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Chapter 193
At noon, Ning Daqiang went to have a wedding wine. It was he and Ning Dayun's uncle who had a grandson.

Although they haven't moved around much during the New Years and holidays since more than ten years ago, in the words of their hometown, they still have to offer gifts-gift money for weddings and funerals.

There are several levels of relationship in my hometown. The closest ones are not only giving gifts on weddings and weddings, but also walking around during the Chinese New Year. You come to my house to buy something, and I go to your house to return gifts and bring something back. Reciprocity.

Like Ning Yuan's family, only Ning Dayun's family is left with this relationship.

The next level of relationship is one's own family, or one's own family.Whoever has weddings and funerals, not only has to give gifts, but also to help.

At this time, it is all running water seats. In addition to paying for the master in charge of cooking, other miscellaneous tasks such as heating fire, boiling water, washing dishes, choosing and washing vegetables, serving dishes, etc., all need the help of the family.

In the past, everyone was poor. If the family did not form a group and help each other, a sparsely populated family would not be able to deal with it, especially for funerals.

Burials are common in rural areas, plus the coffin weighs several hundred kilograms, and at least eight or nine big men have to carry it, and the cemeteries are generally on the mountain, and it is tiring to carry it on flat ground, not to mention going up the mountain, even in winter, you will have to sweat profusely.

Now it is still possible to hire someone with money, which was taboo in the past, even if you spend money, it is difficult to find someone, so you need your own strong labor to help.

Ning Yuan remembered that one year, a neighbor said that one of their family members was doing business outside all the year round, so he only gave gifts and didn’t help others when they had something to do. Kung fu can make a lot of money.

But when his father died, others only gave gifts. Although he had money to hold a banquet, he couldn’t find such a thing as coffin-carrying. Kneeling and saying good things again, I managed to find a few family members to help carry it up the mountain.

In the end, he thanked him with money, but none of his family picked it up. It was the old man who said, "If it wasn't my family, do you think the people who gave the money would come? You didn't help others before, why should others help you?"

It made him ashamed, and in the end, if anything happened to his family, he basically went there.

The Ning family also has some of this kind of family relationship, after all, no one is created from the cracks in the rocks.

According to the genealogy, the Ning family moved to Xiaocheng from Jiangxi Province to Hubei Province in the Song Dynasty, and moved north from Xiaocheng to Xinyi in the late Ming and early Qing Dynasties.

The branch of Ning Daqiang's ancestor settled in a village in the north of Lingshan County. After more than 100 years, some of them have been separated, and there are only a dozen or so households still in contact. After all, Ning is not a common surname.

But before Ning Yuan and the others went to school, it was Ning Daqiang who helped them.

The last layer of relationship is the relatives who offer gifts to each other.

If they didn't happen to be together during the Chinese New Year, they usually wouldn't move around.

Like the uncle Ning Daqiang's house that I went to this time, it's like this.

In fact, in the past, relatives like his uncles and aunts were actually the first type. They not only offered gifts, but also bought things to visit during the holidays.

But when the Ning family was in the most difficult time in those years, they really couldn't afford to buy gifts, so they could only give tofu made by themselves. Brothers and sisters-in-law and the others sneered beside them:

"This condition also adopts children. If you don't come once a year, you can bring some tofu when you come. It's really saving money... Tsk tsk, this uncle is not as good as those wild children..."

Although Ning Daqiang has a bad temper, after all, he is too poor, and he can only hold his anger in his heart.

Two days later, when several cousins ​​returned the gift, they came empty-handed and said:

"Your uncle sighs that you are pitiful, so don't take things from now on, we just sit and go, and you don't have to work too hard."

Ning Daqiang felt humiliated, and since then, Ning Daqiang has never been there during the Chinese New Year, and only gives gifts when things happen.

Even Ning Daqiang didn't give many gifts. After all, my uncle's family has three sons and two daughters. The five cousins ​​have to give gifts when they get married. Although it's okay for the cousins ​​to marry, but the three cousins ​​have to give gifts when they have children.

If it weren't for family planning, each family would have at least three or four.

Moreover, Lingshan County not only has to give gifts for the birth of a child, but also for the first birthday of the child.

In the 80s, three or five yuan was still given away. In the 90s, it was too much to give another five yuan, so it went up to ten yuan, and this was still the lowest gift money.

As for the Ning family, since Ning Dayun got married, in the past few decades, apart from the death of his parents, nothing else happened. After all, he was not married, had no children, and had no reason to do anything.

Ning Daqiang and the others were only one uncle, and there were several of them. They either died during the war or starved to death.

Ning Daqiang's uncle is Peng Daoqi, only 12 years and 30 years older than Ning Daqiang.

In the past, my family was poor and I got married late. When I first got married, I could catch up with the three-year disaster. I didn’t have children until 61 years later. The eldest daughter was 62 years old, the eldest son was 63 years old, and the youngest son was 70 years old. .

The youngest is Peng Xinming, born in 70.His first child was a daughter, and this time he gave birth to a son.

Even though Ning Dayun's little grandson, Zhu Ziheng, was older than this baby, he was a generation younger in seniority, and Zhu Ziheng still had to call this newborn little guy cousin.

After all, this little guy is the son of Grandma Zhu Ziheng's cousin.

Although he was going to give gifts, Ning Daqiang went alone, and Ning Yuan and the others were unwilling to go.

Back then, when Ning Daqiang went to give gifts, he also took Ning Yuan and the four of them there, but they were also ridiculed by others: "Send so much money, and bring five more, they are all so edible, the boss must not pay for it!"

Since then, Ning Daqiang has not taken them with him.

But just before noon, when Ning Yuan was cooking, he heard a cry from outside the yard:

"Xiaoyuan!"

Ning Yuan and the others ran out and saw a middle-aged man standing in the yard.

Isn't this Peng Xinfu, the eldest son of Ning Yuan's uncle?

Although we haven't seen each other in these years, Ning Yuan still recognizes him at a glance. He was in his 20s when he met him. After adulthood, men generally have a long body, and his appearance has not changed much.

Seeing Ning Yuan, Peng Xinfu was amazed: "Oh, I haven't seen you for so many years. Now that I've grown up so much, I've become such a big star. Haha, do you still recognize me?"

"Big Cousin." Ning Yuan called out, guessing the reason for his visit.

Sure enough, when Peng Xinfu came over, he took Ning Yuan's hand, and at the same time greeted Ning Yu and the others standing beside him:

"You said that your dad is really true. He went there alone, and he didn't know how to take you with him. Let's go for a walk, and we will have dinner soon. Let's go together!"

"My meal is almost ready." Ning Yuan refused to go.

"Hey, you say you, you can't deny us poor relatives when you become a big star, right? If you still recognize your cousin and your uncle, then go together."

Ning Yuan was speechless, at first he wanted to ridicule the taunts of the year without mercy, but after thinking about it, since his father didn't abandon this relative, it proved that he still cared.

And the ridicule back then was said by my uncle's relatives, not by my uncle's family, including the gift giving later, but their family didn't say anything.

Moreover, when the uncle asked these three cousins ​​to come over, he also said that the Ning family was poor, and they should not take things during the New Year and holidays. It was Ning Daqiang who felt humiliated and never went again.

Now that they are all coming to the door, it is not easy to shirk.

So, Ning Yuan took Ning Yu and the others, and followed Peng Xinfu.

But Ning Yuan reminded: "I will be watched wherever I go now, don't mess up the wedding banquet then."

Peng Xinfu waved his hands indifferently and smiled, "It doesn't matter what you are talking about."

　Thanks to the book friend 1610220000 for the reward of 123 coins, and thanks to the monkey [-] who loves oranges for the reward. Today is the third update, and the first update arrives.

　　
　
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