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Chapter 165

Chapter 16, Section 10 Broccoli grown in a kimchi jar?
The true meaning of love is hidden in the trivial and ordinary life. ? ?

Hannah imagined her and her husband's silver wedding ceremony more than once: in a white tent decorated with flowers, there was a six-member orchestra; hundreds of guests crowded inside and outside the tent, and her husband and she exchanged diamond bracelets; They danced and swayed to the music; then, they boarded the cruise ship, opened the champagne, and the tearful sons and daughters waved to them on the pier...?
What happened: The kids dumped two hamburgers and a few hot dogs on the grill, the food mess waiting for them to clean up, and on the table were their gifts for each other—a dress that anyone could wear. bathrobe, a bottle of shower gel with a nozzle. ?
The husband takes the last hamburger off the grill and asks Hannah if she wants to eat it. ?
"You know, Richard bought Liz an expensive diamond ring, and Liz bought Richard a long fur coat," Hannah said. ?
"What good is a fur coat if you live in such a hot place?" the husband replied with a smile. ?
The husband started to pack his things.Hannah looked at him and began to recall bits and pieces of the past.Together, they went through two economic crises, three miscarriages, lived in five houses, raised three children, owned nine cars, owned 3 pieces of furniture, spent seven travel vacations, and changed jobs 5 times for a total of 3 A passbook and 9 credit cards. ?
Hannah cut her husband's hair and tucked in the right shirt collar 33488 times; every time Hannah was pregnant, her husband washed her feet; 18675 times after she finished using the car, her husband parked the car where it should be parked .They share toothpaste, cupboards, bills and relatives, and at the same time, they share camaraderie and trust... Is that what they have been living together for 25 years?thought Hannah. ?
The husband came over and said to Hannah, "I have a present for you."?
"What?" Hannah asked in surprise. ?
"Close your eyes."?
When Hannah opened her eyes, she saw her husband holding a broccoli flower in a kimchi jar. "I've been keeping it on the sly, and the kids should have destroyed it if they saw it," he said cheerfully. "I know you like cauliflower."?
Mind walk?

A professor of psychology at the University of Oxford told the story of his life with his wife for decades, and sincerely told his students: Marriage is not the grave of love.In marriage, you and your lover may experience various crises, psychological boredom, and dissatisfaction with each other, but there will also be "a broccoli flower in a kimchi jar". ?
This is the crystallization of love in trivial life. ?
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