Low-key life, high-profile work

Chapter 5 Don't be impatient, keep a normal heart (4)
Some unsatisfactory and unsatisfactory little things seem worthless, but they are like the sand in the shoes. If they cannot be dumped and dealt with in a timely manner, then they will definitely wear out our feet and greatly affect us. emotions, which in turn affect our study, work and life, and even bring us unexpected serious losses.

The teacher told such a story to educate the students: A groundhog was chased by three hounds, and the groundhog got into a tree hole.There is only one exit from this tree hole. Not long after, a rabbit emerged from the tree hole.The rabbit ran fast and quickly climbed up a big tree.After reaching the tree, the rabbit fell down because he couldn't stand firmly, and knocked out the three hounds who were looking up at it. Finally, the rabbit escaped successfully.After the story was told, the teacher asked: "Students, do you find anything wrong with this story?" One student said: "Rabbits can't climb trees." Another student said: "It is impossible for a rabbit to stun three people at the same time. A hound."

"Is there any more?" the teacher continued to ask.The students thought and thought, but they couldn't find any other problems.At this time, the teacher said: "There is one more important question, which you haven't mentioned, where did the groundhog go?"

In the process of striving forward, we are sometimes distracted by the details and some meaningless trifles on the way, confusing our vision and disturbing our mood, so that we have to stop, or take the path that deviates from the original plan, and give up. achieved their original goals.Don't forget to remind yourself all the time, where did the groundhog go?Where is your goal?Don't let the goal get in the way!

Wang Ming and Zhang Qidi are classmates. After graduating from university and struggling for a few years, they each opened their own small companies. The two have business contacts with each other. They have had a good relationship for many years, but this relationship finally broke down after an unexpected incident. .Wang Ming and Zhang Qidi's competitor had a business to discuss with Wang Ming. Wang Ming was afraid that Zhang Qidi's doubts would affect the relationship between the two parties, so he didn't tell Zhang Qidi and waited until the business negotiation was completed.

Zhang Qidi was very angry, and the seeds of doubt were planted from then on.If there is any business in the future, Zhang Qidi will keep it for himself, and the relationship with Wang Ming is also unfamiliar, and the relationship in college has gradually faded.Since the two sides often failed to reach an agreement, Wang Ming had to find other partners.Neither of the two big men bowed their heads. The embankment of a thousand miles collapsed in an ant's nest. The business of the two of them became worse and worse, and the precious friendship between friends went with it.

In fact, two good friends could have had a frank and honest talk, because neither of them would bow their heads out of concern for face.Once the seeds of dissatisfaction and resentment are planted, they are very difficult to remove. These seemingly insignificant things are actually the little things that slow you down and change your schedule.No one is perfect, everyone has shortcomings of one kind or another, we often only correct those big and dazzling shortcomings, and ignore those seemingly insignificant small problems, but we don’t know that a small problem may stop you from moving forward pace of.

In the long journey of life, every moment is an important period for you to strive for your ideals. If you can remove every tiny spot, you will be able to succeed.For the sake of the mountain in your heart, please check your shoes at any time. If there is sand in your shoes, just throw them out quickly.

Wisdom
Life is like a song, and it is inevitable that harsh notes will destroy its main theme.If you want the song of your life to be beautiful, you must always find those dissonant notes and correct them in time.

There is no absolute perfection in life

A perfect life is our lifelong pursuit, but we will inevitably experience pain, hesitation, and helplessness on the road of life... We should learn to be tolerant and understanding, and at the same time, the requirements for perfection should not be too harsh.A person's life is a process of constantly revising ideals, and a process of increasing tolerance to the requirements of people and things.Demanding perfection may only end up in a situation where both sides suffer.

An old monk wanted to choose one of his two apprentices as his successor.One day, the old monk said to his disciples, "Go out and pick me the most perfect leaf." The two disciples obeyed and left.After a while, the first apprentice came back, and he handed the master a leaf that was not beautiful, and said to the master, "Although this leaf is not perfect, it is the most complete leaf I have ever seen." The second apprentice was outside. After turning around for a long time, I finally returned empty-handed.He said to his master: "I have seen many, many leaves, but I can't pick out the most perfect one." Finally, the old monk passed the mantle to the big apprentice.

Many tragedies in the world are precisely because some people are keen on pursuing the most illusory and perfect leaves, while ignoring the ordinary life.In fact, there is often a lot of greatness and magic in the plain, the key is how you look at it.

Jean Chrétien was the first Canadian leader to be re-elected for two terms and cross the century. He was unattractive and had a stutter. His left face was partially paralyzed due to illness in his childhood, the corner of his mouth was crooked, and he was deaf in one ear. He always tilted his mouth to one side when he spoke.Although he has so many flaws, he is not only not inferior, but also self-confident, hard-working, and has become a learned man. He can also use humorous language to make up for his flaws in speeches, and raise his voice without losing the opportunity. In order to achieve the desired effect, he finally became a man of considerable accomplishment. In October 1993, he participated in the Canadian Prime Minister election. The Conservative Party used his facial defects to attack him personally. Won again in the 10 general election.

Therefore, even great people have flaws that cannot be shaken.There is no absolute perfection in life. Instead of thinking about your own flaws, it is better to make up for them with confidence.

There are more or less flaws in the glamorous stars.Andy Lau once listed his shortcomings, including being too easy to be bullied, loves to make jokes about the body of the actresses he filmed with, has no time to engage in romance with his girlfriend and the relationship failed, and being too heroic.Liming said that his shortcoming is that he is too conservative in dealing with emotional matters, and he has never dared to let go.If he has a girlfriend, he will also block the media [-]%.He also knew that he would offend some reporters because of this, but he still insisted on retaining his attitude.Aaron Kwok is recognized as the most handsome of the "Four Heavenly Kings". When he mentioned his shortcomings, he said frankly that if he could be a few centimeters taller, wouldn't it be better?After the relationship between Tang Wenlong and Chen Cailan was made public, they became much more relaxed.Talking about their respective shortcomings, Tang Wenlong said that he was a bit stubborn, too naive, and sometimes got into a dead end.Chen Cailan's shortcoming is that sometimes she is too capricious.Ku Juji's shortcoming is that he has no confidence in his figure at all. He has always thought that his skin is too white and his legs are not good-looking, so he deliberately tanned.Zhang Zhilin said that his shortcoming is that he only likes to play all day long, he doesn't like being controlled by others, even his mother doesn't care about him, and Anita Yuen doesn't care about him, but no matter how much he wants to play, it won't affect his own Work.Takeshi Kaneshiro said of his shortcomings: "I was too emotional. I remember almost crying when I was doing the voice of Disney's Tarzan."

The ancients said: There is no pure gold, and no man is perfect.The key is how you see yourself, how you see life.Note: You can do something by doing nothing.

Wisdom
Life will not be perfect, and the perfection of life must be discounted.Although life is a kaleidoscope, a life that is too perfect does not exist. As long as you live out your true self, there will be no regrets in life.

Giving up is the first step in trying to gain

People often praise those who have achieved success, and think that they must learn to be strong, persistent, and never give up in order to become a strong person in life, but they don't know that giving up may also be a shortcut to success. "All roads lead to Rome", if this door is not opened, other doors will be opened.If you find a direction of effort that matches your talents, it is possible to create new brilliance.

American boy Al likes to dance since he was a child, and his ideal is to be an excellent dancer.However, because of the poverty of the family, the parents couldn't spend any extra money to send Al to dance school.Al's parents sent him to a tailor shop as an apprentice, hoping that he could master a craft and help the family reduce a little burden.Al hated this job very much, because the reward for the heavy work was not enough to pay his living expenses and apprenticeship expenses, and more importantly, he was extremely depressed because his ideal could not be realized.Al thought it would be better to end his life early than to live in such pain.Just when Al was about to commit suicide by jumping into the river, he suddenly thought of Leona, the "father of ballet music" whom he admired since he was a child. Al felt that only Leona could understand his dedication to art.He decided to write a letter to Leona, hoping that Leona would accept him as a student.Soon, Al received a reply from Liona.Leonard did not mention the matter of accepting him as a student, nor was he moved by his spirit of dedicating himself to art, but talked about his own life experience.Leona said that he wanted to be a scientist when he was a child, but he couldn't send him to school because of his poor family, so he had to follow a street performer to perform around... Finally, he said that in life, there is always a certain distance between reality and ideal.In ideal and real life, we must first choose survival.Only by living well can the ideal star shine.A person who doesn't even cherish his own life is not worthy of talking about art.

Liona is telling Al that sometimes you have to give up something, and you have to give up to gain.Abandoning is not escaping. We must face the bleakness of life and learn to be strong, so as to gather all the limited power in life to accept greater challenges.Giving up is not pessimism, it is to get better, it is to know the weight and lightness of life, and it is to experience the essence of life.

A woodcutter always goes out early and returns late to cut firewood, but often returns in vain.The old woodcutter told his son this truth: You don't want to lose the whole forest for one tree. This seems true, but there is a premise that has been ignored.Human energy is limited. In a certain period of time, we can only cut down one tree and carry it home, and we can only pick one tree from the entire forest.And it takes a lot of work to get a tree home.If you don't want to lose the whole forest for one tree, wander around in the forest all day, think this tree is good, cut two twigs, that tree is also good, pick a few leaves, then the whole forest will turn around. It's over, you've run out of time and energy, and you won't get the last sapling.

Abandonment is not despair. Our ideals for life are always hidden in our hearts. When we are physically and mentally exhausted, we temporarily let go to relax our minds, just like the earth's hibernation. When the spring breeze blows, everything will recover.Abandonment is not cowardice. We don't give up because we are afraid of difficulties, but plant strength deep in our hearts, silently endure the darkness before dawn, regard the torment like purgatory as baptism, and welcome the rising sun with the light of life.If you give up hypocrisy, you will get truth; if you give up boredom, you will get fulfillment; if you give up impetuousness, you will get steadiness; if you give up willfulness, you will get friendship; if you give up money, you will get spiritual satisfaction; if you give up pleasure , you will definitely get a harvest.

Wisdom
Remember that if you want more, you will lose. When your energy is limited, you must learn to give up the entire forest for a tree.Even if every tree is worthy of your choice, you should choose one of them as soon as possible.

Abandon resentment and embrace everything with fraternity

When the arrogant and unreasonable person who spits and slaps others faces the reward of generosity and benevolence, how will he be shocked?Perhaps, his anger will instantly turn into a peaceful lake, and the gloomy and cold world in his eyes will instantly become bright with spring.

A brick dealer named Carl was in trouble because of competition from another rival.This nuisance made Karl feel a nameless fire, and he really wanted to smash his opponent's fat head with a brick as an outlet. "One Sunday morning," Carl said, "the preacher was preaching on the subject: Be gracious to those who make things difficult for you. I listened to every word. Just last Friday, my competition The former caused me to lose an order of 25 bricks, but the pastor taught us to repay kindness with kindness and turn enemies into friends, and he gave many examples to prove his theory. That afternoon, when I was arranging my schedule for next week, Discovered that a customer who lived in Virginia needed a batch of bricks for building an office building, and the type of bricks specified was not made by our company, but was very similar to the products sold by my competitors. At the same time, I also determined that That nonsense competitor has no idea of ​​this business opportunity." This made Karl feel awkward: should he follow the pastor's advice and give his opponent this business opportunity, or do what he wants and let the other party never die? Can't get the deal?Karl struggled in his heart for a while, and the pastor's advice has been entrenched in his heart.Finally, perhaps eager to prove the pastor wrong, he picked up the phone and dialed the competitor's home.The person who answered the phone was the opponent himself. At that time, he was holding the phone, too embarrassed to say a word.Carl politely told him directly about the Virginia deal.As a result, that opponent was very grateful to Carl.Carl said: "My approach has achieved amazing results. Not only did he stop spreading rumors about me, but he also transferred some businesses that he couldn't handle to me." Carl felt much better than before. The misunderstanding between them has also been clarified, and each other's careers have been helped to achieve a win-win situation.

Maybe many things in life are not satisfactory, but as long as we have a fraternal heart, care less, be more tolerant, and look at others with a milder perspective, in the long run, those unpleasantnesses will disappear, and our lives will also disappear. It will be so much easier.

Wisdom
Fraternity is both selfless and broad.This kind of love can be given not only to relatives, friends, but also to people who don't know, and even when the enemies who usually turn against each other are killed, they can often lend a helping hand. This is the power of love.

(End of this chapter)