Listen to a psychologist tell a story

Chapter 69

Chapter 7 Section 7 A woman who is beautiful day and night?
Beethoven said: Hold the throat of fate.The woman said: My destiny is up to me. ? ?

In a psychology class, the professor of psychology told a story. ?
In a battle, the young King Arthur unfortunately became a prisoner of the neighboring country.Impressed by the bravery and optimism of the young Arthur, the monarch of the neighboring country did not kill him directly, but promised to return Arthur to freedom as long as he could answer a very difficult question.Arthur had a year to think about it.If the answer cannot be given within a year, Arthur will be executed. ?
The question is: What do women really want? ?

The question perplexes even the most knowledgeable man, let alone young Arthur.But it was better than death, and Arthur accepted the king's request and promised to give him the answer on the last day of the year. ?
Arthur returned to his country and began to ask everyone for answers: the princess, the whore, the priest, the wise man, the court jester, he asked everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.He was told to consult a famous old witch, who alone could give the answer.But they warned him that the witch's fee was very high, and her costly fees were famous all over the country. ?
The one-year deadline is coming soon, and Arthur has no choice but to go to the witch.The witch promises to answer his questions, but he must first accept her quid pro quo: to marry one of King Arthur's noblest Knights of the Round Table and his closest friend, Garwin.King Arthur was terrified. Look at the witch: hunchbacked, ugly, with only one tooth, who smelled like a stinking sewer, and often made obscene noises.He had never seen such an unsightly monster.He couldn't force his friend to marry such a woman, and Arthur firmly refused. ?
After Gawain knew about this, he said to Arthur: "I agree to marry the witch. There is nothing more important than saving Arthur's life and saving the Round Table Conference." Arthur had no choice but to agree to Gawain, and the wedding was announced. Yes, the witch answered Arthur's question: What women really want is chapter 7, verse 8, to be in charge of their own destiny. ?
Everyone knew immediately that the witch had spoken a great truth, and Arthur was freed. ?
The wedding of the witch and Gawain was fulfilled as promised, what kind of wedding is this!King Arthur wept in unrelieved anguish.Gawain was as humble as ever, but the witch showed her worst behavior at the festival: she ate with her fingers, burped, farted, and made everyone feel extremely disgusted. ?
The wedding night came, and Gawain, still strong enough to face the dreaded night, walked into the new house.What a sight awaited him! ?
A beautiful girl he had never seen half lying on the marriage bed!Stunned, Gawain asked her what the hell was going on. ?
The beauty replied that she had to live in two forms a day, that she was a witch by day and could become a beauty by night;So she asked Gawen: "How do you like me to appear in front of you?"?
Gawain begins to ponder his dilemma: should he choose to show his friends a beautiful woman during the day, and an old, ugly, ghostly witch at night, or have an ugly witch during the day, but have an ugly witch at night? Spend an evening with a beautiful woman? ?
At this time, the professor asked a question: If you were Jia Wen, how would you choose? ?

The students gave a variety of answers, which can be summed up in two ways: one chooses to be a witch during the day and a beauty at night, the reason is that the wife is your own, and you don’t need to be vain, just know yourself when you are happy; one chooses to be a beauty during the day, Because I can get the envious eyes of others, as for at night, when I go home, in a dark room, beauty and ugliness don't matter. ?
The professor listened to all the students' answers and didn't say anything. He just asked everyone if they wanted to know Gawen's answer.Everyone said of course they wanted to. ?
The teacher said: "Garwin didn't make any choice, but said to his wife: 'Since what a woman wants most is to control her own destiny, then it's up to you to decide." So the witch chose to be a beautiful woman day and night. .”?
Everyone was silent - no one made a choice to warm up. ?
Mind walk?

When Maslow explained human self-realization, he pointed out that self-realization includes respecting one's own behavior and value standards, becoming an autonomous person, not being bound by culture and environment, and in fact being in charge of one's own destiny. ?
Everyone has the right and desire to control their own destiny, so when facing someone close to you, please do not use your own preferences to arrange his life, it is selfish to do so.

You should understand and respect others more, I believe you will get more.

A letter written by Emperor Guangwu to Cen Peng?

"Long Wangshu" is also a normal psychological need. ? ?

In the early years of the Eastern Han Dynasty, Emperor Guangwu Liu Xiu had just ascended the throne, and the local warlords were severely divided.Among them, Longdi (now eastern Gansu) and Shudi (now central and western Sichuan) were occupied by Kaihuo and Gongsunshu respectively. In order to unify the world, Emperor Guangwu of the Eastern Han Dynasty sent General Cen Peng and other troops to attack Xicheng, which was occupied by Kaihuo. But there are two cities.At that time, Emperor Guangwu wrote a letter to Cen Peng, saying that if he captured the two cities of Longdi, he could lead his army to attack Gongsun Shu in Shu, and sighed: "What people worry about is dissatisfaction. Now that Longdi has been pacified." , and hope to get the land of Shu.Since then, the idiom "Delong Wangshu" has been formed, which is often used to describe people's greed and lack of greed. ?
Mind walk?

A psychologist in our country cited this story when explaining Maslow's need theory.Maslow said: "Once a need is satisfied, it no longer becomes a need." From the perspective of human needs, the derogatory "Longwangshu" is justifiable.Because people's needs are always developing, this can be said to be a law, after all, people's desires are infinite.

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