burst into tears when she heard the news.The neighbors were very puzzled: "General Wu sucked your son's abscess himself, which shows great love. This is the honor of your family. Why are you still crying?" The soldier's mother stopped crying and said, "You don't know something. How can he love my son? He is clearly asking my son to work for him! I think General Wu once sucked pus and blood for the child’s father, but his father worked extraordinarily hard every time he fought, regardless of everything. , and finally died on the battlefield. Now that he treats my son like this, it seems that my son will not live long!"

Regarding Wu Qi sucking abscesses for soldiers, many people thought he was just putting on a show.If you think about it carefully, it makes sense.A man who was willing to kill his wife for the sake of fame and fortune, became a general but loved soldiers like sons from the bottom of his heart, whether you believe it or not, I don't believe it.But it doesn’t matter whether we believe it or not—Wu Qi did just that.The so-called those who win the hearts of the people win the world, and people's hearts are all fleshy, so the effect of Wu Qi's doing this is quite good.

Taking a step back, we tentatively agree that Wu Qi is just putting on a show, but we should realize that this is exactly his brilliance.Wu Qi is a general, his duty is to fight, and his purpose is to win the battle.Unlike Sun Tzu, his magic weapon for victory is not tactics but military tactics.He knows that to use soldiers well, one must love soldiers.He believes that "the general's army will make the soldiers happy to die, and the enemy country will not dare to seek it."It means that if you treat your soldiers and make them willing to die for you, then you will be invincible.Therefore, Wu Qi had to show concern and love for the soldiers repeatedly, so that more soldiers were moved, got close to him, and supported him, and finally reached the state of "a soldier dies for his confidant".

Military strategists emphasize that "siege is the bottom, and attacking the mind is the top." The "heart attack" does not specifically refer to attacking the enemy's heart, but also includes attacking subordinates' hearts and attacking one's own heart.The same goes for making money.Those who gain the way will help more, but those who lose the way will not help much.As long as you still have love and know how to care for others, you are not poor, and your life has unlimited possibilities.The more love you give, the more people will not only repay you directly, but also the more people who will recognize you indirectly.On the contrary, those who don't know how to care for others but only know how to use others, in the end even their relatives will leave.This kind of small-scale person who can't even surpass the eye of money can't talk about developing and growing.

I remember that when I just graduated, I worked as a small worker on a construction site, and the boss was very stingy.For example, if lobster is cheaper than cabbage, then he will definitely let you eat lobster three meals a day.Of course, lobster cannot be cheaper than cabbage, so we can only eat cabbage three times a day, and it is boiled cabbage.The workers are of course not very satisfied, and the workers who are not satisfied can't start working very fast.One morning, the boss wandered over to our area, and the more he looked at it, the more angry he became, and he began to curse: two people did so much yesterday, and four people did so much today!It's so fucking too many hens to lay eggs... Before anyone else said anything, one of his relatives jumped up first: Who are you swearing at?Blame others for not laying eggs when there are too many chickens?Blame you for not feeding well!I also want the horse to run well, and I also want the horse not to eat grass. Where can I find such a good thing?How reasonable this is!But the boss didn't think so, he said: Well fed?People like you who can't drink cold water anywhere else think it's not good to eat!If you don't like it, you can get out!The relatives of the boss threw the tool away on the spot and walked away.Within a few days, more than a dozen workers who came with him also rolled up their bedding rolls one after another.It really caused a headache for the boss who was short of people and had to keep up with the schedule.

I believe that he is not the only boss who suffers from headaches.But we office workers undoubtedly have more headaches than the bosses.What is "taking the factory as home and loving the factory like she (he)", what is "no small things at work, no big things personally", what is "no excuses, must be implemented immediately", etc., buzzing every day, Just like the scriptures of Tang Sanzang, it makes people dizzy when they hear it.

Should employees contribute?affim.But why are employees unwilling to give?There are many reasons for this.For example, the quality of employees.But the most important point is that companies should not unilaterally ask employees to contribute.If you want employees to contribute, you must first be worthy of people's dedication.

Mr. Meng Fanchi, a professor at Beijing School of Administration and secretary-general of China Corporate Culture Research Association, told a short story: "One day, I was waiting for a bus at a bus stop, and an adult was leading a child next to me. The child sang a song: 'Kindergarten is My aunt is my mother.” I asked the child: “The kindergarten is your home, and the aunt is your mother? Does the aunt have your mother?” The child said: “No. How can I have my mother. The aunt is amazing. Auntie is not a thing anymore.’” We behave in the same way in society, whether it is for subordinates or partners, we can’t just sing beautiful words as songs, you must take practical actions from the heart and make people feel When you are good, others will wholeheartedly accept you, cooperate with you, and pay for you.

6.keep the "root"

The history of China in the past thousands of years tells us that some systems can be truly established only from the breakthrough point of people's hearts and customs.We must face up to the impetuousness and utilitarianism of today's society, which is a huge breeding ground for corruption.As long as this problem is not resolved, no matter how good the system is, it may not help.

——Fang Zhaohui (Professor of History Department, School of Humanities, Tsinghua University)

"Ah You--"

"I'm--"

"You, you are the eunuch!"

"Now it is. I've got Rama's body—in a few days, I'll be a real man."

"You're not a man at all."

"It will be in the future. When Rama traveled eastward to the Central Plains, in order to enter the palace of Emperor Wu of Liang to live and spread the Dharma, he should have been purified. But when I checked the body, Rama was not a eunuch, but a normal man. Why? This is Rama The mystery of Mo Nei Gong. I know it. It turns out that the intersection of blood vessels and meridians is the acupuncture point where Rama’s Nei Gong operates. I regenerate good fortune and make up for the incomplete. I entered the palace at the age of 12, and after 50 years, I was just a ninth-rank eunuch. I hate eunuchs, I hate my voice. I hate that I don’t grow a beard. I hate. I consider myself I'm humble, but I have practiced martial arts all over the body. Once I understand the mystery of the operation of Rama's inner breath and I'm done, we will retire from the world. How carefree we are. Just the two of us..."

"Hehehahahahahaha, do you really think it will grow again? A group of us desperately snatched Rama's body, but in the end it was a joke. Do you know why I killed my first husband? Because he was with You're the same - no. You can't, you can't-"

The above plot is from the movie "Sword Rain". The lecherous female killer Ye Zhanqing played by Big S said this to Wang Xueqi, the head of the Black Stone and the ninth-rank eunuch Runlun Wang played by Wang Xueqi.

Such is life.Once you lose your "root", you can never get it back, and no matter how much material you have, you can't make up for it.Not only can it not make up for it, the more you have, the more regret and pain you will have because of it.Therefore, the famous writer Chi Yuyu designated a classic old song for the Eastern Invincible in "My War with Jin Yong"-"Keep the Root".Zhuanlun Wang, Yue Buqun, Lin Pingzhi and others must have sung this song silently in their hearts.

Huang Jianxiang once wrote a book - "Fight Like a Man".To be honest, the content of this book is not to my liking.But the title itself is enough.Life needs to fight, and you need to fight like a man.Instead of relying on exchanges, flattery, and maneuvering.The fighting life may be painful, but it is always sweet after the pain; the fighting man may have shortcomings, or even be out of place, but at least he is a fresh self, not a well-behaved other.And those who claim to be "human spirits" are actually "fart spirits", their lives may be glamorous, but only they can hear the whimpering of their souls.Such men may have merits, but no amount of merits can conceal their wretchedness and dilapidation in their bones.

Keep the roots and keep our bottom line. "Root" is the premise of our life and the guarantee of happiness in life.

At the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, Yixiu, a man from the state of Lu, was appointed prime minister because of his ability and political integrity.He has a hobby - he loves to eat fish, almost to the point where he doesn't like fish and eats fish.Seeing that Gongyixiu became the prime minister, some people with ulterior motives tried their best to give him fish to eat, but all of them were politely declined by Gongyixiu and returned disappointed.

Soon, one of Gongyixiu's students heard that his teacher had become prime minister, so he specially bought two carp to congratulate him, but Gongyixiu refused to accept them as usual.

The student was very surprised and asked: "The teacher always likes to eat fish. Today, the students came to visit the teacher, why didn't they accept it? And I heard that many people gave fish to the teacher. Why didn't the teacher accept it?"

Gong Yixiu replied: "As a prime minister, I should be honest and honest, so I will not accept any fish given by others."

The student thought for a while and said, "I give the fish to show my friendship as a teacher and a student, and I don't ask for anything else. Besides, the teacher is the prime minister of a country, so what's the point of receiving two fish?"

Gongyixiu shook his head and said, "Because I like to eat fish, I can't accept your fish! Now that I am the prime minister, I can afford fish and eat it myself. If I am removed from the post of prime minister, I will no longer be able to afford fish. Will you still send me fish? At that time, I, a person who likes to eat fish, will not be able to eat fish often. Rather than doing this, I Why don't you accept other people's fish now, and be a good prime minister who is honest and honest, and Lu Jun will not dismiss me casually. In this way, although I can't eat the fish given by others, my own salary can guarantee me every day. Fish to eat. Therefore, I will not accept fish from you."

Gongyixiu loves fish but does not accept fish. On the surface, he is unwilling to accept bribes, which is commendable, but his argument is not noble at all-because he is trying to keep his position and at the same time ensure that he has fish to eat. In the final analysis Or to maintain their own status - but even so, this is still a height that many people cannot reach.More people, although they understand the truth that there are gains and losses, but they are often lucky in the face of temptation, and in the end they only care about the immediate, regardless of the long-term, and they seem to accept the fresh fish, but in fact they swallow the bait!It was too late to regret until I was in a desperate situation and could not turn back, and lamented a song "Keep the Root" with its own characteristics.

At the end of the article, it is necessary to mention the grave-leveling incident that has caused a lot of noise on the Internet recently.What should be said, what should be said, what should be debated, the pioneers of the Internet have already said it very clearly, so I won’t repeat it here, only a matter-of-fact version of "Keep the Root" is attached:
Restoration of flat graves,
Nothing but the word profit,

They profit from the dead.

300 million seats,

In a blink of an eye, it disappears,

Cut off the family thread.

Mistake again,
But he said the superior approved,

Who cares about the life and death of the people.

The wanderer is heartbroken,

The villagers burst into rivers of tears,

I wish I could kill demons and eliminate demons.

Treat ancestors like this,

Ah, can't be all about money,

Put public opinion aside.

Let go of your performance standards,
Keep our roots.

Is a blessing or a curse,

The people have their own opinions,

How can you allow you to act foolishly.

Thousands of merits and demerits,

will be recorded in history,

See how you choose.

Treat ancestors like this,

Oh, you can't just focus on money,

Put public opinion aside.

Let go of your performance standards,
Keep our roots.

(End of this chapter)