Common sense wins the world: the common secret of successful people

Chapter 4 Common Sense of Thinking--80% of success is won by thinking (3)
Example A: White stole $30 from the next table when he was in middle school. Since then, people who know about this incident think that he will steal things again and that he will become a thief in the future.The reason is that he stole money from his classmates.If the influence is further expanded, after he gets married and has children, the neighbors will also maintain a high level of vigilance against him, suspecting that he will sneak into his home at any time to commit theft.

Trouble - the fact is that White has "reformed" long ago, who didn't make mistakes as a child?Have you ever hit a child, or stolen a friend's pastry?People see a good guy as an asshole, and as a result, they hurt each other, lose trust in each other, and lose the chance to live in harmony.

Example B: You and Xiao Zhou usually have conflicts. You are stronger and he is very thin.You often have quarrels, public quarrels, and complex interest disputes.Suddenly one day, Xiao Zhou's body was found in a river.At this time, the first suspect of the police is you, and the surrounding people may immediately think: "That tall guy did it, that's right!"
Trouble—maybe the murderer took advantage of people's "common sense" to kill Xiao Zhou at this time, and then put the blame on you.However, people tend to think on the weaker side psychologically, and are not interested in understanding the real situation.The result of this habit of thinking is that it leads to the crazy growth of illusions, which instead bury the truth.

Example C: In a high-level meeting, two executives are arguing over whether to continue buying or selling a stock.The range of their disputes ranged from the price of the stock to the market conditions, and then to the company's operating strategy.In the end, they began to blame each other's abilities, and they dug up the old accounts of the two people's past.But logically, the relationship between two people has nothing to do with whether this stock should be bought or not.

Trouble—One of the manifestations of the inference of guilt is the love to turn over old accounts and use irrelevant things as inferences to deny the other party.As long as I don't like you, everything you did in the past is criminal evidence, and I can find loopholes to deny you.At the same time, the other party also holds this mentality.This often complicates simple problems, and the easier it is to solve, the easier it is to end up with nothing.

Example D: I discussed a new idea with Agent Snow, and I mentioned a neglected case clue, and made a bold imagination: "If this method is adopted, what will be the effect?" But Snow thinks it is unreliable, Because there will be a lot of unsolvable links encountered during execution, and each link has a bunch of problems.At this time, another agent came to join the discussion, asking what should be done.After a series of discussions, we all felt a lot of difficulties and couldn't talk any more, because the atmosphere had become dull, so we had to end the discussion with question marks and confusion.But in fact, I just felt that I had a good idea and wanted to share it with Snow. The result was like this—a meaningful discussion was killed by confusion about details.

Trouble——If someone presupposes that an idea is not good enough and should be overturned and rejected, then the discussion will only think of the difficulties that will be encountered if it is implemented, and will not actively imagine the path that can broaden the working ideas.The "guilty inference" at work manifests itself in such "negative imaginings" that it stalls nearly all your explorations of positive value.

Especially in practical work, we suffer from it.As the above examples reflect, people tend to deviate from different positions, look at others with suspicion, and deviate from each other's focus.It is easy to fall into the strange phenomenon that the two sides are not talking on the same channel, and it is difficult to avoid conflicts.Even if the conflict is so intense that "you have to fight to vent your anger", under the persuasion and enlightenment of everyone, the parties will not jump out of this dead corner of thinking, but will sink deeper.

People also have a bad habit of thinking: "I will turn to whoever has a good relationship with me; any conflict with my friends, I will think it is the other party's fault, and I will definitely help my friends deal with him." Under this premise, People just don't like everything about this person, thinking that everything he does is wrong, and everything he does is aimed at "my friend".Therefore, people's general opinion is: "If I am fighting with a person, then my friend must help me fight him first, and then discuss who is right and who is wrong after the fight."
Therefore, we must learn to think rationally and calmly.Our actions can be biased, but our thinking must be objective and neutral.Have principles in mind and understand right and wrong, instead of being kidnapped by "human relations" too much, and not be swayed by impulsive and taken-for-granted thinking habits.Being objective, fair, and well-founded is an extremely valuable quality in any field, and it is also an essential quality for a successful person.

A successful person with an advanced mind will never emotionally presuppose positions, make inferences of guilt, or express opinions or act blindly because of his emotional tendencies when he does not know the specific details of the matter.All his thoughts, words and deeds are decent.

What is a good analysis and solution for someone who needs to correct a bad habit?That is to adapt yourself and have the correct common sense of thinking - the method of exclusion of innocence.During his eight-year career, Agent Snow always adhered to this principle of investigation and conduct, and gradually gained the respect of his colleagues and the public.Although he lost the opportunity to be transferred to the National Security Agency, he was commended by the FBI six times and became one of the best federal agents in Washington, DC.

Five basic principles of the law of preclusion of innocence:
1. No direct evidence = no evidence;

2. What I believe is not equal to the truth, "I believe" cannot be the reason for my decision;

3. What I saw with my own eyes still needs to be corroborated, otherwise it cannot be the final reason for my actions;
4. My experience is only my own, and "my experience" cannot be applied to others;

5. I hate (like) a person is my personal opinion, "I hate (like)" cannot be a motivation for making a decision.

The method is sometimes more important than the purpose

When we encounter a difficult problem, we usually think about two questions at once:
"What am I doing this for?"
"How can I do this well?"
The former thinks about the purpose of doing something, and then weighs the pros and cons. There are two results of consideration: first, this thing is beneficial, and I should continue to do it; second, I don’t think it’s worth it. It's getting difficult, so I'm going to give up.And the latter has only one result - I must do this well and think about the solution.

The human nature of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages causes people to always get used to entangled in "purpose" when thinking about problems, and then make action choices based on interest orientation.This in itself is a drawback of the inertial way of thinking, causing people to lose their innovation and just want to keep the visible "benefits".

For example, a friend of mine bought a lottery ticket and won a jackpot, but was told to hand over half of the money as a heavy gaming tax.Paying taxes to keep half the money is the usual option, but what if I offered another way?Put all the money into a charitable foundation, and he can avoid paying this tax.At the same time, he can also become a nationally famous philanthropist, which in turn wins other potential opportunities.This is more appropriate and more important to my own life than keeping those money.But I know that most people will definitely choose the former-keeping the visible money instead of studying how to make full use of this money and bring appreciation to their lives.

Innovation is a habit of thinking that we must have, and it is also an important common sense of thinking: people need to study methods to overcome difficulties; only by increasing their investment in analysis can they improve their abilities.One of the important topics is the study of ways of thinking.To put it simply, I want to start from "how to do a thing" rather than "the result of doing this thing", so that your actions will be positive, innovative and actionable, otherwise you will always Frightened by difficulties, stuck there and stagnated.

In a certain company, colleague A and colleague B went to debug equipment for customers together.When they come back, they need to bring back a computer host and power cord from the customer.For convenience, they are used to tearing off the power cord.Colleague A pulled off the power cord and placed it next to the host.He thought seriously then: Don't lose the power cord.After that he was busy with other things.When he came back from work, he suddenly found that the power cord was missing, so he asked colleague B.As a result, colleague B patted his pocket and said: I thought not to lose the power cord, so I put it in my pocket.

This is a typical contrast between the two kinds of thinking.Colleague A can only find the problem and remember the purpose: not to lose the power cord.But he didn't want to think about how to solve the problem, how to avoid losing the power cord; colleague B also found the problem, but his thinking habit was to start with the method - I put the power cord in my pocket, That way you won't lose it.

Among the scientific thinking methods, there is a method called problem analysis, which is also an important theory in the field of psychology.Its essence is that people should follow the thinking process of solving problems to find the problem and determine the cause of the problem.This means you put the purpose second and the method first.Sometimes, we even need to ignore the purpose, start from the process, and clean up the details to avoid problems.

1. Identify the problem: What problems am I having?
2. Analyze the problem: further analyze the problem, decompose it into different small problems, distinguish the levels of urgency, important, and unimportant, and formulate the sequence.

3. State the problem: What does the problem mean?What is the nature?What will happen if it is not resolved?
4. Find out the cause: Find and analyze various factors that lead to the problem, such as changes in conditions, increase or decrease in manpower, quality of the market, etc., must be as precise as possible without missing any subtle links.

5. Solution: From the analysis of the cause, the solution is obtained, and the method must go through a feasibility analysis.

These five steps are the correct thinking process for solving problems and effective common sense for analyzing problems.Every step of it cannot be missed. Only by strictly following these five steps to analyze the difficulties we encounter can we come up with a good method and finally achieve our goal.If you only stare at one possible result and "struggle", it is nothing more than an elephant trying to knock down a stone wall. Although you have been working hard and in the right direction, even if you try your best to overcome this Blocking the wall, you are exhausted, and your teammates have already taken the appropriate method-around or step over the low part of the wall, continue to move forward and go far.

Life requires skills, and work also needs to pay attention to methods.They are contests of thought, performances of the brain, arenas of intellect.It is a pity that many people only know how to obey. They will not give up until they achieve their goals, and they have an indomitable fighting spirit.Just like those down-and-out young entrepreneurs I have seen -- they firmly implement their plans, make great strides towards their ideals, have a passion, a strong will, and never make excuses, but they ignore the research on methods and Application of the policy.Their ideals are lofty, but their thinking is rigid. They are on the right path, but they do not have the correct common sense.This is the main reason why they failed in the first place.

If your method is wrong, no matter how correct your purpose is, no matter how lofty your ideal is, it will be worthless.The faster you go, the more thoroughly the wrong "common sense" is implemented, the more wrong it may be, and it is difficult to have a chance to make a comeback.

Simple is always better than complicated

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