sleepless tonight

Chapter 460
"Negotiate slowly? What kind of negotiation method do you mean by negotiating slowly?" I think Wu Xiaowen feels a little bit uncomfortable when he talks while standing up.

He didn't think from my standpoint, didn't see my difficulties, didn't see my difficulties, but said to discuss it slowly. When Tong Wangjun called me, I didn't strongly ask her to come to Wuchang. She made a suggestion and didn't threaten her.

I think that when Tong Wangjun discussed with her mother, she would definitely not have a very bad tone, and must have discussed slowly, but her mother was so angry that she went to the hospital.

If you are not willing to discuss some things slowly, others will definitely listen to you.

"You can let Tong Wangjun stay in his hometown to take care of the elderly first, and then try to come to Wuchang when the elderly's health is better." Wu Xiaowen said, "Tong Wangjun's father just passed away, and her mother will inevitably have some emotional fluctuations, and will miss her daughter more. , I don’t want my daughter to leave my side, these are all understandable, as a child, one should put filial piety first.”

"Besides, you also said before that Wuchang is far from Tong Wangjun's hometown. However, it is more convenient to go back and forth by the high-speed rail for a few hours. You have a car. If you want to go to see Tong Wangjun, it is a very simple matter. There is no need to worry about it. In Wuchang, or in Tong Wangjun’s hometown.”

"You said it lightly. There are also elderly people in my family. What should my parents do when they want to see the child?" I said, "I'm not being unreasonable. Tong Wangjun wants the child to follow her surname. There is no male, her father passed away again, and her mother wants more relatives in the family. Although Chen Le is her granddaughter, she is also a relative, but in the old man's concept, Chen Le follows my surname Chen, and is a member of my family. It's not from her family, only if it follows Tong Wang's surname Tong Le, can it be regarded as a member of her family."

"I can understand all these, and so can my parents, so Tong Wangjun took Chen Le back, changed his household registration, and changed his surname. I didn't say much, but what did I get in exchange for my understanding? My parents thought Want to see the child, but can't see it."

"Nowadays everyone pays attention to the equality of men and women. It doesn't matter if the child takes the woman's surname. Anyway, it is the child of both of you, and it has the same surname as anyone else. The blood in the child's body contains DNA that belongs to both of you." Wu Xiaowen said, "Several of my colleagues also had a second child, and the second child took the woman's surname. This is respect for women and a kind of progress."

"Fart progress." I cursed, "Respecting women is not the law of respect. Women are already very respected in China. Look at Ah San next door. When a woman gets married, she may empty out the whole house , Some parents are even unwilling to have daughters because they are worried that they will not be able to afford the dowry. Trying every means to get money from the man, buying a house, buying a car, and giving bride price, emptied the man's savings, and even emptied the savings of the man's parents, for fear of harming the man's family."

For some women, when they marry back home, it is the time to break with their parents, brothers and sisters.

"Tong Wangjun shouldn't have been like this when she married you. She didn't have such high demands on you, did she?" Wu Xiaowen said.

Wu Xiaowen's words reminded me of Tong Wangjun's attitude towards me when I was poor, and I felt a little uncomfortable: "You take care of your own affairs, this is between me and Tong Wangjun. Don't meddle."

"I also have good intentions." Wu Xiaowen said.

"Don't pretend to be a good person, don't I know what your purpose is?" I looked at Wu Xiaowen.

"What purpose can I have? I just don't want you and Tong Wangjun to have such a fight. I hope you two can sit down and have a good talk. I hope you can both be happy." Wu Xiaowen said.

"I'm afraid you don't even believe what you said?" The tea was getting cold, and I drank it in one gulp, staring at Wu Xiaowen, "I never believed that there are such simple and good people in this world who are willing to have no complaints and no regrets." If you really want to have it, it is because of your parents' feelings for your child. Tong Wangjun and you are just classmates in elementary school, and have no blood relationship at all. You ran all the way from your hometown to Wuchang for her, and you even asked for leave. Yours Isn't that point of thought obvious, why are you still covering it up?"

I have lost the thought of slowly spending time with Wu Xiaowen, and the words are very clear.

"I admit that I do like Tong Wangjun. I have had a crush on her since I was in elementary school. But I can assure you that there is no illicit relationship between me and her. She doesn't know that I like her. I don't I confessed to her." Wu Xiaowen said, "I came here to find you this time. It has nothing to do with her. I didn't tell her. I saw her suffering and wanted to help her, so I decided to ask I came here to find you on vacation, just to talk to you clearly, I hope you can understand her, it's really not easy for her to be a woman."

"I don't know if you know the situation of her family well. Her father is a bit careless about her family. When she was young, her mother helped her to earn all the tuition fees. Her father didn't care at all. The same is true when she went to college. She Dad has always only cared about himself, and everyone in the village knows about this, but her father is the only one who thinks that he is doing well, and that his family situation is one of the best in the village."

"You have seen the house in her family. It is still one floor up to now. It is about to collapse. If her father is a little bit more motivated and takes care of the family a little bit, the situation in her house can't be like that, and her mother won't either. I got bronchitis because of these, Tong Wangjun loves her mother very much, and always quarreled with her father because of her mother at home."

"Now Tong Wangjun quarreled with her mother because of you, and the quarrel was so fierce. I don't think she meant to quarrel with her mother. I went to the hospital once and saw Tong Wangjun outside the ward. Wipe away tears secretly, she is really working hard, don't force her."

"I didn't force her." I said, "She has the right to choose. I just suggested that she had better come to Wuchang. If she insisted on staying in her hometown, I couldn't help it. As for you saying that she worked hard, in this world Who doesn't work hard, do you think I don't work hard?"

"We are all men, so what does it matter how hard a man is? A man should hold up a piece of sky for his woman, and a piece of sky for the whole family. He should stand upright and hide all the suffering and pain in the In my heart." Wu Xiaowen said.

I don't agree with Wu Xiaowen's words, and I even think it's a little ridiculous. When women want to enjoy rights, they keep emphasizing equality between men and women, but when they have responsibilities, they say that men should be more generous, responsible, and responsible. If you are more responsible, you should take the initiative to take responsibility and protect your wife and children.

These are completely opposite concepts, but they are integrated into one place in women's minds. When they want to enjoy power, they use the equality of men and women to talk about things, and when they need to take responsibility, they bring up the latter point.

It just so happens that many men still take it for granted, thinking that men should indeed let women in, should indeed stand upright, should take the initiative to take responsibility, and take the initiative to take care of women. Capital.

I don't object to men taking responsibility and taking responsibility, but taking responsibility without principles and opinions is not a good thing, but connivance, which is unfair to men and unfair to relatives.

In this world, there are not only daughters-in-law, who can't do things like forgetting their mother after marrying a daughter-in-law.

Wu Xiaowen's words made me feel that he and I were not on the same road: "Okay, don't talk nonsense anymore, you can go quickly, this matter has nothing to do with you, you can't get involved."

"You are really too stubborn, why can't you think more about the woman who gave birth to you, why should you be so harsh on a woman who likes you?" Wu Xiaowen seemed to be a little annoyed by my attitude, and his words became Choked some.

(End of this chapter)